Cast Blog: #RHOA

Kudos to Cynthia

Kenya was grateful to be a part of Cynthia's first pageant.

LIFE IS GOOD

The beautiful thing about life is that it is constantly evolving. To evolve means to grow and progress beyond your comfort zone. After my breast cancer scare I see things in a whole new light. I believe you can only be content if you live life as you see fit and make no apologies for it. I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.

When Cynthia and I settled our differences in Anguilla I wanted to move on and past our misunderstanding and so did she. I also had to accept my own culpability that led to the falling out or minimally understand her point of view. Although we both threw quick jabs at each other, we never hit below the belt. We fought fair. Once we had our say, we could move on. Cynthia and I are just letting our guards down, but the more I get to know her, the more I realize how much we have in common. Having said that, I’m not a jealous or envious person, I truly want to see other women succeed, especially those who try to uplift other young women. When I learned of Cynthia’s pageant, I just wanted to help. Whether she decided to allow me to participate or not, I was fine with her decision either way. My paramount concern was to support Cynthia for a wonderful cause.

Young women need all the help they can to find their way in the world. They may come from various backgrounds, perfect homes or broken homes, but they all deserve a chance to thrive and be the best person they can be, and pageants can be the platform with which they can exceed. Often times, troubled girls need an outlet. I grew up in the inner city of Detroit that some might even call the ghetto. My loving grandmother did everything in her power to keep me off the streets and out of trouble. When I received a flyer from a friend advertising a pageant for girls ages 13-17 I couldn’t wait to sign up. My friends and I were all pretty excited and had our own reasons for entering. For me, it was a way of escaping my dangerous and often perilous environment.

LITTLE MISS BLACK STAR

I entered my first talent pageant (Little Miss Black Star) at the age of 14 years old. For the talent portion of the competition I danced to Marvin Gaye’s His Eye is on the Sparrow. We had an evening gown competition where we were judged on poise and grace and interviews as well. I eventually walked away with the 1st runner-up prize. It was one of the best and most positive experiences of my life. At Cynthia’s pageant, I could see the hope and faith in the young girls’ eyes, and it warmed my heart to know that I too have been in that position. That night could be the start of something truly fabulous for them.We all have seen Honey Boo Boo and exploitative child pageants that seem to sexualize innocent little girls, but this clearly was not the case. Whether or not you agree with talent pageants or beauty pageants (or none at all), it is my sincere belief that ones of this nature empower young women to be courageous, outspoken, articulate, philanthropic, selfless, kind, and to promote leadership, to name just a few positive attributes.

Although many of you sent positive messages via Twitter and Facebook, there are still those who will thrive on negativism or resort to unwarranted personal attacks in an attempt to diminish the good we convey with this worldwide stage. We will continue to pray for you all that your perspective may change to acceptance and tolerance. Having said that, it was Cynthia’s night and she pulled it off. I’m grateful that she allowed me to be a part of it. Sure, there were a few stumbles and hiccups along the way, but I applaud her for her efforts. She crowned several amazing winners and everyone was very proud. Go, Cynthia!
Ironically, it was 20 years to the month when I was crowned the 2nd Black Miss USA. It feels great to know I’ve opened some doors for other women to walk through the way my predecessors have for me. That’s a beautiful thing! It’s a good look to all the aspiring young ladies who rule the world. In the words of Beyoncé and (Keyoncé) they were all Gone With The Wind Fabulous!

Xo,

Kenya
Kenyamoore.com
Twitter: twitter.com/kenyamoore

Side note: Kandi’s dad is kinda fione! No, I don’t want him! But I see she gets her good looks from both her mother and father.

Phaedra: I Do What's Best for My Children

Phaedra Parks responds to criticism over not bringing her children to see Apollo.

Bravotv.com: Did you ever get to see NeNe perform in Cinderella?
Phaedra Parks: I most certainly did see NeNe on Broadway, and she was absolutely fantastic, as you would expect. Her performance was dazzling and I was particularly impressed with how she made the role her own. It can be difficult to portray such a well-known character, let alone add your own style and flair to such an established role. One of the best parts of watching NeNe on stage was seeing her so happy; she was enjoying every minute of it and was absolutely glowing. I’m looking forward to seeing whatever is next for my friend.

Bravotv.com: You’re getting some criticism for not taking the kids to see Apollo; why haven’t you taken them?
PP: Despite the fact that I’m on a reality show, there are some things in my life that are off-limits. People who watch the show only get one slice of the entire Phaedra pie, and it’s unfair to make judgments about someone, or a situation, without having all the information. The one thing I will say is that every single decision I make is based on one thing: the well-being of my two boys. It’s easy for people to ask why she did that or why she isn’t doing this, but the simple truth is unless you are in that situation yourself, you really can’t make that judgment. I do my best to make smart decisions after carefully considering all options and consulting with experts and others who advise me. I know in my heart that everything I do is based on what is best for my children.

 
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