Having to move out of our home was bittersweet, but I couldn't leave quick enough! There was no way my family and I were going to stay in a house listed at over a million dollars more than it’s worth per the appraisal! We were not EVICTED! We ALWAYS paid our rent. Our lease was up; it’s that simple. We had found another home that was under construction but wasn’t going to be ready for a few more months, so we had asked the home owners to extend our lease. Kroy had been talking to the homeowner, and he stated he didn’t have a problem with it, but at the last hour literally we got an email stating we had to move out! Legally we had to, because our lease was up, which meant that I had to find a place to store 11,000 square feet of furniture and get it moved a.s.a.p.! So I packed my hubby, my kids, my dogs, my wigs, my flowers, and got the hell out!
Yes, Kandi, NeNe, and Cynthia, it was once my "dream home" and my credit has NOTHING to do with me moving. I'm blessed to have never had trouble financially unlike some of the other girls, but they can make whatever comments they'd like. They all know how much money I make just on RHOA, never mind all my other business ventures and my husband’s income to boot. These women say I constantly make excuses about not showing up to events like Ayden's birthday party, but I feel if I did decide to show up, they would make comments as to why I'm there and not handling my business with my home. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. So I give up!
I am so proud of you Kim for growing up and getting into being a good wife and mother. leaving these women alone is so good for you. I am glad you were not in all the drama at the trip and I know you are glad too. Kim they were not your friends, they ganged up on you all the time. These women live by drama drama drama. I don't believe the dates were for you. You were set up to took like they did so much for you. They do their own agendas. What a real mess on that trip and it could have sent you into labor. I have seen your changes keep them up. Who in their right mind would buy a home that is over the appraisal. NO ONE! That is like flushing a million in the john. I know you have been involved in lots of drama, but to see someone remove them self from it shows they are growing. Look at NE NE. She is doing things that are crazy. Talking about a divorce set up. LOL That was so fake. Now she is all over him. YUCK! Keep on growing and don't look back. You so did the right thing! You ROCK! From not liking you to loving your growth in self worth.
"Ask, believe, receive" has translated into more like "Use, abuse, dispose" when it comes to how you've treated your friends or anyone who has helped pave your way in getting what you want. Maybe losing your "dream house" (by whatever excuse you spin) and ending up back in the townhouse is the universe's way of slapping you with um, KARMA?!?
Last season, I must say I was very happy for you and had given you a major benefit of the doubt when the other women would bad mouth you. But now it's becoming very clear as to how you operate. This is far beyond a case of "changing priorities" - those of us living in this world with jobs, families, spouses and yes, FRIENDS juggle these dynamics daily! But the difference is that you seem to use "friends" to get what you want or serve a purpose in your agenda. Once you get whatever that is or if they can no longer serve you, you ditch them cold to the curb. I hope Kroy will be the exception to the pattern.
P.S. The Law of Attraction creators are probably hurling at your use of the concept. In order for "ask-believe-receive" to truly apply, you must be authentically gratuitous and GIVE BACK. You are nothing but a taker!!
I don't blame you for not wanting to travel during your last months of pregnancy, but it was totally UNCOOL for you not to be upfront about it with the other ladies that worked around their busy schedules to to plan the get a way around your availabilty. Now that you found a sugar daddy that would actually marry you you have no need for the other ladies or the show! I'm glad your leaving and won't watch any spin off they gave you. Tardy for the Wedding was horrendous due to the way you treated everyone around you especially your mother and best friend! Nene was right... you just use people to get your way and have no compassion for others. I really don't see why Bravo is interested in you at all.
I don't understand why those dates were given when you knew how far along you'd be when the vacation happened. However, Kim reminds me a lot of Draya from "Basketball Wives." If she can avoid the drama and not be around people she doesn't like, she'll do everything within her powers to do so. Can't say I blame her. Why be around people you're uncomfortable with? I wouldn't show up altogether. I wouldn't make excuses about it though. I'd just say, "Now you know I don't get along with __________. Sorry, not gonna happen" and keep it moving. I get where Kim is coming from, sort of.
Cynthia, Kandi and Phaedra have all made their own money by working hard at their crafts. You on the other hand, have earned yours on the backs of others (Kandi) and on your back by selling yourself to Big Papa. Fess up Liar, you spent too much money on that ridiculous wedding showing off and now you can't afford the house
Kroy is going to wake up one day and see what a mistake he made. Poor Kids..!!
You had every right to decide not to go out of the country when you were that far along in your pregnancy and to avoid the drama. - You looked very pregnant when shooting the last scene... And no one was in your corner - Kroy and your family are who you should want to spend your time with. Best of luck!
Good riddance my darling. One day your lies and using people will bite you in the butt. Reap what you sow!!
Kim . . you are beautiful and so fortunate to have found that sexy husband. You have lovely children and are in the midst of a great life. What in the world has mad you SO bitter that you use the language you do ALL the time and act the way you do? Let it go, whatever it is before you become as bitter and ugly as some of those other women on the show.
Good luck to you, good for you for leaving this crazy show to live your life . . and I hope nothing but good comes your way.
@AnnJ Kim is already the most bitter woman on the show. And I am sure you know that. I am so glad she is gone.
I would never travel, anywhere during the lat trimester, no way no how! I think the others are trying to get Kim kicked off rhoa trying to show she won't show for anything! It's kinda funny! Nene too, I like nene, but the only reason she is inviting Kim anywhere is in the hopes Kim doesn't show or leaves early lols
Kim, hon - when are you going to tone it down? your language is a bit too much. I am a fan of yours and hope to continue but the language is ugly and then, the fact that YES you have a bazillion excuses for trips. You do. the ladies are right and finally your betrayal with Kandi is uglier than your language. Take time to reflect and step back becuase your husband will see the things that others see as well. I didnt understand your huffy puffy attitude about the cameraman? why? things are getting to your head and remember how you got where you are.
Rebek Kim probably wont read... but you are right on!! i never saw kroy so crass as the the preview for next week. kim is rubbing off on him.. i feel sorry for his family... i hope they dont watch...
You should have just said that you couldn't go because you and Kroy had plans before the baby comes. They would have been disappointed but would have appreciated you being upfront about it. I was initially on your side, but you shouldn't have let the ladies work around your schedule and then bail out on them. That was insensitive of you and I think that is what bothered them. Like Kandi said, they all have a lot going on. I think the ladies deserved better than that from you.
Question for all the Kim fans:1. If Kim is really happy then, why does all she seem to do is lie, cuss, and complain?
2. If she didn't want to go on the trip, why not just say so? Most people don't want to be lied to.
3. Why would anybody be jealous of Kim? The other ladies seem to have happy relationships, lovely children, nice homes, cars, careers, ect. What have they done to indicate that they are jealous of Kim? If anything they seemed very supportive last season when they met Kroy and when she moved in her "dream home".
Let's see if you Kim fans can come of with anything!!!! I bet they can't....
Here's an answer for you, lovelymimi: Kim told them her pregnancy was too advanced. I just cannot imagine haveing my friends try to convince me to take a long trip when I was that close to my due date. Not a single one of those hellcats would have done it themselves. Angola has diseases that we do not encounter here in the USA . Who wants to expose a pregnant mother and her fetus to that?
None of the others have a husband as good looking as Kim's, and who so obviously adores her....none of them. She has never begrudged any of them their happiness and home.
About Phaedra's party: I like Phaedra, I really do. I think she is a hoot. However, her parties are more theatrical productions befitting visiting royalty than simple children's parties. Her guests (and her son) were exhausted to the point of yawning. What woman in an advanced state of pregnancy would have been able to sit through all that?
Now about Nene's party. For a hostess to be over 2 hours late is just rude and self centered (a good description of Nene at all times). I would have left in a flash if the hostess had not bothered to show up after only a few moments. I entertain frequently, and am always present to greet everyone. But then, I really like all my guests, and am not staging a "worship me" production.
I am uncomfortable with some of Kim's language also. But then I am also not a fan of constant talk of sex toys and male dancers........body parts.
rosyposy okay, so even though I disagree, at least I appreicate the response,...
1. I don't think their issue was about Kim being pregnant. But, the issue they clearly had was she lied. Why would she choose a date to travel, then turn around and say I can't come b/c I'm eight months pregger. She already knew she would be eight months so, why would she choose those dates in the first place... They all changed their schedules just for her... BTW, she gave at least 4 different excuses before her final excuse. Then said she was going on v-kay with Kroy that same week. Did you see the episode???
2. Are you really saying the women are jealous of Kim b/c she has the best looking husband??? You can come up with something better than that can't you?
3. Kim had know idea what she would have to "sit through" b/c she didn't even show up to find out. I don't think Phadrea really cared about kim not showing up, I just think she didn't like the excuses. Most of us women have been pregnant before, we all know how uncomfortable it is. I don't understand why Kim won't just say, "I really am too uncomforable to attend, but I hope to make the next one". Enough with the last minute exucses and lies. Its rude.
4. NeNe's party, again another lie. Why did she show up at all is my question. If she doesn't like NeNe or feel unsafe around her, as she said in her blog why even go? Personally I don't blame Kim, b/c of their history but why even come and why lie about going to the bathroom.
rosyposy "she has never begrudged any of them their happiness and home"... You've got to be kidding!!!
I'm guessing you missed the episode when she was invited to Kandi's home....???
FYI...The trip was in Anguilla, in the Caribbean , not Angola in Southern Africa.
Apollo is much better looking and much nicer than Kroy. Peter is also a handsome man. Why are these men married to their wives if they don't adore them?
I hate to quote Kenya but Apollo is fine... Peter (even with his temper) does adore Cynthia. Porsha's husband adores her as well. Even after 15 years Gregg still adores NeNe and wants her back. Kandi seems like she's happy in love as well.
@lovelymimi Exactly! Some seem to think that Kim is the ONLY woman with a nice husband who is caring and loving! NOT! And I agree, Apollo seems MUCH MORE FRIENDLY than Kroy could EVER be! Sorry, but it's the truth!
Good luck to you and your family. You were the best one on the show besides Phadera. Used to like Kandi but her hatred and annimosity has finally surfaced. She has become a Nene/Cynthia in the making and that is sad. Dont take to heart the negative feed back. I
Peace and Love to you and your family!
You were lucky to be with this group of women. Kandi, Phaedra were nice friends and would have had your back. Even NeNe was extending an olive branch when she asked you to hang out at her presentation. She even looked for you. If she didn't care, she wouldn't have cared that you didn't stay a few minutes after you had told her you would. In my opinion NeNe was very gracious. I wish you had shown some grace by sticking around. Show NeNe life isn't all about you.You catch flies with honey not vinegar. You and NeNe had a shot at being friends again, it's a shame you couldn't make more of an effort.
Kandi was a very good friend you were lucky to have her as a friend, All the women were very tolorant of you. I have to admit had you been on the Beverly Hills, the OC, the NY, You would have been eaten alive. No one on those shows would let it down that you wear a wig. Black women are a little more tolerable. Unless you have cancer, or Alephecia like Giggy has, where the hair fall out. You'd be a laughing stock for having all your wigs. You'd be a laughing for investing 100's of thousands of dollars on a home that you don't even own. Your excuse was you were suppose to buy the place. An even bigger reason not to invest a penny in the home. Why help the seller make the value go up with your money? You were telling Kandi it was going to cost 100k to move and store your belongings.You'd be a laughing stock for that to. No one spends that kind of money on moving and storage. You got burned.Why move into a home that's not yours, spend hundreds of thousands on the home that you do not own. I'm telling you this now, at your wedding when your mom went into your house to use the bathroom, and you kicked your mom out of your wedding just for that. I believe that created bad Karma for you. Your folks were there for you when you needed them most. And look, yourew moving out of that house. What was the big deal letting your mom use the toilet in that home? She's your mom, that should have been without saying, yes mom use the inside toilets. Just dont wake the baby or your watching him the rest of the night. You need to make peace with your parents. You need to stop being materialistic,your town home is fine, Make this a learning experience and beg BRAVO for your job again. You are a real housewife. You need to stay on the show and be thankful youre not on Beverly Hills. OC , and NY. . .
socialbutterfly: what is gracious about a hostess not attending her own party during the first few hours. Nene needs a book on social graces....she really does. About Kim's mom...that woman obviously has a loose screw. She joyfully woke the baby while ignoring Kim's wishes. I think she would rob the place if she could get by with it.
Kim , I liked you at the beginning... your constant excuses and complaining wear me out! Just flipping move! people move every day! If you would have planned better, this whole thing wouldn't have happened!
i hope that's not how you handle your commitments and keep your word milica. she stormed out of the restaurant because she was caught in a lie, and nene was right, if she was really cool she would have just said look, i'm not interested in the trip, thanks. instead she inconvenienced a lot of professional people with real things to do. cynthia is a model, phaedra a lawyer, kandi a music maker and business woman, nene has three tv shows. i don't care if you consider people your friends or enemies, it is terrible to give your word and then back out and be so selfish. make up your mind and tell the truth from the get go. so stop trying to elevate kim above the other women when she hardly has any redeeming qualities.
Milica Then Kim should have said that upfront and not inconvenience not only the ladies but Bravo's production. Kim is just ridiculous and a liar.
You are the only reason I even started watching this show and I am glad you are leaving so I don't have to watch it anymore. Now I can just watch you on your new show and enjoy your fabulous family on there!!! And I totally get your relationship with your mom, I have a dad who is like that and I get it - no one understands the damage a narcissistic parent can do to a child even as an adult. They seem so normal and nice to everyone on the outside, but to their kids they are abusive.
Kim, just to let you know that you don't have to keep repeating the same thing about the appraisal , the million dollar over, the house being haunted, the eviction,the paying or not paying rent. We get it you said it a million times and it almost feels like you just keep repeating the same thing over and over to reassure yourself or you just plain out rehearsed the whole thing. I agree with others you don't need to explain your personal finances. Blog about something else. As for excuses, it's is true you do make alot of excuses... Andy Cohen should count the whole seasons of excuses. Just be real and say the truth girl. The other woman will say what they say regardless so maybe telling the truth just might be better.
It has been nice watching you to get to that place of TRUE HAPPINESS in your life!! Unfortunately, that comes with many haters! You do not have to explain your financials to anyone! Nene was out of line to even mention credit when you and her do not speak therefore she would not know about your credit sitution. I would never pay more than a home is worth especially not a million more! You have a beautiful family and I am so happy to see you finally in your true element of happiness. I am a wife and mother and I prefer them over friends and there is no reason to apologize for that. It is the way it should be!!!! At least we as viewers see you being a mom!!!
Jen0420 I forgot about that. Actually I read years back that she and Greg were having financial troubles and were kicked out of a home they rented.I also read they filed for bankruptcy.
socialbutterfly908 Jen0420 I agree with you both. Kim is the only reason I started watching. I never cared for Nene(the wanna be actress) or Cynthia(the wanna be model teacher). I do like Phadera tho. She has a way about her that no matter what she will be there for you. She isnt letting this petty bs ruin things. Do want to know what the hell is Kandi's deal now with Kim. And what does Kenya(sp) think about the others ganging up on Kim like that.
I am so glad that Kim finally took the last of Nene's abuse and let the ladies see her ass walking out! Nene is so jealous of Kim and every bad mouthed comment Nene makes/made about Kim shows it.If Kim meant nothing to her or that she didnt care about what Kim says or does then keep Kim's name out of your mouth.
Kim, keep doing what you are doing because you are happier now than I have seen you since day one! Will miss seeing and the fam tho. But understand where you are coming from.
@Jen0420 you obviously don't know a lot about lease/ option to buy. Before Kim even moved in the house it was appraised. That is the law. The seller and the prospective buyer agree upon the price it is written into the contract with a stipulation of what happens when the sale initiates. Kim had the appraisal. Although Nene is not my favorite, the scenario she laid out is probably the correct one. Kim did not qualify for the loan. Kim prides hersejf on being a good business woman so she would not have spent the money she did on the house if she was not sure of it's value. Kendra gave Kim 48 hours to move out. I woukd have given her 24. Kim is a user and I was so happy to see her get her just dues. Now she and Kroy are living in the Townhouse that Big Poppa bought...gold digging at its' best!!!!
It's funny how all the Kim fans want to believe her so bad that even though she's been caught in numerous lies. Didn't she wear a wig cause she had cancer? Last night was classic how she went from I may be going to no, I'm definately not going all in the same breath. Good riddance!!
Kim ,I think maybe you are just stressed out. Pregnancy 1, moving, wedding, pregnancy 2, moving. I think maybe you were just at a breaking point. There has been many changes in you and your families lives. Cameras following you, gossip, issues with your parents and RHOA ladies. Everyone on the show has lied before. I have watched it with my own eyes. Maybe you should try not giving so many excuses..Just stand up and say "NO". No reason needed! I think you aren't in touch with your feelings. You try and keep it all inside, instead maybe ask some of your friends for help and understanding. You don't seem to have many friends left.I will miss you on the show! I enjoyed watching your life. Money is not everything! It is nice to have it! I can only imagine since I don't have it! LOL
The fighting is entertaining but, at the end of the day, do you love yourself? You and NeNe should not hold grudges. Anger brings you negative energy. Forgive and move forward. You all can still talk about each other bitch moan and groan..I really enjoyed watching you on RHOA. Good Luck with everything. Hopefully you will work on inner peace. You have spent many years looking for a man to make you happy! Love your self Kim
I couldn't agree more. Kim has been under tremendous stress. I think she is trying to be nice when making the excuses, but you are right just stand up and say "NO" I'm pregnant and just don't feel I should leave home now. End of story. I probably won't watch the show any more because for some reason I really liked Kim. She made me laugh. Also, I don't think I can take toomore seconds of Kenya "Ms USA" of 1988. Bravo was really desperate when they hired her. I do hope she doesn't stay long.
secretkitty3 You can't see the forest for the trees. Kim is not a good person!! Please understand she's like that by choice!
Kim, you have a wonderful new life, beautiful children, an adorable husband. I say congratulations to you for removing yourself from those nasty Atlanta housewives. You are so much better off! Best wishes always!