NeNe Leakes

NeNe explains why she was so upset with the other 'Wives for being late.

on Mar 4, 20130

It's been a while since we last chatted! This episode was all about the ladies visiting me in LA, which I really looked forward to! When our show stops filming a lot of these ladies stop working, but I'm blessed to have the other jobs and opportunities that I do, one being The New Normal! My work schedule is Monday through Friday all day every day, and we wrap whenever we finish, which can even be midnight. In order for me to get a calendar work day off, I have to be cleared through my producers. These ladies knew this was the only time I could have the dinner party, and they knew in advance.

With that said, I was very excited for the ladies to visit me, and if you’re anything like me, when you’re having guests you’re running around like a chicken with its head cut off trying to make things perfect! I hired a chef, wait staff, bartender, and a bar back. I wanted it perfect. I know we have certain girls who are notorious for being extremely late, so much so that I planned in my mind that they would show up by 10 pm. When I got the call at 11:40 pm, I felt totally disrespect and hurt that they would even do this to me after all my planning and asking for time off work! When I watched the show back, maybe my tone could have been different, and I accept that, but this was a dinner party planned especially for them! I had five other important guests that I wanted them to meet, but three had already left by the time they arrived.

383 comments
linda.rhone.14
linda.rhone.14

NeNe, I believe that you are true to yourself as you should be, and I love that you are very honest in what you believe to be true HOWEVER there are times when you need to be diplomatic.  I see that in Cynthia, and in you sometime.  I take a page from my mom who will be  90 on May 4th.  She is someone that we can all try to strive to be more like.  ANYWAY, watch the show with my mom and like it more with you on it

maxi-22
maxi-22

NeNe you were absolutely right.  There is no way on earth you take your time to cater a party and prepare for friends and in 3 hours time, not be called to say I'm running late, etc, but to just show up at 12 midnight expecting to be entertained like nothing is wrong?!!  Good morales and good behavior is not on the top of everyone's list, but you were clearly disrespected and really  it shouldn't take any grown woman anywhere THREE hours to get dressed, especially when you know someone is expecting you.  Sometimes you have to have tough love, right is right...show up three hours late for a job and see what happens.  Time should be respected, especially when you are bearing on others people time, but just because they were habitually late to everything didn't mean they had to be THAT late...THREE hours?!  You were good to even open the door.  But you see the next morning they made a conscious effort to be on time to the next event...again, tough love, you have to teach people how to treat you.  Kudos to you for this well deserved lesson that they needed to learn

salwalishious
salwalishious

NeNe.. you right and you are wrong at the same time..when someone comes from traveling .. don't invite them in the same day.. yet you should invite them in another day! yet you right.. they should have called you and let you know they are running late or something.. not after three hours.. i mean i give you credit for this one.. yet you did the same thing when you suppose to be at acting stage something.. i can't remember.. and you admit it that is a pay back.. i am shocked that they never said anything about it at the reunion.. whats up with that..

 

anyways women always create drama.. i believe you all should go to my home town that is africa and just learn what is important in this life.. don't go back to drama.. which you and other ladies never apply to it when you get back from africa.. i mean for real..

Grammie-to-Rieker
Grammie-to-Rieker

I'm a little late, but, NeNe I would have and have done the same thing.  Everyone knows when you're invited to dinner at a certian time, you are supposed to be on time.  I hate cold food, etc.  I start eating if someone is late; and they can "fix a plate."  If it was 12 midnight, I wouldn't even answer the door.  You were absolutely right.

ruke
ruke

If you watched the show it looked like Cynthia never actually told anyone tatyou expected them at 9:00. I would have been livid, you re much nicer than I could have ever been. In fact I thought you were very gracious to get over it the next day. Good for you!!!!!!

 

msrotti
msrotti

First, I don't like Nene but she was disrespected.  3 hours late wow what bad manners.  I personally would not have even entertained them at the gate. I would have security push them on their way. 

susielyn56
susielyn56

Nene, you were totally disrespected! The fact that nobody even thought to call you, at least by 9 and let you know what was going on was rude. To call you at 11:40 was ridiculous. When "friends" have a total disregard as to what you went through to make them feel welcome, you may want to limit what you do for them in the future, at least for a period of time. They should be kissing your behind for forgiveness. And the fact that they were "offended" made me laugh. They clearly acted like a bunch of self-absorbed women. Ok, I'm done :)  

That68Chic
That68Chic

My comment is not about the blog, but a general comment about Nene Leakes.  WTG, Nene!!!!!!   I am truly happy for you and your success!  WORK IT, GIRL!!!!!   It is my sincere wish for you that you become a crossover "Housewife".  I can't wait to see you on your "COAST-2-COAST" debut on the RHOBH! Make it happen!

boderah
boderah

seriously? i LOVE the show, but can't believe how disrespectful the ladies were. i would have at least expected phaedra to have been the one with class, after all, she calls herself a 'southern belle'. southern belles know that fashionably late is 10, maybe even 30 minutes late AND they call their host/hostess. it's not like they didn't know that you have not one, but multiple jobs, a child and a companion whom look to you as well. bad form ladies. Nene was right on the money this time. actually, had i been her, i would not have acknowledged their presence & rudeness in such tardiness. i mean really, you expect food to be held for 3 hours and still be as wonderful as when it was freshly prepared? i think they need a lesson in etiquette. I learned all of that when I was nine years old.

mrs.jones2u
mrs.jones2u

NENE, I WOULD HAVE DONE THE SAME DAMN THING!!! I LOVE YOU, YOU DIDNT HOLD THEM UP, A REAL SISTER!! IF YOU SO IMPORTANT THEY WOULDNT BEEN THERE AT 9PM!!! I CANT BELIEVE CYNTHIA, SHE KNOWS BETTER!!

goals2bmet
goals2bmet

Nene don't apologize for how you acted towards them!  You had every right to be upset.  You and Greg worked hard preparing that dinner for them.  I had to cut a friend loose for always being late.... and I don't mean 15 minutes or so... I'm talking hours.  Basically, it made me feel disrespected on so many different levels.... like me, nor my time is important.  Congratulations on your success.  Best Wishes!

goldeneyes48
goldeneyes48

NeNe you had a right to be upset. That was uncalled for. Sometimes the fights get on my nerves but I know that y'all are trying to keep it real. I love the show and I know Kenya is one of your friends but I do not care for her. My gash people don't ;care that she WAS miss USA. That is old news. It's time to move on. Now you on the other hand I am so happy for you on your success. It's nice to see you and Greg back together. I wish the two of you many many years of love and happiness. God Bless you and your family. Love you girl

mskatzy
mskatzy

You had every right to feel that way. The same thing happened to me. I invited 3 couples over for a off the hook dinner. One couple didn't call and finally showed up at 9:00pm, I started serving drinks, and snacks at 6:30pm. When they finally arrived, I told them I hoped that they stopped on the way and picked something to eat, because my kitchen was offically closed. This was so rude and disrespectful, I couldn't believe it was happening.....It takes alot to entertain the right way, and to think that they just kissed you and Gregg off is almost unforgiveable.....

Chry8
Chry8

NeNe I don't know who would in their right mind would listen to that "bull ish" you call advise last night.  Greg has a lot of patience as we all can see.  Let me make this clear and I think you already know...most men would not put up with you!  How classless to hang in a strip club.  You guys act as if this is normal.  You are always pointing fingers at the other ladies "prentending"you know what class is.  They don't sell it at Neimans or Nordstrom either....

LIVLUVLAF58
LIVLUVLAF58

Nene I would be LIVID for what those girls did. You put them up in their own house for God's sake, at the very least they could be on time, not late, not even an hour late ON FRICKEN TIME!! How disrespectful is right, I'm glad you showed them your backbone and sent them back and for them to behave like what is the big deal shows even more of their character. For being so late none of them showed up looking any better so what was the hold up? There is never any excuse unless they were in a car wreck and even then they could call, I just don't get it

shawniedw2
shawniedw2

I'm on NeNe's side on this one...I cannot stand anyone being late let alone 3 hours late. When people are that late they are showing you that your time and whatever effort you have put into something is irrelevant...

Nastybaby
Nastybaby

Seeing as how it normally takes nearly a week for anyone to post, I guess I'll post on this old blog....

 

If NeNe did make the travel arrangements to Vegas for the ladies, then shame on her for doing so, and shame on her for complaining that they didn't arrive on time.  Many people commute back and forth from LA to Vegas, so what did she expect?  Aside from that, I never would have arranged a bus trip that was more than an hour--especially after the travelers already had taken a five to six-hour plane ride just days before.  This was not a business trip, so I don't agree with the grueling demands of the travel schedule.  

 

Secondly, NeNe and the other women should not say anything to Porsha about Kordell being controlling.  I have expressed my opinion about him (and Porsha) on the blog; I don't care for him.  I think that he is has an aggressive personality and is condescending.  However, there's a difference between being a viewer who posts opinions and being a casual acquaintance who makes a point of pulling another woman I really don't know aside to give unsolicited advice on her relationship.

 

Also, NeNe should not have been offended because Porsha didn't want to go to the club.  I will always make the disclaimer that I don't care for Porsha, but in all fairness, not everyone likes going to places like these for various reasons.  Besides, wasn't it NeNe who, not long ago, said how she didn't care for the sex toys Kandi was peddling?

 

 

 

breal4now1
breal4now1

NeNe: I agree with you about the late arrival of the women to your house. It was very disrespectful.  But, on the other hand, you need to respect another womans' wish to not want to go to a strip joint.  It may or may not have anything to do with her husband, but, that is her business, not yours!  Just because you grew up on a pole, don't judge what others want to do.

You are getting a little bit too big for those britches lately, you don't know it all. stop pretending you do.

Kenya is a drama queen and I can't understand why you are always taking up for her.  She is the one who started the feud between her and Phaedra by making fun of Phaedra's beach wear.  Anyone who does something like that to a big event, is definitely crazy!  She should be doing the apologizing.

piperbeau
piperbeau

NeNe I love you!! You are definitely in the top three, as far as housewives go!! But dam NeNe we all know your fabulous, and doing great, no need to tell us every segment! I thought the advice you gave Porsha was spot on! I think her husband is down right controlling! I guess he wants a stepford wife instead of a rhoa! For the life of me I can't figure out why you and Cynthia sided with Kray Kray over the hijacked booty video!! Phaedra did everything right! Kray Kray presented her whack proposal, and Phaedra turned it down, which she has every right to do!! Would you be willing to give up ten percent of your brand? I think not!! She told anyone who would listen, that Phaedra expected her to work for free! Blatant lie! I'm surprised your not pissed at her for lying to you!!

LedaStokes
LedaStokes

Nene, Love you, but if you would have treated me like you did the girls, you would have gotten cursed out. Late or not, you could have let them in! You do not have to be petty, and when you invite someone to your house its not about you, it's about catering to the guest. You are still my girl, but you need to improve on your hosting etiquette.

kalston
kalston

How dare NeNe get on Porsha for not going to a strip club.  Isn't this the same lady who got a stink face about being at Kandi's Bedroom Kandi event?  She was sooo offended by the vibrators and other toys plus the shirtless men giving massages.  She's such a hyprocrite.  

Randelld
Randelld

I can't blame you one bit. The only way to teach someone to be on time is to give it right back to them.

susielyn56
susielyn56

NeNe, girl, you had every right to be angry. Showing up at that time of night for a dinner party in their honor is absolutely ridiculous. Being 3 hours late, is the epitemy of disrespect. I cant believe they had the nerve to show up after you told them not to bother. Friends dont treat each other like that. Period.

cutetay7
cutetay7

The ladies flew across the country to visit you of course they were late. My lord be more understanding. Why didn't you call them and ask if they were running late? Don't you have phone?

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

Being a good hostess involves both being gracious and generous.  Sending away guests who flew across the country because they were late is not gracious.  Sending guests to Vegas in a buswhile you fly first class is not generous.  i have no words for your harrassment of Porsche for not wanting to go to a female strip club. But then, I don't understand why 5 straight women couldn't find anything else to do in Las Vegas.  It's Vegas...

charlie@company
charlie@company

Good advice to Porsha Nene.....but I'm afraid she'll have to learn the hard way as she's young & naive & Soul Brother Kordell knows it....that's why he married her!!!

 

Glad you have chosen to remain on the Show, as it would not be that same w/o you!!!!

 

Lastly......I 'm down w/Porsha when it comes to frequenting strip clubs......not my thing & never will be!!!!! That' s where you're a little still too rough around the edges for me!!!! I would've taken the girls to see George Wallace's Show, or perhaps Celine Deion, or a Cirque de Soleil, or to a popular nightclub in the VIP section for dancing, but not to see women take their clothes-off........very poor taste on your part; although, Ms. Phaedra seemed right in her element!!!!!!

xxxemxxx
xxxemxxx

NeNe I thought the girls were very wrong in going so late to your dinner, you spend time and money to make the this happen and being that late would have made me mad. I agree with you on this one.

delayahb59
delayahb59

Nene, I really like your vibrant personality, but you are becoming a MEAN GIRL.  How can you side with Kenya when you know that she is a lier?  Obviously its because you don't like Phaedra, so you side with the tramp...  And stay in your lane with Porsha, you learned and she has to learn, stop being MEAN and be the older woman educating the younger.

Diamonddebbie66
Diamonddebbie66

NeNe why are you still on the show if your schedule is so busy in Hollywood. Oh I forgot show ratings are what makes the difference.  RHOA is a safety net.  

Lazara44
Lazara44

Nene, 

I agree with you on the late thing, but the rest of the time was you trying to show how much better you are than them.  Keep in mind that you should be good to people on your way up, because you will meet them on the way down. 

macnmac
macnmac

Doesn't matter when you expected them there was no reason not to call or tweet and say forget it ladies the dinner if over so don't come but instead to wait and create that scene was flaky and dramatic. 

karamel
karamel

As much as ilove Nene, it needs to be said, lately you have been rude with aflaunty& flip attitude. You make it hard for a person to appreciate your success. Your acting is not that up to par that you can be this snoody, you need to be humble. Don't forget we ail know the old Nene.. Don't let karma bite you, you deserve the success you have show that you appreciate it!!

4Realgal
4Realgal

Nene, I had no issues with how you handled the girls for being late. I do have an issue with you glorifing stripping.  I am sure if you had a better way to take care of you child you would have.  Stop pretending is was all good and fun.  You could not wait for a Greg to rescue you from that!!.  I am sure it's not a profession you want for your grand daughter.  If you are going to speak about it talk about the ALL THAT COMES WITH IT JUST LIKE YOU TALKED ABOUT THE ABUSE.  BLOOP!!!

yolsmoo87
yolsmoo87

I must agree with NeNe, about respect. I would've been upset about that too. You invite people to your event and they show up almost 3 hours late with no good explanation, but with a nonchalant attitude.  Nope, I would've sent them on their way with a doggie bag.

GetYourBack
GetYourBack

Hey NeNe, I like you. I know you got to make that money. I also know that you know that you are a modern day baffoon. But, do what you have to do. However, you should mind your own business and leave Porsha's alone. Most women dream of Porsha's life. I would take Porsha's life over yours any day.

tlbharris
tlbharris

Nene,

 

You had a right to be upset, but you handled it wrong, as usual.  You are too over the top, and taking it a bit too far.  I am glad for your success, but every episode, you have to rub something in someone's face.  For instance, you took a flight to Vegas, the girls took a bus.

Porsha  and Kandi could have taken a flight, and proobably anyone else if they really wanted to. Porsha net worth darling is 4 times yours, and Kandi's is 8 times yours. You don't hear them talking about their wealth or status all the time.  New money always act a fool.

magbr179
magbr179

big ups to nene keep doing your thing

dlmccu
dlmccu

Ok tell us again why you got your nose all up in porsha's marriage and business. you should really work on your own issues with greg and leave porsha and cordell ALONE!!!!

didleesquat
didleesquat

 @myinfo2012 I agree with everything written.Nene needs to let the air out of that big head she's gotten, she ain't all that. Kordell probably watched the show from previous seasons, and doesn't want his wife acting a fool like these women do.

 

I'm tired of hearing all the hateful comments made by Nene and her two groupies about Kandi and Phaedra. Nene just wishes they were jealous of her,

LIVLUVLAF58
LIVLUVLAF58

Good advise from Nene but them bottom line it's their marriage and what works for them doesn't work for everyone else. What works for Nene and Greg doesn't work for Porsha and Cordell, every couple finds their nitch and what works for them

 

susielyn56
susielyn56

 @LedaStokes

 Let me guess, you expect your friends to let you in 3 hours late and be happy that you have graced them with your presence. I have a feeling you may not be the "favorite" friend.

shortmean01
shortmean01

 @kalston

 Thank you, I Thought that I was the only one to remember Nene stink face to Kandi sex toys But she wanted go to a strip club andshe used to wrapped her ass around a pole shaken in mens face for money but is now a hypocrite. and do no one remember she put them up awhile from where she was staying(hello Traffic) and Cynthia said she was in Constance contact with Nene, but She didn't know they was on the way(LATE)? why not tell Cynthia to turn around or don't come, why even plan a party on the night they gets in(and isn't there 3 hr time different ?) so Nene has to take the blame for some of this. why they couldn't stay at her home? as she know they're always late,especially since the party was SUPPOSED to have being in their honor? just more chance for Nene to act the Royal Bitch with a big head. 

didleesquat
didleesquat

 @kalston Yes, she is....plus the remarks that she made about Kandi's twitter followers being at the event. Without those 'fans', she'd be broke and still in Atl.

susielyn56
susielyn56

 @cutetay7

 They were there in plenty of time to be on time. Nene was the one that got them settled in. Its not the job of the hostess to have to hunt down her guests.

susielyn56
susielyn56

 @ESinAZ

 Being a good friend is being respectful, especially when they were the "guests of honor". There is absolutely no excuse for being 3 hours late, especially when they had plenty of time to get there on time. Friends should never disregard any effort made by another friend to throw them a big welcome party, and Nene wanted to show them off the new people she has met. Honest to God people, use a little commen sense and a little commen decency.

susielyn56
susielyn56

 @karamel

 I dont know why Nene is not allowed to be a little excited about her success. She is Nene, she shows her excitement in a way only Nene can. I love it. And just to make a point, she has always been rude whenever she felt like it. When a situation calls for rude, be rude.

susielyn56
susielyn56

 @GetYourBack

 A man telling his grown wife that she has to choose between a baby or a career, not willing to listen to a word she says, that not a partnership type marriage. Its his way or the highway. I would take the highway every time, and tell him to take his money and shove it, I'll make my own damn money.