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Kenya Plays the Victim

Phaedra doesn't understand why Kenya was so bothered by Walter's appearance at Kandi's party.

Some of us always have to play the victim in order to be the center of attention. In this week's episode we see that in epic fashion with our resident twirler Kenya. As always, she assumes that every event is about her. This week is no different.

Atlanta is a major metropolitan city; however, as in any town or city, there are small social circles. It isn't unusual to see many of the same faces at every event you attend. While I've known Kenya for approximately six months, I've known her alleged ex-beau Walter Jackson for well over a decade. He has been a fixture in Atlanta's social scene since I met him. Since he and my husband met, they have enjoyed a blossoming friendship. When he and my husband spoke as we were en route to Kandi's party, there was no reason to call anyone to alert them that he was coming as he was their invited guest. Please know that Apollo and I would never invite anyone to someone else's home as that is socially tacky and uncouth. It's very egocentric to expect someone to adjust their guest list according to your preferences. Kandi's estate is large enough that everyone at the party could've played hide and seek and never been found, so why did Kenya assume he came with a date to find her? It was obvious he didn't want her when they were allegedly together, so why would he want her now?

It was my hope that Kenya sincerely wanted to bury the hatchet, but everybody knows anything too good to be true usually isn't and that adage applies to this situation as well. I am thankful that I am richly blessed with a busy and engaging life, which keeps me focused. I don’t choose to take time away from my family, work, and school to engage in name-calling and participate in petty arguments for the sake of pacifying someone’s ego. However, I will not stand by and let my husband and myself to be made out as villains without a response.

Xoxo,
Phaedra

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Kenya: "I Will Always Be a Queen"

Kenya Moore dishes on the truce with Phaedra Parks and the non apology from Porsha Williams.

CLOSURE
The reunion represents closure on all levels. I believe most women need closure. Reunions are tough because you live through filming, then through seeing it on TV, and then again during the reunion. You can feel you have moved on from something difficult and then you have to discuss it and rehash it. I felt good about this reunion, because I have grown so much. I am stronger now and nothing or anyone can destroy me.

Speaking of opening old wounds, I was respectful toward Phaedra during the conversation, but it’s clear that after our truce, she still wants to call me a whore and liken me to other “whores in the bible.” God doesn’t like ugly. Maybe sitting alone on the sofa now is confirmation.

THE NON APOLOGY
There was a part of me that was hopeful about getting an apology for being physically attacked at the last reunion, since that would mean the past was behind us. You have to own what you do wrong in life. Children are taught that you don’t hit anyone first or at all. Whether provoked or not, isolated incident or not, physically attacking someone is legally and morally incomprehensible. As such, doing the right thing should be easy. But this is the same person whose grandfather was a greatly respected civil rights activist who fought for non-violence, yet thinks the Underground Railroad was an actual train that took people to freedom.

In typical fashion, Phaedra attacks my character in a preplanned soliloquy. But in her own words, her “THOT” friend thinks that spreading your legs wide open and accepting gifts from married men is admirable. Yet, it’s basically teaching young girls that having a square card reader between your butt cheeks is how one becomes “blessed” and “successful.” That’s why I will always be a Queen, literally and figuratively, because when I am wrong, I can apologize, forgive, and move forward. I can love, though I have not always been loved, and I can be talented and successful on my own merit without needing men to finance my lifestyle, and I can be the bigger person when others try to bring me down.

SINGLE VS MARRIED
Some viewers ask why there are single women on a show about Housewives. It’s simple -- every Real Housewife franchise has single women, from Beverly Hills to OC to NY to Atlanta. With that said, there are only two Housewives on RHOA that are currently not married, Claudia and myself. In fact, approximately 43 percent of all Black women have never been married. My journey is not unlike the many Black single women who watch our show. Nearly half of Black women want to be married and find true love but are not willing to settle or can’t find the right man. NeNe and her puppet would like everyone to think it’s better to be in a horrible marriage rather than be single.

Having said that, I have never received so much love from the viewers as when I was featured on The Millionaire Matchmaker. It made me realize is that I am no different from all the single women around the world looking for real love. My journey is their journey, and ultimately they want me to fall in love with them rooting me on. It happened for Kandi, Kim, Bethenny, Tamra, etc. and it will happen for me too with all of you by my side. Therefore, having single women as Housewives is good for the show. Everyone deserves a chance to be happy. And we can inspire and give hope to those looking for love.

Rumor has it that someone said single women should be fired from RHOA. As such, we wouldn’t have witnessed the beautiful rekindling of NeNe and Gregg's love or her wedding special. Therefore, those people clearly didn't create the successful model for this show. If it's a play to get me fired... Try again. #CatchThatShade

Love Kenya,

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