Phaedra Parks

Phaedra thinks the drama over Ayden's birthday was blown way out of proportion.

on Nov 26, 20120

I truly believe that we are created in the image of The Creator and therefore we are created to create. Everything we do (and not do), say (and not say) is creating something. What are you creating? I enjoy spending my time creating opportunities, profitable possibilities, empowering perspectives, and loving memories. And I find it quite disturbing and sad when people spend their precious time authoring drama with their venomous words and/or creating chaos with their divisive intentions.
 
During this week’s episode NeNe creates drama, like only NeNe can. She compares her relationship with Kim to my relationship with Cynthia. This is interesting, because there is no comparison. However, in true NeNe style, a recipe of drama was brewing using rushed judgment as the main ingredient. I have known Cynthia for two years, and we have always managed to get along and support each other in our various endeavors. And everybody knows that NeNe and Kim had a love-hate relationship, which ended on a sour note.

For reasons unbeknownst to me, NeNe brings to Cynthia's attention a conversation via supposed butt dial regarding Cynthia attending my son Ayden's birthday party. The conversation occurred during the stressful time of organizing the event and was so trivial that I didn't even remember it. In the sound bite of the conversation I basically said I didn't care if Cynthia attended Ayden's birthday party after repeatedly being badgered about the guest list. I never said anything malicious or derogatory about Cynthia, and it was not my intention to insinuate that she is insignificant. The point of my comment was to communicate that Cynthia's attendance to Ayden's second birthday party was not essential, as Cynthia is my peer, not Ayden’s. Ayden’s celebration was not about MY friends, but about his enjoyment with HIS family and friends. Once again, it’s always sad when people choose to create drama when there truly is none. While I have already apologized to Cynthia for any misunderstandings, real and assumed, I still stand by my statement that I did not care whether or not she attended Ayden’s party. If it were my party, I would have felt different, but Ayden is my son and he was the star and main focus of the party. Hopefully, Cynthia has accepted my apology, as I do value our relationship.

282 comments
gvsonia0926
gvsonia0926

I agree with you its so sad that cynthia holds on to one comment you have made of her, when she has said so much about you. And even admit just cause she hasn't got cought saying it. Anyway don't mind them and regarding that Kenya flirting with you're husband it's just sad and disgusting how disrespectful she is, and Apollo I loved how you always let Phaedra be Phaedra but I got say a little disappointed in you're behavior too.

MommaTee
MommaTee

Well Written Phaedra However the bottom line is that you said what you said to the wrong person and they sold you out.  after all it wasn't NeNe that you butt-dialed...You did recover well though bravo!

steptakeone44
steptakeone44

Phaedra pulled out the big buns and Apollo fell back in line.

GETRIDOFPORSHA
GETRIDOFPORSHA

Kenya made a positive observation about Apollo -- he is FINE!  He should not go into the funeral business - that is Phaedra's dream.  He has too much going on for himself.  Apollo is young (34 years old) walking money and appears to enjoy having FUN.  His workout video should be really great.  He probably knows how to sing and act. The sky is the limit for Apollo. We wish only the best for him.


favalos1
favalos1

Phaedra, you're so cute, I love the way you talk and make expressions your husband seems very sweet too, you handled the Kenya situation like a true southern bell - I love it.  Don't leave the housewives

mammy40
mammy40

Phaedra, you are a hoot!!! I just love watching you and some of the things you say just send me over the top.  The looks you get on your face are fabulous.  I am so glad you were added to the housewives when you were because ever since it has been a lot more fun to watch.

You are my very favorite housewife.     You go girl!!!!!

1stonefox
1stonefox

I absolutely love you.  I was surprised to hear you drop the "f" bomb, but thought it was funny especially since you never curse.  I must say you are my favorite housewife.  My greatest criticism has to do with your casual dress.  Please get rid of those silver jeans; they are awful, and the top was not much better.  However the black thong bathing suit with the black fishnet dress was the bomb diggity.  I bet Apollo won't be picking up any more strange ladies!

CookieCookie
CookieCookie

"You can dance, you can show your shoes, you can show me your cervix..." LMAO.

 

You are so funny Phaedra. You really have a gift. I am sure you don't need anyone to tell you that you have NOTHING to be worried about when it comes to Kenya chasing Apollo. You are gorgeous BUT there is one thing men like even more than gorgeous women: Smart, funny women. Kenya doesn't have smart or funny.

iheartnoir
iheartnoir

You are so entertaining. I love your comments and reactions! Everything you say & do is priceless. Keep doing you!

Angeeleoliciousumphress
Angeeleoliciousumphress

you looked good in that peek-a-boo outfit. no shame your on a sexy island amongst friends so i see no harm. perfect place to wear somethin like that. But girl girl girl i would not have been able to be a lady when that pathetic desperate trifling woman was throwin herself at my man. hats off to you because i would of gave her a country ass whoopin for that, smacked her up somethin and you was well within your rights. i can see why your not posting a blog about this one. i really like you, think your funny as all get out. You shoulda just came out n kept it real with cynthia though, cuz the lyin made you look bad for no reason.

vadams123
vadams123

I don't care what you said about Cynthia.....you are hilarious and I wish Bravo would show more clips of how funny you really are !!!!  You'd be the person I'd want to sit by at a party !!!

Mojo12
Mojo12

PHedra you are simply the best.But,I would have thrown Kenya in the pool if she was messing with my husband.She is so unsecure that she has to keep saying to her shelf how fabulus she is,cause no one else does.ha ha ha

stclgal
stclgal

Gurrrllll......I just knew you were gonna cut Kenya for crossing the line with Apollo.  I lost my bet that you were going to light her up, but I have to say that I admire your ability to exercise such restraint.  Well done, lady!!

Charleen1980
Charleen1980

Phaedra! What can I say? Your amazing and a priceless woman.. God bless your family and marriage. I'm more than sure as "fine" as Apollo is, he knows what he has at home.... Remember temption lasts moments while your agony of a divorce will last a liftime!

snash1
snash1

Phaedra is hilarious, and just says the craziest things lol, i would have been very upset if that were my husband too, but i think you did great on telling her that instead of being messy like porsha.

nida614
nida614

Phaedra, I just love you. You crack me up. I think you make the show. Keep doing you, you do it so well.

Nastybaby
Nastybaby

I guess it will be another two weeks before we hear from you.  Maybe you don't want to be on the show anymore and you are trying to fade yourself out.  

angie.georgegrannie
angie.georgegrannie

I love you Phaedra, you are so adorable and I LOVE your hat on the beach at Cynthia and Peter's wedding. So proud of how far you've evolved~

JazeenFly
JazeenFly

you need to get Kenya in line. Real talk. NE NE aint the enemy. trust & believe!! 

Tracymac
Tracymac

I hate to say this butt, Apollo, handled Kenya in a very sexy, manly way when he grabbed her by the pool! I would be going donkey kong on her donkey booty and I'm a white girl! Come on Phaedra, take Kenya down to chinatown!

namaste86
namaste86

Phaedra, here's the thing. Kenya is wrong, obnoxious, and classless to hang all over others' husbands. YOUR husband, however, owns half of the responsibility. Apollo should have rebuked her advances; and CERTAINLY should not have "retaliated." For goodness sakes, his wife was witnessing Kenya's base and "in your face, Phaedra" behavior,  and Apollo should have been concerned first and foremost for his wife's feelings.

Rhonu
Rhonu

You can't blog? You have nothing to say about the episode?  Well you cannn talk about Kenya and her crazy self, but you did say in a previous episode that you thought she was eccentric and that you loved her eccentric ways. You cannn talk about how scandelous YOU looked with that outfit on walking around the other men all day with your butt out, but then you would have to admit that it wasn't classy. But there is nothing negative to say about Nene. Is that why you haven't blogged?

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

Honey after seeing that last episode, Kenya needs to go girl..... She needs to be "Gone With the Wind" and that would be Fabulous! OK???? There she goes Miss America!

Chelle01
Chelle01

Phaedra  missed you this week.  But totally understand what is there to say about the piece of work trying to flirt with your husband.  Who does she think she is OMG that was so low class who asks questions like that.  She is so full of herself.  Tell Kenya to pack up and move along.  Apollo belongs to you not her ()()&^&%^%^&&()*   Love you Phaedra

cherryred59
cherryred59

you looked good in your see threw mam!!! werk...work..wurk......and if you look at the video of Apollo throwing Kenya in the pool his hand was in a very not good place.....i would have checked that sh** Phaedra!!! i love you and him together but check that sh** mam!!!

Nastybaby
Nastybaby

I really wish you HWs would post in a timely fashion!  It's been, what, two episodes since we've read anything from you!  

 

Anywho, I don't think you should have worn the peek-a-boo dress around the other couples...it was in poor taste.  I understand why you did it, but it was a bit too much.  However, it was nice to get a sneak-peak of the next episode where you do tell her off (although you were still more polite than I could ever have been!)

Isee
Isee

The g-string was a nice pass at passive aggressiveness But there are times that call for being straight up honest, Ie, when someone is hitting on your husband. Don't be afraid to be mean in moments that call for it!

noney
noney

Phaedra, I don't expect you to act crazy on the show but you better put that desperate B Kenya in CHECK! And you best do it soon.

kjones0160
kjones0160

YES, Phaedra, The peach is going to have to turn to a PLUM, and face Kenya streight up, no laughing and playing it off. Your girl Kandi though she was being smart to ask Kenya on the trip to spite Cynthia and NeNe, but instead it fell hard on you.

mml36
mml36

I must say Phaedra, you are one of my favorites on the show but I was very disappointed in you when you lied to Cynthia to her face.  She wasn't trying to blast you, it was just you and her.  I think you could've articulated what you wanted to say right in front of her.  The flowers were nice, but sometimes when you lie, no matter how insignificant or importat it is, it just looks bad regardless.  Off of that subject....I wish you can just take off your professional hat, heels, and ask GOD to forgive you for what you are about to say or do and step outside of character and really whoop Kenya's a$$!!  If you don't do it physically, do it verbally, and pray about it afterwards..  God will forgive you! ;-) 

cYvonneb
cYvonneb

Phaedra, I appreciate how you carry yourself with class and intelligence. However, there is always a TIME and a PLACE when you have to demand to be respected and you can do it with the same class and intelligence that you exude. First, Kenya needs to know that she has crossed the line and disrespected you and she needs to be told in front of the people that she disrespected you in front of. You can ask the Holy Spirit to give you the words to say andd get her told REAL GOOD. And then, behind closed doors, you need to get Apollo told because he needs to put Kenya in her place and make sure she knows that he is not interested. I'm so sad that Kenya is on the show. I really do not like her at all.

FilthiMcNasti
FilthiMcNasti

Phaedra, If I were you I would kick Kenya for 1) touching your husband and 2) asking that intrusive , idiotic question about giving your friends as a birthday present to Apollo. It is so obvious that Kenya has never had a close relationship with someone she loves.

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

You clearly used the F word.....which is usually not used so generously if you are raised by a minister...in your case two...the really bad aspect of this for me was when you told Cynthia you did not use that word, before you knew she had proof...so that shows you were building on a lie....another thing that kids of ministers are taught not to do...isn't it a sin? Let us hope you correct this habit of vulgarity and then lieing before your little one can pick it up.....who by the way is one of the cutest children i have ever seen....

kitticat
kitticat

I'm glad you brought out the big guns...

Tink47
Tink47

Phaedra everyone slips and nobody is perfect.  The only issue I have regarding Cynthia is that you should own up to what you said....no excuses just own it.  Yeah I said it and I a apologize.  As for Kenya, I do think she's out of line but so is your husband.  Looking forward to you checking her next week.

amber77
amber77

 u need to put that women in her place to ever touch ur man ! u are a stong girl . u kick her butt!   she made me sick !

Classy34a
Classy34a

Phaedra, I am going to need for you to become a little more aggressive as it relates to Kenya and Apollo. I am sure you set him straight amongst yourselves. However, you need to check Apollo first because from the view of things it appears that his hands went entirely across Kenya’s buttocks before he threw her into the pool. As for Kenya goes, you are going to have to come out of your Southern Bell mentality just for a while and get her straight. And that should not be a problem for you since you were bold enough to wear that thong among everyone (lol). I love you girl, but you went too hard on that one. I was surprised but you get a Free pass this time. I can tell you are not the type of woman to make a scene and I can only imagine how you must of felt. But when it comes to another woman displaying disrespect to your marriage, sometimes it’s best to handle it rather than let it go too far. Keep it classy but sassy.  

maria7532
maria7532

Phaedra I'm wondering if you was entertaining Kenya's proposal...cause all hell would have broke loose if she would have came at my husband that way or any woman for that matter.(unless they was entertaining it).guess I'll have to wait unti next week to see if you break Kenya off properly for disrespecting your marriage to your face.

Isee
Isee

My oh my. You didn't even use your elbow To push her away. Self control and southern bell comes to mind! Still, That elbow is for self defense, You can use it when you need to. I sure hope you had a one on one talk With Apollo. You have to teach a man how to treat you. And that, was not OK.

A.Barrian
A.Barrian

Phaedra women have a sixth sense about other women. We can spot a “strange woman” who has designs on your husband a mile away. We can even sense which kind of woman would be attractive to him. It’s god-given radar alert. Why do you think God gave you this early warning system? To ignite jealousy? No. Hopefully you explained these impressions to your husband. And share them before they turn green with jealousy. Then the two of you can protect your marriage. Kendra has no respect for you if she's climbing and salivating all over Apollo... As a viewer Kendra is not looking for that certain someone so much as she's looking for that certain anyone. Kendra's so desperate and wants to get married as soon as possible and will have everything planned for the sucker that falls into her trap. I'm surprised you didn't grab Kendra by her weave , You handled it like a "SOUTHERN BELLE" Whoop Whoop

dam.hassan
dam.hassan

you are strong , successful woman, beautiful family and a dams sexy husband,, god bless and kick kenya ass if that necessary looool..

GETRIDOFPORSHA
GETRIDOFPORSHA

@1stonefox

Phaedra is a 41 year old cute cougar; Apollo is 34 years old.  She wears those silly silver jeans and awful tops to look younger than she really is. Kenya's observation of Apollo was "on point" - he is FINE! 

 

Nastybaby
Nastybaby

 @Isee  I saw the next episode's previews and Phaedra most certainly called out Kenya on her antics.

brrej
brrej

 @Tetreault

You bring up some great points, however, Phaedra MARRIED DOWN period, a man with class would have known better... Appollo is handsome and it stops there......Kenya is not the first and wont be the last to flirt with a man that looks like Apollo....Appollo and only Appollo is responsible for how he conducts himself in public and with other women, especially in the company of his wife. He was waaaay out of line. Dont get me wrong Kenya was being disrespectful too, especially when she asked that question about giving Appollo a gift. Appollo again showed how low class he was, look back at the scene, he said "what kind of treat, SEX" when he should have protected the honor of his wife and checked Kenya..but again he doesn't know better he is classless.

Isee
Isee

@FlutterBy I'm not sure we should be holding grown women to the expectations of their parents professions.

cYvonneb
cYvonneb

 @Classy34a I agree TOTALLY. You can see that it seemed like Apollo took the opportunity and I lost total respect for him after that. That he chose to do that with you looking was totally disrespectful to you. I can't stand Kenya but Apollo needed to check her when she made that proposal and he shouldn't have played into throwing her into the pool. I'm ashamed  of him. In my opinion, Apollo could have nipped it all in the bud.

Kittey
Kittey

@GETRIDOFPORSHA @1stonefox Being 41 yrs old and dating a 34 yr old does NOT make you a cougar! That's only a 7 yr difference! I'm sorry. But The only thing I hate more than a man calling women cougars is a woman doing it. And wasn't nothing wrongr outfit. She looked adorable! Who is she supposed to be dressing like? Granny Clamplet? She's only 41! I swear women are harder on women than men!