Cast Blog: #RHOA

Phaedra's Butt Dial Explained

Phaedra thinks the drama over Ayden's birthday was blown way out of proportion.

I truly believe that we are created in the image of The Creator and therefore we are created to create. Everything we do (and not do), say (and not say) is creating something. What are you creating? I enjoy spending my time creating opportunities, profitable possibilities, empowering perspectives, and loving memories. And I find it quite disturbing and sad when people spend their precious time authoring drama with their venomous words and/or creating chaos with their divisive intentions.
 
During this week’s episode NeNe creates drama, like only NeNe can. She compares her relationship with Kim to my relationship with Cynthia. This is interesting, because there is no comparison. However, in true NeNe style, a recipe of drama was brewing using rushed judgment as the main ingredient. I have known Cynthia for two years, and we have always managed to get along and support each other in our various endeavors. And everybody knows that NeNe and Kim had a love-hate relationship, which ended on a sour note.

For reasons unbeknownst to me, NeNe brings to Cynthia's attention a conversation via supposed butt dial regarding Cynthia attending my son Ayden's birthday party. The conversation occurred during the stressful time of organizing the event and was so trivial that I didn't even remember it. In the sound bite of the conversation I basically said I didn't care if Cynthia attended Ayden's birthday party after repeatedly being badgered about the guest list. I never said anything malicious or derogatory about Cynthia, and it was not my intention to insinuate that she is insignificant. The point of my comment was to communicate that Cynthia's attendance to Ayden's second birthday party was not essential, as Cynthia is my peer, not Ayden’s. Ayden’s celebration was not about MY friends, but about his enjoyment with HIS family and friends. Once again, it’s always sad when people choose to create drama when there truly is none. While I have already apologized to Cynthia for any misunderstandings, real and assumed, I still stand by my statement that I did not care whether or not she attended Ayden’s party. If it were my party, I would have felt different, but Ayden is my son and he was the star and main focus of the party. Hopefully, Cynthia has accepted my apology, as I do value our relationship.

Despite the drama, I continue to be thankful. I am thankful that Cynthia is finding her voice this season. I appreciate the comic relief afforded by NeNe and will express this appreciation with a prayer cloth and a complimentary pre-need consultation with Willie Watkins and me.

In the end, what’s most important about this episode is that my son had a wonderful birthday party. He had the opportunity to enjoy the two things he loves the most: trains and fish. Everyone enjoyed the dolphin show, the ice cream sundae bar, as well as the wonderful food prepared by Wolfgang Puck and staff. The Georgia Aquarium is the world’s largest aquarium boasting over 500 different species and over 120,000 different animals. The staff was absolutely amazing. If you have not visited, I encourage you to do so.

Xoxo,
Phaedra

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Claudia: Some People Have a Vendetta

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on the group therapy session.

Bravotv.com: Did you feel like progress was made at the therapy session?
Claudia Jordan: I do and I don't. The main people that needed it were not willing participants. One took off because she couldn't deal with hearing about how her actions affected the rest of the ladies. And the other that stayed, well… she received apology after apology without ever acknowledging any of her own wrong doing. That's not right at all. How is it that the woman on the receiving end of a physical attack has apologized to her assailant on several occasions, yet she has yet to show any remorse? That's downright insane to me! At the end of the day, there are lots of situations in this group where one can claim they were "provoked," and if the response/excuse every single time was physical violence, we'd all be in jail! And the sad thing is in this particular environment I felt that everyone else there was really ready to do the work and participate. So if ever there was a time to drop the ego and do the right thing and apologize simply for the purpose of starting the healing process for the group, then that was the time. Some people are just too stubborn and refuse to humble themselves. That happens when you are babied your entire life -- you feel like you can do no wrong. The rest of the ladies (including myself) however have all apologized and taken responsibility for contributing to the discord. But just pay attention to who never apologizes and who always does. I do not think that is because one "group" has been causing all the negativity in the group. But I do think that is because some have an agenda and a vendetta, while the other group is actually trying to make things cool and move on.


But on the flip side I will say that therapy was beneficial. In that one session we did get some good guidance from Dr. Jeff, who I would like to apologize to on behalf of the group for how he was mistreated. He came to help us and was insulted, disrespected, and his professionalism was questioned, which he did not deserve. So Dr. Jeff, I am sorry for how you were mistreated. The session did just highlight that some of us are mature and able to speak respectfully to one another, even if we have an issue with them, and some just cannot stand the sight and sound of someone we have decided not to like just because. All in all we did the best we could, and everyone who stayed did seem to really want to get along. And things were definitely better at work after the session. We were cordial and friendly.

Bravotv.com: Why did you decide to meet with Dr. Jeff one-on-one?
CJ: I have never, ever once claimed to be perfect or without flaws. And when I say I want to really resolve things, I am not just offering lip service -- I really mean it. If there is something that I am doing wrong that is contributing to any of the strife amongst the group, then I'd like to address it and do my part to work on me. I think most of us have issues with others because of past hurts that we perhaps never really dealt with and that cause us to act out in certain ways that may bother others. I am not saying I do this necessarily, but I have no problems talking to someone to at least try to be a better person. I for sure have made my share of mistakes and have experienced a lot of pain and disappointment in my life, but I've also been extremely blessed. But at the end of the day, my intention is always to grow and learn from it all and to be a better woman today than I was yesterday. Dr. Jeff is great at what he does and was for sure an asset to the group. Thank you, Doctor!

Bravotv.com: Did you and Porsha manage to get back to a better place?
CJ: It seemed that way. But I had made the decision that regardless of whether or not she was going to continue the peace treaty, that I was going to do my part to keep it cool, polite, and cordial. And so far so good.

Again I'd like to thank the fans for all their support and love and enthusiasm for #RHOA! I was in Miami Beach and Miami Gardens with the morning show this past weekend for Jazz in the Gardens, and the love I got from all the fans of the show was next level! I was truly flattered and humbled, and I will never let any of this get to my head and change me. I'm grateful to be a part of this and for all the amazing opportunities that keep sprouting from this. I just wrapped a movie called The Hills that I have a lead role in, which will be out in the fall, as well as another film called Love is Not Enough. I'm also working on a product line (to be announced soon) and more calls have been coming in from Hollywood for more great acting roles. I also had a great time with my girls in Miami and ran into a bunch of awesome people doing their thing that love the show too! I feel so rested and at peace. I'm healthy, happy, and appreciative. #ThankYouGod

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