Many of you have been wondering where I’ve been and why I have not blogged lately. Well unfortunately, both Apollo and I recently lost our maternal grandmothers. In early November my grandmother became ill and I chose to direct all of my energy and focused on caring for her and supporting my mother. Unfortunately, on November 25 my dear grandmother passed away. I immediately sprang into funeral mode preparing for her memorial service and burial. I wanted to make sure her home going service was reminiscent of her spirit: elegant, joyous, and unforgettable! As we were returning home from my grandmother's obsequies, we learned that Apollo's grandmother passed away. So, we have been very busy caring for our families and managing the tender moments of loss and grief.
Grief is never easy but I am comforted in the knowledge that God “...will give: beauty for ashes; joy instead of mourning; praise instead of heaviness.” Isaiah 61:3. My grandmother was my inspiration and graced the Earth for 95 years – what a blessing! She was vibrant, courageous, and very outspoken. I am proud to have known her. It was her example and life that gave me the courage to always strive for excellence. She left a legacy of service and higher education; teaching in the public school system for over 60 years and earning two college degrees. She made graduating from the University of Georgia a family tradition that now spawns four generations. She grew up in an era where opportunities were limited for women, especially women of color; yet she was never deterred. She fought for equality in college admissions, as well as accessibility of learning resources for all children.
so sorry for both of you but god dont make mistakes and he said come unto me and you will have rest and peace so they both are resting and at peace praise god
Sorry for your loss Phaedra, I truly understand how this can be so difficult, as my own grandmother's death stopped me in my tracks for some time.
My Grandmother was like a mother to me, as it is most of the time in the south.
My sincere condolences to you and Apollo. I'm sure you have made them both so proud!
May God be with you both
Dear Phaedra and Apollo - My deepest sympathy goes out to you both. Phaedra your strength and faith in God is clearly why I have so much respect for you. You should do your own talk show -- or something like that. Know that a loss of an inspiring loved one, will never cause your inspiration to do anything but grow. You will carry them in your heart forever, which was comforting to me to realize when I lost my grandfather. Anyway, sorry for your losses.
Dear Phaedra and Apollo - I knew something was different about y'all but I know you will pull through. Keep up the outstanding grace and beauty of womanhood and marriage. Love each other and your son and reframe from the haters.
I've never done this before, so please excuse my lack of blog etiquette. However I felt personally compelled to reach out to you after hearing some of the characteristics of you're grandmother and her passing. I'm sorry that you miss her, but as a child of a preacher and missionary myself, I know right where she is. In a Christian family, as you know, the elder ladies are really important because they show they younger ladies how to walk a life close to the lord. You're grandmother sounds like she had that type of spiritual influence on you.
That's why it saddens me to say that your offhanded comments concerning the mental status of another, whether she be friend or foe, was not something that was acceptable. As a women diagnosed with a Mental Illness, I know you would never want me to feel offended or slighted by any words that you spoke, especially words spoken in gossip. And they were. I'm not going to defend anything that Kenya did because my concern is with the words you spoke without her present, to other ladies, and without verified proof. This is also known as gossip. You're a GODLY women that many look up to. Did you consider what would happen if this was true and Kenya had a serious problem? What if you're words cause her enough pain, and in a terrible state of mind, she began to harm herself or think about committing suicide? How would you feel as a child in Christ to wake up one morning and see paramedics wheeling her out of her house, with the police finding a note about everyone hating her because they knew about what she was dealing with?
I don't think you meant that kind of harm at all, I just don't think you take it very seriously. But remember that the Lord remembers all our words, and on the day of Judgement we will cry when he confronts us with them. I have so many words I have to accounts for. So while it may be hard now, do the thing that will be easier in the end. Follow in the ways of your grandmother. When unsure what to do, be silent. Just pretend you are your grandmother, who was not perfect but it sounds like she tried to be. And think of the affect of your words. They made me cry. I may not be perfect but I don't go around plucking the splinter out of the eyes of others' when there's a plank in my own. Just consider this.
As other fans have said I am sorry for your loss, but happy for the faith you have. I admire your spirituality, which comes across as genuine to me. This is rare in today's celeb gossip circles; so keep us reminded of the important things. I am a (pretty young) person living with a serious type of cancer, and I find most of the Bravo shows to be a fun source of escape.
I look forward to continue watching the show; do not hesitate to share your spiritual beliefs/faith with your viewers. We all need this more than most of us realize. After all, none of us are going to take the bling with us.
Phaedra was wrong, which normally would be ok, but as she calls herself 'A successful entertainment lawyer" its not ok that she didnt know better here...
Also she DID say she didnt want to pay anything and wanted it for free (to Apollo at the party after he spoke to Kenya)!
Kenya's fee is certainly a "friend-fee" as industry standard is much much higher. And if Phaedra is an entertainment lawyer - and a good one - she would know that!
@Metts WOW!!! And here I thought THIS BLOG was completely dedicated to her lovely grandmother and Apollo's grandmother. In this case, the only wrong person is YOU. THIS blog was, and is, about grieving and realizing what is important in life NOT the pettiness of juvenile females (I.e. Kenya) who believe that because they held a title in the early 90's makes them relevant today. Please...try to stay on topic of the days/weeks blog.... Phaedra, a beautiful tribute. I was raised from birth by my grandmother and I know from first hand experience the love and teachings they give you as a gift. Was holding my "Moms" hand when she passed in '08 and I cared for my father for 3 months as he fought his final battle with bladder cancer almost nine months ago. You and Apollo have my sincerest and heartfelt condolences. The "firsts" are the hardest to get through. God Bless both of you and your families.
Phaedra~ What sweet tribute to your grandmama. She sounds like a lovely, dear lady. I'm sure she will be watching over you until you meet again. <3
Phaedra, I get you not wanting to give Kenya 10% on the back in, however it seems you could've offerred a fee for her locating the distributor if you chose to use that distributor. And you should shop around for production companies after Kenya's quote. I do not see anything wrong with that. The only issue you guys seem to have, is Kenya feels like she is owed something for finding the distributor who by the way I'm not even sure you and Apollo will use. If you did use the distributor than I would say, as good business sense you should offer her a fee, since she wasn't smart enough to get that in writing from you.
You call yourself a business woman and so does Kenya. Well, I'm here to tell you that neither of you qualify. If either of you were, you would have negotiated the compensation between each other in the first 20-30 minutes you were discussing the idea, then you would have been clear on each others expectations and move forward with a plan. But, of course, then there'd be no drama for the show, and since you women seem to need drama as you need air, that wouldn't have worked. I don't care how much money you've made, you are in no way a business person. Having been in business for myself for 45 years, I can say that NO ONE I know would even consider doing any kind of deal with either of you loudmouthed, irrational and ridiculous women. Example: you showing off your huge butt all over the room while Kenya's trying to negotiate a deal, completely distracting from the issue at hand. Business women, yeah, RIGHT!!!
You don't work for free but others should work for you without a fee. You seem too scattered with your different business interest. Cynthia handled you correctly but that was after Kenya forewarned her. Kenya didn't have that luxury. Disappointed.
Pheadra, love your style n grace...I love the way you talk n your faces..very much a lady ... but Im sure you can handle your self in any situation.....stay away far away from Kenya..she wants your man an your ideas.....hmmm says she looks like Beonce but looks like she tryin to have or be what Pheadra has.....I saw nothin that was agreed apon in the first meeting...she went on her own to do research or what ever she did, now expecting to get paid...hmmm she watched a few of your moves for the video n sure she will put them in on hers.. your personnality should win over the fans for your donkey booty dvd......best of luck !
Phaedra! Your befriending Kenya(keeping your eneimes close) didn't work, Kenya is a real Playa. You were playing with fire and didn't see it coming! Any body that comes to you and says they can help you with your business venture means to get paid! Kenya is out of your league. She is devious, evil and looks for people she can use to her advantage. She can't mess with Porsha, she has people around her that will tell her what's up quick (kordel don't mess around). You on the other hand was not prepared to try and slick Kenya. She coming after you big time! That's what she does, lesson learned on your part. Don't take crazy for stupid! I wish you the best, and I am buying your donkey booty tape!
Pheadra, Kenya asked you about the budget, and you said that "Money was not an issue", so you gave Kenya the green light to do anything that she wanted on the video. You should had stated a budget from the beginning. You had no name for the project or nothing at all, and you and Apollo are not qualify to do a workout video. Just because he became certify does not make him a workout professional. Your behind is big due to generic not a workout regiment. Workout may be help firm the muscles, but that's it. You are all over the place with your businesses ideas, lawyer, funeral, behind workout, stun gun, etc. Girl Please! Nobody work for free, and then after Kenya get all the data, you go behind her back to get cheap production... You said to Sheere, that you dont work for free, so why Kenya have to work for free for you?
anadss P was not asking her to work for free - nor thinking she would work for free. She was to be paid but P was against the 10% of the entire earnings (life) of the project - the backend. That is what P was against and if you really know business you would know that P was not being unreasonable, however i wish they would have worked everything out before one step was taken - then there would be nothing lost nothing gained on both sides.
Yes Preadra was asking for free labor, she did the same thing with Cynthia... She twiteed calling everybody to cast in Cynthia's agency without work a fee for Cynthia. I have a MBA 10% is reasonable, especially when money was not a problem for Pheadra. I would not buy her video anyways because they are not professional instructors. I go to the gym 6 times/week 2hours and I'm from Brazil. I know their product is a fraud. She behind is big because of fried chicken.
Oh boi! Love you on the show you really make me laugh. You're probably a great attorney, however, whenever you do business with any of the ladies it doesn't go well. Is it communication? They're crazy? You? Not sure but it's entertaining nonetheless. You have a beautiful family and seem to be enjoying life. I wish you all the best!!
I like your style; you're slow to anger and quick to forgive. A real lady. Now, down to the nitty gritty; do not forgive Kenya a second time. Something is wrong with her! She needs immediate intervention and medication. You cannot help her and it would be a mistake to try; she is toxic. Also, and I mean no disrespect, sometimes Apollo acts like a 5 y/o. He has no business having private conversations with Kenya about the proposed business venture or anything else. She will only find a way to use it against both of you; that's how she gets her kicks. Rock on my dear, you're bound for greatness.
Phaedra you are truly a diva in your own way..love your mannerisms, character and class. You really show a great example of how to always be a lady...I keep you and family in my prayers for your late grandmother, know that they are still with you in the spirit always!
Blessings you both and your family's during your time of sorrow, and may God grant you peace.... Stand your ground with Kenya. I'm waiting for fitness DVD to come out gurl.
You really are crazy as a bedbug to think that anyone should work for free. Kenya's not anymore crazy than anyone else. You may be an attorney but you don't have a clue.
You're as silly as Kenya! She wasn't being asked to work for free; it's called a negotiation.
1stonefox email@example.com 1stonefox ~ I also agree with you... Kenya's purposed budget was 100 K, which had nothing to do with a back end, then expect it to be included without discussion... Where was Kenya's business attorney to advise her on an unsigned contract...??? Yes Phadera is an attorney, and everybody knows that just because you ask for something extra you don't get it as a automatic deal without negotiations...
At least Phaedra's business attorney was able to see just how much Kenya had padded the deal with over the top fee's...SMH
I'm so sorry to hear about you grandparents passing! You are sweet, sassy, an just lovely!! On a lighter note Kenya Moore is so waaaaay below you!! Talking about your business relationship and issues to everyone and their mother at Todd's bday was soooooo innapropriate and the ridiculous comments are just disgusting!! Who does she think she is she has absolutely zero class!
Exactly my sentiments. I've always said there is something wrong with Kenya. I hope Phaedra doesn't let her apologize.
Phaedra, it is odd that you have not posted an updated blog. You need to do a blog asap to prevent me and others from posting on a blog about a relative who passed away.
Tonight, you proved the buffoonery can be exhibited by educated people, who are supposed to know better.
You look like a dummy with a degree, and your behavior was reckless. No one works for free, and I find it strange that you (a lawyer) did not negotiate with Kenya on a fee. You could have countered with 8% or 5%, and something would have been better than nothing. SMH. RME.
You should be ashamed of yourself. Also, Apollo likes to workout becaus he adopted a habit of being in the gym/using weights from being incarcerated. Please do not act as though Apollo is an expert on fitness just because he has a lot of free time. A person with a real job would not have time to spend 8-10 hours in a gym.
BTW taking the preacher to Kandi's home was ridiculous! They are shacking up. What part of this did you think was appropriate?
I'M VERY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS, AND WOULD LIKE TO EXTEND MY SYMPATHY TO YOU AND APOLLO AS WELL AS THE REST OF THE FAMILY & FRIENDS. LOSING SOMEONE AS SPECIAL AS A GRANDMOTHER IS HARD. PLEASE BE STRONG AND REMAIN FAITHFUL IN CHRIST. AS YOU KNOW GOD WILL NOT GIVE US MORE THAN WE CAN BARE. I KNOW YOU GAVE HER A FABULOUS FUNERAL SERVICE WITH ALL THE TRIMMINGS. BE BLESSED
So sorry to hear about both of your losses. It is never easy to loose one grandmother, but to loose both of them in such a short period of time. I am so sorry for the both of you and your family's. God Bless you both and your family's.
I enjoy watching the show, but there's often times where you make comments about people's "donkeys" male and female.
I want you to be more conscious of your verbiage and to stop doing that. The reason why I say that, is because there are individuals who have/had to deal with issues of abuse and inappropriate behavior from others. Where before, it all began those types of comments that you make, were being made to them.
I'm quite sure that you don't mean any "harm" by those "donkey" comments. It's just something that I want you to be more cognizant of of, and be a little more sensitive to people who've had to deal with abuse.
You're reading more into the "donkey" comments. I'm also sensitive to abuse issues, but I don't get that from Phaedra's comments.
Sorry about your grandmother's passing. You handle things very well. I wish you the best.
Sorry for your lost may you find strength at this moment to keep you and your family strong..GOD bless
Ms. Phaedra, I am so sorry to here for your families loss. I pray during this time that the Lord carries you and your family in his hands. It is never easy but I know that you will make it through. Much love to you. I'm glad that the girls reached out to you in support and love.
Phaedra you come across as fake in my opinion. Apart of me likes your character, but then you never fail at finding ways to disappoint us as the viewers and insulting our intelligence by being passive and avoiding. Post a new blog to address some of the lingering issues on the show...i.e.Kenya flirting with your husband, why you felt the need to blatantly lie to Cynthia and then church it up later, also why you befriend Kenya to her face and talk about her in your interviews. Address her already with the excessive disrespect she showed you by coming on to your husband....set boundaries with her. Stop pretending to be a southern belle and be who you really are. Each season you find a new way to lie to us in some sort of way. Your first season with how far along you were, the second season with the Sheree situation (I believed her btw) and your third season with the Cynthia incident. You want to act holier than thou in some instances and in others you want to to be a bonified freak. I'm sorry but the two characters just does not go hand in hand.
I am sorry about the loss of your and Apollo's Grandmother. Grandmother's are so special and I hope that you and Apollo can find comfort in the wonderful memories you hold, all the lessons they taught you, all the laughs you shared and the hugs you held. xo
PHAEDRA, I ADORE YOUR MOM, APART FROM MY MOM, I THINK SHE IS THE MOST LOVING MOM EVER! TELL HER I SAY I LOVE HER TOO.
You and Kandi are my favorites. So sorry to hear about your loss. God bless you and your family.
I am truly sorry about your loss and also Apollo"s loss. You will always have your grandmother in your heart. She taught you many "life lessons" and I think has done a good job at that.
I'm very sorry to hear of the loss of your grandmother. I just want you to know that you are my very favorite housewife. You make RHOA so mich fun to watch....love your humor. You keep me laughing. My friends and I love laughing and talking about the funny things you say. Love you, girl....God Bless.