A Meeting with a Former Miss USA
I was so excited and had such high expectations for my lunch date with Ms. Kenya Moore. As a child I looked up to her when she won the title of Miss USA, chosen to represent black women all over the USA. Continuing with the same admiration I previously held for her, I asked her to join me and 30 women. She was joining an impressive guest list of other celebrated women, some of whom have their own respective charities as well as successful business owners.
From the first moment I sat down in front of Kenya I felt a huge rush of negative energy, and it actually stopped me in my tracks for a moment. She who was once a beautiful and admirable lady whom I was anxious to meet had become a cold, bitter shell of a woman. She was so cold to me from the jump! I didn't want to even ask her to join me after meeting her, but I know that I can come across as such a burst of energy. I kept thinking maybe she was having a bad day and the chip on her shoulder isn't about me. I gave her the benefit of the doubt.
I must admit I was shocked at how she took offense to me and my questions about love, marriage, and children. I was simply trying to engage her in conversation in order to get to know her better and break the ice. I mean, hello, if we are two adult women over 30 what would cause me to think a person would be insulted by my asking if she was married and what brought her to Atlanta? However, if you are a completely self-absorbed individual who thinks I was there to kiss your butt and court you to simply join me in supporting a cause, then yes, maybe you would take offense.
After I left from that awkward meal with the Official Ice Queen, I began to put the finishing touches on the event. Initially, my husband was asked not to join us, because it was an event for women of power. Later that night I was pleasantly surprised to see my husband standing there at the event. I completely adore him and I am so thankful that after all the work I had put into the event he decided to surprise me for my birthday and brought me a cake and a gift towards the end. I’m so thankful that he also donated money along with us to support Hosea Feed the Hungry and Homeless Back to School Jamboree.
OK let’s get back to what you guys saw. Now first of all, Kenya was two hours late and when she came in once again the bad energy that hovers around her entered as well. She came into the event as if we all were supposed to stand and applaud. Note: She was not the honored guest! *singing* “Have several get your life”.
Porsha too dumb to understand anything! First of all, you have to be dumb to think you have to urinate on the pregnancy test for 2 minutes....WTF!
It does not take alot to see how immature and uninformed Porsha is. Always referencing Kenya's age is all she's got. Plus when she only about 10 years younger than her. She is not quick or knowledgeable enough to come with anything else. She sounds like a 6th grader. She is a trust fund baby who has no accomplishments of her own. It's actually sad to watch. She seem to base her sole existence on her grandfathers legacy and her husband. Kenya good or bad, at least has a resume of accomplishments including Miss USA which is no small feat. Hundreds if not thousands of woman work toward that goal every year. And some never even come close. To dismiss that is a slap in the face to all the WELL educated, hard working young woman who pursue this goal and don't just shop all day spending someone elses money. Especially the girls who look like you. Girls who can run circles around you in every way. Yeah, you got a big butt and a smile. But that's about it.
And BTW, Sweetharts is either Porsha or somebody close....just saying. Doesn't Porsha always say that??
Porsha what do you have against Chinese people? When you were crazy yelling at crazy Kenya you kept saying "you asked a Chinese man for his sperm!" You sounded more than a bit racist and xenophobic. Way to respect your grandfather's legacy.
you are rich beautiful and fabulous, some people just cant stand that. keep on being you, enjoy your beautiful family and let the miserable keep hating. god bless you
porsha is not rich, her husband is rich, her grandfather's charity depends on donations(are you telling me that when people donate its for porsha's personal use?). if her husband divorces her what will she have?. if people stop donating to her charity what will she have. she is not beautiful there are a thousand and one people like her. even in the music video that she was in you couldnt tell her apart from the rest of the video hos.porsha is a fake 'classy lady' and the more she opens her mouth to speak people will see that.
Would you stop with the "I was just an iddy biddy baby” act with regards to justifying why you stated Kenya’s title incorrectly? Now mind you, I didn't know it at the time either, however, if my now 2 year black daughter tells me when she's older that she wants to enter the world of beauty pageants, I'll research the facts and tell her about Kenya and Vanessa Williams. Likewise, I'm pregnant with a son; if he wants to become president, I'll give him copy of Mr. Obama’s autobiography.
Your apology to Kenya was disingenuous, and the subtle, nice-nasty slights you continue to make in interviews, as to why you didn’t ‘get it right’, are dismissive of her accomplishment, simply on the basis of it happened “so long ago". I find this incomprehensible, considering your “claim to fame” is your grandfather’s legacy. I wasn’t born when Hosea Feed The Hungry was founded; neither were you. I also wasn’t born when the Civil Rights Act of 1964 was passed forbidding discrimination; neither were you. Passing of time does not diminish the significance of an event, nor its impact on society. News Bulletin – History is a record of PAST events. Should you desire to ‘represent the legacy’ 20 years from now, consider reading, Beauty Fades, Dumb Is Forever: The Making of a Happy Woman by Judy Sheindlin, it’s extremely insightful.
You just can't be this ,hmmm, spacey?! Is it an act? You seem alarmingly uneducated and uninformed. I can't figure it out and have no idea what you were talking about in the doctor's office in regards to how many pregnancies you needed to produce 4 children. I think you are quickly becoming an embarrassment to this cast.
Wow, Porsha keep doing you. You are genuine in your ignorance and it makes me laugh out loud. Married with Children had Kelly Bundy, Family Matters had Eddie, Family Ties had Mallory, and now RHOA has Porsha. I drive a Porsche' and my car probably knows how many days are in the year. Good luck hanging in the public eye. Remember they laughed at Jessica Simpson when she wanted to know if buffalo wings came from buffaloes. Well Jessica has a billion dollar empire because she kept doing Jessica. I say read if you want to read and take classes if you want to but if you don't no worries. If you try to put some shine on it then the real viewers will sniff out phoniness in a heartbeat. Remember She by Sheree people. Let the girl be her genuine ditzy self. She's a socialite, trust fund baby, baller's wife, and she's relying on her smart phone to fill in the gaps. Let her stay cute and pop out some cute babies. Leave her alone people. She's not reading these comments anyway.
jpinphx515 WOW, does everybody else in the world have and education the same level as you do... does someone / everyone not up to your par make you feel the same way... What kind of person would be so shelf serving in their own spirit to say such ugly things to a carefree sweet young black woman...
THANK GOD FOR JESUS WHO LOVED US ALL... I'm just saying...
Porsha I believe you have good intentions, but it would be extremely beneficial to you, your brand, and family name if you'd take the time to review the shows. Take a public speaking course, read more to increase your vocabulary, and above all, ditch the 21 year old ditsy cheerleader act...you're 32. Giving us "30 somethings" a bad look! Not hating, just some solid advice ;)
You really need to read more often, and you seem like your intelligence level isn't higher than a sophomore in high school...
Sweet one, Kenya is not important except in her own eyes. Don't give her a second thought. Shun her in all ways -- she is trouble!
Hey Porsha, I can't wait to see more of you. If NeNe likes you, then there is something to that. Study up, stay focus, and get educated. Your beautiful, now your ablity to understand and translate would get you your own Brand and people would be looking up to you not just because your Hosea Williams granddaughter. I like your energy and that you stood up to Kenya.
I wish Bravo had chosen a bright and cool new housewife. Instead, they chose you and ex Miss USA 1992. Both of you are very uninteresting.....in different ways. But in defense of ex Miss USA, your first move on her was not impressive. Very prying into her private life in just the first meeting. Then on top calling her miss america and made a small case out of it when it's her pride being miss usa. On double top, when you reiterated that incident to Cynthia and Nene,you twisted facts making it sound like you caught yourself and corrected it yourself about the slip ms america/ms usa phrases. When in fact it's miss ex usa who did the correction herself. Well hahahahahahaha it's starting to sound as idiotic as this episode's plot so I shall stop right here.
So true, about prying into her private life at a first meeting. A simple glance at Kenya's ring finger would have told her...better yet, "Google" her and find out the deal. And Miss Kenya, well...all I can say is bless her heart, and keep hope alive for that husband and kids.
I am shocked at your personality and basic knowledge of life in general. I would have expected a more grounded woman, with a better grasp of the world around you....did you say 285 days a year? You had to ponder the word "recession" and did your husband give you a gift at a charity function? Girl grow up,,,please
That name of yours sounds like someone on welfare, with several man paying you support.Lol!!!
nursenj WOW, what a evil person you are to say such a thing to a beautiful young woman that you don't even know... What kind of spirit do you carry within your heart... There are real people who really are on life support in many hospitals all over the world... Don't hate it's so unhealthy... I'm just saying...
LOL and this is supposed to make me feel bad?. please always remember that to tell porsha that when she attacks someone calling them old(even though she's no spring chicken), saying that they have self esteem problems because of age and disrespecting them that there is someone out there that will take her on. tell her i said 'game on'.
nursenj you would need a heart in order to feel bad about that statement of yours... Evil spirits don't care about anything except for evil... I'm just saying...
pls go to the forum where you are boss. not here. here people are free to say what they want and if bravo doesnt like it they can delete it and i will rephrase. pls dont bring your other forum rubbish here
nursenj You have the right to your own opinion and shouldn't be berated due to your observations... You shouldn't care about others negativity towards you, keep in mind that you are only using your voice as a tool, freedom of speech. These other people are only picking fights that are unnecessary, and hurtful as well,so if they are sooooo above it all then don't reply to a post you don't agree with. They too need to look in the mirror and see they aren't above it themselves....
Porcha, you are adorable, elegant and all of that, so please stay focus on your best qualities and don't get sucked in to the abyss of negativity. Also, as far as the Hip Hop Video that you were in as a young lady, it is no big deal. You were young and beautiful, just trying to explore your creative side, like so many young black females. So, if there were more opportunities for black females to enter the entertainment industry, we would see less of these beautiful young black women in these types of projects. Now, for the current issue, related to this revelation, just deal with it head-on, and don;t apologize for anything which you freely engaged, it is no big deal, peace and love!!!!
phyllis.burns.904 and get an education.... being one of the dumbest women in Atlanta is not something to aspire to.
Porsha, don't worry about the slip "MS USA, or whatever.. MS America.. it's been so long.. most of us had forgotten who Kenya was. Bravo -- go get Tiffany Pollard aka New York ( you all know who I am talking about Flavor of Love) & add her to the cast of RHOA. I hear she is looking for a new project.. Apparently she is the "Queen of Reality TV" .. lol
Porsha, girl I am not mad at you. You are alright with me. I honestly believe that you are as naive and clueless as you appear to be. I think it is sweet. However, it is a little scary to think that you have made it this far in life with such a sheltered upbringing. Just keep on keeping on.. your experience on RHOA will provide you with valuable life skills.. lol.. there is nothing like being bashed by the public constantly. Get a box of kleenex, you are going to need them to wipe that pretty little nose of yours and dry the tears from those big brown eyes when you realize that the real world is a B****... lol. Just kiddin .. do you girlfriend!
Porsha, the reason Kenya has such a bad attitude towards you is that it deeply angers her that you have what she wants most in her life right now: joy and a loving husband! What's worse, as far as Kenya is concerned she is better that you are, title and all. The 'injustice' of it is what grates her hence the stink behaviour.
Many have said Porsha's questions were inappropriate - since when is asking "Are you married..do you have kids?" a deeply personal and inappropriate line of conversation?! ..(shake my head).
You seem to live in ignorant bliss, and for you, that may be a good thing. The downside is, people are laughing at you and not with you. I must say that it's refreshing to see a young black woman who perhaps because of her priviledged life, is not so jaded or let her attitude take over. Not that all black women do, unfortunately we have to see that stereotype too often. Life trials and lessons help us to grow into well rounded individuals with substance. I guess everybody can't afford to wear Chanel rose colored glasses throughout their lives. Continue to live life to the fullest. Where there are mistakes, there also should be growth.
Wow, you are immature. The questions you asked Kenya upon first meeting her were inappropriate. Relationship lesson 101 - friendships/relationships are built on trust. When you first meet someone, it's inappropriate to get so personal - you don't know them well, and they don't know you. It's like going on a first date - you can't tell ALL your business out the gate. Allow the person to share openly what they are comfortable sharing. What if she would have asked you about the gay/bisexual rumors that swirled around your husband during his NFL days.....too personal right? As for insulting Kenya's age, it was classless. With God's grace, you will get to be 40 plus one day - regardless of what one may think of Kenya - she has 'kept it tight'..granted, she needs an attitude adjustment, and appears quite shallow - but you have to give her credit for making a name for herself by her own merit, and managing to forge a successful career post Miss USA. Nevertheless, I think you are a breath of fresh air, and bring new flavor to the show. It must be difficult to open yourself to such public scrutiny - I wish you much success and personal growth.
You are a "real" breath of fresh air on this show. A model example of what a "real" southern lady, from Atlanta, should aspire to become. The only "real" representative of my hometown on this reality show! Stay true to yourself and your upbringing. They will serve you best of all. Be proud of the lady you are and MISS USA CAN NEVER BE! The best of luck to you!
P.S. Go to Kenya's site and see what I wrote on her blog!
Remember that Kendra's accomplishment was less long ago than your grandfather, Porsha, when you diminish it. They both blazed trails for African Americans and are a part of history for doing so. Remembering them both respectfully for the doors that were opened for blacks in the USA because of their bravery and success would be a gracious attitude for the representative of a charity founded by a trailblazer. When you insult any woman's age, you do the same to your own mother, grandmother, aunts, etc. I am sure your grandfather would have wanted you to respect your elders, not use the fact that they were born long before you to denigrate them.
When you use "fraudulent slip" it is clear what you mean. It was not Freudian, not meant to be. It was not accidental, but it was fraudulent. Sounds like something the college crowd thought was cute to do and say. I'm on your case because you have such a long future ahead of you, and you have time to get it right, on purpose. Believe it or not, an important legacy is dependent upon you doing so.
Thank you! Her grand dad's 'legacy' for the most part didn't occur during her lifetime,yet it's significant, but she poo poos Kenya's title as soooooo long ago.Amazing......
nlb1525 didn't you know that the first 30 years of you life is your youth... I'm just saying...
I honestly don't think you, had any ill intentions. That's not the vibe I got with your first meeting with Kenya but it was naive and intrusive to ask if she was married. I do believe you were just trying to make conversation but for someone like Kenya who is very, very insecure, you struck a nerve. Here you are young attractive and married and she is single, appearing to be desparate and getting up in age she felt very low. That is not your fault but hey.
Where you were wrong was saying she disrespected your event. She did not, she got up and walked out she did not make a scene like the two disgraceful trolls called evelyn and tammi from basketball wives.
And you need to check yourself about picking on someones age. To be 40, 60, or even a hundred is a gift of life and if you are given that gift you will get there too. So watch your mouth.
Other than that I don't think you are wrong I just think Kenya is jealous and wonder what she was doing all during her youth. She should be enjoying the same things you have. Oh well.
Porsha, I want to make sure that you know the correct term is Freudian slip, NOT fraudulent slip. I thought maybe you misspoke when you said it on the show, but for you to write it? Really? Do you know what a Freudian slip is? A Freudian slip, also called a parapraxis, is an error in speech, memory, or physical action that is interpreted as occurring due to the interference of some unconscious (repressed) subdued wish, conflict, or train of thought. Also, there are 365 days in a year.