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Cynthia's Surprising Excuses

Porsha shares her side of the pageant fallout.

Hey loves! I hope you all had a great weekend! My weekend was surprisingly relaxing. I finally got a chance to go to the spa. Between working on a business plan for my home decor line and being wifey and mommy, I've been busier than usual. But I have to say doing a little cardio here and there has helped me pump up the energy.

Let’s jump into Sunday’s episode. In the first scene you met my lovely mother, Diane, and my beautiful sister, Lauren. They are the best pair to give you a real opinion when choosing a dress for any occasion. Sometimes you just need people to tell it like it is, with a strong yes or no (or even a hell no)! LOL! To all of you ladies asking, those dresses were all from Sherri Hill. I'm all about the glamorous approach, so anything I wear will have some crystals somewhere. Hehe!

Next up you meet my amazing niece, Jaydnn! I promise that my little poo bear normally loves her auntie, and in reality she still loved me then, she just didn't want to look at me, touch me, or hear my voice that day. I wanted my sister to bring her so I could start keeping her more often and get used to handling business as well as errands with a little one. After all I went everywhere with my mom, so I’m guessing my mini me will be the same way!  Well I guess you all saw how the beginning of that day went, this week you will get to see how it is when I bring her home. I have to say I'm starting to realize that to make this picture perfect I may end up needing a nanny just to help fill in a little. We shall see... Now on to Ms. Bailey. Here I am on Saturday chilling at home with my family, I decided to get up and leave what could have been a fun-filled day with them only to go to the Bailey Agency and walk right into  a hostile environment! I always go off of spirit when I meet people, and I am very sensitive to the energy of people around me. With that said, when I sat down and saw the look on Ms. Bailey’s face, I knew something was up. Little did I know it was some mess about me not wanting complete strangers over to my house for a business meeting for her pageant.

I must say I threw Kordell’s name in the mix to add to my response, but in actuality I made the decision not to have it in my home on my own. I sincerely felt if she didn't want to meet at her office, fine, and I even offered to pay for lunch elsewhere anytime, but to turn my home into an office? Um, no. It was something I thought was a small and private conversation with Ms. Bailey as a friend. How quickly I learned that all things discussed in private aren't so private with her.

I thought after talking to her it was simple and easy. I just made the decision not to have all her staff come over and it was done. We would meet at her place of business. But no, I was attacked and spoken to by the Bailey workers in a way that to me was inappropriate, asking why I run my home a certain way. I was bothered, so I took my husband’s advice to check the situation by letting her know how it made me feel and making sure it didn't go any further than that. After all, I was helping for free and I was also involving my family's charity so that many people in need could benefit from a percentage of the pageant.

This relationship was supposed to work two ways. Number one I had my family create an outreach event specifically for Cynthia’s pageant participants so that they would have the opportunity to be hands on in giving. They were supposed to come the Saturday before the pageant and make lunches with fresh produce and hand deliver them to the people we had solicited to be at the outreach event created for her. Number two Cynthia was going to donate ten percent of proceeds to Hosea Feed the Hungry and Homeless. This collaboration would have also benefitted the pageant in that she could use the charity’s affiliation to solicit money from sponsors and help with securing an event space. Having the charity involved was of great value to the pageant.

Anyhow I go to lunch on a Wednesday to meet my "friend" for midday drinks and lunch only to once again be smacked in the face with another surprise. Wow, she doesn't want me or the charity involved? Why? Because she says she never received a document from the charity stating they are affiliates. First, that document has nothing to do with her giving proceeds to help feed the hungry. Second she only gave two weeks for this huge organization to get all these docs sent to her, which by the way she could have received after the event or closer to the actual day of. When she asked me to involve the charity and have them create an outreach event inviting some 1,000 needy people, I jumped right on it. The charity sent volunteers and paid staff to make the event possible for her pageant. Now she is telling me never mind because she didn't get the logo (that she could have gotten off Internet), so therefore she doesn't want me or the charity involved. When sitting across from someone who obviously doesn't understand that you cannot just involve an internationally known charity and then not follow through, you do what I did -- gracefully bow out!  I was looking at what I thought was a friend and someone I put myself and my family charity out there for just to see her win, and what did I get? Nothing but a sorry excuse for why she has decided to turn her back on the thousand people who would have benefitted from receiving fresh produce and groceries as well as donations. What do I decide to do? Move on and let her sit where she is. I'm not going to teach someone how to care. I’d rather let her have her way and figure out an immediate plan to salvage the outreach for all those expecting it and learn from my mistakes. I do care for and Iove Cynthia, but this has proven to me that you can't lend yourself to people without knowing their motives. I have decided to forgive but not forget how this made feel and how serious it is not to involve the charity with people you can't depend on. 

Now for my husband’s fabulous party! The Harlem nights themed event was gorgeous. It was everything I wanted for him to feel special on his 40th birthday! I have to say, he sure was looking sexy to me. Needless to say we had no problem working on little Stewarts that birthday. Hehe!

Before I forget, to all of those who asked me Tiffany Cook of DreamDesign was the planner for his party. Here is her info:

Palm Beach: 561-792-2452
Miami: 305-394-6261
Washington DC: 202-558-2295
Atlanta: 888 478-6534All right, guys, love ya! Sorry this blog was so lengthy, I just wanted to fill in the blanks for you all. I have to get ready to thaw out steak and salmon for tonight's dinner. Of course Kordell loves the steak and Syre is the salmon lover. I haven't decided on sides, so if you leave a comment give me some suggestions that would go with both. Kisses!

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Claudia: This Group Should Reserve Judgment

Claudia Jordan thinks the other 'Wives shouldn't be so willing to believe rumors. 

Bravotv.com: How shocked were you when Cynthia shared the rumor about Chocolate?

Claudia Jordan: Well I really don't know Phaedra that much to comment on her personal life, but from the little bit I am privy to, I was surprised to hear about an alleged affair considering the extreme criticism that Kenya got. At the end of the day only two people know what really did or did not happen, and I would love for this group to reserve judgment on everyone until there is confirmation. But I think a precedent had been set a long time ago, so that has opened the door to where we are now. I think it's easy to believe something negative about someone in the group, because in the past it's been shown that it takes very little actual evidence or proof for some to jump on that bandwagon. Hopefully we can get to a place where we afford each other the same benefit of the doubt that they may one day give us. At the end of the day there should be a protocol that we all follow and it should be applied to everyone. Until then I suspect we may continue to have a problem. But I am hopeful. Perhaps a lot of the drama in this group is because there are so many unresolved issues. And that combined with all the double standards in place is a sure fire recipe for disaster. I still have hope though. Again, not to have everyone be besties, but just being able to co-exist in the same space would be a major accomplishment with these ladies.

 

Bravotv.com: What were you thinking when Phaedra blew up at Kenya?

CJ: I thought it was silly and out of character. But I am glad that Phaedra had enough good sense to not actually hit Kenya. We don't need another physical altercation in this group. Again, we are all supposed to be mature ladies, so with that being said, I think the majority of us have a pretty good grasp of the English language and should be able to talk anything out without resorting to violence. Hitting each other is low class, childish, and ignorant behavior, and I'm so glad that Phaedra didn't really go there.

 

Bravotv.com: Were you surprised when Phaedra walked out?

CJ: Although this has nothing to do with me, I am around these ladies and a witness to all the shenanigans, but from what I've gathered, I wasn't surprised that Phaedra walked out. That seems to be a recurring theme in this group when things get uncomfortable. But at the same time, I am glad she did. If you ever feel the urge to put hands on someone and you are done talking, I think the best thing to do is excuse yourself and leave the situation without adding any more inflammatory language to the mix.

I would like to say that a lot of these issues in this group of course started way before I came around, but being here and seeing things with my own eyes has definitely been enlightening. It tends to get confusing as to what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior in this group, because there are clearly double standards. So in some cases it seems like it's OK to bring up sensitive information in front of the entire group, then in other cases it's not OK -- seems like it all depends on whom it's about. In a perfect world I wouldn't expect for us not to spill tea -- I mean that's what we do -- but if folks expect to be pulled aside to be asked about a rumor or some "tea," then I would hope they would abide by that rule and extend the same courtesy. That's all. Because the way it is now is causing far too much confusion, and as long as there is confusion and unfairness, there is going to be conflict. I've never been around so many arguments, so much shadiness and mudslinging in my life. And especially not since I graduated high school back in the '90s! Maybe there is a way we can get us to a place where we can co-exist peacefully. Hey, a girl can dream can't she?

Again, I want to thank all the viewers that tune in weekly to The Real Housewives of Atlanta. I just returned from Charlotte, North Carolina where I was making a few appearances at CIAA and the love and support I got from hundreds of people that wanted to take pictures and talk about the show; it was amazing! So many people told me they love what I'm bringing to RHOA and I just wanted to say thank you to any of them that may be reading this. The show is loved by so many and I feel we have a responsibility to entertain and hopefully inspire. We've got a lot of the season left and I hope the fans will be happy with how everything turns out! Love you guys!

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