Cast Blog: #RHOA

Cynthia's Surprising Excuses

Has Kenya Found Love?

Claudia: Kordell was Barely Flirting

Kenya on NeNe's "Embarrassing" Behavior

Claudia: "These Double Standards are Killing Me"

Kandi: "I'm Not Two-Faced"

Phaedra: I Appreciated Demetria's Apology

Are Demetria and Phaedra Cool?

NeNe on Her Apology

Cynthia: Claudia Can Read with the Best of Them

Claudia: NeNe's Behavior Needed to Be Checked

Kenya on "The Beasts"

Phaedra: Demetria Took Things Too Personally

GIF Recap: Lessons in Reading

Phaedra's Ignorant Comments

Claudia: I'm Not Surprised by NeNe's Ugly Demeanor

Kenya: NeNe Doesn't Want to Like Me

Cynthia: I'm Moving Forward in Grace and Love

Kandi: "I Wasn't Trying to Set Demetria Up"

Phaedra on Being Recognized by the Bar

NeNe: "I'm Not a Fake Friend"

Demetria Responds to the Rumors

Cynthia: Forgiveness is a Process

Phaedra: My Mother is My Rock

Kenya: "An Acknowledgement is Not an Apology"

Claudia: I Do Not Own a Flip Phone

Cynthia: It Was Awkward Seeing Phaedra Uncomfortable

Demetria: I Have No Beef with Kenya

NeNe Explains the Wig

Phaedra: I Was Hoping Apollo Wouldn't Create a Scene

Kenya's Not Interested in Roger Bobb

Claudia: "I'm the Samantha of the Group"

Kenya: Cynthia Commanded the Runway

Phaedra: You Don't Often Come Across Hair Burglary

Cynthia: "I Pray We Can Make Peace"

Claudia: I Could Relate to Cynthia's Insecurities

Cynthia's "Non-Conversation" with NeNe

NeNe: The Pit Bull Act is Not a Good Look

Kenya: If It Looks Like a Fraud...

Phaedra: "I Moved Past This Years Ago"

Claudia: I Am Not Asking for Sympathy

Cynthia's Surprising Excuses

Porsha shares her side of the pageant fallout.

Hey loves! I hope you all had a great weekend! My weekend was surprisingly relaxing. I finally got a chance to go to the spa. Between working on a business plan for my home decor line and being wifey and mommy, I've been busier than usual. But I have to say doing a little cardio here and there has helped me pump up the energy.

Let’s jump into Sunday’s episode. In the first scene you met my lovely mother, Diane, and my beautiful sister, Lauren. They are the best pair to give you a real opinion when choosing a dress for any occasion. Sometimes you just need people to tell it like it is, with a strong yes or no (or even a hell no)! LOL! To all of you ladies asking, those dresses were all from Sherri Hill. I'm all about the glamorous approach, so anything I wear will have some crystals somewhere. Hehe!

Next up you meet my amazing niece, Jaydnn! I promise that my little poo bear normally loves her auntie, and in reality she still loved me then, she just didn't want to look at me, touch me, or hear my voice that day. I wanted my sister to bring her so I could start keeping her more often and get used to handling business as well as errands with a little one. After all I went everywhere with my mom, so I’m guessing my mini me will be the same way!  Well I guess you all saw how the beginning of that day went, this week you will get to see how it is when I bring her home. I have to say I'm starting to realize that to make this picture perfect I may end up needing a nanny just to help fill in a little. We shall see... Now on to Ms. Bailey. Here I am on Saturday chilling at home with my family, I decided to get up and leave what could have been a fun-filled day with them only to go to the Bailey Agency and walk right into  a hostile environment! I always go off of spirit when I meet people, and I am very sensitive to the energy of people around me. With that said, when I sat down and saw the look on Ms. Bailey’s face, I knew something was up. Little did I know it was some mess about me not wanting complete strangers over to my house for a business meeting for her pageant.

I must say I threw Kordell’s name in the mix to add to my response, but in actuality I made the decision not to have it in my home on my own. I sincerely felt if she didn't want to meet at her office, fine, and I even offered to pay for lunch elsewhere anytime, but to turn my home into an office? Um, no. It was something I thought was a small and private conversation with Ms. Bailey as a friend. How quickly I learned that all things discussed in private aren't so private with her.

I thought after talking to her it was simple and easy. I just made the decision not to have all her staff come over and it was done. We would meet at her place of business. But no, I was attacked and spoken to by the Bailey workers in a way that to me was inappropriate, asking why I run my home a certain way. I was bothered, so I took my husband’s advice to check the situation by letting her know how it made me feel and making sure it didn't go any further than that. After all, I was helping for free and I was also involving my family's charity so that many people in need could benefit from a percentage of the pageant.

This relationship was supposed to work two ways. Number one I had my family create an outreach event specifically for Cynthia’s pageant participants so that they would have the opportunity to be hands on in giving. They were supposed to come the Saturday before the pageant and make lunches with fresh produce and hand deliver them to the people we had solicited to be at the outreach event created for her. Number two Cynthia was going to donate ten percent of proceeds to Hosea Feed the Hungry and Homeless. This collaboration would have also benefitted the pageant in that she could use the charity’s affiliation to solicit money from sponsors and help with securing an event space. Having the charity involved was of great value to the pageant.

Anyhow I go to lunch on a Wednesday to meet my "friend" for midday drinks and lunch only to once again be smacked in the face with another surprise. Wow, she doesn't want me or the charity involved? Why? Because she says she never received a document from the charity stating they are affiliates. First, that document has nothing to do with her giving proceeds to help feed the hungry. Second she only gave two weeks for this huge organization to get all these docs sent to her, which by the way she could have received after the event or closer to the actual day of. When she asked me to involve the charity and have them create an outreach event inviting some 1,000 needy people, I jumped right on it. The charity sent volunteers and paid staff to make the event possible for her pageant. Now she is telling me never mind because she didn't get the logo (that she could have gotten off Internet), so therefore she doesn't want me or the charity involved. When sitting across from someone who obviously doesn't understand that you cannot just involve an internationally known charity and then not follow through, you do what I did -- gracefully bow out!  I was looking at what I thought was a friend and someone I put myself and my family charity out there for just to see her win, and what did I get? Nothing but a sorry excuse for why she has decided to turn her back on the thousand people who would have benefitted from receiving fresh produce and groceries as well as donations. What do I decide to do? Move on and let her sit where she is. I'm not going to teach someone how to care. I’d rather let her have her way and figure out an immediate plan to salvage the outreach for all those expecting it and learn from my mistakes. I do care for and Iove Cynthia, but this has proven to me that you can't lend yourself to people without knowing their motives. I have decided to forgive but not forget how this made feel and how serious it is not to involve the charity with people you can't depend on. 

Now for my husband’s fabulous party! The Harlem nights themed event was gorgeous. It was everything I wanted for him to feel special on his 40th birthday! I have to say, he sure was looking sexy to me. Needless to say we had no problem working on little Stewarts that birthday. Hehe!

Before I forget, to all of those who asked me Tiffany Cook of DreamDesign was the planner for his party. Here is her info:

Palm Beach: 561-792-2452
Miami: 305-394-6261
Washington DC: 202-558-2295
Atlanta: 888 478-6534All right, guys, love ya! Sorry this blog was so lengthy, I just wanted to fill in the blanks for you all. I have to get ready to thaw out steak and salmon for tonight's dinner. Of course Kordell loves the steak and Syre is the salmon lover. I haven't decided on sides, so if you leave a comment give me some suggestions that would go with both. Kisses!

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Kandi: "I'm Not Two-Faced"

Kandi Burruss weighs in on the confrontation between NeNe Leakes and Claudia Jordan.

Last week’s episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta was crazy. Let me just say, despite all the shade that was going on between Demetria and Phaedra, it was nothing compared to the argument that happened between NeNe and Claudia. First of all it was unexpected -- nobody was expecting Claudia and NeNe to get into it. But at the same time what did you expect? Something is going to pop off if you tell somebody that you can’t believe they have a brain, but I don’t think anybody was expecting Claudia to react the way she did. Yes, I did feel like Claudia got the best of NeNe in the argument, because there was a lot that was said. Every time NeNe had something to say, Claudia had a comeback for it. It was funny and hilarious, and Claudia just seemed to be saying the things that everybody has at one point wanted to say, but probably never did. The reason why I say everybody is because I look at the blogs, I see the tweets, and there have been a lot of times that people over the years have said, “Why didn’t you say that?" Or "Somebody needs to tell her this!" Or "Somebody should do that!" So all the things that people have said on Twitter that someone should have said to NeNe, Claudia said that day. And it was hilarious to me.

I see people have been tweeting me saying, "Oh you’re two-faced" -- no I’m not two-faced, because I really don’t have a very close relationship with either one of them. Both of them are cool, but I just don’t have a close relationship with either one. So if one of them says something funny, I’m going to laugh, I’m sorry. You can be mad all you want to, but if Claudia says something funny, I’m going to laugh, if NeNe says something funny I’m going to laugh -- I don’t owe either one of them anything. So it is what it is.

Some people felt like NeNe got the best of Claudia in the argument, but I didn’t feel that way. For one that argument was even longer than what you guys got a chance to see. But on top of that I felt that sometimes it seems when NeNe gets frustrated or upset with someone, her go-to thing is to talk about is, “You're broke, I have more money than you,” so I was used to that, it was nothing new to me. But the stuff that Claudia was saying was funny and she was very calm about it. I’m not a good arguer; I wish I could be as quick on my feet as NeNe and Claudia are. I’m not quick on my feet like that when it comes to going back and forth with somebody. I get angry, and sometimes it gets all out of hand for me, but for them they’re good at just going back and forth with their words. I don’t know if that’s a good thing or not, because I know NeNe has said she says things that she regrets later. But it’s of course better than someone getting violent; they just fought with words, and it was amusing.

OK enough about that, I know people have their lives, I do too. To me NeNe's funniest moments of the conversation were when Claudia left the table. When NeNe kept talking it was so funny! When she started taking about that bob, I was looking at my own hair thinking, "Well I have a bob! Wait a minute, hold on, how are you going to talk about bobs like that?" But it just was so funny, she had us cracking up with the way she kept pretending she was rolling her hair up, it was just hilarious.

But outside of that, with all the drama that was going on between the girls, I felt like having another Bedroom Kandi party was the perfect interruption we all needed. We needed something that was going to be fun, that could bring everyone together, or at least get us on the same page for once, and I feel like I was able to do that. I know people are always asking why I'm constantly talking about sex, but when you talk about sex, you always laugh or smile, because it only brings happy thoughts. That’s the one good thing you can say about that, and when I brought out some of our Bedroom Kandi products and we played the game, the Bedroom Kandi version of hot-potato, it was hilarious. But better than that it helped everybody to mend their ill feelings for a moment at least, because people who didn’t even get along with each other still had to work together to play the game, which I thought was a great thing. People were laughing and smiling -- there were no arguments, there were no side-eyes, and I felt like it was perfect. Ain’t no party like a Bedroom Kandi party, 'cause a Bedroom Kandi party don’t stop!

Anyway, so on to the bus. The bus ride went horribly. I thought that everybody was on the same page after doing the Bedroom Kandi party, but obviously not. I thought it was good that NeNe apologized, because she doesn’t normally apologize, and I thought it was a good thing for her to clear the air with everyone. But Claudia just didn’t want to accept the apology. She wanted to keep going on and on and on about why NeNe had said those things. Come on girl, can you just please just accept the apology and keep it moving? Or don’t accept the apology and be quiet. Nobody wants to keep going on about the same thing over and over again, so that was irritating to me.

But then she had to blast Porsha, which I felt was completely uncalled for. I didn’t even understand why she even had to bring that whole situation up. That’s one thing that I don’t like about a lot of the girls. It seems like they purposefully want to bring up negative things about you, to put you on blast, or to put everything out there. It’s not like Porsha was even the topic of that conversation, so I don’t know why she felt like that was the perfect time to blast Porsha. It was just really unnecessary, and that’s just how I feel about that. Who Porsha is dating or who did or did not buy Porsha's car I don’t feel had anything to do with anybody on that bus, and I didn’t feel it was necessary.

So enough of that, at least from that point on we all were able to still put our negative feelings aside and make it to Demetria’s performance. I thought Demetria did an outstanding job. That was the first time I’ve ever heard her sing, and I thought her voice was beautiful. I thought she did a good job with her performance; she had a lot of personality on stage. You guys only got to see the one or two songs that they showed, but of course her performance was longer than that, and she did a great job. I don’t know if she could be a pop star. When I think of pop stars, I think of young teens, early twenties, so I don’t know if she is necessarily a pop star, but she is definitely an entertainer, and she definitely could put out an album. I think she definitely would have a lot of fans if she had the right team behind her, and I was glad we could be there to support her. The funny thing is she didn’t even have a clue about what went on in the bus, so luckily that whole negative drama missed her and didn’t affect her performance. Thank the lord, thank the lord.

All right, until next week! Everybody please follow me on Twitter. I know you like to go back and forth on Twitter, so feel free to go on my Twitter page and go back and forth with me @Kandi. You can hit me up on Instagram @KandiBurruss and follow me on my website Kandionline.com. And please go to BedroomKandi.com and book yourself a Bedroom Kandi party, because clearly a lot of us need to have a Bedroom Kandi party in our life! See you!

 
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