Cast Blog: #RHOA

Cynthia's Surprising Excuses

Porsha shares her side of the pageant fallout.

Hey loves! I hope you all had a great weekend! My weekend was surprisingly relaxing. I finally got a chance to go to the spa. Between working on a business plan for my home decor line and being wifey and mommy, I've been busier than usual. But I have to say doing a little cardio here and there has helped me pump up the energy.

Let’s jump into Sunday’s episode. In the first scene you met my lovely mother, Diane, and my beautiful sister, Lauren. They are the best pair to give you a real opinion when choosing a dress for any occasion. Sometimes you just need people to tell it like it is, with a strong yes or no (or even a hell no)! LOL! To all of you ladies asking, those dresses were all from Sherri Hill. I'm all about the glamorous approach, so anything I wear will have some crystals somewhere. Hehe!

Next up you meet my amazing niece, Jaydnn! I promise that my little poo bear normally loves her auntie, and in reality she still loved me then, she just didn't want to look at me, touch me, or hear my voice that day. I wanted my sister to bring her so I could start keeping her more often and get used to handling business as well as errands with a little one. After all I went everywhere with my mom, so I’m guessing my mini me will be the same way!  Well I guess you all saw how the beginning of that day went, this week you will get to see how it is when I bring her home. I have to say I'm starting to realize that to make this picture perfect I may end up needing a nanny just to help fill in a little. We shall see... Now on to Ms. Bailey. Here I am on Saturday chilling at home with my family, I decided to get up and leave what could have been a fun-filled day with them only to go to the Bailey Agency and walk right into  a hostile environment! I always go off of spirit when I meet people, and I am very sensitive to the energy of people around me. With that said, when I sat down and saw the look on Ms. Bailey’s face, I knew something was up. Little did I know it was some mess about me not wanting complete strangers over to my house for a business meeting for her pageant.

I must say I threw Kordell’s name in the mix to add to my response, but in actuality I made the decision not to have it in my home on my own. I sincerely felt if she didn't want to meet at her office, fine, and I even offered to pay for lunch elsewhere anytime, but to turn my home into an office? Um, no. It was something I thought was a small and private conversation with Ms. Bailey as a friend. How quickly I learned that all things discussed in private aren't so private with her.

I thought after talking to her it was simple and easy. I just made the decision not to have all her staff come over and it was done. We would meet at her place of business. But no, I was attacked and spoken to by the Bailey workers in a way that to me was inappropriate, asking why I run my home a certain way. I was bothered, so I took my husband’s advice to check the situation by letting her know how it made me feel and making sure it didn't go any further than that. After all, I was helping for free and I was also involving my family's charity so that many people in need could benefit from a percentage of the pageant.

This relationship was supposed to work two ways. Number one I had my family create an outreach event specifically for Cynthia’s pageant participants so that they would have the opportunity to be hands on in giving. They were supposed to come the Saturday before the pageant and make lunches with fresh produce and hand deliver them to the people we had solicited to be at the outreach event created for her. Number two Cynthia was going to donate ten percent of proceeds to Hosea Feed the Hungry and Homeless. This collaboration would have also benefitted the pageant in that she could use the charity’s affiliation to solicit money from sponsors and help with securing an event space. Having the charity involved was of great value to the pageant.

Anyhow I go to lunch on a Wednesday to meet my "friend" for midday drinks and lunch only to once again be smacked in the face with another surprise. Wow, she doesn't want me or the charity involved? Why? Because she says she never received a document from the charity stating they are affiliates. First, that document has nothing to do with her giving proceeds to help feed the hungry. Second she only gave two weeks for this huge organization to get all these docs sent to her, which by the way she could have received after the event or closer to the actual day of. When she asked me to involve the charity and have them create an outreach event inviting some 1,000 needy people, I jumped right on it. The charity sent volunteers and paid staff to make the event possible for her pageant. Now she is telling me never mind because she didn't get the logo (that she could have gotten off Internet), so therefore she doesn't want me or the charity involved. When sitting across from someone who obviously doesn't understand that you cannot just involve an internationally known charity and then not follow through, you do what I did -- gracefully bow out!  I was looking at what I thought was a friend and someone I put myself and my family charity out there for just to see her win, and what did I get? Nothing but a sorry excuse for why she has decided to turn her back on the thousand people who would have benefitted from receiving fresh produce and groceries as well as donations. What do I decide to do? Move on and let her sit where she is. I'm not going to teach someone how to care. I’d rather let her have her way and figure out an immediate plan to salvage the outreach for all those expecting it and learn from my mistakes. I do care for and Iove Cynthia, but this has proven to me that you can't lend yourself to people without knowing their motives. I have decided to forgive but not forget how this made feel and how serious it is not to involve the charity with people you can't depend on. 

Now for my husband’s fabulous party! The Harlem nights themed event was gorgeous. It was everything I wanted for him to feel special on his 40th birthday! I have to say, he sure was looking sexy to me. Needless to say we had no problem working on little Stewarts that birthday. Hehe!

Before I forget, to all of those who asked me Tiffany Cook of DreamDesign was the planner for his party. Here is her info:

Palm Beach: 561-792-2452
Miami: 305-394-6261
Washington DC: 202-558-2295
Atlanta: 888 478-6534All right, guys, love ya! Sorry this blog was so lengthy, I just wanted to fill in the blanks for you all. I have to get ready to thaw out steak and salmon for tonight's dinner. Of course Kordell loves the steak and Syre is the salmon lover. I haven't decided on sides, so if you leave a comment give me some suggestions that would go with both. Kisses!

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Cynthia: I Knew I Had to Take My Audition Seriously

Cynthia Bailey dishes on her audition (and outfit) for Kenya Moore's pilot.

"When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child."
-Sophia Loren


NOELLE
My daughter Noelle is 15-years-old now and is a sophomore in high school. I can't believe that in 2 years she will be graduating high school and heading off to college. She was almost 9-years-old when we moved from New York City to Atlanta. Where did the time go? As expected, she is a typical teenager that is going through the usual teenage growing pains of trying to find identity and purpose. As her mother, my job has always been to love, protect, teach, and guide her. Out of all of my many jobs, this is the most important one, and I never take a day off or call in sick. Having Noelle as my daughter has not only been a blessing, it has been a privilege. We push, motivate, and inspire each other to always walk towards greatness. I have always told her that childhood is a journey, not a race -- to take her time, and enjoy it. Leon is an incredible dad, and I love the relationship that he has with his daughter. They are very close and spend a lot of time together. I know how to be a good mother, but I am a mom, not a dad. That is his role, and being the talented actor that he is, he plays it well. We are both artists, and we understand that we are raising an artist. Noelle is a talented singer, writer, producer, photographer, director, and model. You guys only get to see snippets of her life, because it is our choice to keep some of her life private. In my down time, I love reading and writing in my journal. I am always looking for inspiration to be a better me, and to continue serving my purpose with humility and grace. Leon and I were so proud of Noelle's piece that she wrote. We have always encouraged freedom of expression and have raised her to be an independent thinker. Thought I would share the piece with you in its entirety. Enjoy!


A Fleeting Romance
Written by Noelle Robinson
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you've known for one day only and for them to go back into their shell the moment you guys part? To make someone feel important enough to see your vulnerability first hand, only to shut them out the moment your eyes don’t meet? What was your incentive anyway? To steal a meaningless kiss from my lips? Or was it equally as meaningful for you? You stole my eyes at hello, you stole my soul when you made me laugh at things I didn't quite understand, but you stole my heart as you made yourself vulnerable. For those 8 hours, I saw a spark that only I could ignite, a kiss only I could seal, and a fire only I could start in you. But was it really a spark or was it merely a deception that the fire in our hearts could come together and burn down all of society’s illusions that are holding us back from each other? If he would give me the key to his mind, I would simply run around in his mind all day and I wouldn't be in love anymore, because chances are I'll find his mind submerged in society’s deceptions. Ooh but if I don't. That might make me an optimist and it might even make me naïve, but it would never make me a fool for slipping through an opportunity to find the little drop of fuel to ignite our flame. I don’t need you to tell me you love me; I need you to teach me to believe it.

LIFE TWIRLS ON

I have always loved acting. In the past, I have acted in a few roles over the years, but my main focus until recently has always been my modeling career. I had so much fun auditioning for Kenya's pilot. I love the role she chose for me, because it completely took me out of my comfort zone. I was so excited to become the character and was determined to commit to part. Looking back at my outfit, hair, and makeup, I may have over committed… LOL! Unfortunately there was so much more of the audition that you guys didn't get to see, but trust me, it was hilarious! I know without a doubt that this role was not given to me, I earned it. Besides, if I bombed the audition, I know that Kenya would not have cast me for the part. Kenya is silly and loves to goof around, but be clear, when it comes to her business, she plays no games. It's all business, and it is so not personal. I knew how serious she was about this project; therefore I knew that I had to take my audition seriously. She is an over achiever, a control freak, and a perfectionist. I know because I share these same characteristics! I knew that she was going to be hard on me, and I had to go big or go home. So that is exactly what I did. I went big, landed the role, and I went home! Thanks Kenya, for giving me this amazing opportunity. I can't wait for you guys to see the finished pilot.

 

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