Portia,

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Re: Kenya's Party...Porsha's Costume Change

   Even thought the viewers only got a brief glimpse of Kenya's Costume

Party to celebrate "iconic black women in film'...We all got just a taste 

of what the program included...mini skits and featured film clips along

with other entertainment...Knowing what Kenya had planned, with the

exception of Porsha, the rest of the RHOA cast went along with her

requests and really got into the spirit of portraying their assigned 'film

icons"..They knew there was a reason for choosing their film heroines..

They also knew they were part of the "Party Theme" and program...

    Porsha missed a great opportunity, given to her by Kenya, to show

her fun side...Portraying Halle Berry as BAPS was for a specific part

of film history...Many viewers picked up on the significance of including

the BAPS portrayal as stated in these blogs...But as most of us have

already concluded this was way beyond Porsha's maturity level or

comprehension... Was there some "shade" involved on Kenya's part

...maybe...But I think Kenya was testing Porsha to see if she could put

aside her "Black Barbie Doll or Trophy Wife" persona that she loves

to portray for a moment and go along with the program...Wrong!...

Once again, Porsha's vanity got in the way...

   Did anyone else pick up on how much fun Porsha had strutting

around the hair salon and showing off her BAPS costumes for the

salon staff...She was clearly having a blast while being the center

of attention...As the writer of this Bravo Blog stated, she could have

won for best costume as "BAPS" at the party...Why did she change

her mind...We may never know...I think there are two sides to Porsha

Stewart...She plays it both ways with her husband, the cast and

viewers...In her shallow mind she thinks that she can always get

her way even if she changes her mind......

    We may never know what caused Porsha to change her costume

choice as Halle Berry...She turned a fun positive choice into a

negative interpretation by trying to convince everyone that she was

being insulted on a personal level...As the song lyrics go..."You're

so vain you think this song is about You"  Porsha was so vain she

thought the costume assigment was about her...So she ignored

Kenya's request and went dressed as Halle Berry portraying

Dorothy Dandrige...In the end all Porsha cared about was looking

glamorous...When in fact she looked old with too much makeup.

She acted stiff and uncomfortable in her costume and kept fiddling

with her wig...All in all not a good choice...She didn't have the maturity

to carry off the look successfully...

    I think Kordell had something to do with Porsha's costume change...

Maybe Kordell wouldn't let Porsha go as Halle Berry in BAPS...Being

the bully that he is, he probably dictated what she was to wear... 

When Kordell escorted Porsha to the party, it was very apparent that 

they both showed up with the intention to provoke Kenya...

   While Kenya offered an apology to Porsha several times during the

evening for telling her to leave... Porsha owed Kenya one as well for

showing up in a way that she knew would start a fight and for

causing a major disruption from the mood of the party...But with her

distorted sense of entitlement Porsha didn't care...If she could not

honor Kenya's costume assignment she should have stayed home...

Because she added nothing of value to the theme of the party......

Kenya has serious emotional problems.  Remember when in Anguilla, she damn near begged Walter to marry her.  She was pathetic. Phaedra came to her rescue then, and tried to console her. She flirts with Appollo, Peter and anyone else in pants; she talks of threesomes when she can't find a "one-some." Walter certainly didn't find her sexually appealing. She despises Porsha, who has looks, money and at that time, a husband. Kenya is no raving beauty, but is an attractive woman. It's too bad that her attitude and explosive temper cancel out all of that. She is drama queen to call attention to herself because her ways are so ugly. Shame on you Kenya!

she look better doing BAPS she should brought her A game just like Nene rock it

I don't know why Kenya would take it upon herself to"instruct" each woman who to dress as at a themed costume party......give these women some credit...none of them would have come dressed as Barney.....the theme was clearly established....if she had to oversee the costume, tell them to let her know who they would want to portray...costumes have traditionally been a creative outlet for the individual wearing them...Porsha and Phaedra were the only two that looked awesome....It really served her right that all of them left...and so humiliating to have to backtrack to beg them back...my ATL girls were looking good, mind you....I don't even know what a b.a.p.s is or looks like...that was a halle berry movie I must have missed...I found Kenyas costume to be telling of how she sees herself, and that is a bada$$ ....she got to express her inner diva....Cynthias costume looked like a photo shoot for a london fog coat, Nene looked like a dominatrix from planet Amazonia, Kandi looked like a doll that went through the spin cycle and then a dryer, and their men didn't even indulge them in a night of fun.....Peter claimed he wasn't in costume....I at least expected Kandi's boyfriend to dress as "Shaft".... come on, Kandi is an expert on this...where is their sense of fun??

The "iconic" African American actress event was first about the actress herself, and secondary it was the movie they were in. Halle Berry is an iconic actress "because" of how she has proven that could stretch her talent and play a role outside of her "type". She played a crackhead and she played the lead role in BAPs, two characters that were very unlike her and unlike what we think a gorgeous actress should play. That's what makes Ms. Berry iconic, she showed us that she is the "real deal" and that is what being fierce is about. Regardless of what you think about Kenya, and the fact that yes she behaved very immaturely this season, Porsha was also very immature this season by not knowing how to handle the situation with Kenya's party. A mature woman knows how to handle jealousy or handle any woman trying to make them look bad, and  mature confident woman would have worn that BAPs costume and would have made it "fierce," and as a result she would have completely upstaged Kenya. Its about beating your opponent at their own game, that shows that no matter what they try to do to you, you turn it around and still be fabulous. Porsha missed on out a golden opportunity to be the star of the show, because she would have done what Kenya asked by coming in the BAPS role, but then she would have turned it around in her favor making Kenya look even worse. Porsha has a beautiful figure just like Halle Berry, she could have worn a fierce "BAPS-style" outfit and a nice blonde up-do wig without even having it look "corny" ...she didn't have to have that wig looking crazy..just a nice shiny blonde up-do. She didn't even have to wear the gold tooth, she could have put her own spin on the outfit. Porsha had an easy opportunity to make that BAPS role work for her, but she missed out on it. Really, even though its a silly movie, Halle Berry made that role into one where you fell in love with the character's brassy, strong-willed, and "you can't mess with all this" attitude. Porsha could have done the same much more with that than with Dorothy Dandridge (which I love Dandridge, but that was a very predictable role that we kind of expected Porsha to do).  Porsha has shown that she may be a nice and beautiful woman, but she behaves in a way that is almost  like a "teenager' than a grown woman, even in how she talks to her husband, who is a bit controlling over her. Her husband looks more like her daddy than her husband, and Porsha behaves more like a child than a woman with him. I think that Porsha should stay, even though Kordell is divorcing her, but I hope that Kenya can too so that both of them can have a chance to both mature and get over that silliness between the two. 

I also agree Porsha was amazing in the B.A.P.S costume. 10 or 15 years that costume would have been perfect. But they were in the New Hollywood "Our Black Hollywood" Atlanta! So she couldn't have wore that and everyone else was Glam Out!

I agree. Watching Porsha model the BAPS costumes, I thought she was going to play nice. If she wasn't she should have said so as soon as Kenya asked her to come as Halle in BAPS. Then she should have stayed at home. Let's not forget that she did not even invite Kenya to her party. So even if Kenya was taking a dig at her, she at least invited her. I actually thought Porsha's BAPS costumes were more interesting than what she wore. We knew she was going for Dorothy Dandridge but she could have been a lot of other people. Lena Horne comes to mind. The outfit did not stand out. And if she is serious about being actress, she should be willing to go against type. Think about it. Halle Berry started out playing a crackhead in New Jack City. BAPS also was a stretch for her. Other actresses have actually won Oscars for making themselves actually ugly to play a role. If Porsha had any sense, she should have milked this opportunity for all it was worth. Kept the drama down by coming as BAPS and looking fabulous doing it. Kenya might have her issues but it was her party. If I invited someone to a potluck and asked them to bring dessert and they showed up with salad, I would be pissed. I might not throw them out but I would think seriously about ever inviting them to anything else of significance. Right is right.

Would someone pleeeeezzze tell Kandi how to dress?  She may be a smart business woman but her attire is ridiculous for that body of hers.  She does not wear skinny pants very well at all, she makes herself look even heavier when she wears them.  I somewhat like her but her outfits are driving me absolutely crazy!!!  And then she tends to wear those pants with the exteremely high heels, again, not a good look for her at all.

I think it was very insulting for Porsha to walk into the party dressed as she felt. If she did not like the role she assigned all she had to do was not turn up. But, she did it intentionally because from the onset she was not pleased with what she was assigned. I am sorry that Kenya let her back into the party, she should have let her go no one would have missed her. After all Kenya spent her money for the party she had a right to dictate what and how she wanted  her party to be.

Nene did the same thing when she did not let the girls in her house for  dinner  because they were late. She just turned them around without any qualms. You have to stand your grounds orelse you will fall for everything.

 Porsha was a stick in the mud. Be gone.

NastyBaby: The real comment that I was gonna post was gonna be almost exactly like yours. I agree to almost everything you said. I have two takes on Kenya: 1) Exactly what you said - OR 2) Kenya started the season off wrong. In the very beginning at the Bailey Agency when she was rude to the girls, the whole Miss USA/AMERICA ordeal, along with other things - I think she was in the "I'm new to the show, let me make a name for myself" mode -- and it didn't work out too well. As the season went on when she tried to become this kind/sweet person that she "might" be without putting on for the cameras - it was too late! By that time, the girls and viewers had already boxed her and were against her, and I think no matter what she did to be nice to the girls, they were gonna find some wrong in it because of how she started out. I'm not sure if the gift to Cynthia had an agenda. I'm not sure if Porsha (who I can't stand!) being B.A.P.S had an agenda. They said "oh no, it's Kenya, she's up to something" - because of the past behavior. I agree with one of the other commenters that Porsha could have stole the night had she came in with the B.A.P.S outfit - although I dislike her, her body is built nicely. Plus, there was NO way Porsha would do anything Kenya asked at this point. Porsha should have rejected the invitation like a big little girl would do. Like others have said on Twitter - if a party is thrown at a club that has a specific dress code, either you adhere to it or you will be asked to leave. Same thing. NeNe: She used to be my fave, now I don't have one. I'm starting to see that ego. She checked Kenya's "behavior" - I laughed when I heard that. It's OK for her to not let the girls into her house in Hollywood, but Kenya is dead wrong? I think NeNe has never liked Kenya... I know one thing for sure, they wouldn't have received apology from me when I didn't do anything wrong. NeNe just likes to be the boss of the show. When Cynthia called NeNe from outside Kenya's party it reminded me of last season when NeNe told Sheree/Kandi that they called to report to their boss - KIM! Phaedra/Kandi: Fakes. Birds of a feather flock together. Cynthia: Has one million faces! Peter... I tried to like him again after the way he treated Mel (Cynthia's sister), but he still got issues.

The reason that Porsha showed up to Kenya's event is because she contractually had to..this was the last event of the season and they ALL had to be there.

If I were Porsha I would not have shown up as BAPS. Can you imagine Porsha walking around and the other guests asked her who she was and if Porha said Neice from BAPS; they would have thought that she was crazy. How is Niece "OLD HOLLYWOOD". All season Kenya has been talking about Hattie McDaniels from Gone with the Wind...well why did she not show up as Mame?

Thank you Peter for encouraging the other cast members to leave. Kenya's stunt back-fired ...she needs to realize that she needs the other cast members and that they do't need her.

Kenya is really crazy, I was excited when I heard that she was going to on the show but she really disappointed me and she is an embarrasment to the pagent world.

"The biggest tragedy of this episode was that Porsha did not wear that B.A.P.S. costume she put together."

I beg to differ. The biggest tragedy of this episode was watching Porsha and her husband sit through a therapy appointment where SHE was obviously upset and wanting to work on things. How sad that the show ended with the confirmation of Kordell's filing for divorce. Now, that is sad. Not some made up nonsense about a costume.

Despite my better judgement, I watched this entire season (which was 5 episodes too damn long), in hopes that I would find enough endearing qualities in EVERY one of these women to watch next year.  I should have trusted my instincts.  I haven't seen so much hypocrisy in people since Jerry Falwell.  Some of these women pranced around, touting their "Christianity", yet had no problem with backbiting each other, or attending strip clubs, while others reprimanded their friends for kicking out guests from events though they did the same thing.  And isn't it amazing how some of them played victim at every turn, yet had no problem bullying others with their loud, brash and offensive behavior?  Crazy.

Kenya needs to take a backseat and work on herself.  Sorry, but if she joined this show as a platform and to gain success, she failed.  Her histrionics only made her look like a loose cannon, and no one (sane) wants to deal with such nonsense.  I always make disclaimers, so this post is no exception: I don't like Porsha.  HOWEVER, Kenya isn't fooling anyone.  She wanted Porsha to be the "BAPs" character to embarrass her (unfortunately, it took Porsha's friends at the salon to explain to her Kenya's intentions.  More on that later).  This came after she supposedly made peace with Porsha...didn't she do this with Cynthia in Anguilla (i.e., make amends and then give Cynthia a biography on Vanessa Wms.?).  If that is your brand of making peace, Kenya, I would rather go to war.  

On to Porsha.

What a ignoramus.  This girl may have grown up privileged--and she is pretty--but a cute smile only last for so long.  Go back to school and improve your vocabulary.  As far as her marriage is concerned, Kordell does seem to be a jackhole, but the way I see it, Porsha knew what she was getting into.  She was able to convince him to agree to certain things and she thought that she would be able to get him to agree to her working and having kids.  She went into that marriage with a hidden agenda, which is why he had enough and filed divorce.  Now, she's demanding alimony based on her claim that her marriage prevented her from potentially earning money.  Um, didn't you just admit on the show that you wanted a traditional marriage?  That would mean that you agreed to be a stay-at-home wife.  HOWEVER, you reneged on your agreement by working (i.e., Bravo), so you should not get any alimony, especially since you don't have kids and have not been married that long.

Phaedra.  What can I say about a woman who is faker than a Chinese Rembrandt? Please, wipe the vat of Maybelline from your face and see yourself for what you really are.  A liar and a hypocrite.  Do you really think your christ would be 'makin' it rain' in a strip joint--or complimenting a stripper on how nicely 'shaved up' she was?  Seriously, bytch? 

Cynthia, Cynthia...This woman has got more faces than Eve.  I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt, but my grace has a limit.  Lesson for the day, All: don't ever try making yourself interesting by being an instigator again.  It makes you look desperate. 

As far as NeNe is concerned, I'm glad that she's been successful, but she needs to tone down her ego a bit.  It's becoming obnoxious.  Also, how can she reprimand Kenya for kicking out Porsha when she (NeNe) turned away the ladies at the door when they got there late?  At least Porsha and Kenya had bad blood between them.

Concerning Kandi.  Well, I respect a woman who has business acumen and has something to call her own.  But I just don't like Kandi.  There is something about her attitude that bothers me...she seems spiteful.  Sidebar: she's a horrible speaker...Kandi, PUL-EEZ, take some public speaking lessons, since you are going to be speaking to groups who sell your buzz toys.  One thing I noticed at your convention is that you talked about how these women (and men) were going to make you money, how they were helping you expand your business.  Granted, you also said that this was going to help them, but you said it with realization that you needed to include them and it was more of an afterthought.  You were not polished.  Let me make a suggestion: never make it about you.  Always make it about your customers.  Those people are your customers.  You should have said something along the lines of partnering with these individuals so that this venture would be mutually beneficial, that they were the key to your success.  Insead, you basically said, "thanks for making me money."  About as tacky as some of the clothes you wear.

I thought porsha looked beautiful as Halle in B. A. P. S as well as Dorothy. Kordell is a fool, good riddance,, so long sucker. Kenya please get ahold of whatever is causing you to flip out on the ladies, whether you have just cause or not it just makes you look pitiful and desperate, not a good look.

Granted, the baps costumes were incredible, however when totally completed with gold teeth they became pure country.  Yes, you are correct, Kenya was attempting to humiliate Porsha.  I loved the way Porsha cooperated but not humiliated.  Halle Berry was not considered iconic during Grace Jones, Diana Ross, Eartha Kitt,Pam Grier's era, so why would Kenya Porsha to be Halle Berry in that particular costume?  Dorothy Dandridge, who is iconic for that era is a much better fit.  KUDOS TO POSHA.!!!!!!!

Dear.Mrs.Porsha why didn't you just come as Halle Berry as Baps you try on the out fit & look very nice this is the only time I'm on Miss USA side!

Porsha is actually a very mean girl who gives off the impression of being a good girl and of being “devoutly religious“. Viewers are really buying into this persona…If that don’t beat all!  Great acting Porsha! Get professional advice from Nene and head for Hollywood.