Wow! This was such a hard episode for me to watch, because it was so emotional. I haven't cried that hard in a long time and ain't nothing like a good ol' cry every now and then! Thank you Kenya and Porsha for your words, hugs, and bringing me back, smokey eye and all!
This episode involved two people that I care very much about: My lovely daughter Noelle (my heart and soul) and my very dear friend NeNe. First, let me go ahead and say that it is OK for friends to agree to disagree. Or just disagree period. I don't have an issue with anyone disagreeing with me (as I know I am not always right) and having an opinion. We all have an opinion, and should stand firm on what we feel and believe. Just because you are friends doesn't mean you like the same kind of men, want to live in the same type of house, and both want your steak cooked the same way! I often disagree with my friends, however I make every effort to be sensitive to their feelings and be supportive. We are grown women (and as much as we have in common), we have led different lives and have different stories to tell. Our complexity as women teaches us how to grow and learn from each other. That is the blessing! It’s not always about who is right, who is wrong, or who can throw the most shade. It's about trying to be a good person, a good mother, a good wife, a good Christian, a good neighbor, and a good friend. That’s what is important to me. I need to be able to look in the mirror, and actually like the person I see staring back at me.
My mother did not have all the right answers when she was raising me, and neither do I. All you can do is love your children and keep the communication open so that they feel confident coming to you for support and guidance. I am confident in my decision to allow "parentally supervised" dating for my 14-year-old. It may not work for everyone, but it works for us. I stand firm in my decision, and will continue to do so until I feel otherwise.