Cynthia Bailey

Cynthia shares her side of the Pillow Talk drama.

on Feb 100

Hello everyone! Welcome back to another drama filled episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta. It's been a couple of episodes since I blogged, so let’s rewind back quickly to the unfortunate fight a couple of weeks ago.

I don't throw the word hate around much, but I have to say that I truly hate seeing people physically fight each other. It actually makes me sick to my stomach. There is nothing wrong with having a difference of opinion, or throwing a little shade every now and then. However, I do have a problem watching people beat up each other. I don't care what the reason is, or who started what. It doesn't matter. Physical violence should never be the answer. At the end of the day everyone is grown and is responsible for their own actions. How we choose to handle situations as people is always a personal choice. It's not about making excuses or pointing fingers. I have apologized publicly for myself, my husband, and for everyone that was there. I know that in my heart everyone involved looks back on that night with embarrassment and regret.

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sunny2424
sunny2424

Cynthia, I can appreciate you wanting to apologize.  All this with Kandi goes back to the bus ride and repeating what was said to all the ladies (except Kandi).  You don't think she's going to focus on the good when there's bad in what you said.  Unfortunately the bad is going to spread the good will be forgotten.  BTW what was the good she said anyway?  I'm short like Kandi and when a person of your height gets so close and uses their hands it goes right to my face and it is threatening. 

SweetKate
SweetKate

If a husband EVER suggests that what he needs is his "own place", you might assume that he has already cheated. If not, he's very close and if he wants his own place, file for divorce and let HIM get his own place.

kcat
kcat

Your friend Natalie is a bitch and a troublemaker

BeWiseNotFoolish
BeWiseNotFoolish

Cynthia.

You didn't know Mal pushed Kandi.You didn't know Kenya was rubbing her booty on Peter's crotch when she was dancing with him in Anguilla.You didn't know your daughter had a boyfriend.You didn't know Peter purchased/bought/leased a building with your money.You didn’t know Peter went to strip clubs.

Okay.

dehope
dehope

send mal home to her own home andhusband

Jussarah
Jussarah

Yeah, your sister tried to get involved like ya'll were scrapping in the street. She was out of line, but I know how sisters can be.

Sheila6363
Sheila6363

Cynthia,


  I guess that you didn't get the Kandi  situation at the Hotel. Mal did push Kandi and Todd and then Peter wanted to get bad with them to...Wow... Peter and your Sister get on my last nerve...why is Mal on the Show? She has No Life of her own...Peter should stay in a Man's place...Loser...Really...at times I forget that he is a Man ? This Season you have become More Two Faced than any other Season...Hot Mess !

corpan
corpan

It's nice to see someone take responsibility for their part.  We all can behave unseemly sometimes but we don't have the luxury of having it captured on film.  One of my main issues with all these RH shows is that few people look back and say, I was wrong or didn't handle something right.  

mizrosy
mizrosy

Cynthia

  Please tell Peter to step back.  He is not a Housewife and should not have gotten in Nene's face about the charity event.  Just like he should not have confronted Kandi.    If anyone should talk to Nene about her behavior at the charity event it should be a housewife like you.   And if you were so supportive of Kenya why did you leave?

rebels18
rebels18

Why is your sister even in this drama? If anyone should mind their own business its her.  You did get up in Kandi's face with your finger pointing and I can understand why she went off. I would have broke the damn things! I generally like you on the show because you and Nene are so much fun but the last few episodes you  have been off kilter. I really liked that Peter called Nene out regarding the charity event. He was spot on.

Dei
Dei

That was the most backhanded apology . Seriously. To say that you apologize then to turn around and give excuses for your behavior, does not a true apology make. Mal may be your sister but, wrong is wrong. She should have NEVER put her hands on anyone. I had  watch and watch it again because of my pure surprise and disgust regarding the behavior that you, you're husband and your sister displayed. Kandi calmly and repeatedly asked you to get your hands out of her face, and that you were in her personal space. You continued your actions as if what she said didn't matter. When a person regardless of who it is tells you that you are in their space. The respectful thing to do is to adjust your behavior. Peter did not approach Kandi with any innocent intent at all. Do ya'll think that we the viewing audience are stupid? He clearly, had his chest puffed out ready to confront her regarding the gossip that you told him because Kandi, said his name. People complain that you never say anything, I find it highly disappointing that when you do speak up, This is how you do it.

I would have more respect for you Ms. Bailey if you truly expressed a heartfelt apology for you actions instead of so many excuses. Including your husband and your sister.

As a woman of business I would honestly think that you'd want to conduct yourself in a more professional and dignified manner. You're behavior so far this season has been anything but,

chachame
chachame

Cynthia I truly hope you had some words for  your sister after watching that episode.  It was bad enough that you were using yours hands so much while talking to Khandi then it didn't do any better for you sister to first push Todd, then push Khandi, that is what set Khandi off and I don't blame her one bit.  I really do not understand why she apologized.  That was a pure natural reaction from someone when you put your hands on their man and then them.

hannah79
hannah79

I'm not sure why you left the charity event early; I thought your behavior was inappropriate.  If Peter didn't like the way Nene Leakes acted he should have stayed.  Both of you look like you could not be bothered with the event.

@ARETHESEWOMENOUTOFTHEIRMINDS@1
@ARETHESEWOMENOUTOFTHEIRMINDS@1

Cynthia, you show all signs of an abused woman, either verbally, emotionally, physically or all, only you and God knows. In my opinion Peter is the wrong man for you because your ratchet behavior this season explains it all. 

What ever the situation is, you need to look into your soul and make changes before it's too late.

Your sister is just as bad as your arrogant classless friend NeneBULLY. You need to surround yourself with good people.

Honestly, i feel sorry for you.

Judysea
Judysea

Cynthia, we met you when as you were planning your dream wedding without  any resources. We met  your family as they planned to sabotage your dream wedding. We met your dream man as he confessed that he was broke and angry. We saw you contrived to have your dream friendship (no Kim) with a "friendship contract". And that was just your first season.

Each season you have something going on that upsets the entire apple cart and makes everyone look crazy except you and Peter.

I am no Nene Leakes fan but she does look as though she is trying but with a friend like you stirring the cauldron she will never change.

Every reunion you smile real pretty and feign ignorance about critical events that have everyone foaming at the mouth.

You are a great example of "throwing the rock and hiding your hand", The show might get on track without the Teflon Thomas's.

But...I think a change is coming.

dame0927
dame0927

Yes ,NeNe you should've been thankful somebody wanted to do something for you and HONOR you and your charity but you came with a attitude and had people look at you diffrent ,what about all them little girls that watch the show because of you .Now What?

dame0927
dame0927

First of all NeNe got it jumpin ,When she was pacing back and forth and had a attitude about Kenya showing up late .Then NeNe put Kenya on blast about her comment at the vineyard that struck a nerve about C.Williams relationship with old girl and some of everybody had something to say but yall pass the buck to Kenya and it should have been left alone because pillow talk and he say ,she say is two diffrent things some of yall came to the pillow talk to start somein .C.Williams should of never been able to go across the room and he was asked to sit down and he said NO and his wife or what ever she is to him says he need to stand a foot away from Kenya in her personal space and looking like he was going to do something to her.Then it was a problem when Kenya stands up and walk over to his girl and he should've never touch her from the jump so her friend was taking  up for her and why did Peter even get in the middle of that and pushed dude that was with Kenya and all he was doing wHAT HE WAS SUPPOSED TO DO as a friend Peter you wrong and you held him down that was f--- up for real you know the rules don't touch or get in between a fight endless you are involed. Because you would want nobody holding you back or down and the other person is free YOU KNOW THE RULES BRA.NeNe started some sshhhhh  and she  blamed Kenya but the problem was with the wife not with C.williams ,Let them handle it Like women instead of everybody else handling it for her.Then in the mist of it all Appolo get hit in the the eye and Peter pushing dude for no reason if that was Cynthia you woul've did the same shhhh as dude did Don't touch her .You Know the rules Mal pushing ,Todd pushing ,Peter pushing and Kandi get pushed Peter should've never got in nobody face talking about yall acting funny you know the rules what was that about and what did that mean.All of yall should've got mad at NeNe and se ain't been the same since she got a little money you can't show up late .How many times you showed up late NeNe? with yo brand new a-- .I thought you was real since you been on glee and the news station you been diffrent like you to good or something i'm upset about that you,Kandi,Cynthia,Phadrea use to be cool now it's like everybody talkig behind each othrs back like it ain't gone get back to yall as soon as somebody say something it never fails by the end of the day it got back to who ever yall was talking about. Don't make us black folks look bad and our women need to stick together and have each others back fo real

onaadams
onaadams

I like you, Cynthia.  Not sure about your husband.  He physically approached a female.  That is not good!!!  

dorisg
dorisg

A lot of people are not supportive of a person brand that act crazy and then wants to apologize because of the backlash they get for being manipulative and acting out of character. People respect brands of someone that has integrity and great character. I understand that anyone can make mistakes, but calculated mistakes, for a reality show is unacceptable. Sometimes you must be still for a moment and think, is this decision helpful to me or someone watching me. Drama can be played out in a much better way, than gossiping all the time about others that turn into physical altercations. My grandmother always said,"no one wins in a fight, it always leaves collateral damage. I think the friends (Natalie, Christopher, Mynique, Chuck) should not be on the show, because they are used to bring discord among some of the regular cast members which is not needed. This cast has been doing fine without outside help. Sometimes you have to go back to the basics to reach another level.

mommaknows
mommaknows

silence can be powerful in the end.

carmelizeddd@gmail.com
carmelizeddd@gmail.com

Well said Cynthia, whether or not Kenya decided to stand-up and address her accusers or not it should have never resulted in violence.


Vashti1
Vashti1

Cynthia, you are my favorite of all he ladies on he show. You show class, sophistication, and beauty in your heart and spirit. Be who you are and never stoop down to become a NeNe Leakes, Kenya Moore, etc.

Vashti1
Vashti1

I think Peter was right to approach NeNe about the response she made at that charity event. She was totally disrespectful. Even if she claim she didn't get the invite, which she did, she still could have been a professional and made some type of remark about the charity and not let all be about her. If she knew she was going to have an attitude, she should've stayed at home. Like I said, Nene is a instigator, she like to stir up the pot and keep drama going. When she made the comment, "Those girls are not on the same level as me," I was through with her. Who do she think she is! Cynthia stood up for her husband, NeNe would have done the same. Peter was right to say something about her approach, Greg, definitely, didn't have the backbone to say anything to her. He should have been the first person to speak to her about her attitude. He acts as if he's afraid of NeNe.

Vashti1
Vashti1

I believe I saw Mal push Todd, not Kandi. She touch Kandi, but she didn't push her as Kandi claimed.

ejeanTx
ejeanTx

I think Cynthia is very messy. On the previews for the next show she say NeNe is her girl but she was wrong... That might be so but what about Peter. He was wrong for approaching your friend NeNe. So you say she's your friend. Peter is a BULLY... and I guess that's why you say nothing.  

ocdoll
ocdoll

I have a lot or respect for the way Peter stood up to Nene at the charity event.  I noticed that no one had the guts to. Yes, Kendra should have called Nene personally put Nene should have sucked it up for her favorite charity.  Nene has no class and is losing her fans and friends for her diva like personality.

RealSistah
RealSistah

Cynthia when are you gonna grow a backbone? You have now earned your spot on the show and have a right to speak up to Nene. You sure did speak up to Kandi. 


Use your voice, speak from your heart, Nene needs you nowadays because the other ladies don't seem to want too much of her company. 


I do applaud you being there for Kenya at the charity event and as a judge. 

AJTexas
AJTexas

Baby, my heart broke for you at Kenya's party: the pain on your face was heartbreaking.  You are a sophisticated lady thrown in with people who are just not at your level, like Nene Leakes, who publicly stated that all you ladies are not of her level -- thank Heaven and casting.   You are lovely and set a good example for young women, unlike Ms. Leakes, who let us all know just how important her charities are to her and how important that particular charity,  involved with setting good examples for young women.  Hopefully that was her swan song.  She incites controversy, but it is bot of an uplifting kind.  Like nudity in porn films, it has no redeeming social value.  Nene is a bete noir out for herself and herself alone.


I see Darma34 posted something similar, asking you why on earth you are friends with that beast.  She is a huge bully and always has been.


I'm loving you Peter for trying to put that beast back on track.


Bravo has some housekeeping to do in Atlanta: Nene's wallowed in her 15 minutes of fame and is doing all of the things that make one a failure in life and work -- out of ignorance.  She is so proud and ignorant (and on her behalf, she has tried to better herself and has moments when she seems almost human.  The poor dear does not trust people enough to be nice to them.- and her charities?  Tax writeoffs only, window dressing.


More Atlanta housekeeping: On reality shows, once physical altercations break out, the party at fault is released from the show -- unless we're talking "Bad Boys," but there, the responsible parties are jailed.  Hmmm.


Apollo attacked Kenyya's friend for personal reasons having nothing to do with the show or the event or the conversation.  I'm wondering if it has something to do with those mysterious text messages he didn't send her in L.A. -- was her friend in L.A. at the time; does he have info on that????


ambs2013
ambs2013

Cynthia I feel Peter was righ to be upset sbout what NeNe pulled at the charity event she acted likeshe was above everyone she should be ashamed.

kimcoljus
kimcoljus

Cynthia, you are one of my favorite housewives.  I respected you for the way you carried yourself. As the seasons have grown, I see you assimilating.  You and Kandi are very alike in that you are people-pleasers.  For you, Mal, Peter, and Nene are your kryptonite.  For kandi, it's he rmother.  These other people think for you and often act on your behalf without regard for how their words and actions affect you.   I understand that Mallory is your sister and without doubt believe she loves you.  I also see that Mallory is not quite on the Cynthia train.  She continues to disregard and disrespect your marriage to Peter and she has shoved the very person who stood up for you when Nene was giving you a hard time about your parenting skills.  I hope you cleared that up and gave Kandi a sincere apology minus the "if Mal did" phrases.  It is sad to see real friends cast aside for acceptance from those who don't mean you well, even family.  With firmness and love, send Mal back to her husband; please don't allow her to continue to set the tone for any of your relationships. As for Peter, well you can't tell a woman about her man, she just has to learn on her own.  Hugs to you Cynthia. I can't wait to see the real you stand up and take her place on this show. 

breal4now1
breal4now1

Cynthia,

One question, are you afraid of Peter?  That is the only thing I can think of that would make you just stand around with your mouth hanging open whenever he butts into other peoples' business. You took up for your sister, when she definitely pushed Todd and Kandi, but you won't tell your own husband to butt out.  Are you that desperate for a man's love that you let him walk all over you?  Kandi does the same thing when it comes to her mother. She lets her mother run her life and she is going to be so alone and sorry one day.  Same as you.  Get a backbone!

darma34
darma34

Cynthia it is really unbecoming of someone who has done so much, made her mark in life and then signs up for reality television and doesn't have a concept of right and wrong the way you do. Your friendship with Nene makes me shake my head to the point of whiplash! You ALLOW her to influence a lot of bad choices. How do you call her a friend when she point blank tells you in front of your "friends" your a bad mom and the choices you make regarding dating?! How is that a friend? I could go on and on but there's no point this season is really hard to watch. Episode of high school stupid girls!

sandrahatestaylor
sandrahatestaylor

Peter should have kept his mouth shut at the charity event!  Although I didn't agree with what Nene's  "speech" (that KrayKray Moore put her on the spot to make!), Peter was a hypocrite!  Like he said, it was a charity event.  So why did he walk out?! Nene called him out on that and he tried to push it on Cynthia by saying the event was for her.  If that's the case, he shouldn't have come!  He should have showed more class and stayed.  Instead he showed his ass - once again!  

sunny2424
sunny2424

Opps, I forgot....Why didn't Mal tell you she pushed Kandi and Todd?  That way you could have made a real apology to Kandi.  Maybe your sister is a trouble maker? 

jaxdfax
jaxdfax

@mizrosy I could be incorrect but I thought Peter was voicing his displeasure with his wife and Nene over heard and demanded to o what he said and he repeated it. And he was uncomfortable as he thought she acted badly and wanted to leave. If Cynthia brings him to an event is he not allowed to speak based o his gender?

SweetKate
SweetKate

@dame0927 "Little girls" should NOT be watching the RHOA, or ANY reality show for that matter, nobody on TV should be a role model for little girls unless it's a show specifically geared toward them.

Hogan
Hogan

@dame0927 I agree that NeNe behaved less than appropriately. In fact, I think her behavior on the show this season will hurt her in Hollywood with any other aspirations she may have during the next pilot season there. I do understand, however, what upset her about Kenya's seeming to honor her...I think Kenya counted on NeNe to behave badly and Kenya won! Shame on NeNe, she will suffer for her acts.

Taztaz
Taztaz

@dame0927

PREACH Isay PREACH, now that's what I'm talking about. Let the truth be known.

Judysea
Judysea

Has Peter not jumped Brandon I do not think Apollo would have gottten out of his seat. Apollo was seated next to his wife and enjoying the scantily clad females.

Peter is a friend and in an attempt to help him he jumped into the melee already started by YOUR husband.

bubbleyes72
bubbleyes72

@Vashti1 She pushed them both, when her sister got up and went across the room to Kandi, she got up too! Reason is because she know her sister won't fight and she didn't want her to get her arse beat on TV by Kandi!

Divastyle1
Divastyle1

@Vashti1 "And did, " Yes Mal did, she pushed Khandi and Todd, go back and review

kcinscc
kcinscc

@ejeanTx Nene is the one who approached Peter, right?  She got in his face, so he told her the way it is.  That's when she said none of those women are "on her level"!

alogan
alogan

@ejeanTx If you roll the tape back. Nene was wrong for her funky attitude and she approached Peter. Peter did not want to talk to her that is why he left. Somebody need to tell her about herself and he had the "balls" to do so. Just stateing the facts.

southern_goddess
southern_goddess

@darma34  I totally agree how dumbfounded Cynthia is when it comes to "The Great Nene Leakes!" Nene has no respect for Cynthia whatsoever; yet, Cynthia continues to place her on an undeserving and VERY DELUSIONAL pedestal!  When Nene said, "None of these B's HERE aren't on my level," IN FRONT OF CYNTHIA, only proved that Nene could care less about Cynthia, and feels as though Cynthia is beneath her! Cynthia must agree as well, because she stood there and listened, not saying one word, or standing up for herself. Pathetic! 

beautifullyme
beautifullyme

@sandrahatestaylor  I agree with you.  Peter should not have commented at all.  He knows there was some history there between those two, but he did not know the details.  I am surprised, well not really, that Cynthia did not step in between Peter and Nene and say:  Peter, let's just go.  Nene has a right to be upset.  You don't know the whole story.  


On the shade side ladies:  Kenya knew when Nene showed up she was still angry.  Then she had the audacity to ask her to speak at an event without prior approval.  Cynthia, what kind of friend would urge her "good friend" to come to an event that had so much shade in it that it could block out the sun.  The party was for Kenya.  Kenya is smart and knew.  Correction was expecting Nene to act like her old self.  Guess what Cynthia, because of you, Kenya won.  Nene embarrassed herself.  She was trying to be a friend to you by attending the party event.  She never wanted to go.  I bet she doesn't make that mistake again.  


Cynthia, you were my favorite, prior to this season.  I am not sure what is going on with you. But you seem to be turning into Kim.  Why are you starting so many arguments this season then just sitting back and acting like an innocent?  Please remember your daughter is or will see these episodes one day.  Be a good role model for her.  Nene is a good friend to you and Peter.  I like seeing all of you interact with each other.  I especially love the friendship Peter and Nene have.  You! should have had your girls back.  You blew it.  

BeWiseNotFoolish
BeWiseNotFoolish

@SweetKate That is so true and any mother's who let their underage daughters watch this show needs their heads examined.  There are some countries that bans RHOA because it doesn't want the behavior on the show to influence the girls or women in their countries.  I went to Mexico for two weeks and that country bans RHOA; it's not on their televisions and there's no access to it on the net.  I don't blame them.

Judysea
Judysea

I mean Apollo is a friend.

sunny2424
sunny2424

@southern_goddess @darma34  I really don't think Cynthia agrees with what Nene is saying but she's trying to ride out the storm where Nene is concerned.  Nene goes to this place every now and then and puts herself on a pedestal.  Cynthia is only trying to cool things down.  She knows Nene shouldn't make remarks like that and we all know she must be insecure to make a remark like that.  Nene is no better than anyone else in God's eyes.  It makes Nene look so bad when she does this.  Also, look what she did to Marlo for going against her.