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Cynthia: I Didn't Know Mal Pushed Kandi

Cynthia shares her side of the Pillow Talk drama.

Hello everyone! Welcome back to another drama filled episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta. It's been a couple of episodes since I blogged, so let’s rewind back quickly to the unfortunate fight a couple of weeks ago.

I don't throw the word hate around much, but I have to say that I truly hate seeing people physically fight each other. It actually makes me sick to my stomach. There is nothing wrong with having a difference of opinion, or throwing a little shade every now and then. However, I do have a problem watching people beat up each other. I don't care what the reason is, or who started what. It doesn't matter. Physical violence should never be the answer. At the end of the day everyone is grown and is responsible for their own actions. How we choose to handle situations as people is always a personal choice. It's not about making excuses or pointing fingers. I have apologized publicly for myself, my husband, and for everyone that was there. I know that in my heart everyone involved looks back on that night with embarrassment and regret.

Let's move on! I admit that it was a little "messy boots" for me to tell the ladies about my conversation with Natalie about the whole Todd opportunist thing. In Natalie's defense, I don't remember if she ever said the word opportunist, but I felt like it was implied. She actually had a lot of very nice things to say about Todd as well, but I guess the negative will always outweigh the positive. It's actually kind of funny, because this whole conversation started off pretty harmless. Everything that was said happened so long ago!

Although I was surprised and thought it was interesting that Natalie knew Todd, the tea that was poured was basically old and stale. I envisioned Kandi handling this bit of news exactly the way that she handled it at the winery. She was not bothered, laughed it off, and pretty much owned her fabulousness with a "girl, bye" attitude at the end of the day. High fives were slapped and that was that. Or so I thought. I really thought we had moved on, so I was a kind of surprised when Kandi brought it back up at Pillow Talk.

That was when I decided to try to talk to Kandi to make sure that she had the whole story. The good and the bad. Big mistake! As you could see, that didn't go too well. In hindsight, I guess I was too much in her personal space. It didn't feel like it to me at the time, but looking back at it all, I guess I was. We both talk with our hands, and I didn't realize at the time that I was using mine any more than she was using hers. I also did not feel that when Peter walked up and asked what was going on that he was necessarily aggressive. I do know that anytime a man is addressing a woman (and it’s not all fun and giggles), it never really looks right. Last but not least, I definitely didn't know until I saw it on tape that Mal pushed Kandi. I actually didn't believe it until I saw the tape, because I just don't remember it happening. I thought Mal was trying to keep Peter and Todd from getting into it by pushing them apart. Mal did tell me that in that moment Todd pushed her, and she instinctually pushed him back. Then all hell broke loose from there. Remember, Mal is my sister first and foremost. She is just as protective of me as the other ladies’ families are protective of them. Just like the other incident, it all happened so quickly it was hard to know who pushed whom and when or why. We may never know exactly how it all started, I am just glad that it is over.

 

Kandi apologized to the group at the spa for her behavior, and I apologized to her for getting in her personal space and for Mal pushing her. With these ladies it's always a matter of time before you bump heads with someone. So I guess it was me and Kandi's turn. It kind of sucks, because Kandi and I have always been cool with each other and have never really had an issue. Just like she said that she likes me, I also like her. So that said, I apologize and accept full responsibility for any part of wrong doing that I contributed to on that night. I apologize on behalf of Peter and my sister as well. I hope that Kandi and I are big enough women to eventually move past this foolishness. I guess you will have to keep watching to find out. Oh yes, when Kandi says that I wouldn't bust a grape, she was 100% correct. I do not and will not ever physically fight another woman.

Thank you all for your continued love and support! I appreciate all of you. More drama is on the way! Make sure you tune in every Sunday night at 8/7c. Only on Bravo!

 



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Claudia: NeNe Turned Up, Not Me

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on the tense moment with NeNe Leakes.

Bravotv.com: What did you think of Cynthia's acting in Kenya's pilot?
Claudia Jordan: I thought Cynthia did a great job and was very funny and believable. It was an over-the-top character, and Cynthia committed and gave 100%. I thought she came off really cute! I told her that she should continue pursuing a career in acting.

Bravotv.com: Was the vibe still positive between everyone at Phaedra's event?
CJ: Yes, the vibe was still good between all of us that went on the trip. I was pleasantly surprised that we were all able to be around each other, be civil, and greet each other and not be rude or nasty. I didn't know what our duties would be when I agreed to attend the event -- all I knew was that we made progress on the trip to the Philippines and there was no reason for me not to go and support. So when we arrived and were told we were just going to be in the kitchen making plates, I put on my apron and got to work.

Bravotv.com: What was going through your mind after the confrontation with NeNe?
CJ: I didn't feel I was out of line at all! I was not loud and no one heard me in the audience at the event. I kept a calm, cool tone. I was standing next to NeNe in the kitchen making plates, and I certainly wasn't going to ignore the woman for the entire time while we're supposed to be working together. So I started making small talk. And it started off fine, I asked how her health was and told her that it was too bad she couldn't make the trip because of her blood clots. Then I said we hadn't seen her since the Dr. Jeff session that she put together, and she started insulting me and Cynthia, while never once making eye contact or acknowledging Cynthia, which was very rude. Then she started talking at us, not to us, and raising her voice to the point where she could be heard in the other room. She turned up at the event, not me. So when she threw out the false statement that we had said very rude things about her (or something like that), I wanted to know what she was talking about, because it just wasn't true, and one thing I hate is being lied about. If you are going to throw that out there, you better have examples. I found it funny and ironic that this woman was standing there lying about me without taking any responsibility for anything that she has said about everyone else. My thing is this -- we all have been shady, but do not act like you are such a victim of everyone else's shade when you keep on doing it over and over again -- then you wonder why folks don't accept your apologies…


I started off saying hello, being kind, smiling, making eye contact, and attempting to work together. I thought there was nothing wrong with my tone. When NeNe made comments about "taking it to the streets," I was surprised. What has really transpired between us to get to this point? All I did was expect an answer to a question, and now someone wants to fight? Girl, bye! We are both over 40 and we will not be jeopardizing anyone's delicate hip bones with a street fight!
Although it was a step backwards with NeNe, I'm still happy with how everyone else at this point was still being cordial and doing their part to keep as much of the group on good terms as possible. When NeNe exited we finished the event in good spirits. I explained to Phaedra and Porsha what had happened between me and NeNe, they didn't hold it against me, we went back to serving the men at the event nice warm meals, and we laughed and took pictures together. So no one was mad that day. Just saying...

I just wanted to add that one of the benefits of being part of #RHOA has been making new friendships and doing business with other successful women. This weekend I was honored to work with Kandi Burruss on her Women's Empowerment MasterClass. She asked me to moderate, and I was happy to do it. The panel discussions were amazing, and it was such a positive and powerful event. Kandi truly is an example of a woman that empowers, employs, and uplifts other women, and I appreciate her for it! Good job!

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