Cast Blog: #RHOA

Cynthia: Kenya and NeNe Were Both Wrong

Cynthia: It Was Awkward Seeing Phaedra Uncomfortable

Demetria: I Have No Beef with Kenya

NeNe Explains the Wig

Phaedra: I Was Hoping Apollo Wouldn't Create a Scene

Kenya's Not Interested in Roger Bobb

Claudia: "I'm the Samantha of the Group"

Kenya: Cynthia Commanded the Runway

Phaedra: You Don't Often Come Across Hair Burglary

Cynthia: "I Pray We Can Make Peace"

Claudia: I Could Relate to Cynthia's Insecurities

Cynthia's "Non-Conversation" with NeNe

NeNe: The Pit Bull Act is Not a Good Look

Kenya: If It Looks Like a Fraud...

Phaedra: "I Moved Past This Years Ago"

Claudia: I Am Not Asking for Sympathy

GIF Recap: Saltines, Anyone?

Kenya: Why Would Apollo Try to Hurt Phaedra?

Cynthia: "My Heart Went Out to Kenya"

Phaedra: "NeNe Made a Fair Observation"

Claudia on Her Sit-Down With Porsha

GIF Recap: Pushed to the Brink

Cynthia: Porsha's THOT Comment is Too Ridiculous

Kandi: Cynthia Can't Win for Losing

Phaedra: Cynthia's Behavior was Unbecoming

Claudia on NeNe's Thirsty Comment

Don't Insult Kenya's Virtue

GIF Recap: New 'Wife, New Shade

Phaedra on Being "Super Mommy"

Kenya: I've Never Been Anyone's Whore

Cynthia: I Felt a Connection with Claudia

Kandi: I Felt Bad for Kenya

NeNe Talks Zumanity, Apollo's Shocking Reveal

Claudia on Meeting the 'Wives

GIF Recap: She's Baaack...

NeNe: "I was a Rock for Phaedra"

Cynthia on Her Friendship with Kenya

Kandi: I'll Always be Honest with Phaedra

Phaedra: "It was Apparent the Marriage was Over"

Kenya: This is My Season of Redemption

GIF Recap: Oh the Zumanity!

Cynthia: Kenya and NeNe Were Both Wrong

Cynthia gives her take on the masquerade ball disaster.

Hello everyone! Welcome back to another drama filled episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta! Let’s jump right on in!

BAR ONE: KENYA'S CASTING

As a wedding gift to NeNe for missing her gorgeous wedding, Kenya decided to host a masquerade ball/charity event in NeNe's honor. I thought this was a thoughtful gesture on Kenya's part, since there was still some tension between them from the Pillow Talk Party and Spa Day. The charity Saving Our Daughters is one of the charities that NeNe supports, so when Kenya asked me to be a judge, I happily complied. I also agreed to let her use Bar One as the space to hold her Atlanta’s Most Eligible Bachelor casting. Anything for charity and my girl NeNe.

Kenya asked my sister Mal to be a judge (they made up), and also surprised me by inviting Marlo to judge as well. The last time I saw Marlo was at the winery with the other ladies. Apparently she and Kenya made a connection there and became friends. Although Kenya's casting did not have the "Gone with the Wind Fabulous" turnout that she anticipated, it was all in the spirit of charity and we had a great time!

ROLLER DERBY

This was a great opportunity for all the ladies to officially smother any ill feelings that may have been still lingering in the air from Pillow Talk. Kandi and I moved on and put our differences behind us. Kenya apologized for anything that she may have done to escalate the situation at Pillow Talk. Porsha got the great news that she was casted in Kandi's play A Mother’s Love. Congrats! It was nice to just joke around, be silly, and have fun again. INDUSTRY STUDIOS: MY OFFICE

Now how you are you going to have a charity event in someone's honor and not invite the honoree? I asked NeNe if she got an invitation to Kenya's Ball. NeNe informed me that Kenya had not invited her and the only reason she knew anything about it is because Marlo mentioned it to her. NeNe said that she hadn't talked to Kenya since the spa. No phone call, no text, no email, no nothing. So I asked NeNe if she was going to the ball now that she knew about it. She said she would wait to hear from Kenya, and we would see what happens.

FYI: When Kenya initially started planning her event for NeNe, I remember her telling me that it was supposed to be a big surprise, and not to say anything to NeNe yet. I promised her that I wouldn't. I talk to NeNe almost every day, and I'm pretty sure that I mentioned to her that Kenya was planning something for her and would probably be reaching out soon. Although I didn't have any details at the time (Kenya was still in the early stages of planning), I remember being vague because I didn't want to mess up her surprise. I am not big on surprises (even though Peter insists on surprising me all the time), so I just wanted to give NeNe the heads up to expect a call or something from Kenya. It was always Kenya's place to extend a formal invitation to NeNe and give her all the details. BOTTOM LINE

Long story short, NeNe said she wasn't invited and Kenya said she was. I agree with NeNe that Kenya should have picked up the phone and personally invited her, especially since it was in her honor. Even if Kenya did send the evite, I think the personal touch would have gone a long way under the circumstances. As a courtesy, NeNe also should have been told that she would be asked to say a few words on behalf of the charity. I believe that Kenya had good intentions when she put together this ball for NeNe, but she could have handled some of the details a lot better.

However, I also think that the way NeNe dealt with the situation once she got to the event could have been handled better as well. So in my opinion, they both were wrong in their own way. We all know two wrongs never make a right! My suggestion to NeNe was to just be the bigger person and graciously go to the event. Especially since it was for charity! A proper invitation (or not) was besides the point, because now her name was already attached to it. My interest as her friend first and foremost was to make sure that she came off as a class act. She could always get Kenya together later over cocktails about the technicalities. I stalked her all day long and begged her to take the high road and go to the event. I just kept thinking about how bad she was going look if she didn't show up. Well, things don't always work out the way you want them to. The good news is that after calling NeNe about 855 times, she took my advice and did show up. The bad news is that she was "hotter than fish grease" (southern belle way of saying she was not a happy camper) when she got there! I knew immediately that I had made a big mistake, because she made it very clear that she didn't want to be there, charity or not. NeNe is my girl and I will support her on just about anything as long as it is the right thing. I do not agree with how NeNe approached the situation, and I can see how her actions came off as kind of mean spirited. However, I am not NeNe, I am Cynthia. We are all grown and we make our own choices. Last time I checked, no one has crowned me Mother Superior, so who am I to judge?

I AM NOBODY'S FLUNKY

Well, just when I thought things couldn't get any worse, they did. Some of the people at the event were visibly a little uncomfortable. Peter was one of them and wanted to leave. I knew why he wanted to go but didn't want to accept the fact that night had come to a dead end.

 

FYI, Kenya: Peter was the first one to say he was leaving the party before NeNe even decided to leave. Peter left first, and we all followed suit.

PETER AND NENE IN THE DRIVEWAY

So, now we are in the driveway waiting for our cars, and NeNe overhears Peter telling me why he wanted to leave. NeNe walks over to confront him. I felt Peter's tone was appropriate, and he was not being disrespectful to her in their conversation. I also thought that what Peter was trying to tell NeNe was coming from a place of love and support. Peter completely understood NeNe's point of view, but felt like the charity was the focus. In my opinion, friends who care about each other should always be able to tell each other when they are right and when they are wrong.

As the conversation escalated, Peter ended up dropping the F word, and NeNe later goes on to call him bitch assness. I agreed with what Peter was trying to tell NeNe, and knew in my heart that it should have been me having that conversation with her instead of him. I just didn't feel that it was the right time to talk to her, because she was so pissed off and we already had enough drama to deal with for one night. I thought it would be more appropriate to talk to NeNe the next morning over a stack of banana pancakes once she cooled off. Sadly, the pancakes never happened. At the end of the day, I really felt horrible because I was the one that convinced NeNe to come in the first place and didn't want to be responsible for any more foolishness that night. My heart was in the right place, and what's done is done. However, I have often wondered since that night if I had tried to talk NeNe and the words were coming out of my mouth and not Peter's if she would have been more receptive. I say this because of the whole "a man shouldn't step to a woman thing," even if in this case the woman actually stepped to the man.

Last but not least, I thought it was very offensive for NeNe to say that none of the women at the event were on her level. Those words spoke volumes, and I kept wondering as her friend if I was included. I am hurt if this is how she feels, but if this is her truth, I have no choice but to accept it.

Thank you all for your continued love and support! I appreciate all of you. More drama is on the way! Make sure you tune in every Sunday night at 8/7c. Only on Bravo!



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Claudia: "I'm the Samantha of the Group"

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on which 'Sex and the City' character she is. 

Bravotv.com: Do you agree that you’re the Samantha of the group?
Claudia Jordan: Hell yeah I'm the Samantha of the group, but mixed with a little Carrie Bradshaw, and I totally own it. I absolutely cannot stand faux conservative women that pretend to be Virgin Marys but in real life are the biggest of harlots! We are all adults so OWN YOUR LIFE! That seems to happen a whole lot. Lots of smoke screens! I am who I am, and who I am is a fun, real woman who enjoys life and has never felt the need to pretend to be something I am not. Because if you are living right and doing what makes you happy -- well then what is there to be embarrassed about? I will say, although physically I'm not quite currently getting action like Samantha, a lot of my jokes are of a sexual nature and push the envelope. My grandmother is just like that, and I totally take after her. She's a spitfire and tells it like it is and has always made me laugh out loud when she talks about her sex life or lack thereof. My mother told me at an early age, "You act just like your grandmother!" I take that as a compliment! I've never had any hang ups about sex -- I think it's part of life and it's how we all got here, so what's the big deal? But deep down I'm a hopeless romantic like Carrie, waiting on the entire fairytale not just a piece of it, so there you have it! I thought it was fun when we were trying to decide who was who, and of course Kenya would go for the Carrie role. But that's debatable! I think she's a little Samantha-y herself at times. Ha!

 

Bravotv.com: Has your dating life in Atlanta improved? If so, is Shelly jealous?

CJ: Hmm, how should I answer this one? I will just say that I am in a good place right now and I would never again date someone that Shelly would not approve of! Animals and babies seem to have a sixth sense and an ability to tell who is good and who is bad, and right now Shelly and her momma are purring! Meow! 

 

Bravotv.com: What were your first impressions of Demetria and Phaedra?
CJ: I didn't know what to expect upon meeting either of the ladies. I thought Phaedra was polite and nice upon meeting her, and she seemed to get my humor because she did laugh at my jokes (although she did ask Jesus to help me). So I can't be mad. I got some laughs and a prayer all in the same night! God is good! Ha!
As for Demetria, I instantly felt comfortable with her because I really liked the way she was totally cool with my questions about her relationship. As a former journalist (I was a newspaper reporter back in Rhode Island), it was my job to ask questions and get to the meat of the story, and sometimes I'm still in journalist mode and ask away. I really mean no harm by it and am not trying to be offensive, although it might come off that way. I really don't like to beat around the bush, and I like to just get to it. I do realize that could have been awkward or difficult for Demetria, and when she reacted so coolly, I knew she was a woman I could really get along with. Since then we have had some very emotional and deep talks where we have shared a lot with each other. That was the first day of the beginning of a great friendship. 



Bravotv.com: Was it more awkward when Apollo showed up or when Demetria’s music video didn’t play?
CJ: Honestly it was more awkward for me when the video didn't play, because I had no idea that things were that bad between Apollo and Phaedra. I couldn't hear what he was saying to her and I wasn't staring at them the entire night, so I missed a lot of that weirdness. Watching it on television I felt extremely uncomfortable for them. It was tough to watch. I can't believe I missed all that. I really thought they were cool with each other in person, because Phaedra keeps an amazing poker face. Although the video didn't play, it was still fun to get out and meet the rest of the ladies, get dressed up, and see a little of the Atlanta night life. I wouldn't consider that night a total bust. I know I laughed a lot and met some cool folks!
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