You are not heartbroken for Kandi, because if you were, the conversation you had with her, would have stayed between you and her, verses you discussing it with Crack head Christopher and his common law horse Natalie! Stop faking it Ms. Bailey.
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Here we come, Savannah! I know the bus ride got off to a shaky start, but we do eventually make it to Savannah with our weaves intact!
For the record, all of the ladies were late to NeNe's (some later than others). Yes, as Kenya pointed out, she was the first one to twirl in. I arrived after Kenya, and because I am usually on time (if not the first one to arrive), I was well received and got a late pass. Let's be clear, being 2 or 3 hours late on a consistent basis is disrespectful. Where they do that at?
You are not heartbroken for Kandi, because if you were, the conversation you had with her, would have stayed between you and her, verses you discussing it with Crack head Christopher and his common law horse Natalie! Stop faking it Ms. Bailey.
PETER SHOULD LEAVE YOU AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. Then you and your slimy sis' can live happily ever after.
Mama Joyce may be spurned on by brvo as a way to create drama...but she clearly has her. Own motives.....if I was Todd...I would not go into any clubs....and he needs to just avoid her .....she looks the type to say that he hit her....
I hate commenting on these blogs but I can't contain myself as Mama Joyce is running around blaming Bravo for her actions. Kandi said she never takes accountability and it's just sad. First of all, Bravo cannot make her say something that we all see coming from her mouth. Did she not accuse him of messing with the assistant and did she not try to fight her? Did she not tell Kandi he was only out for her money and did she not talk to Phadera about a pre-nump? SHE has made herself look bad with her own bad behavior. Todd seems like a nice guy but even if he were not, that would be Kandi's call. She appears smart with her money given the fact she still has some after all these years. Clearly she is not frivolous with it and is a smart business woman. It seems more likely to me that Ms. Joyce is the one Kandi should be concerned about her money with. She's keeping a close tab on it that appears to be more than just looking out for her daughter. Kandi deserves to be happy and have her shot at being a wife like Ms. Joyce did on more than one occasion. Everyone wants to be rich and famous but I say you can have it because the mess you have to deal with coming from all sides is not worth it to me. Good luck and many years of happiness and love to Kandi and Todd!
OMG Kandi! Listen, I'm (wise) enough to say that you cannot let your Mom tear you and your man apart. I have TWO grown daughters. All Mom's want THE BEST of the BEST for their children. But in this situation, I do not believe that your Mom is being 'fair'. I don't believe that she is giving him an ounce of a chance. I have seen this play out many times in my life, and it saddens me to see (you) go through it. I know I don't know you, but I'm a great people reader. I know you want to be happy. And I know that dollar signs don't make anybody truly HAPPY. I see that you KNOW and UNDERSTAND this. If he is good to you. If he loves you. If you love him. STAND YOUR GROUND, and marry your man. Momma has to let you live your life. You've done very well so far. And all the money and fame in the world won't keep a human from being human. If it's a mistake, it's yours to make. @ Momma: Listen, if there was a golden rule that a husband has to be equally successful, and equally as financially tuned as the woman that he is going to marry, ... there would be more UNMARRIED people than there already are. RESPECT, .. LOVE, ... PARTNERSHIP in LIFE, .. MUTUAL GOALS, ..,. and TIMING make the magic happen. Kandi is smart. She knows what she wants. These things mean more to her than anybody's paycheck. Let LOVE be.
Its wonderful Cynthia was there to support Kandi during her moment of heartbreak. At some point she has to get a backbone to stand up to her mother of course respectful, but stand up justthe same. I think her mother is fine now that she has spoken to phradra about the laws of Ga. Oh by the way...Cynthia might be crying too at some point. People can see things others can't when they are in love. Peter... ahhhh that brother ain't right.
Cynthia, you have not posted a new blog, however this is what I wrote on your friend Nene's Blog in reference to her comments and last nights episode.
Hello Nene, I signed up just to comment on your blog after last nights episode. I am an educator/ doctor, co-parent, friend and community activist etc. It was really hurtful to see you treat your friend Cynthia that way. That was not simply an opinion you offered you went into a rant and imitation of the unsavory behavior that young girls engage in today. I have my feet on the ground and in the community as an educator and activist and yes, young girls can be very out of control. However, I do not think that is the case with Cynthia's daughter. I will say this, I have a friend who thinks exactly as you do, but she is also a friend who had her first and only child at 14 years old, and she judges young girls and women very harshly. As if she has forgotten her previous transgressions. I on the other hand was not a teen parent, I did not give it up, strip or anything else. I went to college, grad school and focused on serving my community, helping my family (mom etc.) and had a family later after 30. I don't judge young girls as harshly, I recognize that my friend like many other young girls are "human beings" who are facing many issues in an increasingly complex society. Regarding my friend, I would think because she was a troubled young lady that she would have more compassion for young girls who are growing up too fast. She doesn't. You also seemed to have, had a challenging past as a young mom, a stripper etc. (my friend also stripped). Compassion is what you should have had for your friend, offer you opinion, but support your "friend". Solid friends like Cynthia are very hard to come by, you know that. You have grown a lot during your years on the show, however you need to apologize to your friend, if you haven't already. You don't have to like the choices she makes as a parent, offer your opinion but do not mimic young women to prove your point, it was tremendously painful to watch. I value the type of friend you say you are, I too see myself as the friend who will give you the painful truth when the world will lie, however offer that truth with "love". Your reaction to Pheadra's comments about your son exhibit how personal and sensitive it is to discuss our children and their future. Cynthia is trying to cultivate honesty and openness with her daughter in a very chaos filled society, support her in that. She is right, parents who are "purely" punitive in their approach end up raising liars, and sneaks of the highest order. Bring some human compassion to the conversation with your friend. Peace.
PS. Is anyone looking at GETTO MOM? Who does that at your own daughter's dress fitting? She need's to seriously sit down!!
Can someone please explain to Kandi, if she does not grow some balls and tell that bitch of a mother (and by the way as far as her mother goes, she paranoid about getting her share of the $)she for sure will lose Todd and her friends). why can't Kandi stop with the denial and grow a set?
Cynthia, thanks for the good advice you have given Kandi, but I hope one day Kandi will put her mother in check in a respectful way so that she can live her life.
While I admire the fact that Kandi tries to remain respectful of her mother, she should not have invited anyone to the wedding dress fitting. Had she gone alone she would have come out much farther ahead in her planning.
I appreciate Mama Joyce's concern for Kandi's welfare because she doesn't want her daughter to be taken advantage of. Mama Joyce should have the right, as Kandi's mother, to speak about how she feels about whoever Kandi does decide to marry. However, I thought Mama Joyce was out of line for talking to Phaedra (although Phaedra prides herself for introducing them to each other) about Kandi's affairs.
I also think that Kandi should take heed for the simple fact that Todd did say he was not going to sign a prenup.
Kandi, Kandi, Kandi.... Only if you can stand up to your mom, (SMH) it's obvious that you are taking your frustration out on Kenya, although yes she is getting on your nerves, but you bit hard telling her to nobody give a "F" that's not lady like at all.
What if Mama Joyce IS right (again)? The scenes around Carmon clearly show her flirtting w/Todd. Flickin her back & lookin all jealous when Todd isnt paying her attention. Actually the only time we've seen Todd smile is when he met the trainer lady @ Kandis office & when hes talkin to Carmon in Kandis house, oh, & he was smilin after sleepin in Kandis house, while she's away, workin, makin himself breakfast, even Phaedra commented on how "relaxed he looked" but couldnt give Kandi ANY respect on their cell phone by lookin up at her after she asked him 2, twice, He just wanted the call with her to end, wonder if he was fixin Carmon a plate of that2? He looks miserable & annoyed around Kandi & especially annoyed around Riley. Where's the chemistry? As her friend, you gotta tell a girl the truth, Todd really isnt in 2 her, its evident, she's draggin it along for her "dream" & it's gona cost her big time. When he said: "I'm loosin jobs cuz of this relationship, Iv given so much 2 this relationship, I give love, stabilty" seems like that's gona b his exit position. Even though she's given up a whole lot more. She needs a wake up talk Cynthia.
Sometimes, black women may have a history in their families of not having a working marriage, one that is honorable and that is respectful and healthy. I think Kandi's family is one of these families that doesn't recognize what a healthy relationship looks like, so they are terrified because she is venturing into unchartered territory. Her mother and her aunts don't want her to get married because she is her mother's meal ticket and because they don't have a clue as what a real relationship looks like. I feel so sorry for her because she is going to have to stand up to her mother and her aunts if she ever wants to break the cycle.
Sadly, Kandi will never have a great relationship with any man, thanks to her Mom's influence. Kandi needs to realize that her Mom does not have her best interests at heart.
Kandi is behaving a bit like a diva this season and I blame her mother. Mama Joyce's obvious materialism is out of control regardless of anyone else's intentions, she needs to reign that in. Seriously? Did anyone ever let her know that chasing money just for the sake of it is low class and cheesy? I guess if you don't have that much class, then you wouldn't raise your kids to know not to take the best room away from anyone, let alone your host. It's called being gracious.
Yawn!! You need to go. By the number of posts you received last week and the week before, I'm not the only one who finds you boring. Why don't you add a. "Reading" class. If you say that or " shade " again I will scream!!! Bravo please!!!
I just watched the Housewives in Savannah, and I was shocked to see how disrespectful Kandi was when she took the Master Bedroom from NeNe. She needs to learn some proper etiquette when it comes to joining a group that is being led by their hostess. The Host or hostess always gets the Master bedroom unless they don't want it. How could Kandi be so ignorant even when she was told! Regarding Momma Joyce, you need to put her in her place or you will be without a partner. This will never end, she will tell you what to do forever if she gets away with telling you who you can and can not marry.
Cynthia, you are the exact type of close friend everyone needs. You clearly listen with your heart and you can see your compassion. You know when someone is truly being selfless when they cry with you and don't turn it around on themselves. You offered advise in a calm manner. Not the "YOU NEED TO TELL YO MAMA SOMETHIN" type of way, but in a way that knows there's a delicate way to have a real conversation with our mothers. Woman to woman. God bless.
I cannot give my opinion too much on Kandi mother and her whole relationship with Todd. I love my mom too as well and she is just as opinionated as Miss Joyce. I know it is hard Kandi, but maybe you should at-least see a therapist or a mentor at church. Talk to someone else who does not know you on a personal level. You are 37 and you have to decide what it best for you! Even though I do agree with your mom to a degree you have to learn on your own.
"Unless he's got a whole bunch of money and he's payin' & doin' stuff for them....No matter what kind of wedding you have, the problems still going to be there. If you don't check your Mom, you're going to lose Todd." STANDING OVATION FOR CYNTHIA!!!!!! Clearly, Kandi trusts & respects you enough to speak truth she rarely allows herself to share with anyone. While providing a 'soft place to fal', you combined your experience with honest perspective and a much needed reality check. Your tenderness & tact on camera dealing with Kandi has been the best part of the show. You present as the only friend whose full attention is on the friend indeed & not working some side agenda to further your own position on the show. Your attentiveness, compassion & concern always come from a genuine place that viewers can readily identify as true, core values. Sadly, the same can't be said about your castmates. You are without question THE CLASSIEST woman of this franchise. Thank you for sharing realness while navigating through the often pretentious reality show the majority of your castmates mistake for what viewers want. I hope we see more of you & Kandi keeping it real. She needs your support to do what deep in her soul she knows she must do. Wishing you & yours health, joy, prosperity & all the blessings of the season.
Hi Cynthia, I think it is disgraceful that Kandi's Mom acts out like she does. This woman is a piece of work. It appears that she has her daughter's interest at heart, but I don't think so. I think Joyce is afraid that she will lose money (because Kandi is supporting he now). Joyce is on her daughter's gravy train (disgraceful) and that is the bottom line as to why she doesn't like Todd. Or any other relationship that Kandi has (male or female). Kandi has to get real and realize that her Mother doesn't care for her like she claims, but she does care for her money. If Joyce had any self-respect, she wouldn't act like she does on TV showing how malicious she can be. This is one very greedy lady. Poor Kandi she is being fooled by her Mother and she has too much respect for her Mother (who really doesn't deserve it). I hope things turn out good for Kandi, she is a very caring, classy gal. She deserves much better treatment than her Mother is giving her.
The thing is that while you gave pretty good advice, your own mother, sister and the thousands of viewers who watch this show can see what you cannot: Peter is a liability. He is going to bring you to financial ruin with his business dealings and he seems to be a bit on the selfish side.
I really wish we as humans would view potential mates more objectively, with a magnifying glass rather than rose-tinted glasses. Most people want love and want a partner with whom to share their lives, but at what cost?
While I'm a little skeptical about Kandi and Todd's relationship (too early to tell, from a viewer perspective), I agree that Kandi should talk to her mom, to stand up for herself. The way in which her mother speaks is so cruel...if she really cared for her daughter more than herself, she would use more tact. Lunging after Kandi's friend is evident that Joyce is nothing but trash.
But back to you, Cynthia. I commend you for giving out advice based on the situation. You seem down to earth, which I like--but please do something about your own marriage. Most of the other wives seem to be achieving financial success, but you seem to be sinking. This shouldn't happen! Get a financial advisor and see your husband for what he really is.
Kandi, WAKE UP !!! Your mother doesn't want you to marry Todd cause she doesn't want to lose her meal ticket !! She's afraid she won't be getting as much Money, It's very sad to say but your mom doesn't want to see you happy. Todd's a great guy don't lose him.
Kandi, it just dawned on me why your mother dosn't want you to marry Todd. She's afraid to lose her meal ticket. She dosn't want to share your MONEY. you need to open your mouth and tell your mom she has to mind her business. Don't lose this great guy cause of your mom! I wouldn't stand for her attitude at all. WAKE up Kandi !!!!!
You have valid points and I can relate to most of them. However, have you ever seen a bride go to her dress fitting ALONE. I've never heard of that. Getting married is supposed to be a joyous, celebratory, and memorable event that's shared with friends, family members, and loved ones. I can't imagine working in a Bridal Salon/Store and in walks the bride to be alone for her dress fitting. I'd want to counsel her thinking she was crazy. The bridal fitting is also so the loved ones can give their opinion on the dress, although the bride has the final say.
@ms.mavin7 he didn't say that, he just didnt want or felt the need to discuss it with her mom...as it is none of her business
I wonder if anyone else thought what I did when Todd responded the way he did re. signing 'ANYTHING' in the midst of MJ's inquisition. I imagined him re-thinking marrying Kandi AT ALL, considering the ongoing revelaions of her dysfunctionally abuse relationship with her mama. What sane, self-respecting man wouldn't think again considering we've only been privy to the tip of this titanic iceburg.
And how much do I appreciate your comment. At least somebody can see past Todd. Todd hasn't put anything in the "relationship". The only thing I saw him contribute was moving into Khandi's bed. Men who genuinely love their women will go to the extreme and PROVE their love through ACTIONS, Todd has done nothing. Todd hasn't established a relationship with Riley and that would've been a huge start. The only time I see Todd is when he's entering or leaving Khandi's bedroom. How is he losing jobs because of the relationship when actors and actresses fly across country several times a week to tape episodes and spend little time on the weekends to be with their family. That's a half baked excuse that he came up with to call it quits. Khandi needs to prepare herself to return the engagement ring because it won't be much longer before we hear about Todd partying the night away with a lady who came from out of no where, or Carmon. His body language speaks volumes about the way he feels about Khandi.
I'm with you. There is something about Todd, but I can't put my finger on it because he rarely speaks. I do know that he is a mistake based on his response to MJ about what is fair for him to received if they were married for two years. I was expecting him to say, whatever I came to the marriage with and whatever we make together as a couple. Is he an opportunist? I think so.
I have noticed the way Carmon looks at him and the way he smirks when she is in the room. However, when he and Kandi are communicating, he very seldom smile. Kandi is a business women, but not too savvy from a relationship perspective. Maybe she will be happy when she comes out of the closet.
MaMa Joyce, is that you?! Kandi needs to make her own decisions & everyone should respect HER enough to allow her to do it without all these opinions. If, God forbid, she gets hurt in any way,, be there to love her through it...without any "Told Ya So's"! Thank you Cynthia, for being a friend to her! Lord knows she needed one!
Spot on analysis. MJ & aunts clearly subscribe to the 'misery loves/expects/demands company' mind set. Any parent who instills a 'you must defend/attack & be on my side even when I'm wrong' mentality or else you simply don't love me mind set is themselves a poster child for having children should be an earned privilege, not a biological entitlement. BEYOND SCAREY!
Khandi will have a successful relationship if she meets a man who's aligned with her emotionally, physically, and financially. Her mother asked Phaedra in her office why didn't she introduce Khandi to some of her lawyer friends. Like the next loving and concerned mother, Khandi's mother does have her best interests at heart. She wants to see her daughter with a successful person like her daughter.
@gossip2014 I agree, Cynthia is a friend I'd like to have. Plus she has such great style and class
You sound crazy.
Anyone with a smidget of common sense can see how Todd is STILL a player and yes, an OPPORTUNIST. Khandi is falling into the same LUST trap countless black females fall into when they claim they're in "love". How many women tried to WARN their best girl friends about the dude they were dating/engaged to; only for the hard headed female to learn years down the road that they played themselves listening to their "good" man.
I applaud Khandi's mom's efforts because she's been there and done it. Todd was no where to be found when Khandi became a rising star on her own accord, but Mama Joyce was. Joyce was the individual who protected Khandi's best interest then about crooked people in the industry trying to use her daughter for their selfish and personal gain, and she's trying to do the same thing now.
Joyce has the absolute right to be on her blood bone daughter's "gravy train"; as I understand it, Joyce was the only PARENT who raised her.
Joyce has more respect than you think. She doesn't have to bow down to a dude who's faking the funk and she needs to keep speaking her mind. Todd's body language speaks volumes about his sneaky demeanor.
Khandi is so lost in her FUNK; she thinks it's IMPOSSIBLE for her girlfriend to be creeping with Todd. What. How many times does "what's done in the dark will come to the light" happens. You know for a fact that the number of tricks who have stabbed their girlfriends in the back by having sex with their "man", fiancé, or husband is outrageously high. Sisters, aunts, and even bridesmaids have sex with "men" who are romantically linked to their women relatives.
What part of Khandi makes her "classy". Perhaps you invented your own definition of "classy" because Khandi is far from that.
but you can't confide about your marriage to your sister!! If she moves in with you, your marriage will be over.
I don't know if you live in ATL, but Peter's lounge rakes it in. It's the "it" spot out here. I don't see how that makes him such a "liability". Maybe you know something nobody else does?
@Mesue Totally agree
How do you know Todd is a "great" guy; do you know him personally?
@Mesue It's sad but true.
@RC333 No, I don't live in Atlanta. If it hadn't been for Cynthia's high profile, Peter wouldn't have the modicum of success that he has now. Also, he's had several failed business ventures before. Cynthia's also expressed concerns about their finances, so I stand by my comment.
"Peter's" lounge is the "it" spot for who; broke black people who struggle financial. Peter was an unheard of nobody (except for his relationship with Nia Long) before Cynthia married him. Nia Long was smart enough not to marry him and Cynthia should've followed suit. Peter didn't have Jack, Diddly, or Squat BEFORE Cynthia came along and her mother and sister tried to WARN her.
On another note, I don't see Peter being a positive role model for Noelle. Peter has multiple kids by women and one of his daughter's is older than Noelle exploiting near naked pictures across the internet. He doesn't appear to be a positive influence in his blood bone children's lives, so that leads me to believe the same will happen with Noelle.
Khandi deserves to be with a man who's emotionally, physically, and financially aligned with her. My comment about her mother being there for Khandi when she became successful refers to Khandi's undying and unsolicited loyalty to her mother. Khandi's mother doesn't have to say a word about her daughter's wealth because Khandi has already stated through tears how she will always take care of "my momma just because that's my momma". I don't believe there's a man alive who can distance Khandi from her mother. It's not just Khandi's mother who's clingy; Khandi is very much attached to her mother like white on rice. No, she can't and shouldn't trust her best friend with Todd or any man that she becomes involved with in the future. Not in this day. Are you kidding me. Do you know the number of black females who have stabbed their own blood sister in the back by having sex with their sister's husbands or fiancé's while smiling in her face the entire time - the number is outrageously high. No woman (despite her race or culture) in her right mind should trust her man around another woman; especially if the other woman isn't related to you.