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Peter "Must be Losing His Damn Mind"

Cynthia shares her reaction to her sister's extended stay and the fight with her husband.

Welcome back to another drama filled episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta! Let’s go!

We all know that I am not a big fan of surprises, and for whatever reason my life seems to be full of them. Surprise! Surprise! My sister Mal is back!!! And not only is she back, she plans on staying for a while. Like two months! Inhale. Exhale. OK, remember when Mal walked out of our anniversary party? Well, until now (and a few awkward phone calls here and there), we have not seen each other. She has been traveling abroad with her husband Chris (he plays basketball overseas) living between Paris, Argentina, Puerto Rico, and Korea for the past two years. Initially, for the obvious reasons, I welcomed the space (not more than Peter did! LOL!). However, at the end of the day, Mal is my only sister, and I did miss her. After a while, LOL.

So again, although there were a few phone calls over the past two years, we never discussed our big anniversary party blowout and things were just never the same between us. That said, I was happy when Mal showed up on my doorstep. Well, that happiness was kind of short lived when I realized she was moving in! Now, y'all know, family or not, ALL house guests eventually have an expiration date. But hey, a lot of time had passed and I was open to going with the flow. Like most things in life, things started off great! We played catch up and our sisterly chats were loving, funny, and even a little shocking!

Let me go on and get this out of the way right quick -- when Mal told me that she and her husband have sexual relations two to three times a day, I almost had to be carried out of the bead store! But then I thought, most of the time they are only together six months out of the year. When he is abroad playing ball, she spends half of the year with him and the other half at their home in Houston with her daughter. So then it started to make sense. When they see each other, it's always like a honeymoon and they get it in. Then she comes back to the states, and has six months to rest and reboot! In any case, I know that sex is a big part of any healthily marriage, and I have been doing my wifely duties on a more consistent basis since my fibroid procedure. Enough about that!

Speaking of wifely duties, let's move on to Peter. Lord, where do I start? OK, no marriage is perfect. Peter and I are most definitely a work in progress. To say the least! I understand Peter's frustration about Mal popping up on us. For two months! I think he would have been more receptive to a long weekend, a week, or even two weeks. Two months is a long time. I don't know! I felt like I was stuck between a rock and a hard place, because I understood Peter's point, but I was also kind of excited about reconnecting with Mal.

When it comes to family, sometimes you have to deal with things that you may not want to deal with. Let's see what happens.Next, I attempt to talk to Peter about husband/wife stuff -- finances, goals, business, and our sex life. Um, that didn't go too well. Did he really suggest getting a man cave across town? I am just going to cough that up to early signs of dementia. Clearly, he must be losing his damn mind!

Last but not least, I have a very big problem with the way Peter communicates when he is upset. He wants to get all loud and throw around a couple of his choice curse words. I am a communicator, and this drives me crazy. I am all for a good drag out argument every now and then, but the person that talks the loudest and uses the most curse words is not necessarily the winner of the argument. Therefore, I refused to turn up on him (let’s be clear, we all can get loud and cuss when we want to), because I think it's just a dumb way to try to have an effective conversation. Keep us in your prayers!

 

Thank you all for watching! I appreciate all of you. Trust me there is more drama to come! Make sure you tune in every Sunday night at 8/7c. Only on Bravo!

 



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Claudia: I Felt Good About the Reunion

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on NeNe Leakes' breakdown and the reunion as a whole.

Bravotv.com: What was going through your mind when NeNe walked off?
Claudia Jordan: Well the reunion was quite an experience. When NeNe walked off, initially I wasn't sure what was going on to be honest. But I did notice she seemed to be trembling, so I knew she was definitely feeling something very real to her. I just didn't know what set her off at that point. So at first I was a little taken back. I had never seen her cry, but we are all human and everyone has their breaking point.

Bravotv.com: Do you think NeNe had a real breakthrough?
CJ: I honestly did think at that moment she really did. Her demeanor was different afterwards. And I even heard from her after the show. That to me was a good sign that perhaps we could all really move forward and start fresh. I know I'm always open to squash some beef, especially if it's nothing deep rooted and something surface. I don't see why not. But like I said on the show, we all have a story and things that we have had to deal with and overcome. I think we need to not think our problems are bigger than the next woman's and respect one another's struggles -- whether we think they are major or minor. One woman's problems are not more important than the rest. And I think if we can all learn to be sensitive to the next woman, then we are on our way. Hopefully that moment was the catalyst for change in NeNe and in others as well.

Bravotv.com: Do you feel like everyone ended the reunion in a better place?
CJ: I'd like to think so. I do think some will probably never be open for change and are just stuck in their own way, while others really took advantage of the opportunity to take something from it all. I'm not going to worry about those that do not wish to grow and move forward. I will just focus and give energy to likeminded individuals that want to get along, move forward, grow, learn, and progress. I know I felt good about the reunion. I know I didn't chime in a whole lot. And I think I had good reason. You don’t get to see everything, but I felt it was important to let the people who had real issues with each other hash it out with no outside opinions, just like I said in the Philippines. When people interject their opinions and thoughts when it’s not their issue, it just adds confusion to the situation. One of the cast members in particular is good for that. Always adding "well I think..." when it has absolutely nothing to do with her, and I feel those extra unnecessary comments can potentially add fuel to the fire and then there is no coming back. So if my silence was going to help the progress of the group moving forward, then I will take that "L."

Yes, it's "cute" to "read" and get in an epic one liner or rant, but sometimes you just need to shut the hell up and let folks deal with each other and let them do them. I have no problems with that. Plus my opinion on everyone’s situation doesn't need to always be heard -- I wish more of us felt the same way. I will say that this seemed to be a great starting point for folks to move forward and put their money where their mouths are when it comes to being a grown ass woman. I really hope everyone wants to. It'd be great to see how things could go if we spent less time fussing and more time co-existing peacefully. #ThatIsAll

 

As the season has come to an end for me, I just wanted to say wow! What a roller coaster ride it has been! I had no idea getting into this that any of it would happen. I thought I'd come on board, have a little fun, bring a little light-hearted fun, and make some new acquaintances. This show is huge and everywhere I go people come up to me and say such amazingly sweet things, and I am truly humbled when they tell me how they can relate to me and appreciate my realness. I was particularly touched when a teenage boy who was gay and biracial that had always felt like an outsider reached out to me talking about suicidal thoughts he had. We spoke and I was beyond moved when he told me that he could relate to some of the things I spoke about and that I somehow inspired and encouraged him to keep going. Those are the moments that make all the drama and fussing and fighting truly worth it. I want to continue to use this amazing platform for important issues. Again I thank Andy, Carlos, Joy, Lauren, Stephen, the entire cast and crew for this amazing opportunity. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

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