Kandi Burruss

Kandi weighs in on her and Porsha's relationship issues.

on Nov 6, 20130

Well, here we go! The beginning of a very crazy season has just begun.

Todd feels like it’s our fault that Porsha and Kordell are getting divorced. He says that when she got around “The Get Fresh Crew,” as he called us, Porsha started acting in a way that Kordell was not happy with and that is the reason why he filed for divorce. What do y’all think? Do you feel like we influenced Porsha in a negative way? I hope not. I hate to see Porsha and Kordell going through this, and I hate that it seems to be getting ugly.

Well I can’t worry about someone else’s relationship right now. I have to focus on my own. Unfortunately I’m once again in a relationship that my mom doesn’t approve of, which adds so much stress to my life right now. I’m praying that things will change…

OK let’s move on to the crazy part of this week’s episode… Why did Kenya pull on NeNe’s ear during their argument? I can’t believe NeNe let that slide! I’m serious about not violating my personal space, especially during an argument. That move for me was a definite NO NO. Well, thank goodness things didn’t go left. I can’t say that for future episodes though…

446 comments
DeeDee5304
DeeDee5304

Kandi,

You need to show respect to your fans and the viewers by writing a blog each week.  I wish you and your family the best. 

Please let Phaedra and the rest of the ladies fight their own battle with Kenya.  Please don't follow them in refusing to tape with Kenya, because  sorry to say Kenya is the person that made the ratings.  NeNe was barely on last season and now her and Phaedra is trying to get Kenya fired.  TMZ stated that all of you ladies refuse to continue to do the show if Porsha is fired.  If this is true, then I hope Bravo call all of your bluff.  Bravo need to revamp the show anyway, I hope Kenya, Marlo, Lawrence and Derek continue to be on the show and hope Bravo find three or four more females to replace the women who choose to threaten Bravo.

PeaceEarthling
PeaceEarthling

Hello Kandi,


I can't take any more.....  PLEASE let me help you sort out your affairs.  lol


For Porsha - Please drop her from your production.  For her age, she shouldn't be so immature but the fact is.... she is.  As of the today, the show demonstrates she isn't invested.  Porsha hasn't even memorized the name of the character she is playing...  We all saw early on that she hadn't memorized any of the dialog and couldn't even put two sentences together.  Her voice is not going to carry her through.  She has a huge sense of entitlement..... and unfortunately, her seeking guidance from Nene is only going to add to her problems.  Nene can't even get her own ego out from in front of herself and she keeps tripping over it. Your family, your friends, your cast and crew and all of us in the world who adore you have earned the right to see you spread your wings with this musical and see it take flight.  Your relationship to God and how you express that through your art....  Thats what is most important now!  


As for your Mom.... Love her enough to get her into counseling.  Reaffirm to her that you love her but the way she is acting is way out of character for her previous personality (that is what comes across to the audience anyway) and this is concerning for you.  Reaffirm to her that you and Todd love each other, your plan is to move forward to get married and start your life together and you want her to be totally involved.  That said, you can only do that if she shows love and respect to all of the family members, which really does include Todd at this point.  I would suggest that you and Todd meet with her therapist first so you can give that person some history and background, then allow your Mom to move forward with individual counseling so she can sort out what is going on for herself.  The therapist can decide how involved you and other family members participate in family counseling.  You have really worked hard over your lifetime to find real true love, someone you want to marry and share eternity with, and to build your life and have it all come together.  Sometimes tough love is even needed for our parent(s) so you can find healthier relationships for all of you, down the road.  


Thank you for allowing me to put my frustrations on paper.....  I think this is the most I have ever gotten so involved in a tv program.  :-}   I hope some of my suggestions are helpful.  


Best of luck and prayers for you, Todd and your family as you move forward to deal with all of this stuff.  As for the musical....  Break a leg, Girl!  :-D


Debi 

(Washington state)

aka: PeaceEarthling




MicrosoftHottie
MicrosoftHottie

Let me say what we are thinking: Kandi is a cream puff and needs to grow a pair, Mama Joyce is extremely ignorant and lies constantly and will eventually tear every decent person her daughter knows away from her because she is a greedy, overbearing fool. Todd and Carmen are saints. I would have cussed Mama Joyce out so bad in the wedding dress shop she would have to had beat my behind. It's so painful to watch somebody be so weak towards their mother. Wrong is wrong. I don't care who you are.

golden.rule.311
golden.rule.311

Balance is the key.On one hand, MomJ needs to stop being so selfish and controlling and if not, Kandi needs to respectfully let her know that she must respect her or else their communication will be cut back drastically. On the other hand, Kandi needs to let her Mom know that she values her advice and will take it into consideration. It's good advice to tell your daughter to really think about the character of a man with so many kids by so many baby-mamas; to get a pre-nup; to keep other women out of your house when you have a husband there; even what she said about the ring. It was not WHAT she said, but how she said it. It should have been directed to Todd in secret, respectfully, not to Kandi (who was likely taking his finances into consideration since he has so much child support to pay) when she selected such a relatively inexpensive ring for her engagement ring. But after respectfully giving her advice, Mom Joyce needs to step back and keep quiet. That older generation of women chose such a bad time to give their opinion. It's supposed to be about keeping the bride happy, calm, and as stress free as possible. Not about them

Tululah
Tululah

Kandi is not a foolish girl. On one side I hear people saying Kandi is afraid of her mom and needs to grow a backbone, and on the other side I hear people saying momma Joyce need to get a life. I look at it this way; the only reason Kandi is entertaining why her mom says is because she knows her mom cares for her and is looking out for her best interest. Todd seems serious about NOT wanting to sign a prenup. Any one in Kandi or Miss Joyce's situation was take a pause for concern as well. Again, Kandi's NOT stupid and would rather let her mom drive the point home (YOU NEED TO SIGN THE PRENUP), than her. Trust me, there are nuggets of truth to what Miss Joyce is saying and both Todd and Kandi knows it. Now, this sleeping with the best friend thing is a bit out there because there is no real proof. To be honest, I think her making the case that he is on the down-low would be easier to prove but that's my two cents. If Kandi wants to maintain her millionaire lifestyle then she better act like a millionaire and protect her coins. 

doubled56
doubled56

To the bloggers here who feels that, Joyce is doing the correct thing of getting in Kandi relationship probably does the same thing to their kids. Upon your child becomes an adult we as parents need to butt out of who they decide to spend their life with, we can be there for advice when it's ask but not the way this lady is doing it. Last night she was totally "drunk" it showed in her eyes and her demeanor. When she arrived at Kandi house she walks in looking around the walls to count the number of pictures on her walls, who in the hell does that. This woman is fatal attraction to her daughter maybe she is in love with Kandi as the way a man and woman, I'm just saying. As other bloggers have stated she's psychotic and needs professional help now, with Kandi having all this money and being smart why not get medical health with her ........ She will cause kandi to lose Todd as she did AJ, Todd better run she may have someone to do him in with Kandi money. As watching the show last night that dam kandi try to act as if she's so tough; but she hid in the kitchen and allowed that woman to totally disrespect her man. I'm believing that Kandi is enjoying this, she appear that the attention she's receiving now is what makes her feel empower, and everyone needs her especially that thing she calls a mother. Todd run and get you someone who will love you for yourself

fille_canadienne
fille_canadienne

All her Mom is worried about is Todd cutting a slice of her cash-pie. I am a pretty intuitive person and I think that he was genuinly insulted by her accusations. It's like if a guy has less money than Kandi - he's not good enough to her. Well, Kandi is worth 30-40 million dollars or something - if she is going to leave Todd in order to look for someone she is compatible with AND rich, she's going to be single for the rest of her life. I'm sure that Kandi didn't get to where she is now by being reckless and impulsive, put a little more trust in your own daughter, mama Joyce! He works, unlike Apollo for example who's totally living off Phaedra and being a total arse!

numee3
numee3

Uuuh Mama Joyce, I was embarrassed for you after tonight's episode. If you put half as much energy into your personal happiness, you will find there is a lot less time to be so involved with others. You mentioning that you have people watching Todd's every move is so messy. It's almost as though you are treating Kandi like a child. As the mother of an adult son, you have to get to the point where you trust your own child rearing abilities. I feel very secure in the way I have raised my son and now that he is grown, I am no longer his mommy. But I am his mom, friend, and confident when he needs me to be. Oh did I mention, he is married and I'm her mom, friend and confident as well. When they dated, I wasn't sure she was the best choice but out of respect for my son, I advised when advice was sought and I trust him to make the best decisions for him. After all, he has to say good morning and good night, not me. So Ms Joyce, perhaps you don't trust that Kandi can handle her money as well as her man. The operative word is "her". It's her money, her live and she deserves to do with it as she pleases. After all, Kandi is one of the most hard working women in the music industry, not to mention all the other hats she is wearing. Give your daughter some space and take this opportunity to create the life you want for yourself. It's not too late you know.

titilaya
titilaya

P.S.  If I were Todd I would wonder how strong your commitment is to him.  When Todd discussed how upsetting your Mother made him all you had to say was that's just the way she is.  You didn't try to understand him and how much this hurt him.  Instead, you resorted to behaving like the little girl whose Mother dictates her life.  You are not a little girl who needs her "Mommy".  You are a grown woman who is trying to do a grown up thing: get married to a grown up male.  Stop taking up for your psychotic mother because there is no defense for what she is doing.  If you can't empathize with your partner now, God only knows what hornet's nest he is walking into if you two get married.  Mama will sleep (symbolically) between the two of you in your bed every night; she will have a place at your table for all meals; she will be the third wheel who will interfere in everything because you are allowing her to instead of establishing boundaries for her to stay in her lane.  Just because JOYCE has always behaved this way toward you does not mean it was right.  I'll bet if you threatened to withdraw financial support from her unless she stops interfering, she would get the message.  If that fails, then you need to tell her she has to get therapy and GET A LIFE so you can live yours in peace.

dogbone
dogbone

Kandi, I know you love your mother but sometimes that can cloud your perspective. She CLEARLY needs to get some professional help. Mental illness can develop at any stage of a persons life. A lot of people are commenting here that she is being selfish and just needs to but out. This goes way beyond that. She needs help.

Annag
Annag

Good God Kandi! What is the matter with you? I always respected my Mother, but it's not being disrespectful if you live your life as you choose to. You were my favorite of the housewives, but not anymore. I can't believe you are allowing your mother to dictate who you should be in a relationship with. You need to let your mother know that you love and respect her, but she either needs to get on board, or she'll end up not having a relationship with you or your daughter. Also, why all of a sudden did she need to have a house after you bought yours? She's a possessive busy body that needs to get a life.

Kmurray1175
Kmurray1175

Kandi, Kandi, Kandi you always say how you a Lady Boss, girl be a boss when you talking to your mom. I know you love her as everyone loves their momma, but she is crossing the line. You are self made, you are smart you take dam good care of her and your daughter so she can not run your life. Do what makes you happy. Todd seems genuine and if he is doing enough that you are satisfied then do you well do you and him. My God I can't believe your mom is putting you in that position. I hope your mom watches herself and reads the blogs because she is so very wrong for this. I think she is worried that you ain't gonna have enough to still keep her comfortable.

RetiredOne12
RetiredOne12

Kandi you need to tell mom to "fall back" and let you be the GROWN woman that you are. She seems as if she wants to keep you to herself so you can be alone like her also. She's scared she's going to lose her meal ticket if you get married.

Missie22
Missie22

Kandi, please stand up for your man.  Don't stand by while act like he and your mother has the problem and leave it to them to hash out, when, it's your mother who has the problem.  I agree with Todd, "it's not funny".  She wants to keep you to herself.  You should take Carmon's advice and tell her to get it together or else.  She'll get it together when she understand the boundaries.  If you are going to allow her to have this much influence, then you should not date anybody.   You can not allow her to come into your home and make Todd uncomfortable.   I'm sure he would allow his mother to come in and make you uncomfortable.

rebecca.miller01
rebecca.miller01

Kandi,

I agree with your mother because no one knows you better than your mother.  She has always been right and you should respect her opinion.  Todd has different faces.  He puts on a different face with you and a different face with your family.  And your mother has good judgement.  This guy is clever and he intimidates!  Please install some hidden cameras in your home and watch this guy.  I wouldn't trust him.  And fire that assistant/friend who works for you. 

 

Please have respect for Kandi's mother bloggers!  She deserves all the respect and all of Kandi's success is representative of her mother's influence and nurturing.  Men come and go!  Kandi, you can do a lot better.  Also regarding the ring, it was a cracker jack box ring.  I feel you deserve so much more.  Don't short change yourself and settle for Todd.  Take your time!  Todd has everything to prove and you have nothing to prove.  He needs to earn your mother's and daughter's respect!! And when you marry someone contrary to what everyone else says, you really do marry the entire family!  Good luck! I know you want to extend your family and surround yourself with love but Todd ain't it!

i.indie
i.indie

Kandi, your mom is not a nice person.  Just because she's your mama does NOT mean she gets a free pass to be cruel. You are supposed to be building a future with your fiance.  I can tell you that if my future spouse could not fairly and forthrightly stand up for me with his family - I woud be highstepping it out of the relationship. Period. if you don't respect me enough or hold me in enough esteem now, when things are easy, then you never will and I would NEVER choose that for my partner in life.  If this is your man and your future, then claim it.  Otherwise, let it go.

melinda71956
melinda71956

Kandi, please don't let your mom ruin a good relationship.  I was in tears last show and this show when it comes to the way your mom talks to you and Todd.  She is so selfish and when are you going to open your eyes about it all.  She is just greedy and selfish and I know you don't like to read anything negative when it comes to your mom, but seriously, you need to stand up for yourself and she needs to respect you as much as you respect her even through all the horrible, horrible things she says to you and about Todd.   She is never going to come around and when you said she is set in her ways, come on, she's not that old.  She is just a miserable, greedy and selfish person and you need to show her to the door once and for all.

NWViewer13
NWViewer13

I would NEVER let someone talk to my significant other the way you let your mother talk to Todd. You should be ashamed of yourself.  

mrsd@13
mrsd@13

Mama Joyce is out of control Kandi. She needs help.

NWViewer13
NWViewer13

You were all over Porsha about how controlling Cordell was "I won't let no man …" But you sure will let yo mama control you and your life.  It's clear you don't appreciate Todd and you should just stay a "mama's girl." Todd, you think it's bad now, just wait… RUN TODD RUN.  

angelacake
angelacake

>I swear to Gods Kandi your mama is crazy and the one you need to watch out for is her every argument is money and why don't she think you god enough that someone may actually just love you for you she is alone and miserably and wants you the same. Instead of focusing on Kendra work on you intruding self serving mama I respect you wanting to respect her but enough is enough its almost like she think you to dumb to make our own decisions. She working my nerve  she just selfish and you need to stand up or die alone

 

southern_goddess
southern_goddess

Kandi, if I were you, I'd be too embarrassed to write a blog as well.  No matter what you say, nothing can stop the viewers from seeing who the REAL opportunist is!

GAgirl1
GAgirl1

cut "mama" Joyce off from her gravy train and let's see how motherly she really is. She's so worried about someone taking HER cash cow away. Sad really... she's a psychotic.

Trvel
Trvel

Kandi, you say your mom has done this with a lot of other men you have dated. So what does that tell you? It's not about Todd, it's about your mom, who strongly appears to be afraid she'll lose out financially. If you get married, she won't get all the money, and she's made lots of comments that indicate that. It was hard watching you three in tonight's episode. If Todd's mom treated you the way your mom treated him, wouldn't you want him to stand up for you? You looked like a frightened child, and even moved away from the table to avoid the conflict. As a grown woman, you need to stand up. It's not a battle between your mom and Todd; it's between you and your mom....and they're called "boundaries." You need to set them with your mom- and stick to them. Your mom will not abandon you...would you abandon Riley if she stood up for her man? There's a great book I would hope you would read; it's called "Boundaries" by Dr.'s Cloud and Townsend. Excellent book -as a licensed therapist  I use it a lot with my clients and they love it! Good luck; you're such a sweetheart, and I would hate to see you lose Todd...he's crying out for you to stand up to your mom. It was unfortunately disgusting to hear her say the words to the song...and sad you made light of it. This is a serious situation, and until you put your mom "in check" you will forever feel stuck in the middle. I have 3 adult children; I can't imagine acting like your mom...even if I didn't like their choices. And I would disrespect them if they allowed me to behave like your mom.  It's all about the money for her.  Good luck to you!

hjackson1tobie5458
hjackson1tobie5458

i think  that kandi need to sit her mother down and have a long talk all do respect for her to stay out of her love life... and maybe her mother need to look for somebody for her self... ms. joyce is in to much of her daughter business...i   think she is smart young woman and she is not a teen... i   think that ms. joyce  need to back off and let her do what she what to do... kandi she is not a little girl.... she is a grow woman.... and she need to get some back bone and let her mother know  to back off in a respectful way..... kandi she is letting her mother run her life.... leave it up to ms. joyce kandi you will be alone just like your mother is..... she  dont want you with nobody..... but i think kandi move todd in to soon..... and i think that she should wait and not get marry yet date some more and get to know each other a little bit better before you said i do..... kandi take your time and be sure what you want..... i understand  what  your mother is saiding  she is looking out for you.... but your mother have to understand  that you are a grow woman and you have to make up your own mine..

terifairy1
terifairy1

OMG!! Kandi- what are you doing?! It is time to cut that cord and do what you want to make YOU & Riley happy.  I think you have created a monster with your mother and I am shocked to see you just sit there and take this nonsense. You are a beautiful, successful woman and for you to let your mom walk all over you because she doesn't like your man- well, all I have to say is if you allow her to continue to dictate YOUR life then you simply deserve what you get in the end.  Poor Todd- I feel so sorry for him to have to sit there and be nice to mama Joyce and she doesn't even acknowledge him- she did the dog though!! WAKE UP.  It should be your mom TRYING her hardest to like Todd if she's the one with the problem. It strikes me odd to know that your mom has been given 2 houses from you? Who is the insecure one here?  It looks like mama may not want to share you with anyone because her piece of the pie will be smaller.  Very sad.  You need to talk to your mom about boundaries because she is definately crossing the mother-daughter one.  Kandi- this is very unfair to Todd. He seems like such a great guy- please don't screw this one up and end up losing him. Good luck!!

sincethefirstepisode
sincethefirstepisode

Your mother and her shrill voice is really getting on my nerves.  You are a grown woman and need to tell your mother to back off.  She treats you like a child and you become childlike around her.  Kandi you really need to set her straight. 

tlbharris
tlbharris

Kandi,

 

Your mom has crossed the line waaay too much.  Her behavior, comments, and actions, were totally inappropriate.  Why didn't you stop her.  She is much too obsessive and over bearing about your relationships.  You are a grown independent woman, you will never please her, so don't try.  I do not believe she wants you to have anyone.  She needs to get a life.  She has no business talking about Todd to your daughter, especially saying negative things. 

She treats you like a child.  You need to nip this in the bud, mother or not.  It is not her place to judge your relationships.  A loving, caring mother knows her place, and has a balance.  She will destroy your relationship(s), and marriage if you let her.  I am sorry, but your mother acted as if she was crazy or intoxicated.

mstrafra
mstrafra

This show is becoming a little scripted for me.  Kandi's mother is not that evil.  She is being waaaaayyyyy to dramatic on camera for her daughters comfort.  I'm not sure if they lead her to be this dramatic maybe for some type of spin-off (because let's face it we would watch a spin off about the wedding with this much drama)  My personal opinion is I would not cause my daughter that much pain and trouble on camera.  It's one thing to be that monster-in-law in the family behind reality curtains but come on you do not embarrass your daughter and grand daughter and yourself on national t.v. to this extent.  No one wants to be arguing with their mother in front of friends much less on t.v. I mean what can Kandi do.  The conversation she needs to have with her mother should not be done in front of the camera.

 

kelkit
kelkit

I have always loved you, Kandi!  I still do, but your Mom calling Todd an opportunist seems ironic because I see her as an opportunist and very materialistic herself.  Just because she gave birth to you doesn't mean she gets to live off of you and run your life.  I think it is always wise to take into account what friends and family are saying about your significant other, but at the end of the day you are the one that has to live your life.  How rude she is to Todd would not be acceptable to me, and you need to stick up for him in those situations an shut that right down.  You cannot expect respect when you do not give it.  The way he responded to her craziness was so mature, and he is doing that because he loves you.  Cut her off, cut her out, until she starts respecting you and Todd.  If she wants to hold a grudge, then so be it.  Sometimes you have to cut the toxic people out of your life.  I am on team Todd for sure.  BTW, what is wrong with the woman being the bread winner in a family.  I am sure Todd was doing fine alone before you came along, and if he is being disrespected and mistreated in the relationship, he will be okay alone again.  Read between the lines, he is telling you that he will leave if this keeps up.

Sam64
Sam64

Wow Kandi...you need to put your mother in her place. She was so disrespectful to Todd. He was so calm...I would not have been. Who is she to discuss a prenup with him? If anyone isn't providing it is her by having Kandi pay for everything or her....that is totally wrong. Keep Todd and cut off your mother financially. It is NONE of her business which ring he buys for her..how rude of her to say it was cheap. Kandi you should not have just sat there while your mother continued to belittle your fiancé.

debharrington
debharrington

Unfortunately, your mother has shown the world a very ugly side. You deserve happiness but it appears that your happiness is a threat to hers.

txtita
txtita

Mama or not, if she were mine, her butt would be out of my house!

Rodshundria
Rodshundria

I think that momma have to let Kandi make her own decisions when it comes down to her relationship.  If Kandi is making a mistake or If that man is not good for her then she will have to find out on her own.  I think momma need to get her a man and she can get out of Kandi relationship.

takenotice
takenotice

I feel like Mama Joyce is the opportunist. It seems like the real issue is there won't be anything for her. Did she pay for the house Kandi "GAVE" her? Parents generally don't take anything from their kids without paying for them. Mama Joyce a lot of people are seeing you, for you!

VGail-BravoFan
VGail-BravoFan

Since it appears Kandi has refused to blog on any other episode, I have to comment on this old post. Kandi's mother may have concerns about Her choice in men, but her way of handling it is horrible. She is clearly self-serving, disrespectful and hateful in her ways. It disgusts me. What bothers me even more is Kandi's inability to speak up and let her mother know that, in no uncertain terms, that she is a grown woman and will make and live by her own decisions. Kandi's behavior is ridiculously childlike, I wonder whether or not she was emotionally abused growing up. Riley has more sense than her mother or grandmother, which is sad. I hope Kandi watches this footage, opens up her eyes and realizes how bad both her mother and her look. I'd be thoroughly embarrassed it Mrs Joyce was my mother.

Pattilouise58
Pattilouise58

OMG Kandi, if you don't sit your selfish mother down, i will! Its clear she competes and feels threatened by every man you love! She needs consequence from you, until she does the right thing. Time out, isolation. Hard for you but necessary!!

vcpitts
vcpitts

You are an amazing woman, great person, friend, and all that, BUT you can still be respectful of your mother AND tell her "MIND YOUR BUSINESS."  Think about it - every single day shouldn't have to turn into a test for Todd just because your moms doesn't want to butt out.

Barbarabvs
Barbarabvs

By this time everyone should have sobered up, or woke up.  Joyce needs to bud out.  Kandi,  move on and

let Riley know that she is with you and your future husband.  Your mama needs to wake up or sober up.

dtylah721
dtylah721

History is yet repeating itself. Mamma joyce is just concerned about kandi money. I mean its obvious. she doesn't even have valid or accurate information about todd to be actin the way she is. She was the same way with Aj. her excuse was that he had four baby mommas and child support. but what is it now? she don't truly know how much hes makin, she not concerned about wether her daughter is happy, and she's lying on riley sayin that she told her she didn't really like todd. All she has shown to care about was the money. and although that is important, it still is extremely selfish of her. Kandi is her meal ticket. and she fears that once Kandi gets married, she'll stop doing things for her. Even her employee was like whats gon happen to my checks. Completely disrespectful and out of line. Seems like all their worried about is them and theirs. Dissing her ring, the one she wanted btw. Honestly if she doesn't harness her mother. And put an end to the disrespect, Mamma joyce is gonna manipulate, and drive a wedge btwn Kandi and Todd.

Kandi is a grown woman. She's smart and she cn handle herself. Mamma joyce needs to fall back and let her daughter live her life. Nothing wrong with parental concern until it gets in the wa of real, true love.

april1956
april1956

It is just really simple Mama Joyce needs to butt out. Stop causing friction where none needs to be. Kandi your daughter Riley gave you wonderful advise. Take it. 

Robin08
Robin08

I'm gonna defend Momma Joyce.  Though I think she might be more effective if her approach were a little less strident (so often the way you say something is as important as what you say).

 

One general rule I have found to be generally true is if your family has issues with your intended don't dismiss what your family has to say -- they are usually right -- they usually see what you don't see or don't want to see.  The point where Momma Joyce really should have planted her flag IMO is attempting to stop Kandi from letting Todd move in.

 

The one thing that concerns me about Kandi is an air of desperation (for lack of a better word) when it comes to her relationships with men and the effect this has on her judgment.  Instead of letting her relationships build organically, instead of letting the man woo and pursue and fully get to know each other, she seems quick to go from 0-100.  Moving a man into your house automatically pushes the relationship to the highest level rather than allowing it to get there naturally.

 

I think both Momma Joyce and Riley recognize how Kandi's judgment is impaired when there's a man in the picture.  Kandi wants it so bad it colors how she see's everything.  IMO Riley is a top priority and Riley's comfort level is a priority factor.  IMO Riley should have been considered/consulted in the decision to move Todd in (I think the move-in was a mistake) and Riley should be considered regarding the marriage.

 

I understand where Momma Joyce is coming from.  I think she knows Kandi wants very badly to have a man and be married if the man is willing to marry her.  I think both Momma Joyce and Riley know that Kandi gets a little goo goo ga ga when there's a man in the picture and is inclined to do whatever and see the situation how ever the man wants her to see it.  I can see being concerned about trusting Kandi's judgment because I do think Kandi has an air of desperation (again for lack of a better word) when it comes to men.  I think she'll take pretty much whatever they're dishing out, like the last guy who had so many children.

 

They definitely need a prenup if they get married.

 

sheleata.colemanjackson
sheleata.colemanjackson

 @doubled56

 Amen! I totally agree! The lady is totally out of her lane. And Kandy really need to put her in her place. I would never do my ADULT child that way. Where is the RESPECT!

 

orthogoddess
orthogoddess

 @rebecca.miller01

 Kandi CHOSE the ring NOT Todd! And Joyce doesn't deserve anyones respect when she acts like a total fool.I am embarrassed for them all.

tlbharris
tlbharris

 @Barbarabvs 

 

I thought it was only me.  I kept saying, is she drunk.  What is the matter with her.  Who acts like that with their grown, independent daughter.

MrsCee
MrsCee

 @Robin08

 I totally agree, he know that she is desperate to get married and have another child. I somewhat agree with Momma Joyce. There is something about that Carmon gal I do not trust. Todd does not want to sign a pre-nup because he knows what he will be missing out on, if he didn't sign it there would be no marriage. Even Don Juan is concerned about what is going to happen to his paycheck because he can see what Riley and Momma Joyce see.

CookieKake
CookieKake

 @Robin08 Oh BS! Kandi knows what she wants! Shes not a little girl. She has Bedroom Kandi for crying out loud!! lol so I think she knows what she wants & how she wants him. Mama Joyce is out of line! Riley likes and agrees with Kandi and wants her mom happy! DUH!

Leave it a lone, please. Kandis a grown women and she's been with Todd for a year...NOT a week!!

Don't listen to the crap Kandi. Get married and be happy with Todd. He's good for you doll!

melinda71956
melinda71956

 @Robin08

 You understand where she is coming from, why because you are selfish and greedy like her.  Obviously you are not watching the same show, they did not know each other for a hot second and moved in together.   Kandi has never shown an air of desperation.  She is a very successful women and deserves happiness. You are talking out of your ...

Trvel
Trvel

 @Robin08 

What you said would make sense if this were the first and only man Joyce acted this way about. Kandi clearly said her mom has been like this with other men she's with. From what I remember, Kandi and Todd knew each other for a year (?) before he moved in. How is that rushing? What do you base your comments about Kandi needing to consult with Riley? It appears she does talk with her. And if you recall, Joyce lied to her own daughter about what Riley said - it was Joyce that said it, not Riley. Joyce is acting selfishly, and is fearful she will lose out financially if Kandi marries ANYBODY. That's not a "momma;" that's a selfish opportunist who needs to step back. She's too used to getting away with running Kandi's life.

tlbharris
tlbharris

 @Robin08 

 

Her mother is totally out of line, and too disrespectful.  Kandi is a grown, independent woman.  She is probably footing her mothers bill.   She seemed as if she was intoxicated.

kcsandiego0070
kcsandiego0070

 @Robin08

Your general rule does not apply in this situation because it's obvious everyone (including Momma Joyce) doesnt have Kandi's best interest at heart but are more concerned about their finacial well being (which is based on Kandi)

 

Feeling pretty confident that Kandi won't get married without a Prenup.  This is a woman who has been behind and infront of the scenes in the nusic industry and still is worth millions.  This is a woman who purchased a great home while keeping her finances in mind.  As she said in one of her interviews, she wrote "No Scrubs".  She's not stupid. 

 

Kandi is in love with a man who loves her too! Does the household income always have to be equal. The man makes decent money, just not millions.  Momma Joyce, layoff!!  Your daugher is not going to abandon you or put you in a postion to be homeless after GIFTING you a home.  She for sure is not going to put her daughter in a position that would not be financially beneficial for her future.

 

Todd bought her the ring she requested and her mother still criticized it.  What does this man have to do to make the family and leeches happy?  He is obviously making Kandi happy....