Cast Blog: #RHOA

Joyce Should Trust Kandi

Kenya: Cynthia Commanded the Runway

Phaedra: You Don't Often Come Across Hair Burglary

Cynthia: "I Pray We Can Make Peace"

Claudia: I Could Relate to Cynthia's Insecurities

Cynthia's "Non-Conversation" with NeNe

NeNe: The Pit Bull Act is Not a Good Look

Kenya: If It Looks Like a Fraud...

Phaedra: "I Moved Past This Years Ago"

Claudia: I Am Not Asking for Sympathy

GIF Recap: Saltines, Anyone?

Kenya: Why Would Apollo Try to Hurt Phaedra?

Cynthia: "My Heart Went Out to Kenya"

Phaedra: "NeNe Made a Fair Observation"

Claudia on Her Sit-Down With Porsha

GIF Recap: Pushed to the Brink

Cynthia: Porsha's THOT Comment is Too Ridiculous

Kandi: Cynthia Can't Win for Losing

Phaedra: Cynthia's Behavior was Unbecoming

Claudia on NeNe's Thirsty Comment

Don't Insult Kenya's Virtue

GIF Recap: New 'Wife, New Shade

Phaedra on Being "Super Mommy"

Kenya: I've Never Been Anyone's Whore

Cynthia: I Felt a Connection with Claudia

Kandi: I Felt Bad for Kenya

NeNe Talks Zumanity, Apollo's Shocking Reveal

Claudia on Meeting the 'Wives

GIF Recap: She's Baaack...

NeNe: "I was a Rock for Phaedra"

Cynthia on Her Friendship with Kenya

Kandi: I'll Always be Honest with Phaedra

Phaedra: "It was Apparent the Marriage was Over"

Kenya: This is My Season of Redemption

GIF Recap: Oh the Zumanity!

Housewives Then and Now: Atlanta Edition

Kandi's Post-Reunion Plans

Cynthia: "I Don't Think I Did Anything Wrong"

Tweet Recap: Reunion Part 3, Kenya vs. NeNe

Kandi: "My Mom Needs a Camera Around Her at All Times"

Lawrence: Momma Joyce Slayed the Girls

Joyce Should Trust Kandi

Kenya thinks Joyce needs to have more faith in Kandi and her decision to marry Todd.

SHOE FETISH

I recently served as maid of honor for one of my best friends. I consider myself as her family. When Mama Joyce told Carmon it was a family affair, I was offended for her. I have been in the company of Mama Joyce many times and she is a sweet, caring, warm person. Having said that, even when emotions are running high, it is never a reason to be taken out of character. I was disappointed to see her take off her shoes as if to prepare for battle or throw them at Kandi’s BFF from childhood, whom she considers a daughter herself. Mama Joyce must contain her inner angst and allow Kandi to live her life, trust that Kandi will protect herself, and understand that she instilled the values in Kandi that have made her the sharp, successful business woman she is today.

INVISIBLE

Ironically, I would rather have a mother that acts inappropriately to protect me than not have a mother at all. My Aunt Lori is my mother’s sister and has always been a mother figure to me. She is smart, driven, successful, and kind. Since birth, my mother made the decision at age 16 to pretend she never had me. She has never spoken to me. Even if present in the same room with other people and family, she pretends that I simply don’t exist. She pretends I’m invisible.

I fully understand that there has been a void in my life because of this, which relates to my romantic relationships. I have never had any issues with falling in love, dating, sustaining long-term relationships, or attracting great men in my life, who have loved me unconditionally. Although I have had now seven proposals of marriage, I have never accepted one.

As my Aunt pointed out, I choose “unavailable men.” I’ve never wanted a married man or one that is in a relationship. I acknowledge I have a pattern of falling for men who are emotionally unavailable, physically unavailable in terms of distance, or categorically unavailable with respect to time or where they are in life. For instance, some men know they are not ready for marriage. Perhaps my pattern is that I unconsciously seek rejection or failure with these men, which sadly mimics my mother’s relationship.Although I have suffered a great deal of pain from my mother, my understanding of my own pathology is a step toward healing. Everyone has a story. Everyone has suffered loss, pain, or rejection on some level. My story of my mother has been written and published for 42 years. My story of having a family of my own is still being written. I have had a series of unfortunate setbacks, but I have faith in knowing that God has a plan for me. My Aunt believes that if a baby is what I want now, then I should focus on that. For me, I will explore all my options as I have someone special in my life. I have learned my lesson about pressuring a man for marriage. With that said, I will continue to work on myself so that I can be the best woman, friend, companion, and mother to my future children… Godspeed.

Kenya

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Phaedra: You Don't Often Come Across Hair Burglary

Phaedra Parks weighs in on Derek J's unusual case and how she won "most eccentric" in high school.

Bravotv.com: Were you glad you let NeNe and Cynthia have their discussion alone? Were you optimistic they would be able to work it out?

Phaedra Parks: NeNe and Cynthia were very close friends, and their problems had nothing to do with the rest of us. Out of respect for their relationship and privacy, I felt it was best to let them have time alone. I’m glad we did because, as history has proven, when the rest of us start interjecting and expressing opinions, things escalate very fast and usually not in a good direction. The last thing NeNe and Cynthia needed was all of us inserting ourselves into their situation.

Bravotv.com: Were you surprised when Derek J came in with his burglar case? Was it the strangest case you’ve ever worked on, and, if not, what case was the strangest?

PP: I wasn’t surprised at all, as we live in a very litigious society. The number of frivolous lawsuits has increased significantly in recent years and gets more interesting as the years go by. Derek J has worked very hard to become very well known in his field. Unfortunately, this makes him a target for people who are looking for money, fame, and/or attention. Too often, people access money, fame, and/or attention by making sensational claims/accusations at the expense of those who have worked hard to achieve success and notoriety. I have to say this is probably one of the more unusual cases I have been involved with; you don’t often have people being accused of hair burglary. It’s not every day that you have to counsel someone who has been accused of high jacking some used hair extensions.

Bravotv.com: Why did you win “most eccentric” in high school?

PP: I have always prided myself in taking the road less travelled and not being afraid of being different. My high school classmates voted me “Most Likely to Launch an Internet Business,” “Most Likely to be a Millionaire in 10 Years,” and “Biggest Flirt,” but when it comes to "most eccentric," I know I'd rather be a little weird than all boring -- that's just me!

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