Cast Blog: #RHOA

Kenya: NeNe Doesn't Know How to be a Friend

Kenya shares her thoughts on NeNe's behavior at her event.

SAVING OURSELVES

ROLLER DERBY

This was a lot of fun! Being from Detroit, I often went to the roller skating rink. I can skate backwards, forwards, and even twirl on skates, LOL! This brings back great memories of carefree, fun times with no drama. All the women were able to move past the pillow talk night and no one tried to place the blame solely on me except for NeNe and Phaedra.

OLIVE BRANCH

NeNe and I are both survivors of domestic violence. I, particularly, have a penchant for any charity that supports women and helps young girls thrive. Saving Our Daughters (SOD) is one I too firmly believe in and thought would help a lot of girls in need with their struggles in life. Previously, I promised NeNe that I would throw an event to benefit her favorite charity. That I did with no ulterior motive.

I may not do everything perfectly right, but my heart was in the right place. Although I do not owe NeNe anything, out of respect for our friendship at the time, I only wanted to do something kind for her and to benefit a great charity -- a win-win situation.  This was my sweeping gesture…my olive branch. However, you don’t take an olive branch and beat someone with it. Each and every girl received the same invitation outlining my event details, dress code, program, etc. The electronic invitation my team used tracked all the invitations. Therefore, we could see that NeNe not only RECEIVED the evite but READ the invitation as well. However, she chose not to respond. Instead of calling me with questions, she contacted the charity and confirmed their support for the event weeks prior. She also heard from Cynthia and Marlo about the event, other Housewives, and PR staff. Does this sound like a woman who didn’t know anything about the event as she claims? If you believe that lie, I have a bridge I want to sell you.

Initially, I wanted to surprise her with my decision to make her the guest of honor, which is why I didn’t personally call her. However, as rumblings went on about her not getting a call from me, I immediately called her and received no response resulting in me texting her. To my dismay, she furiously responded in a nasty, disrespectful manner. Again, all knowledge of the event took place prior to the event. Once NeNe did learn, she made her own choice how to conduct herself.

I commend Cynthia for the class act that she is and her many attempts to protect NeNe’s image by advising her to do the right thing and attend. Alternatively, NeNe could have declined coming altogether, sent someone to accept on her behalf, or come and graciously accept her honor and ask people to be generous and donate, then, speak to me privately later. Yet, she did none of the above. Proving money can’t buy you class.ICE QUEEN

NeNe is no queen bee.  Actual queens are dignified, beloved, regal, and gracious, and don’t walk into a room with their noses in the air… none of the aforementioned is applicable to NeNe. When she arrived, she never spoke to me, but she had her nose in the air the entire time, and never once exhibited a shred of humility, decorum, or class. After she snatched the microphone from me all the guests gasped. What’s most disturbing than anything is her “I am bigger and better than anyone” attitude.

I have only been a friend to her. But clearly NeNe is the one who doesn’t know how to be a friend and ices anyone who goes against her. She disrespects her friend’s husband by telling Peter to stay out of women’s business, but it was OK when she set me up so that Christopher could verbally attack me over my issue with his woman.  The truth is NeNe resents me for her own egotistical reasons and the world sees it. Her light has dimmed and she is clinging on to a title of being #queenbee. The truth is, there is enough light for us all to shine.

“None of these bitches here are on my level I’m on” –NeNe Leakes

Well, NeNe is correct. We are all in fact above this petty, hate-filled, ego-tripping-one-woman-show-paranoid-hateful-drama of hers. We do not think we are better than other Housewives, because we all are on the same show the last time I checked.  Oh, speaking of being above someone…Kandi is a Grammy award-winning songwriter and astute businesswoman and actual “rich bitch,” Cynthia is an accomplished model and businesswoman, and Phaedra is an attorney, and I am  a former Miss USA and the only one in the group with an actual crown.  Unlike NeNe, I can’t be dethroned as I’m a part of history. With that said, NeNe is a former stripper with a few short-lived gigs in Hollywood given to her by one man. My scoreboard says that makes HER not on our level. I’m not sure about you, but I’m looking forward to the future of RHOA, not the past. BLOOP!

Claudia: Some People Have a Vendetta

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on the group therapy session.

Bravotv.com: Did you feel like progress was made at the therapy session?
Claudia Jordan: I do and I don't. The main people that needed it were not willing participants. One took off because she couldn't deal with hearing about how her actions affected the rest of the ladies. And the other that stayed, well… she received apology after apology without ever acknowledging any of her own wrong doing. That's not right at all. How is it that the woman on the receiving end of a physical attack has apologized to her assailant on several occasions, yet she has yet to show any remorse? That's downright insane to me! At the end of the day, there are lots of situations in this group where one can claim they were "provoked," and if the response/excuse every single time was physical violence, we'd all be in jail! And the sad thing is in this particular environment I felt that everyone else there was really ready to do the work and participate. So if ever there was a time to drop the ego and do the right thing and apologize simply for the purpose of starting the healing process for the group, then that was the time. Some people are just too stubborn and refuse to humble themselves. That happens when you are babied your entire life -- you feel like you can do no wrong. The rest of the ladies (including myself) however have all apologized and taken responsibility for contributing to the discord. But just pay attention to who never apologizes and who always does. I do not think that is because one "group" has been causing all the negativity in the group. But I do think that is because some have an agenda and a vendetta, while the other group is actually trying to make things cool and move on.


But on the flip side I will say that therapy was beneficial. In that one session we did get some good guidance from Dr. Jeff, who I would like to apologize to on behalf of the group for how he was mistreated. He came to help us and was insulted, disrespected, and his professionalism was questioned, which he did not deserve. So Dr. Jeff, I am sorry for how you were mistreated. The session did just highlight that some of us are mature and able to speak respectfully to one another, even if we have an issue with them, and some just cannot stand the sight and sound of someone we have decided not to like just because. All in all we did the best we could, and everyone who stayed did seem to really want to get along. And things were definitely better at work after the session. We were cordial and friendly.

Bravotv.com: Why did you decide to meet with Dr. Jeff one-on-one?
CJ: I have never, ever once claimed to be perfect or without flaws. And when I say I want to really resolve things, I am not just offering lip service -- I really mean it. If there is something that I am doing wrong that is contributing to any of the strife amongst the group, then I'd like to address it and do my part to work on me. I think most of us have issues with others because of past hurts that we perhaps never really dealt with and that cause us to act out in certain ways that may bother others. I am not saying I do this necessarily, but I have no problems talking to someone to at least try to be a better person. I for sure have made my share of mistakes and have experienced a lot of pain and disappointment in my life, but I've also been extremely blessed. But at the end of the day, my intention is always to grow and learn from it all and to be a better woman today than I was yesterday. Dr. Jeff is great at what he does and was for sure an asset to the group. Thank you, Doctor!

Bravotv.com: Did you and Porsha manage to get back to a better place?
CJ: It seemed that way. But I had made the decision that regardless of whether or not she was going to continue the peace treaty, that I was going to do my part to keep it cool, polite, and cordial. And so far so good.

Again I'd like to thank the fans for all their support and love and enthusiasm for #RHOA! I was in Miami Beach and Miami Gardens with the morning show this past weekend for Jazz in the Gardens, and the love I got from all the fans of the show was next level! I was truly flattered and humbled, and I will never let any of this get to my head and change me. I'm grateful to be a part of this and for all the amazing opportunities that keep sprouting from this. I just wrapped a movie called The Hills that I have a lead role in, which will be out in the fall, as well as another film called Love is Not Enough. I'm also working on a product line (to be announced soon) and more calls have been coming in from Hollywood for more great acting roles. I also had a great time with my girls in Miami and ran into a bunch of awesome people doing their thing that love the show too! I feel so rested and at peace. I'm healthy, happy, and appreciative. #ThankYouGod

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