Cast Blog: #RHOA

Kenya: NeNe Doesn't Know How to be a Friend

Kenya shares her thoughts on NeNe's behavior at her event.

SAVING OURSELVES

ROLLER DERBY

This was a lot of fun! Being from Detroit, I often went to the roller skating rink. I can skate backwards, forwards, and even twirl on skates, LOL! This brings back great memories of carefree, fun times with no drama. All the women were able to move past the pillow talk night and no one tried to place the blame solely on me except for NeNe and Phaedra.

OLIVE BRANCH

NeNe and I are both survivors of domestic violence. I, particularly, have a penchant for any charity that supports women and helps young girls thrive. Saving Our Daughters (SOD) is one I too firmly believe in and thought would help a lot of girls in need with their struggles in life. Previously, I promised NeNe that I would throw an event to benefit her favorite charity. That I did with no ulterior motive.

I may not do everything perfectly right, but my heart was in the right place. Although I do not owe NeNe anything, out of respect for our friendship at the time, I only wanted to do something kind for her and to benefit a great charity -- a win-win situation.  This was my sweeping gesture…my olive branch. However, you don’t take an olive branch and beat someone with it. Each and every girl received the same invitation outlining my event details, dress code, program, etc. The electronic invitation my team used tracked all the invitations. Therefore, we could see that NeNe not only RECEIVED the evite but READ the invitation as well. However, she chose not to respond. Instead of calling me with questions, she contacted the charity and confirmed their support for the event weeks prior. She also heard from Cynthia and Marlo about the event, other Housewives, and PR staff. Does this sound like a woman who didn’t know anything about the event as she claims? If you believe that lie, I have a bridge I want to sell you.

Initially, I wanted to surprise her with my decision to make her the guest of honor, which is why I didn’t personally call her. However, as rumblings went on about her not getting a call from me, I immediately called her and received no response resulting in me texting her. To my dismay, she furiously responded in a nasty, disrespectful manner. Again, all knowledge of the event took place prior to the event. Once NeNe did learn, she made her own choice how to conduct herself.

I commend Cynthia for the class act that she is and her many attempts to protect NeNe’s image by advising her to do the right thing and attend. Alternatively, NeNe could have declined coming altogether, sent someone to accept on her behalf, or come and graciously accept her honor and ask people to be generous and donate, then, speak to me privately later. Yet, she did none of the above. Proving money can’t buy you class.ICE QUEEN

NeNe is no queen bee.  Actual queens are dignified, beloved, regal, and gracious, and don’t walk into a room with their noses in the air… none of the aforementioned is applicable to NeNe. When she arrived, she never spoke to me, but she had her nose in the air the entire time, and never once exhibited a shred of humility, decorum, or class. After she snatched the microphone from me all the guests gasped. What’s most disturbing than anything is her “I am bigger and better than anyone” attitude.

I have only been a friend to her. But clearly NeNe is the one who doesn’t know how to be a friend and ices anyone who goes against her. She disrespects her friend’s husband by telling Peter to stay out of women’s business, but it was OK when she set me up so that Christopher could verbally attack me over my issue with his woman.  The truth is NeNe resents me for her own egotistical reasons and the world sees it. Her light has dimmed and she is clinging on to a title of being #queenbee. The truth is, there is enough light for us all to shine.

“None of these bitches here are on my level I’m on” –NeNe Leakes

Well, NeNe is correct. We are all in fact above this petty, hate-filled, ego-tripping-one-woman-show-paranoid-hateful-drama of hers. We do not think we are better than other Housewives, because we all are on the same show the last time I checked.  Oh, speaking of being above someone…Kandi is a Grammy award-winning songwriter and astute businesswoman and actual “rich bitch,” Cynthia is an accomplished model and businesswoman, and Phaedra is an attorney, and I am  a former Miss USA and the only one in the group with an actual crown.  Unlike NeNe, I can’t be dethroned as I’m a part of history. With that said, NeNe is a former stripper with a few short-lived gigs in Hollywood given to her by one man. My scoreboard says that makes HER not on our level. I’m not sure about you, but I’m looking forward to the future of RHOA, not the past. BLOOP!

Claudia: NeNe Turned Up, Not Me

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on the tense moment with NeNe Leakes.

Bravotv.com: What did you think of Cynthia's acting in Kenya's pilot?
Claudia Jordan: I thought Cynthia did a great job and was very funny and believable. It was an over-the-top character, and Cynthia committed and gave 100%. I thought she came off really cute! I told her that she should continue pursuing a career in acting.

Bravotv.com: Was the vibe still positive between everyone at Phaedra's event?
CJ: Yes, the vibe was still good between all of us that went on the trip. I was pleasantly surprised that we were all able to be around each other, be civil, and greet each other and not be rude or nasty. I didn't know what our duties would be when I agreed to attend the event -- all I knew was that we made progress on the trip to the Philippines and there was no reason for me not to go and support. So when we arrived and were told we were just going to be in the kitchen making plates, I put on my apron and got to work.

Bravotv.com: What was going through your mind after the confrontation with NeNe?
CJ: I didn't feel I was out of line at all! I was not loud and no one heard me in the audience at the event. I kept a calm, cool tone. I was standing next to NeNe in the kitchen making plates, and I certainly wasn't going to ignore the woman for the entire time while we're supposed to be working together. So I started making small talk. And it started off fine, I asked how her health was and told her that it was too bad she couldn't make the trip because of her blood clots. Then I said we hadn't seen her since the Dr. Jeff session that she put together, and she started insulting me and Cynthia, while never once making eye contact or acknowledging Cynthia, which was very rude. Then she started talking at us, not to us, and raising her voice to the point where she could be heard in the other room. She turned up at the event, not me. So when she threw out the false statement that we had said very rude things about her (or something like that), I wanted to know what she was talking about, because it just wasn't true, and one thing I hate is being lied about. If you are going to throw that out there, you better have examples. I found it funny and ironic that this woman was standing there lying about me without taking any responsibility for anything that she has said about everyone else. My thing is this -- we all have been shady, but do not act like you are such a victim of everyone else's shade when you keep on doing it over and over again -- then you wonder why folks don't accept your apologies…


I started off saying hello, being kind, smiling, making eye contact, and attempting to work together. I thought there was nothing wrong with my tone. When NeNe made comments about "taking it to the streets," I was surprised. What has really transpired between us to get to this point? All I did was expect an answer to a question, and now someone wants to fight? Girl, bye! We are both over 40 and we will not be jeopardizing anyone's delicate hip bones with a street fight!
Although it was a step backwards with NeNe, I'm still happy with how everyone else at this point was still being cordial and doing their part to keep as much of the group on good terms as possible. When NeNe exited we finished the event in good spirits. I explained to Phaedra and Porsha what had happened between me and NeNe, they didn't hold it against me, we went back to serving the men at the event nice warm meals, and we laughed and took pictures together. So no one was mad that day. Just saying...

I just wanted to add that one of the benefits of being part of #RHOA has been making new friendships and doing business with other successful women. This weekend I was honored to work with Kandi Burruss on her Women's Empowerment MasterClass. She asked me to moderate, and I was happy to do it. The panel discussions were amazing, and it was such a positive and powerful event. Kandi truly is an example of a woman that empowers, employs, and uplifts other women, and I appreciate her for it! Good job!

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