NeNe Leakes

NeNe shares her thoughts on parenting and teenage dating.

on Dec 2, 20130

Have you ever heard the saying "we being set back ten years"? The things people are willing to put out there!

Grocery shopping with Cynthia was fun. I ate just as much as I purchased, LOL! Going into the grocery store is dangerous for me.  We discussed Cynthia's thirteen-year-old daughter dating. I am pretty cool as a mom I think! I also know that there is no handbook on how to raise a child. For me it's one of the hardest jobs one could have! I love Cynthia, but on this one we won't see eye to eye. I love the fact that Cynthia wants to have the lines of communication open with her daughter, but in my opinion there comes a time when you have to be a parent. Everything your teen wants isn’t always good for them! At the same time, you have to do what works for you and your household.

I happen to have a very handsome teen son! I feel like Brentt has his whole life ahead of him. I don't want to have him consumed with dating and relationships! I do feel there are appropriate ages to date as a teen, but 13 or 14 isn’t the appropriate age for me. I think children should stay children! Even if you have the opportunity to meet the other parent, it doesn't mean anything in my book. It feels more like you’re consenting or approving, but again, if it works for you, go for it.

54 comments
lucky8
lucky8

I agree with Cynthia because we don't know Noelle like she does!  Nene thought she knew Bryson, but look how that son turned out!!!!  Don't blame on "no father figure" because Nene serves as a man and a woman!  She just needs to accept that our children will do whatever it is that they want to (with our blessings or without)!  At least Noelle is talking to her parents about dating!  She is in high school and I trust Cynthia's judgement on this one.  Nene always thinks she has all the best answers. If you don't agree with her, then she'll call you a "hater"!  She has a lot of nerves being a glandmother and her son is already with another girlfriend.  This is besides the point, but I can't see anyone (even a desparate women) who'd date him.  Just saying!

nabtl
nabtl

Nene is right Cynthia is allowing her young daughter to date she is only 13 for god-sake. that girl would know the word NO and quick.  She should be hanging around her friends going to the movies, beach and just having fun not being involved with a boy, once they get close together things to happen. 

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

NeNe is so disgusting...I didn't realize how low she would go.  Not only is it extremely rude to ask a man who he had sex within the past,  in front of his wife. Talk about girl code!  But what was said about Phaedra was NeNe treading through the sewer to feel relevant.  

 

erica.cooper
erica.cooper

I'm cracking up at the people who are trying to cast shade/support Cynthia in criticizing NeNe's parenting because Bryson had got into trouble and had a baby out of wedlock.

 

It was NENE who refused to bail out Bryson - and Cynthia's husband who said he should be given a break.  You all also seem to forget that CYNTHIA had Noelle out of wedlock herself!!!!   

msmith76
msmith76

Parents of young gorls need to ensure thathe girl understands how precious how body is.  They have to be taught to respect their bodies.  I think the age of 13 is too young to date.  They can go to the movies or an outing with a parent present but no alone time.

IloveMJ
IloveMJ

Nene sickens me with all the self righteousness....her son was in all kinds of trouble and has a kid out of wedlock..I understand she feels she is the sage of the crew (the oldest), but every parent and child relationship is different.  What may work for her may not work for others.  She should mind her own business and stop passing judgment on everyone who doesn't do as she says.  It would be hard to be her friend.  IF you are not bowing down to NeNe temple, you are not good enough for her...which is why Ryan Murphy was like buh bye...and learn how to speak....

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

No, I have never heard "we being set back ten years"?  I can't begin to figure out what it means.  The grammer sets you back 200 years.

Glad you like HotPockets.  Boring!

rhopamgirl
rhopamgirl

I just don't get you. Most of the time you seem so mean. You attack most people out of the gate. It's like people have to prove themselves to you first, sorry I don't get it. If the spotlight is not on you, You attack so as to divert onto you. I watch cause I like the franchise as a whole but just you..sorry no. You just don't seem like a nice person in your core. Wishing you good luck though....

randrew
randrew

I agree, that is to young in my book. Parents meeting parents? I don't care. They have plenty of years for that crap. Can you tell that hit a nerve for me?? I've been there... just sayin'...

Picket@fence
Picket@fence

All I know is, when I watch one of the other Housewives shows, (started with season one of OC), I'm saying, ' where is NeNe Leakes at? This damm show needs help!'. You are smart, funny, and refreshingly honest. I'm a mother and granny, and I too feel 13 is too young to be thinking about boyfriends. Cynthias child is sweet and innocent, and that time in a young girls life is painfully short. A mother is best to preserve it while she has the call. However, I agree with you, Cynthia has to do what's works for her and her household.

taralovehair
taralovehair

Nene, you were wrong for going over to Kenya's place and saying "Ghetto!"  All is I can say is that you should recognize because it was not that long ago since you lived there.  Be very careful to not turn your nose up to high.  The fall down is painful.

Dreid123
Dreid123

I've got nothing but love for you nene and I hope to meet you one day for tea. I guarantee you'd love it as well! Get well soon boo!

LaBrava
LaBrava

this scene was B O R I N G

Lck
Lck

Sometimes a short leash in plain sight is the best solution. Kids go after the forbidden.

Harrods
Harrods

Nene, I like you.  You light up the screen.  Hope it works out with Glee or a brand new project.  Stay fabulous.  The End.

TyeTye
TyeTye

i made a lot of mistakes when i was growing up with dating and liking boys. my mother gave me freedom because her parents were too strict on her and she didnt want to be strict on me. however. i do feel that 13 is too young for any girl to be dating. liking boys is natural. but dating and kissing leads to other things.When my daughter gets in High school she can go on supervised group dates and when she turns 16 she can have her 1st one on one date. And hopefully i will be the one driving them to and from... BOOM lol

WCW
WCW

I have to laugh about the 13 year old boyfriend/girlfriend dating scenario! IMO, using social media and seeing each other at school is not really dating! However, Cynthia is spot on about meeting her daughter's friends' parents - both male and female. My sons' high school encourages parents to communicate with each other and it makes a big difference in trying to help our teenage children to navigate their social scene safely. When my son says he wants to go to so and so's party, I pick up the phone and get the 411 from the parents of the party host. It takes a village to raise a child and it helps to know that other parents are dealing with the same situations with their children. Our kids know we are networking with their friends' parents and by doing this no one is making up stories so they can go to a party where the parents aren't home.

DominiqueSphere
DominiqueSphere

Well said Nene...glad your health is doing better but I saw that shade you threw on Twitter about not being in too many of the scenes this past episode and I must say that after this season Porsha has got to go! She adds NOTHING to this franchise...not a thing. I see why Kordell divorce her...of course Noelle is too young to be dating and so is Brentt, who looks just like you by the way. There's a reason why so many teenage girls have babies these days...too much sneaking around and being fast and not enough adult interest and supervision!

momincolo
momincolo

NeNe you are absolutely RIGHT!  Totinos pizzas ARE the bomb!  You should have thrown a few into the cart.

But I was curious, you said you don't go grocery shopping anymore...so is that job now for Greg?  Because like all the other men on this show, it doesn't seem any of them work for themselves and only get by in life by getting their women to take care of them.  Not that there's anything wrong with that, but it just seems to be a pattern with the Atlanta men.

lindsaybrooke
lindsaybrooke

You are the reason why I watch this show. I get a kick out of you!

 

Times change and every child is different. Adapting to what your childs needs are and guiding the best you can is what to do. You may not agree, but I think Cynthia and her daughter will navigate through teen age years with little bumps and bruises. She's a good mom.

 

Rest up and get better!!!!!!! We love you.

 

bravo-tv-viewer
bravo-tv-viewer

I tend to agree with you NeNe. My son was 16 almost 17 when he had is first girlfriend. I have spoken to him about how ten mins of pleasure could mean a lifetime of regret. His father and I had instilled the value of an education and how he needed to focus on that instead of focusing on females. Luckily, his girlfriend was one of those annoying, immature girlfriends who was always upset with him about something, he could never please her and finally after months of dealing with her nonsense, getting upset with him because he had to study for exams, etc, he finally broke up with her. The freedom he felt from being away from her after almost a year was exhilirating for him. He and I talked and he decided that he wanted to focus on his grades and getting scholarships to college, which he did. Now he's in college and focusing on his education and hanging out with friends. He's not rushing into another relationship any time soon because he realized that he doesn't want to deal with the drama. I am glad that he's focusing on his education. He knows once that part is done, he has a long life ahead of him once he starts his career to focus on chasing the ladies. Now, I have to focus on my daughter. Luckily, she's not really interested in any  boys right now, but next year she's going to high school, and will meeting new boys and hopefully she will be like her brother and focus on school. We have spoken about problems and drama teen-aged relationships bring into lives of kids who are not mentally  or emotionally ready to deal with nonsensical drama that occurs because neither party are mature enough to handle it any differently. I believe in raising kids in reality, telling them the facts of what occurs in relationships, how guys will tell you everything you want to hear just to get into your panties and then act like they don't know you after they do. I believe in the old fashioned mode of: LET THE BOYS CHASE YOU, AND CONTINUE TO CHASE YOU, but you give them nothing, because as soon as you do, they will move on to another challenge. I wish more girls in today's society realized that. 

Standalone2
Standalone2

If you live in a glass house don't throw stones.  I believe you thought you were doing the right thing with your son and he had many bumps and bruises down the road.  We can all learn new things "old school" simply means you are not willing to try a new approach. The old way was not always the best way.   How sad!!  New World New Rules.

marc823
marc823

Nene, I'm glad Cynthia did not take your advice in this harmless situation. Supervised dating (which really isn't dating at all at that age) is better than just saying no so she can sneak out. Now your son Bryson is an adult with a baby, but I still don't think he's ready to be dating.

marc823
marc823

Appropriate dating age depends on the maturity of your child. Noelle seems to be a mature and respectable young lady, and it certainly helps that she and Cynthia have open communication. It's all about knowing your child. I called myself dating at that age and all we did was talk on the phone, eat lunch together at school, and occasionally our parents would sit a few rows behind us at a movie. I felt really good about myself  and Not a bit of harm in that, b/c I knew my boundaries and we were supervised. Why make a big deal over something innocent? All that does is create more stress for the parent who is now trying to watch your every move to make sure it's not going on behind their back. That's the beginning of the destruction of your good relationship with your teenager.

susanzavagli
susanzavagli

i love Nene but se didn't have nuch luck with Bryson he was a handful

long4_u
long4_u

Nene, It is very different having girls than boys.. I think Cynthia made the right choice, this way she can guide Noelle and protect her at the same time.. look there is so many ways for communicating these days, so if u don't give them some freedom, they will find a way on their own with lies, and wrong choices..

Tracirk68
Tracirk68

So glad to hear that you are better.  I agree completely with your view on dating, I have twins a boy and a girl age 13 and posted quite a long post under Cynthia's so won't go into detail.  My sis-in-law is one who trusted her girls instead of thought about their hormones controlling them and now I have twin nieces both pregnant their Senior year of high school.  Teenagers may come across as "together" but once those hormones kick in...the brain takes a vacation.  Wish they would show more of you, the rest of them are just too messy for me.

JRoc85
JRoc85

NeNe,

You & Cynthia at the grocery store was a funny segment. I definitely agree that Noelle is TOO YOUNG to be dating (really, age 13)???

cindibisenius
cindibisenius

As a mother of five sons, I think Cynthia handled this beautifully. To meet the boyfriend and his mom. To agree with the mom that they may have supervised visits only. Brilliant! If you would have told them noway no how, they would just sneak around and lie to you.

wiscfan
wiscfan

NeNe, you are absolutely right!  Kids are in too much of a rush to grow up and do adult things!

macnmac
macnmac

NeNe never criticize another mama about their child unless they ask you and second unless you as a mother have children who were never problems or in never in  trouble maybe just maybe you have earned then the right to a little advice but not before that. 

 

Raising boys and girls are two different ball games entirely.

riann
riann

Hi Nene,

I could not agree with you more.  Cynthia's daughter is to young to start dating now.  I have a ten year old daughter and there is no way I would allow her to start dating at thirteen.  "Glad you are feeling Better "

amber.lyons
amber.lyons

hope you make more than this cameo appearance in future episodes.

Nebfan22
Nebfan22

Well said Nene.  I love your old fashioned values.

general1star
general1star

NeNe I hear ya girlfriend but Cynthia is doing her best.  Having daughters is a whole dif thing then having boys.  If you shelter them too much then they will just sneak behind your back and thats when trouble happens.

myinfo
myinfo

I agree with everything you said. I am sure Cynthia is trying to do her best.

 

I am glad you are feeling better.

 

As to the white refrigerator comment, I knew you were just making a dig on Kenya and nothing more.  The scene was too funny.

 

Yes, I do have a white refrigerator and I was not offended, I knew you were just throwing shade.

LuvDeBar
LuvDeBar

You're a little tough on Cynthia's choicing considering all this guidance you speak of did not quite work out for your eldest son.  He's gone thru a lot in a short time because of poor choices.  Cut Cynthia some slack.  Parents do the best they know how...may not always be the right thing but they are doing what they know to do. 

thedawn
thedawn

NeNe you haven't been one of my favorites since season 1. I had even began to regard you as a bully. This season however, you seem to be on an even keel, and doing your best to be a team player. I'm loving it! I have never agreed with you more on the Cynthia/Noel issue. She's delusional if she thinks that a 13 year old can focus on prioritizing an educations along with maintaining a relationship with a boyfriend and all of the drama that comes with it. It's foolish and naive. 

 

linda.miranda.773776
linda.miranda.773776

@nabtl  Not necessarily true. trying to keep GIRLS away from boys creates snarkiness.They find ways to get together.So I believe Cynthia is right to let Noelle date with adult supervision.Looks like NOELLE is keeping the lines of communication open. Keeping them away from each other NOW that they're attracted would make for big problems.Cynthia YOU ARE A GOOD MOTHER!

eliza9981
eliza9981

 @rhopamgirl Remember when she was trying to soften her image? Yeah. That lasted two seconds.

RHOviewer
RHOviewer

 @rhopamgirl No she's not a nice person, there isn't one person whom she really cared for...

It's all about using them!

lelaunal
lelaunal

 @TyeTye Noelle is actually in high school.  Also, Cynthia & the young man's mom agreed that they would only have supervised group dates.  

eliza9981
eliza9981

 @bravo-tv-viewer You're very naive to think your son's first girlfriend was at 16 or 17...and that your teenaged daughter is not into boys. Enjoy your ignorance. lol

woolumr
woolumr

 @Standalone2

 That's the problem with society today no one wants to admit that the old rules are just as good if not even better. Obviously teens having babies so early and teen suicide must of been a part of the New World New Rules? Well it doesn't work and we as parents need to go back to basics and start teaching are children respect, love, and understanding are among a few things kids these days are missing. Parents trying to be your child's friend is not a good thing. I had open communication with my daughters and still made hard decisions when needed to.

Glimmer88
Glimmer88

 @riann If you don't let them have some supervised alone time together they will just sneak off at parties or wherever and it could lead to some bad situations.(I don't mean anything derogatory against Noelle or Arthur here though) Cynthia is not talking about letting them go off to the drive in movie in the back seat---she's talking about dropping them off for a matinee movie or letting them study together, etc.  I don't see how anyone could think there's something wrong with that.  I guarantee you if Noelle and Arthur want to be together they will find a way to do it--permission from parents or not.    

But--you are entitled to your opinion that's for sure.  Have a good day !

heir2me
heir2me

 @Nebfan22 The wench doesn't cook, clean, or grocery shop and you are talking about her old fashioned values...PULEASE! And if I'm not mistaken her first child was out of weklock, again old fashioned...maybe the ice cream she eats.

Nastybaby
Nastybaby

 @LuvDeBar I have to agree with you.  I think that if chaperoned, going out on dates with that little Arthur fellow isn't a bad thing.  Restrictions just need to be placed.  After all, Noel's 14th birthday wasn't far away...that's about the time many kids start to date. 

marc823
marc823

 @thedawn

I dated at that age (if you wanna call it that) and I made straight A's. It's called supervision and setting that expectation. I knew if the grades slipped there would be no more supervised "dates" to the movies and skating. I was not about to let that happen!!