Phaedra Parks

Phaedra reflects on some recent lessons she's learned.

on Feb 200

Unfortunately, I did not get to watch Sunday's episode but have been told that it was full of drama and chaos, which is becoming the norm for us. And since I have not seen this week’s episode, I will refrain from commenting on it. There is nothing worse than talking about what you don't know to be factually true.

On a lighter note, I am making new friends on my book tour for “Secrets of the Southern Belle” and truly enjoy connecting with you all. I have been touring Louisiana, Mississippi, and Alabama. One of the sweetest things about the South besides the tea is the southern hospitality which I absolutely love. I really enjoyed my time in the quaint beach town of Bay St. Louis, MS; and was delighted to have the opportunity to visit two churches while in New Orleans. During the first service at Beacon Light International, Bishop Brister spoke about not allowing your wants to become needs and recognizing self-greed. This sermon reminded me of how important it is to have balance and realize the most important things cannot be bought but instead felt by the heart. During the second service at New Home Ministries, Pastor Sam Blake preached on the subject of Walking in the Peace of God; which is definitely an aberration from our show. In this service I was reminded of the perfect peace promised to us by God. Often life distracts us and challenges our ability to stay focused on God’s provision of peace. Phillipians 4:7 tells us that the peace of God surpasses all understanding. What is distracting you and keeping you from having and holding perfect peace?

I want to encourage you to seek balance in your lives and allow peace to dwell in the front seat of your soul; no matter what is going on around you. As Carlos Santana once said, "The most valuable possession you can own is an open heart. The most powerful weapon you can be is an instrument of peace."

163 comments
Hogan
Hogan

Phaedra, I just love you! You are the last person on the show who would need to learn any lessons, but you say that you have and that is the sign of intelligence...always learning to improve.


I want to see your children more on the show. That little Prince is such a pumpkin. I love his little voice and he really has something to say. So advanced for his age or even a much older child. Huge vocabulary and speaks so very well.

Love, Pam

Lizabutt
Lizabutt

Phaedra, hold you head high, ignore the haters!  You have two beautiful little boys and nothing to be ashamed of.  I love watching your facial expressions!  

Elizabeth in (Alabama) 

Mayhammond
Mayhammond

ACKNOWLEGED: Apollo is a disgrace as a husband.  It's what happens when you marry a man for his looks and his bedroom prowess, instead of for his character and commitment to you.  Phaedra also seems trapped in the old-school belief that men can't help themselves when tempted by a brazen woman.  Or, maybe she's not yet ready to face the emotional truth of their incompatibility. After all, she just had another baby with this man.  Or, maybe she's willing to tolerate his immaturity and selfishness, hoping he'll mature and change.  Lots of women do.  Or maybe she doesn't want to dump on him while he's in legal trouble again. Or, maybe we don't know what goes on behind closed doors, especially on a reality show.  After all, we watched Nene and Greg divorce so that they could have a fairy tale wedding on TV. You didn't really believe Nene was dating the Italian guy, did you?  In any event, I'm glad I'm not in Phaedra's shoes. 

C.Hawkins225
C.Hawkins225

It amazes me how you constantly avoid speaking to direct issues. How are you on the show ans not watch the show? Really/ As far as your issues with Keyna and  your husband you need to check your man! Beautiful women are everywhere. Your husband has been very disrespectful to you on the show. Rather than be angry at Keyna and calling her a hoe all the time one black woman to another Miss Christian. You need to check your man and your nasty attitude! Ugh..... It's been time for you to go. You are very fake!

lawanda7
lawanda7

Phaedra, be strong.  I don't know the extent of your pain however I am a woman and I know how it feels to be so disrespected by the man you're married to.  You don't need me or anyone else to tell you but I'll say it any way.  Keep your head up and don't allow the mistreatment of Apollo to change your exemplary status of a woman.  I pray for you and your two boys, they are your reason to remain strong.  Good luck, and God bless you in your heartache and disappointment.

hannah79
hannah79

Wondering why blog only once a month?

moonwolf23
moonwolf23

Umm Phaedra, I respect your desire to not participate in the Shaman ceremonly.  However...  A witch does not like a witch.  Please do not demean witches, by placing Kendra in our category.  Also the man wasn't a witch, he was a medicine man.  

cbennett1
cbennett1

It was so painful watching your husband disrespect you on last nights episode.  If he was my husband, they would be digging his ass up in my back yard.

BeWiseNotFoolish
BeWiseNotFoolish

What more proof do you need Phaedra to realize that Apollo doesn't love you, nor is he in love with you.  What husband leaves their wife and mother of their children:

(1) on a DOORSTEP

(2) of a HOTEL room

(3) in a FOREIGN country

(4) LOCKED OUT since neither of you had a key

(5) after you told him you were TIRED and had to PEE

I was floored when Apollo said "somebody" will bring you a key.  He didn't care enough about you to go to the lobby, get a key, and make sure you made it in the room safe.  

You not having a good time should've turned into him not having a good time, and at 2:00 in the morning your husband should've wanted to call it a night and be in bed with you. 

Neither of you thought to take a key before you left the room means neither of you coordinated with the other.  There was no, "you have the key right", or "where's the key, did you take the key"?

Apollo doesn't RESPECT you and there's a reason for it. 

haileybop
haileybop

Oh Phaedra! 

Please kick Apollo to the curb!

No matter what anyone thinks of you I'm sure all will admit that you are a hard worker. Apollo on the other hand is riding your coat tails. I'm sick of seeing him disrespect you, the mother of his children. Shame on him. Kendra is nothing but a troublemaker. She insinuates herself in other peoples relationships and it is always detrimental. For a beauty queen she is nothing but a bitter crone...and that fool Apollo plays right into her hands!

Happy
Happy

Phaedra you definitely get the award from me this week , for one of the funniest one liners on the show. IE."You'd rather have Porsha take your Black history exam. I'm still laughing. On the other hand, why would any of you ladies accept an invitation from Kenya for anything.  I don't mean just you, it boggles my mind , why any of them went to Mexico. She's playing on all of your ego's, while punking all of you at the same time. I detest the way she acts and yet your all responsible for giving her the opportunity to get more airtime. If all of you  would just ice her out, not talk to her, not respond to her , there would be dead air space, every time she was on the screen. And in my humble opinion that's where she belongs, in DEAD AIR SPACE. 

kiki13
kiki13

Phaedra-  I just have to tell you how much I LOVE seeing your little boy Aiden!!  He is the cutest and most entertaining little guy!!  Just so cute and says the funniest stuff!!  Love that little guy- Thanks for allowing us to see him.  xx

patcaseygold
patcaseygold

Please stop talking about the Bible when we all know your husband and hopefully not you, were stealing like crazy and then Apollo has a girlfriend which is another section of the ten commandments. You are deep down the seething one and I would watch out for you. Take care of your home and children and stop throwing stones.

innocent
innocent

Dump Apollo!  I think that he jumped on Kenya's friend because he was jealous of his close relationship with Kenya!  He is attracted to Kenya!!!  But, make him get a job first!  No alimony!

BeWiseNotFoolish
BeWiseNotFoolish

Phaedra, I've NEVER seen you bow your head in prayer in your house as long as you've been on the show.  I might be wrong, but it looks like Ayden is used to saying grace over his food at SCHOOL, not at home.  All of you tried to hold hands at the dinner table when Ayden was saying grace and he put you on the spot when he told you he didn't hold hands and that's not how they prayed in SCHOOL.  You read these blogs and you know how we feel about you and your spirituality.  Seems like you're trying to paint a pretty spiritual picture at home, but Ayden squashed your antics. 

ShiningStarr
ShiningStarr

@Roseflowers

Yes Phaedra is smart. Trust me, she actually knows that Apollo has a thing for Kenya and that's why she hates Kenya. Everybody knows how Phaedra can be fake and want everybody to believe that Kenya is after Apollo, when actually she knows Apollo has a thing for Kenya. So instead of taking it all out on Apollo, she takes it out on Kenya because Kenya is somebody that Apollo wants and she can't stand it.

shellywalker
shellywalker

Continue to be the "lady" that you are. Of course that will bring out the daggers from the haters.

Nonaya28
Nonaya28

When I read the blog title "Phaedra calls for Peace"... I thought that you had  miraculously matured and risen above the pettiness of this show, and were calling all of the women on the show to make a truce.


I will now go and flog myself viciously for actually believing that you could be a bigger person.

jazziegirl58
jazziegirl58

You call for Peace out of one side of your mouth, and you want to slap Kenya out of the other side of  your mouth.  But be very careful, I don't think Kenya is a fighter, but she will fight.

If you want to slap someone, slap Apollo. 

MsMahogany2u
MsMahogany2u

I understand that you are going through a lot of issues with the investigation against Apollo.  So I will give you a pass on this BS of a blog!  I pray that you come out of this a stronger woman and I hope everything works out!

LoveMonkey53
LoveMonkey53

It's a beautiful thing when a person rises above the fray and projects wisdom and love. But this message seems like a poor attempt to cover up wrongs and hop onto some book sales. I am not moved.


bravofan1271
bravofan1271

You are a very poor example of an educated African American woman.  ENOUGH SAID!!

Scorpion1
Scorpion1

I want to support you but I no longer have respect for any of you Atlanta housewives. You have no respect for the fans and only blog when it serves a purpose for yourselves. What you need to do is run, not walk run as fast as you can away from that thug of a husband you have. He makes excuses for all his actions and you sit back and make no response. Sorry but if that was my man I would of kicked his low life ass out already. BYE

Pottymo13
Pottymo13

I wish this woman would stop thinking that everybody is a pawn in this fake game of chess she's trying to play with her fans. As Joan Crawford once said to her love interest when discussing dirt.....you REEEEK of it. 

Jussarah
Jussarah

Phaedre sounds like she might be out-growing the group, like Kim did when she had her new family additions. Plus, Apollo is immature, so Phaedra is like a single-working parent. She's trying to keep Apollo in line, but how long can that last?

newname1
newname1

I want to feel bad for you because your husband is a total embarrassment but...you're so shady that I can't. I just hope your beautiful boys aren't affected long-term by any of your mess.

truebeliver
truebeliver

Phaedra, we can see thru your fakeness.  You are seething with jealousy and anger over Kenya.  It's your husband and his doggish ways you should be concerned with. 

DvlishDlite
DvlishDlite

Apollo is hot and u have the cutest little boys.

BeWiseNotFoolish
BeWiseNotFoolish

I just watched the preview of the show regarding the latest Mexico trip.Let me back up.Did you see the smirk on Apollo's face when you told him about the trip Phaedra?Apollo was jumping for joy on the inside.I don't think all of that "pinky swearing" you and Apollo did is going to hold up much longer.Apollo REALLY likes Kenya and you're not going to get around that - ever.Men who genuinely love their wives do what's necessary to keep PEACE in the home.Apollo shouldn't want to have anything to do with Kenya after the text scandal, and you shouldn't have to tell him that.Peter gave Apollo advice, "I don't want to have anything to do with you if my wife don't want to have anything to do with you".It's not unreasonable for Apollo to have nothing to do with Kenya, but he doesn't want to do that.  Both of them should steer clear of the other, but they don't want to because they're attracted to each other.Your husband should be loyal to you and want you to be happy.That's not happening.

gina2066
gina2066

You need to slap you "husband" not Kenya, he's the one that can't seem to stay away from her!

Hogan
Hogan

@Mayhammond I appreciate what you have to say, but I do not think Apollo is a total wash-out as a husband. I do agree he has some maturing to do FOR SURE. He is a good father and if he and Phaedra are compatible, which they seem to be, he can come around. I am skeptical about his charges and think there is something not right there. People enjoy making others seem bad. Overall I think Apollo is a gentleman, just misguided in the respect that he didn't have the words to tell Kenya he did not want to consort with her when Phaedra was not present. He just didn't know the appropriate thing to say.

Best,

Pam

shellywalker
shellywalker

@Mayhammond

At least Phaedra has a husband.  Kenya can only enjoy chasing behind someone else's husband.

pepper.blitzer
pepper.blitzer

@lawanda7  I don't think she's being disrespected by Apollo. They hadn't been married that long when the show started.  I think she's finding out who he is and like so many women, hoping she can change him. 

jazziegirl58
jazziegirl58

Apolla, like the groove and he wanted to get back to it and look at Kenya somemore.

DallasIvy
DallasIvy

@ShiningStarr @Roseflowers  And the fact that Apollo is attracted to a woman who is older than Phaedra just added fuel to her fire for Kenya.  Phaedra really needs to come up with a more proactive strategy than name-calling and blaming Kenya to address her husband's blatant and embarrassing infatuation with other women.  If Phaedra doesn't want her husband making a fool of her by shinning and grinning in Kenya's face and attacking people like an animal for the world to see then she should leave the show.  

BeWiseNotFoolish
BeWiseNotFoolish

@ShiningStarr I don't think staying married to a man when you know he's attracted to someone else and that attraction isn't going away is smart.  She's stuck between a rock and a hard place because she has too much to lose if she files for divorce (legal issues).  Her antics of having children backfired. 

BeWiseNotFoolish
BeWiseNotFoolish

@Jussarah I had the same thought.  Kim tossed that microphone to the side and left (without notice) because the DRAMA wasn't worth the headaches.  There's a fight or close to it every time these women get together, never a civil moment.  Kim put her family first and Phaedra needs to do the same thing.  Phaedra made a huge mistake a lot of women make; she thought having babies would change Apollo and bring her family closer.  She need to realize Apollo is very much into Kenya and being on the show is doing more harm than good. 

Kaydeejay
Kaydeejay

Exactly!  He would LOVE a little love and affection from Kenya.  Leave it up to Shady Phaedra and she'll have you thinking Kenya's after her husband, but it's clear Apollo has the hots for Kenya.  Phaedra has yet to reveal herself to the audience.  She shows no vulnerability, no compassion, nothing....  She just hides behind this southern belle character.  It's old!  I'm glad Bravo did catch THE REAL PHAEDRA cursing Apollo out about Kenya when she thought her mic was off.  I'm surprised someone with her CRIMINAL background was ever allowed on the show anyway.

BeWiseNotFoolish
BeWiseNotFoolish

@gina2066 Slapping Apollo won't do anything, Phaedra already cursed him out in the car after their restaurant date.  Apollo is holding all of the cards in their "marriage" and calling the shots because Phaedra gave them to him. 

C.Hawkins225
C.Hawkins225

@DallasIvy @ShiningStarr @Roseflowers  She should have been making use of their room with her man. Instead she is studying for a test??? Thats how to lose your man. That wasn't the time for that and Keyna was there looking good. I would have had my A game on for my man. 

BeWiseNotFoolish
BeWiseNotFoolish

@Kaydeejay I agree!  But, Phaedra's "criminal background' hasn't been officially exposed - yet. She's blocking Angela Stanton's claims against her.  But like I said in another post, I think her pinky-swearing with Apollo is getting old - especially with Kenya in the picture.