Cast Blog: #RHOA

Kenya's the Ring Leader of Drama

Porsha thinks Kenya should not have tried to bring NeNe and Marlo together.

Hello loves, I hope you had an awesome weekend! My weekend was pretty epic. I was on WWHL Sunday with RuPaul, the queen himself! AMAZEBALLS, love him! I was so busy right up to the time I had to fly into NY that I had not gotten the chance to watch the new episode. Therefore I watched it with all of you! So let’s hop to it.
 
First let me make it clear that Team Naked did win overall at the Bailey Bowl! There was a lot of drama, but yes, even with that over-the-top dog and pony show Kandi and her team came out with, they did not win. LOL! I celebrated our victory at the Bailey Bowl showdown with an over-the-top twerking dance.
 
Speaking of showdown, WTH?! I was so in shock. Here we are once again at what was supposed to be a fun and friendly competition, and all hell breaks loose. Well let me tell you what I saw (in my ol' gossiping auntie voice, LOL!). At the end of the last game everybody was celebrating and arguing at the same time. Mainly because they weren't clear on who won. I didn't get into the argument because it wasn't needed; I knew we had won and it would come out, so why fight about it. However, it wasn't just a competitive battle on the field apparently; there was an emotional battle of friendships crumbling as well. I realized this when I saw Kenya, the ring leader for anything that will create drama, walking Marlo over to NeNe. The first thought that crossed my mind was why is Kenya taking Marlo to NeNe?! We all knew that NeNe was not in a good place with Marlo, and it was obvious that NeNe was avoiding Marlo all day. Why exactly she was doing that I didn't know nor did I care. I’m very competitive, therefore I was not focused on drama. I know for a fact that there were no good intentions behind Kenya forcing those two to talk. Another time and place minus kids and family, yes, here, NO! Any who, I'm standing there and Kenya brings Marlo over to NeNe. At this point NeNe is about two feet from her younger son. So then I see Marlo going in on NeNe, chasing after her and screaming, cussing, and fussing. Well to make a long story short it looked like NeNe, who you would think would lay somebody out who acted like that with her, was running for cover. But she was going to get her son and leave the scene. My guess is she didn't want to argue in front of him (or worse the way this group is).

Was she scared of Marlo? We shall never know, but look, we are not in grade school. We don't fight people because they don't want to be our friends, LOL! My overall take is they were friends and had love for each other. Somewhere from wedding day to the Bailey Bowl true colors on either side had come out full of jealousy, betrayal, heartbreak, etc.
 
I know firsthand how sensitive NeNe can be when it comes to her friendships. She is the type of girl who wants you to communicate with her at all times. I feel like she wants all her friends to move as one crew on the same page with one mind. Meaning if one person doesn't like that heffa, then you don't need to like that heffa. Now for me, I agree and disagree. I agree, because I get a bad taste in my mouth when you’re my girl and you are getting close to someone who clearly has nothing but bad things to say about me. Really at end of the day what can you add to that type of conversation but agree with the enemy? On the other hand, we are all grown, and if you choose to be cool with my enemy, the outcome (if I love you) will be that I may not cut you off, but you definitely will be in a different "friend" category. You will be placed in the category of the chick I go have cocktails with and shop with, but for sure NOT the one I will tell my business to. The choice is up to you.
 
People know what they are doing and why! Most intentions come from the heart. Half of the time we know who we can trust and who we can't. At the end of the day when someone is using you or being an "opportunist," nine times out of ten you know it, but you allow it because you are using them as well. So don't be surprised when it blows up! Simply dust off your Chanel and carry on with life. Most people are only around for a season, and once their purpose in your life is fulfilled, God will reveal who they are and make it easy for you to move forward and go even higher. Well guys, sorry it was so long, but last blog you said I didn't talk about the show enough and now I can't shut up, LOL! (Giggles!)
 
Love you! Until next time!
 
"Live, Love, Life"

 

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Claudia: I Felt Good About the Reunion

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on NeNe Leakes' breakdown and the reunion as a whole.

Bravotv.com: What was going through your mind when NeNe walked off?
Claudia Jordan: Well the reunion was quite an experience. When NeNe walked off, initially I wasn't sure what was going on to be honest. But I did notice she seemed to be trembling, so I knew she was definitely feeling something very real to her. I just didn't know what set her off at that point. So at first I was a little taken back. I had never seen her cry, but we are all human and everyone has their breaking point.

Bravotv.com: Do you think NeNe had a real breakthrough?
CJ: I honestly did think at that moment she really did. Her demeanor was different afterwards. And I even heard from her after the show. That to me was a good sign that perhaps we could all really move forward and start fresh. I know I'm always open to squash some beef, especially if it's nothing deep rooted and something surface. I don't see why not. But like I said on the show, we all have a story and things that we have had to deal with and overcome. I think we need to not think our problems are bigger than the next woman's and respect one another's struggles -- whether we think they are major or minor. One woman's problems are not more important than the rest. And I think if we can all learn to be sensitive to the next woman, then we are on our way. Hopefully that moment was the catalyst for change in NeNe and in others as well.

Bravotv.com: Do you feel like everyone ended the reunion in a better place?
CJ: I'd like to think so. I do think some will probably never be open for change and are just stuck in their own way, while others really took advantage of the opportunity to take something from it all. I'm not going to worry about those that do not wish to grow and move forward. I will just focus and give energy to likeminded individuals that want to get along, move forward, grow, learn, and progress. I know I felt good about the reunion. I know I didn't chime in a whole lot. And I think I had good reason. You don’t get to see everything, but I felt it was important to let the people who had real issues with each other hash it out with no outside opinions, just like I said in the Philippines. When people interject their opinions and thoughts when it’s not their issue, it just adds confusion to the situation. One of the cast members in particular is good for that. Always adding "well I think..." when it has absolutely nothing to do with her, and I feel those extra unnecessary comments can potentially add fuel to the fire and then there is no coming back. So if my silence was going to help the progress of the group moving forward, then I will take that "L."

Yes, it's "cute" to "read" and get in an epic one liner or rant, but sometimes you just need to shut the hell up and let folks deal with each other and let them do them. I have no problems with that. Plus my opinion on everyone’s situation doesn't need to always be heard -- I wish more of us felt the same way. I will say that this seemed to be a great starting point for folks to move forward and put their money where their mouths are when it comes to being a grown ass woman. I really hope everyone wants to. It'd be great to see how things could go if we spent less time fussing and more time co-existing peacefully. #ThatIsAll

 

As the season has come to an end for me, I just wanted to say wow! What a roller coaster ride it has been! I had no idea getting into this that any of it would happen. I thought I'd come on board, have a little fun, bring a little light-hearted fun, and make some new acquaintances. This show is huge and everywhere I go people come up to me and say such amazingly sweet things, and I am truly humbled when they tell me how they can relate to me and appreciate my realness. I was particularly touched when a teenage boy who was gay and biracial that had always felt like an outsider reached out to me talking about suicidal thoughts he had. We spoke and I was beyond moved when he told me that he could relate to some of the things I spoke about and that I somehow inspired and encouraged him to keep going. Those are the moments that make all the drama and fussing and fighting truly worth it. I want to continue to use this amazing platform for important issues. Again I thank Andy, Carlos, Joy, Lauren, Stephen, the entire cast and crew for this amazing opportunity. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

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