There were a lot of really touching moments in this episode, moments that reflected family dynamics, rites of passage, change, and self-discovery. There was also a really important lesson for all of us in this episode.
Ladies, don't ever, EVER take your husband shopping for clothes with you.
It's funny how we think it's a good idea, or at least a manageable one. We tell ourselves that this time will be different; this time will be a bonding experience-–or at least a fun one.
Or rather, wrong.
Mauricio's mother spoke with Paul and I about approaching things as a team, and I agree with that philosophy for some experiences. When it comes to shopping however, not so much. Is there a husband handbook somewhere that encourages them to suggest the clearance rack every time without fail? I think I'm benching Paul on the next shopping trip. Commit too many fouls and you foul right out of the game, right?
When Paul suggested a mini face lift. I had hoped that editing was to blame for her not ASKING!! WOW.. but still funny and he is charming. You are a blast too !
My husband wouldn't even step into a dress shop with me, so Paul was accommodating all things considered. I loved the way that he diverted the attention off of your marriage during that "counseling" session with Mauricio's mother. As an executive, I'm quite sure that you didn't appreciate being told that you were "making excuses" when you tried to explain that there are intricate nuances in the Paul/Adrienne dynamic. You were graceful as always and Paul's "rescue" was really sweet. He has at last redeemed himself from the dollar in Camille's boobs incident. I'm sure you gave him what for for that. And he is remorseful. I didn't notice him giving her a second glance during the tennis gathering...or was that a pool party? Whatever. Kudos to you, Adrienne. You're "tres" cool.
I grew up in a home where my very strong mother always made little "digs" about my father ( his poor mechanical ability, his salary, etc); whereas my father would NEVER let his children make derogatory comments about their mother. In retrospect, as an adult, I'm sure it takes much more maturity and LOVE to point out the positives in your partner to your children. Sarcasm as a primary form of humor is juvenile. Let your children see the positives you see in your spouse. And yes, that sometimes takes work.
OMG I was watching that part with Paul and you talking to Mauricio's mom and when he said that my mouth dropped and then I busted up laughing. To to funny that as a plastic surgeon u probably shouldn't say things like that but that was just Paul. So it made it even funnier. And as for the shopping I understand were your coming from me and my mom are the same shes always like hey there's a clearance rack over there why dont you look there. And did u even check the price tags. But im like you I shop fast and grab what cute and pay and leave. Your may fav housewife keep up the great work.
You're a blast!
Everything you've written is spot-on. Leave the guys home when shopping, for anything.
And I agree, Paul shouldn't have mentioned Plastic Surgery unless he was asked.
LOL..He's so funny! Love you both, you guys are the real deal.
You out of all are the most refreshing, non catty and just plain funny!!! I will go shopping with you next time!!!
Adrienne, The shopping trip had me laughing until tears rolled down my face. When you asked what he thought of the item and he said he didn't like it, you said ' oh, you don't know.' That line was hysterical. I've used it 1,000 times...and you're right they don't know!
Thanks for the classy way that you handled yourself at Camille's dinner. YOU were a class act.
Thanks for the laughs on the shopping trip!
Adrienne: If you are every putting together a business venture or charity event in the Palm Springs area contact me. I have seen bits and pieces of the show and would love to work with/for a strong woman who is so well respected in the business world. Best wishes to you and your family in 2011.
You're right! Why do men always say, hey, look over here at the "Clearance Rack" If I wanted to look over there I would. It's a simple concept, why don't they grasp it? Especially your husband, he's a Plastic Surgeon in Beverly Hills. Husbands. How's your new Dog? The German Shepherd. Is he/she good with the boy's? You should produce a Music/Party Show. With dancing and guest stars. That would be fun. Kind of like a modern day "Band Stand" Just an idea. Take care and have fun, you deserve it!
Paul made me LAUGH OUT LOUD when he suggested you hit the sale rack. It was somewhat heart warming to know that even a highly affluent Beverly Hills husband thinks the same way as mine does when it comes to shopping. AND as cute as I thought that comment was, I AGREE Paul should NEVER offer a woman unsolicited plastic surgery advice. You are absolutely right Adrienne.
Without question, you are a class act. Intelligent, gorgeous, level-headed, completely devoid of any emotional instability, mature, and most of all, wise enough to know when to say nothing and quietly leave the scene when the situation devolves and turns mental. Thanks for not getting sucked into the rat-hole that some of these women create.
As the season winds down, I must say that you are the only one of these women that I continue to both like and respect. You are a positive influence and truly understand the value of family. You are never saying snotty little remarks behind peoples backs or making sport of them. You are the "true" class act and your husband is adorable. Without you, this would just be a Beverly Hills version of the Jerry Springer show with a little Euro trash on the side.
You are absolutely correct about the husband going shopping with you. Never, never happens in my household!
You are the best. Can't wait until next season.
Hi Adrienne, I think you are the most level headed of the bunch and really real. I hope you come back for season 2!! Jen
I really admire your confidence and savvy. However, you really give the impression that you do not respect your husband's profession. Respect for each other is so important in addition to love. You both in competition with each other...for what?? to see who is smarter, more successful? You have repeatedly said that your relationship and bickering works for you both. But really how much longer could THAT last without respect for each other. Good luck to you and Paul. Not sure what is worse ... Taylor and her absent husband or the bickering between you and Paul.
Right on point as usual. You are a good gal. You and Paul remind of me and mine......we were once Raymond and Deborah.....we're now Frank and Marie. Over 30 years together......
Adrienne, I enjoy when you and Paul are on the show. I know a lot of it is edited to make you look like the Bickersons, but it is also obvious they you care for each other. It was cute that you took two of your boys to see their Daddy at work. Looks like it was fun time for all. I really like how you stay out of the drama ... but it looks like next week you are right in the middle of more Kyle/Kim drama. Well, you almost made it through the season without being involved in nonsense.
I think that you and Paul are great together! I hope and pray that you stay together forever. The kids need that. There is so much against kids in the world today and they need to have one safe haven that they can go to and that's home. (I feel so sorry for Camille, my heart aches for her).
You remind me a lot of myself when I was married. I always felt like I had to be independent, strong-willed, in charge of everything, especially my feelings.I never wanted to show the lovey dovey side of me in public to my husband. I think that a lot of things I did cost me my marriage. I was raised to be very independent and a get it done person. I meant well and tried to do the right thing, but I shortchanged myself. I didn't believe in the "gray" area. I always believed that everything had to be black or white. I'm older and wiser, took me awhile but I finally woke up.
I think I projected the way I was raised towards my husband and when he didn't do things the way I thought that they should be done I felt that he didn't measure up to "my standards". I couldn't see his love for me for being focused on his short comings. I guess I was trying to manage him instead of love him and allowing him to love me. I now realize that I didn't put everything on the table and I would do things so differently if I could, but it's too late. I think if you totally let go you will not be disappointed. From what I can see, you are absolutely beautiful with a wonderful husband and three beautiful children. There is no need to worry that it is not going to work, think about how good it is now and enjoy what you have now. Enjoy all that God has blessed you with. Let your guard down to truly love and accept love.
I think that you asked Marucio's mom, how to have a long marriage. I know that I'm not quoting you exactly right, but I'm close. My answer to that is - make a promise to each other to never leave no matter what. Once the bond is broken, it's not a bond anymore. Be committed to work it out. I know when or if I get married again, I will take my own advice.
You have everything in the palm of your hand and from what I can see you deserve it. It's been a joy to watch you on the show and I hope you return next season.
Maybe you ought to bring a pair of earplugs along for yourself the next time you take Paul shopping with you!
More seriously, it was interesting to hear what Estella had to say about competition in a marriage. I could relate a great deal to that, even though she was talking about you and Paul.
It was also interesting to hear Paul make the unsolicited comment about how Estella could improve her appearance. It was entertaining to watch, but I can certainly understand his wife's discomfort!
Thanks for being on Housewives!
I admire you the most out of all of the Housewives. Your reactions are so real. You make me laugh whenever you and your husband are together. I think your relationship with him is closer to real marriage than anyone else's on the show.
Adrienne: You are the epitome of the super, modern woman, wife & mother!! Thanks for staying so grounded, & not getting into the fray (although I think that will be happening soon). You are a real inspiration, and your work ethic is amazing! You are truly terrific!!!
You are a class act & prove it in every episode. I benched my husband from shopping eons ago. He's dead weight.
I think you & your husband have a fun, loving relationship. Sometimes couples do go back & forth as you have on the show but that also changes w/time. My husband & I have been together 21 years and there's almost never a cross word. It's so laid back and easy. It just gets better w/time.
You mentioned in the ps that you'll make sure your husband doesn't offer facial advice unless asked. I thought I missed Estella, a beautiful woman, asking about a facelift. Paul must have been pretty uncomfortable w/her comments but it sure changed the subject in a heartbeat. I'm sure Estella has had many a client change the subject but never the way Paul did.
The best to you & yours.
I just love you Adrienne you are the most classy wives on the show. I just adore that you don't feed into any of that drama and always have a positive outlook.
HAHA I loved your footnote regarding asking a woman before suggesting improvements on a woman's looks. However, I am a huge fan of you and your husband, Paul makes me laugh. The shopping trip could have been ripped out of a page from me and my husband. He hates to shop and I'm happy about that :)
You looked gorgeous as usual this week Adrienne, a lot of us are saying that there's not enough Adrienne and Paul on the show so it was nice to see a little more. You guys are too much fun to watch right along with Lisa and Ken, must be the neighborhood.
My daughter just entered college and I can't even think about her graduating and moving on right now, my twins are still in middle school and you're right, you go from baths to girls calling in the blink of an eye! Much love Adrienne, Lori
Marriage is not hard work. The job description is: be nice and considerate to your spouse. Your spouse is not the person you dump on most every day and are rudest to. It's the one you are most courteous to.
I just had so much fun watching this episode..God knows most women can relate to everything you wrote. Shopping with your husband in particular (Did you manage to find a dress that Paul actually LIKED ? :D). You guys are a lovely couple and I love your sense of humor.
Much Hugs from Norway.
Adrienne has any one told you how much you look like Barbara Eden in her I Dream of Jeannie years? I swear you could be her sister.
BTW I love your husband. He can tell me anytime what I need to look better and do it. LOL
Adrienne, Watching as your husband gave seemingly unsolicited advice to Mauricio's mother, I felt your pain. God bless him, you are absolutely right about not giving that type of advice without being asked. (I am also married to a surgeon, and think perhaps they need a special handbook.) Mauricio's mother is beautiful, and doesn't need a thing done. I also have to tell you just how much I admire you for not gossiping about the other women. That alone really sets you apart, shows your class, and makes you far more enjoyable to watch. Best Wishes to you and your beautiful family.
Hi - You are my favorite housewife, but I do think it's poor form to solicit free advice about your marriage from a psychologist at a social function. Professionals have a right to be "off the clock" and enjoy themselves too socially. Secondly, I was horrified that your husband told the psychologist she needed plastic surgery. So unprofessional, and tacky, of him! Take care.
Looooove you! You are the absolute best! Love your marriage, it's just like mine! Honest, truthful, playful. You are not afraid of your hubby, unlike Taylor for instance, who cowers like a frightened puppy.
You are a gracious woman in control of her life, and I love it! Here here to Persian women. Every single person of Persian ancestry whom I have had the pleasure to meet has the highest most distinguished level of grace, class, and culture. I hope to see you all more represented.
I really like and respect you. As you say at the opening of the show, Money is what I have, not who I am. You don't flaunt it. You are really down to earth and sensible when you are thrust into the middle of the low class fighting that goes on. You and your husband crack me up. The bickering isn't unhealthy in your case. You both get over it and move on. That's just the way it is with the both of you. No grudges held. You are a refreshing addition to the show.
You crack me up Adrienne!!! I love watching you and Paul together, I love the faces you make at him when he says something um, stupid? haha Loved how you called him a baby when he hurt his nose, you just tell it like it is and it's refreshing to see! As the Mom of a 28 year old daughter I can tell you I cried when she graduated from high school and then college - I lost it when I dropped her off at college, that was TOUGH!!!! Wishing you & Paul all the love you deserve!
I love you and Paul's dynamics. Greatest relationship in the show. It just seems so effectless and realistic.
The way you talk to him,is the way people really talk to each other.
That is real life.
I love the relationship you two have, I really like Paul's attitude....didn't so much like that he did that to Mauricio's Mom, she's a beautiful woman and he insulted her because he didn't care for the conversation at hand. The difference is, you asked for her advice, she didn't ask for his! Shame Paul!
I think you and Paul have a wonderfully cute and loving relationship. I have to say my husband and I bicker all the time or spar as I like to call it. I even had a girlfriend ask me if we fight like that all the time. I really don't think I would like a man who would cowl down to me, just when I want him to. It is just us. We have been married for 20 years so something is right about our marriage, we married when I was 23 and he was 30. I really don't think I would change a thing. As for shopping we shop a little, we get him something to eat we shop some more we get him a drink and then we shop some more, just like shopping with a child. You are the great. I have to say you and Lisa the best.
I just wanted to let you know that you and Paul crack me up! I can tell that you both love each other very much and you both just have that relationship where you can pick on each other IN FUN and nobody gets their feelings hurt! LOVE IT!
You and Lisa (AND PAUL and Maurico sp?) are my favorites NO DOUBT! Hope you will stay many years with RHOBH. Beverly Hills is now my Favorite out of all the housewives shows! TY for allowing us into your lives!
You are too funny. You cracked me up when you made the comment about married couples bickering and thats why they get tax breaks! You and your husband are so cute together. I was just wondering why you wouldn't want your sons to become doctors?
My husband is a board certified plastic surgeon and a member of the ASPS. When a woman asks him what he thinks she should have done, he invariably replies "it's hard to improve upon perfection!". Wins them over, every time.
Sometimes I re-watch the episode (when Bravo re-airs it) in which Paul is helping you hook your dress. Even though I know what's coming--your chiding him for being a surgeon and not being able to do it--I still laugh every time. Thanks!
can't say enough about you and paul. you are the real thing. i think you should have your own spin-off!
Adrienne, You show alot of class and I like you alot. But, I think you should be nicer to your husband and treat him better. I also think you should show him more compassion when he breaks his nose. Accidents happen, but, I don't think your son should be playing quite so rough to where he breaks his father's nose not once, but twice????
One of the reasons why I watched this show because of an interview that I read of your producer, Dave Rupel did in the Sacramento Magazine. He said that he admired that though you were a woman of great wealth (I'm paraphrasing), you are also a woman of humility. That is a very interesting combination. And I have to say that after watching you on the show, I agree with him. I can tell that your wealth doesn't define you as a person.
But I'm fascinated that you are such a strong independent person and a successful business woman. Do you have a mentoring program? I think it would be so great to have women like you set up a mentoring program with women of any age who wants their voices heard and be taken seriously in the business world.
I know that many women admire your strength and your spunk. By the way, my husband thinks Paul is hilarious and he seems like the type of guy that he would love to drinks and pizza with.
Have a great week!
Must ask for an Adrienne montage!! I swear, the funniest thing to me is watching the expressions you make :) If Bravo could put together stills showing all the funny faces you make, it'd be a HIT! I often find myself rewinding, just to see your hilarious expressions. You make my day.
Ade, not to be redundant, but you and Paul are such a trip. The shopping scene was completely hilarious and here I'm watching you two and it's me and my husband, to a "T". The clearance rack, hysterical!!! When you asked if he liked a dress and he says "no", your immediate response was "you don't know!" Literally, you cannot write that kind of husband and wife banter. When he told Mauricio's mother she could do a little "here and here" I could feel your embarassment, totally something my husband would say in the same situation. BRAVO, if there's a couple in RHW history who need their own show, it's these two. Forget Simon and Alex, forget Bethanny and Jason. Adrienne and Paul are a comedic duo waiting to shine.
adrienne, i think you have more class in your pinky finger than the rest of the bhhw's, and also think your husband really loves you, but that is my observation. just keep up the great work