Camille Grammer

Camille admits that getting to know the other gals, means she had to learn how to not offend them.

on Nov 19, 20100

Well in writing this week's blog I wonder: where do I begin and where do I end. Throughout the rest of the season, more and more will be revealed about the women who have bravely chosen to be a part of the RHOBH. Please keep in mind that the camera does not catch every moment of everything that we do in our lives. The end result of what is seen on TV is only part of the story, and that is why we write these blogs and use other venues to give more insight into ourselves and what was going on for each of us throughout the season.

The shooting for the RHOBH was completed quite awhile ago, so what you are seeing now is the beginning of our relationships. At least for me that is true, because the only person that I knew at all before the beginning of this show was Adrienne. The rest of these women were virtual strangers to me. 

The story line of this week is really the ending of last week's story. So forgive me if I repeat myself. I want to start off by reiterating that I truly wanted all of the women from the RHOBH to come to New York to see the premiere of my husband's play. I was not in New York only to play hostess to these women. In fact, I was there to have time with my family. We had been spending so much time apart and I was so excited for myself and my kids to be able to spend some quality time with their father. I was happy to entertain my friends, as I always am, but please understand that this was not my main purpose for this trip.

I was so excited when the women got into town and I wanted to meet them at their hotel to make sure everyone felt welcome. I did only have a short time to visit with them because I had to be at another dinner with my husband that night. I know that I mentioned before that I was anxious about seeing Kyle because some time had passed since we had seen each other. So I will mention it again, but it was hardly a big deal. If I didn't want everyone including Kyle there, I simply would not have invited them. I had no idea that kind of drama was part of the package for this invitation.

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Luvcatzz
Luvcatzz

Camille, I feel a great deal of empathy for you, I am saddened that you would feel that other women in this world would be unable to relate to you, you should always remember that mature women are some of the best friends you could ever have in the world. Sweetheart, you are going to be able to walk away from this public divorce with some finances to show for it, but whatever type of insecurities you may have will not ever be healed thru someone else's money. As they say, money can't buy happiness, but it's the best way to be miserable. I believe that's why you are attempting an independence from your celebrity spouse, maybe that was in the back of your mind to begin with. I have known about you for years prior to Kelsey. And one major driving force was your desire for acclaim, remember some of us are used to getting only negative attention, it's better than no attention at all. God Bless, keep your head up.

Bambieyes
Bambieyes

Camille, arguments aren't about who wins or loses. The main point is to come to a solution and put it behind you. Constantly reliving the same argument reveals something much deeper than the argument itself. I understand you were in an emotional state due to your marriage ending, but the way you treated Kyle was not necessary at all.

Callista
Callista

The book was a joke!!!! Jeesh!!! She even said "we should sit down and read it together". Lighten up people!!

Nothing wrong with pointing out a previous employment. If she is embarrassed about her "spread" then she shouldnt put herself out there for all to see!!!

MissMisty
MissMisty

Cammile, ignore the shots that are being thrown at you. You deserve better then Kelsey, especially the way he handled thing. I'm sure over the 14 yrs he had lavished you with everything imaginable, BUT, look what you've giving him, 2 of the most adorable kids I've ever seen. Hang in there and keep your head high!!

AshiaSabbath
AshiaSabbath

How to behave and why...? Hmmm...i surely hope you read the book first and took some notes before you handed it off to Kyle. And actually I wished you would have read it and took some notes over the book before you had dinner with all the ladies. The nerve if you to call or to say "hey you were naked in Playboy" in front of ever everyone at the dinner table. MANNERS MANNERS MANNERS, where are yours? you have a lot to learn sista friend.

AshiaSabbath
AshiaSabbath

I couldn't agree more with you! Camille instigate too much stuff

Working Woman
Working Woman

For starters, I luv this show, it's mindless drama that's not mine!

When a woman is going through a divorce, she knows it's time, long before it's announced. She may be hypersensitive to those around her, and I do believe that's the case with you! You turned an ant hill into a mountain, and you went down the wrong road to try to escape. So in order to save face you decided to not do business with Mauricio, which is wrong!

You all need a dose of reality, not of the elite kind either! Perhaps Bravo should do a show showing you all helping out at the local mission. You are all beautiful women in your own ways, so stop acting childish, it make you appear very, very unattractive!

Saucy1949
Saucy1949

I was impressed with you blog this time UNTIL I read the last line, "I just don't want to be the one caught in her crosshairs". You just can't go without a dig.

Saucy
Saucy

Camille, why would you have to learn not to offend the other women. To me that speaks volumes. They all seem very nice and kind. As far as being jealous of what you have, use Adrienne as example. I am sure she is much wealthier than you and Lisa seems to be doing very well. What is it that they are supposed to be jealous of, as they are all beautiful women and I think Adrienne and Lisa are both two of the classiest women I've seen and neither go around acting uppity. To say that you will have to learn not to offend sounds to me like it is something you do quite often and probably not with just the other housewives.

RaceG
RaceG

Im Team Kyle all the way. She, like the rest of the people in this planet, is not perfect but at least she made the effort to take you aside and to apologize for whatever happened in Vegas. That only shows that she's genuine and willing to put her head down, apologize and move on. However you look rude & obnoxious to say the least. I don't believe there's anything wrong with not being a girl's girl (im not a girl's girl btw) but it's about being open, genuine & willing to move on & away from negativity which we can clearly see you don't do.

A fan from PR

A FAN
A FAN

Well said to the point and full of great advise.

Disappinted
Disappinted

I was very shocked with the comment made by Camilles friend Allison (?) redheaded drunk lady about what she said she knew when Kyle would die, etc. that was just WRONG..

Phantomlady
Phantomlady

Yeah people are mean..but Camille is the type of person who wont hear things not put bluntly...but in her defense at the dinner party she did tell Kyle to leave that fool alone. She tried to tell Kyle that woman would say things she wouldn't want to hear and that those readings were better done in private. Kyle did not listen and kept asking for it. Then she got it. So that was not Camille's fault.

Although it was obvious she enjoyed watching Kyle get served a big dose of crap. She also was appalled at some of the stuff that was said. The way Kim is being treated by Kyle is just plain awful and she needs to stop.

Camille did start the party off attacking Kyle's friend that was so low class. I also agree that Kelsey agreed to the show because he knew exactly how Camille would come off looking and he would look like a man running from an alley cat. Every would wonder why it took so long for him to jump dive out that window in escape of her claws.

I feel a slight bit of sorrow for her divorce it is a painful thing...and Kelsey is not major prize either for how he has treated her.

I wish you luck Camille and i hope you grow to understand causing drama and sitting there with feathers in your mouth calmly doesn't make you a winner.

NicoleInHouTx
NicoleInHouTx

Love it! You could not be more right. Camille needs a serious reality check.

DeevaR
DeevaR

O'REALLY FOR PRESIDENT!! LOL! AMEN, SISTER....(or Brother?) lol WEll said!! Perfect!

charliegirl
charliegirl

oh I hadn't thought of that either, cause she has certainly shown signs of a personality disorder, ha! understatement..she has acted inappropriate w/the tennis instuctor and Nick on camera...could it be that Kelsey is a genius...I hope he has a pre nup, cause she's the type to take him to the cleaners..I thought it was weird how during the one on one interview, he said it was now her time to shine...but with a smirk on his face like he wanted to crack up but was holding it back...interesting...

teacherviewer
teacherviewer

Camille,

It appears that you suffer from OCD. Check into NET (neuro emotional transmission). You are lucky to live in CA...there are many specialists in LA.

ecdc
ecdc

As viewers, we only see one snapshot. Thanks for sharing another perspective. Not sure why everyone hates you so much. Kyle's not always the angel she's presented herself to be. Good to hear you've healed that relationship. Divorce is tough, but I can't imagine having to endure it so publicly. Hang in there...

Viewer from NJ
Viewer from NJ

Camille, Here are a few tips,,, smile , be nice and just treat people the way you would want to be treated,, not hard... You come off as if everyone around you is dirt from your heel... Sooooo what if you have "ALL" this and that ,, it is just stuff, I think if you look inside your heart your heart just might soften up a little.. NO ONE IS JEALOUS OF YOU>>>>>and have a meal...you are way to thin Carole

Seaside
Seaside

Huckleberrysmom......very very well said!

msos
msos

She didn't make a very good first impression.

tim2701
tim2701

You really need to get over yourself, your not that great.. Husband is a great actor... You play too much of victim... It getting old...

licious123
licious123

I just want to say that say that D.D. is not a cool person. she is weird. youd be better off trying to become friends with kyle anyways she is cooled that ur old weird friends and won't suck up to

AA
AA

Very well said, Huckleberrysmom . I could not agree more.

housewife in cal
housewife in cal

Some of you bloggers Are just down right rotten. We are talking about a woman that has been terribly betrayed by her husband, money or no money, it still is a tough ride for Camille. Yes, she may come off insecure, but so what? We are all like that from time to time in our lives. Camille does tend to zero in on what she has materialistically but I'm sure "Most" of the Beverley Hill people are that way. I just think that we should cut her some slack for the time being. We have only seen, what? About 1 month of footage? Hardly enough time to really have an accurate opinion of someone. You can have an opinion however a real accurate one, I don't think so. Anyways, I like Camille. She is sweet as far as I can tell.

teacher1996
teacher1996

Ohmigosh I hadn't even thought of that but you're so right, jafer!

love reality
love reality

oh boy, I don't even know where to start. RHW of BH is amusing however it isnnot paiting a positive image for you. Hopefully things get better, I can only hhope since you are going thru so much trauma with a separation / divorce appapparently. As for Kyle, I wasn't there but from what I saw on the show, it I don't believe she would say something like that-especially with cameras around and then deny it. She does treat her sister like the hired help and I can only hope that improves over time just for the sake of their relationship. However I believe you need to work on you. If you think that people work for you and that is how you view the world, then you, my dear will have tremendously big issues in life. You should re-watch your friend Dede's reaction when you said that God has blessed you with so much. It was probably all she could do to not cry or reach over and grab you by the neck (but then again you had to bring up your Jesus complex and how generous you were to her and her husband-how humiliating-I wouldn't have been too happy to hear that on national tv.) how about thinking about other people's feelings. Also you talk about the fact that women should work together in harmony but then you think everyone is jealous of you in another sentence. Huh? Who are you really. You need to get clear on this before you can move forward and actually form friendships with people who like you for you and now what you have and who you are married to (or not anymore). God bless you and I wish you luck

bhfriend
bhfriend

Camille,

The reason you felt so attacked by Klye is because her questions regarding your family vacation without Kelsey struck a cord within you. Clearly you were feeling insecure by Kelsey not vacationing with you. It's as though you thought Klye had some knowledge about a problem in your marriage. Klye was asking innocent questions without realize that she was stirring so much emotion within you.

Aloha808
Aloha808

Camille, you just did an interview for OK where you accuse Bravo producers of making you into a "villian".

You told OK magazine (Nov. 30, 2010): “I’m very disappointed in my character. They’ve turned me into a villain and I’m not like that. It’s not me. I can’t even watch myself. I don’t know why they [the producers] are doing that. I guess they needed that character.”

Lisa Vanderpump disagrees with you and says: “Personally, I feel that the show is very accurate. They shoot enough footage that they’re going to really portray you how you really are.”

Q: Isnt this a REALITY SHOW, so how can they 'cast' you as anything other than yourself Camille? They didnt make a "character". You freely and deliberately said everything you wanted to.

And how do you feel about Lisa basically calling you out???

jafer
jafer

Kelsey's encouragement of Camille to on RHWBH was a brilliant PR move.

nurseViewer
nurseViewer

I think she was just trying to look smart on camera.

Aloha808
Aloha808

I hope you're a much better person in real life than what we see on tv!

GWEN SNELLING
GWEN SNELLING

Oh.....and It was Camille NOT Kyle that made that appalling comment!!

Mollymartini
Mollymartini

Not sure I understand why you cant do business with Mauricio. You have a business relationship with him, he doesnt work for you, however works WITH you. Although I dont know any of you personally, you seem to have this attitude that all people care about is Kelsey, you mention it time and time again. going to vegas you mentioned how great it will be to get away by yourself and not have Kelsey get all the attention. We get it you were married to Kelsey...so what is it that you do again?

lovinthebravo
lovinthebravo

Oh please, Ms. B,

Camille was not reading "Art of War" she was just holding the book for effect. Kind of the same way she tries to use larger vocabulary words but messes them up. I doubt she's a scientologist or even has a clue what that book is about.

Marie Mn.
Marie Mn.

Camille, Although we love Kyle too, it is interesting that she says you were "twisting" things when you asked about the insecure comment. She did say "don't be insecure" which implies that- no twisting needed. Good luck with your family. It was sad to watch you with Kelsey. No one needs- or deserves- a husband that treats them with such disregard, the way we saw Kelsey treat you. With that said, let the women that have been blessed with good men and husbands - have them for themselves. Your constant need for attention from men, especially men that have wives, makes the implications that you are insecure seem valid. Why do you need that kind of attention from your friend's husband or anyones man? It screams insecurity. Regardless of whomever is your friend first in the relationship (guy or girl, as we know you pride yourself in having friendships with men); you should respect them enough to respect their relationship. No woman deserves to be treated that way by another woman, let alone someone that is supposed to be a friend. Let's hope Bravo posts this!

Huckleberrysmom
Huckleberrysmom

Camile, Camile, Camile, I will try to keep in mind that you are human being with real feelings. The truth is that you translate terribly on t.v. Your insecurities, inability to take others perspective , and lack of self-awareness make you a hoot to watch but as a person you embody all that is undesirable in a adult woman. Yes, you are beautiful and in this society beauty can count for something but as you will begin to learn, and probably already have, physical beauty is fleeting and even the most beautiful facades are of little interest to most people when the inside is underdeveloped or even dilapidated. I would bet that Kelsey was ok with you doing the show as it would allow the world to see the relationship/you as it/you really are and therefor create some level of damage control for the impending revelations of his infidelities. I'm sorry you are going through a hard time but I hope this might be a chance to re-eveluate life, most especially your inner life, and become more a whole person with facets, friends, and personal understanding. Best of luck!

Jason B
Jason B

"g": You are right. the show IS 'way to good' for Camille. LOL

Minneapolis twins
Minneapolis twins

Camille, During the espisode ,we hear Kyle say to you, "don't be insecure"- which could easily be taken as an implication that she thinks that you are insecure. Even without the knowledge of the conversation the girls had prior, it's understandable why you would have been hurt. Then, when you mention that you would like to know why she thinks you are insecure, she accuses you of "twisting" things. Nobody had to "twist" anything, she did say it. Minneapolis twins

Jason B
Jason B

#1OCFANFROMCALI: How do you know that Kyle questioned Camille in a rude, interrogating way about Hawaii? Were you there? ALso, how do you know that Kyle made the comment Camille claims she made? you weren't there and certainly you've seen how Camille twists what people say, right?

Jason B
Jason B

Just out of curiousity, why does Camille always refer to Kelsey as an A lister? A list stars are (typically) movie stars and not television. When I (and most) think of A list stars it's names like Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Angelina Jolie, Julia Roberts, etc. that come to mind. Not Kelsey Grammer, the tv star.

Ms B
Ms B

Camille are you a scientologist? I saw on one episode that you were reading The Art of War. A lot of scientologists know of this book. And during your fight with Kyle you looked as if you were trying to "confront" her.

citizen
citizen

Kyle, I can appreciate your persective after reading it here. However, I hope you were only joking about the pecking order you spoke of.