Camille Grammer

Camille Grammer sheds light on what else she did in Hawaii, and her communication style.

on Nov 4, 20100

Just need to fix the spelling on hawaiian Phrase to Imou ka kou or Imoukakou.

Hello to all of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills fans. 

This week on the show I was out of town for Spring Break in Hawaii. My family was with me and a few friends who came to visit us in our favorite place to vacation. Hawaii is such a wonderful, healing place for me. I feel so at ease with the natives and love the tranquility of the islands. It is a place to find inner peace and be one with nature. I love paddle boarding. It gives me that feeling of peace as well as an opportunity to enjoy nature's true beauty. There are so many other wonderful things to enjoy in Hawaii, but this trip was not all about pleasure.

I planned this trip to coincide with an event that is very near and dear to my heart. The "Cheers 2010, Imua Kakou (which means "moving forward together," in Hawaiian) This event is a to benefit the North Hawaii Community Hospital. It was very important to me to lend my support to this event for two reasons. First, a good friend of mine, Thea Johnston, was the organizer of this event. Second, when Kelsey had his heart attack in Hawaii, I became acutely aware of how important it is for hospitals in Hawaii to have what they need to provide excellent emergency care. I am quite happy to report that over 1.4 million dollars was raised at this 200-person event. I had hoped that the show would have spent some time highlighting the event, but sadly, this did not happen. I am hoping that some attention will be given to the event in the bonus footage aired on Bravotv.com.

This week on the show you also get to meet two people in my life.

Carl, who is a childhood friend of Kelsey's. They have know each other virtually their entire lives. I, myself, have know Carl for many years and always appreciate his support. 

Dedra, who is my best friend. We have know each other for 20 years. Her friendship is very important to me. 

Now that I am talking about a friendship with a woman, I think now would be a good time to clear some things up.

I think some people may have misunderstood me when I said that I am more comfortable around men. When I said that I did not mean that I do not have close relationships with women. I do have many close girlfriends; these relationships are paramount in my life. I was just saying that it takes longer to get to know what woman are really about. Men are much more up-front with their friends. There isn't as much maneuvering, back-stabbing and covert campaigning. It is what it is at face value.

This brings me back to the situation with Kyle. I think, as with all human communication, there is a lot of room for misinterpretation. This is most pronounced, with two people who have completely different styles of communication. Kyle can come across as aggressive, snarky, and sometimes abrasive. I think that she leans toward the bulling style of communication that I try not to subscribe to. I have to say that I do not feel that I "snapped" at Kyle. I do believe that I have tried my best, thus far, to take the high road and tune out the negativity that has been hurled my way.  I do believe that everyone eventually reaches their limit. I will not go out looking for a fight, but you better believe I will defend myself.

Sometimes when communication goes awry, it can be corrected and fences mended. Only with time, will this story play out to it's appropriate end.

Until next time,

Camille

68 comments
Dee dd
Dee dd

Camille you a strong and wonderful woman I have lost all respect for Kelsey he didn't even give you a chance. You said last night that you don't even have three men that would date you that's not true any man would be stupid to pass you up. Honestly I really disliked you last season and now I adore you keep your chin up god has a bigger plan for you this is kelseys loss. Xoxo Sara dee

achtungbaby
achtungbaby

I totally agree with you, Stephanie. When I watched the segment where Camille recounted how she helped her friend, I remember thinking "Why is she revealing this on national tv?" If I were that friend, I would have found this to be in very poor taste and extremely embarrassing. No one likes to be reminded of their hardships, and certainly, no one wants to feel forever beholding to someone who was supposedly helping them out of the goodness of their own heart. Bringing it up, seemingly without context, seems to say "you'd be in the gutter if not for me...don't you ever forget it". I'll give Camille the benefit of the doubt and believe that she didn't intend that to be her message, but I hope she's a little more cognizant of such things in the future.

Mrs.Trish
Mrs.Trish

Don't you worry your pretty little mind, people throw Rocks at Things that shine! And you definately shine Camille! Our family is rooting for you here in Idaho! :) XO

lizabeth22
lizabeth22

yes camiel that was a nasty,unprofessional thing to do,and i hardly think kelsey would agree with u.poor guy.

Sherry
Sherry

Look, it's Camille AGAIN!!!!

Sherry
Sherry

Not!! Speak for yourself....

J Ferrari
J Ferrari

Word to the Wise for women: A woman will pat you on the back, a man will pat you on the ass. Unless he's great gay friend, then, no worries.

BrendaCassinda
BrendaCassinda

Camille, You are very beautiful. However, I think you should be a little more realistic. Your life is not just about sex or how sexy you are.

angie b
angie b

beautifully put Stephanie, I would only add that it is never ever right to threaten a person's livelihood ie: Kyle's husband, over a tiff totally taboo, get a clue!

Ms.TJM
Ms.TJM

Tell her like it is.

Mitch Wood/San Francisco
Mitch Wood/San Francisco

Hi Camille,

You're a class act, very down to earth, and you treat your staff with great respect and are very gracious with them as well. I know you'll do very well without Kelsey and frankly, you're better off without him if he's going to move on from such a beautiful supportive wife with no regard or respect for the time you've spent together. Take care and your fans love you and will support you. Mitch/SF (52)

Kbar
Kbar

I think you're awesome. Not sure how people don't understand that you're really a humble, sweet person who sometimes says outrageous things, but mostly just wants everyone to be happy. Unlike the other Wives, you also don't hide the truth of your life. Not fair for people to penalize you for it.

Beth Beth
Beth Beth

You must attract envy wherever you go. And you sure are attracting all the snarkers here! I think it's marvelous that your charity raised 1.5 mil for the hospital in Hawaii. That's major. Congrats.

hoothoot
hoothoot

Your a hoot Camille! Humbleness, modesty, generosity and reality is not part of your lavish fairytale world. How will Kelsey ever survive without you since you are the powerhouse behind him? Foolish, foolish man.

Princess Peach
Princess Peach

Dear Camille, I love watching you live your beautiful lifestyle. You and your kids are blessed with wealth and luxury. Do you talk to your children about how they will have to work hard in their adult lives to continue living the lifestyle they grew up in? How do the wealthy approach college and career aspirations with their kids? Do you have a college savings account for them?

Viviane
Viviane

Camille, I love this show and I love all the ladies. I feel this is the first Housewives on Bravo that shows down to earth housewives. You girls have so much but at the same time you guys show how much you are like everybody else. You are awesome!

Aloha808
Aloha808

Camille, Do you think Kelsey set you up to be on this show in order for you to hear criticism from others? I mean, he must have known that people would write these blogs and all. Just a thought. Aloha808

Kate CT
Kate CT

I agree. I was trying to like her as well....but I was so embaressed by that scene.

kissthegyrl
kissthegyrl

Sheesh people, leave her alone! I LOVE Camille, I think you are as sweet as pie! Some people may have a hard time relating to you, but I can tell that you were not flirting with that lady's husband. You just have a very alluring personality. Oh well if everyone in the world were the same it would be very boring wouldn't it. You keep doing what you've been, no need to let negative comments bother you, as long as you and God are happy with you noone else matters. Love ya! :0)

reginae
reginae

Camille, Do you ever spend time with your kids or are they always with the nannies? Maybe it just gets edited out but we never see you with the kids unless the nannies are there.

Lilu816
Lilu816

Oh! My! A few clips of the show is not the whole person. Maybe you ladies see things you do not like about your "own" self. This is where you all have entered the center stage of Camille's story. Telling!!! Camille is in her testing stage, testing her own waters. Again Camille will find her own way, leave it to nature, our greates teacher. LOL

Lilu816
Lilu816

Leave her be. Camille will find her own way.

GoAdrienne
GoAdrienne

I like how you said you have 30% more work to do than the other wives when Adrienne owns and manages over half of Las Vegas, plus a professional sports team. Oh, plus, she (only?) has ONE part-time nanny.

Vieweramanda
Vieweramanda

I think you are fascinating and I wait for your segments on the show! I can see why people are somewhat put-off by the way you speak- you do not come across as very humble, gracious, or tactful (especially when you start discussing wealth, in particular, yours). However, I like your sense of humor, I think you are great looking (the other ladies are probably jealous), and you are definitely a unique soul. In other words- you are fun to watch. Keep your head up, girl! You're my fave housewife of BH.

karentc
karentc

You really weren't on this episode that much, was that your decision? Or maybe it was Bravo's? HUM

AngelaDein
AngelaDein

Jeez, give the girl a break. I am sure that everyone is so perfect that everything they say comes out exactley right at all times. When she said she kept Kelsey sober she probably meant that she helped him stay sober. I actually saw many instances where she was very nice and genuinley happy to hear from the girls and be with them and appreciative of everything that was going on. I am not saying she is perfect but neither am I.

Stephanie1974
Stephanie1974

I am not writing to put you down as I feel that is not a nice thing to do and not nessesary, I would like to share what I see. What you did for her friend and her husband was a good deed BUT it should have never been revealed on a TV show that millions of people watch. That is a shot to the heart for a persons pride and self respect and it should have been kept between you and them only. I am sure you are a nice person but I do believe you have lived in your soon to ex's shadow so long you lost self confidence in yourself. You let yourself be defined by him and his success and not your own individual successes. This lack of self confidence in anyone leads to thinking that people mean one thing while they are actually saying another, such as the case I believe between you and Kyle. You seem to crave attention from men with your "suggestive topics" (breast implants, sex talk etc) and you are obviously in need of a friend. It is good to have male and female friends but during this time of discovery you should be around your girlfriends. As a woman you should definately relate to a woman in your current situation so let your gaurd down and be the sweet person that you are. Go find the strong, vivacious woman that you were before you married and I'm sure you will feel more comfortable in your own skin. Take it from somebody who has been where you are and come out the other side a better woman for it.... Best of luck on your journey.

C.P.
C.P.

Camille, I do not think you are very different in terms of humility, but you lack the filters others use in order to be likable. You do not deserve to be judged so harshly for saying things as abruptly as others often think them. That said, we all need to get in touch with ourselves to find what's really important, and when we keep this in mind this does genuinely humble us and make us happier people. I think you are soft on the inside, even if a bit blunt. I feel for what this must have been like for you all along, and you do not deserve to be dragged through the mud for being less crafty then other women who live the same way and want the same things. I wish you the best..at the deepest possible level.

Elle718
Elle718

You're my favorite Camille! I applaud you on calling out Kyle for her catty remarks. I'm shocked people are so hard on you here. It seems your ex-husband had a very co-dependent relationship with you and a lot of women who haven't experienced may have a hard time understanding why you have so much on your plate. Keep your chin up!

Mary D  St Clair Shores MI
Mary D St Clair Shores MI

Camille, You cannot keep Kelsey sober. Kelsey is the only person who can keep Kelsey sober. Sorry to bust up your ME, ME, ME party. You need to come down off your high horse. The other BHHW are very nice ladies.

roothie
roothie

camille - you do not keep a person sober and if you were truly involved in kelsey's sobriety you would know how false a statement like that is. i would suggest you check out alanon - since you've obviously never done that before. it might really help you understand what you're talking about.

katrinabear
katrinabear

Camille, if you don't want people to only think of Kelsey when they think of you then it'd be wise to stop mentioning him every 5 seconds. Kelsey this, Kelsey that. WE KNOW. You were married to him. We get it, as does everyone else. Stop name dropping him. It's annoying.

Viewer1000
Viewer1000

Hi Camille, You need to stop flirting with married men. It tends to make women catty. Work on your female relationships. Going through this tough time in your life, you will need girlfriends!

ErinB
ErinB

I feel sorry for you that everyone is not saying the kindest things about you. But I must agree, you don't seem to be to humble. What really through me off was your flirting with your tennis pro (your husbands friend) then all of the sudden he shows up in Las Vegas? And you act like "what are you doing here?"... then you leave the party early? ummmmmm doesn't look good from where I sit. I would be so upset if I knew my husband was flirting with someone else on that level. It is just not appropriate. So Camille, you already have people that don't respect you, for that reason. I know you are not with Kelsey any longer, but sheeesh girl, your kids are going to watch that. Actually, Kelsey probably doesn't feel to bad for leaving you now.

Indy18
Indy18

Since you are SOO generous... can you pass some my way? I don't have houses all over, just a 1200 sqaure foot apartment. I don't have fancy new cars, just an 11 yr old vehicle. HAHA :)

Keao
Keao

Did you hear Hawaii existed before statehood? There are native Hawaiians, Hawaiians refer to our ethnicity and not because we just live in Hawaii. Own language. Own culture. We don't take offense to being called native.

ellen99
ellen99

Camille, obviously you are going through a difficult time right now with the end of your marriage. but, this is no reason to act the way you do on the show. it is very difficult for the viewer at home to sympathize with you as you prance around in a mini bikini and brag about all that you have and all that you do...i only hope the future episodes are more redeeming.

Deb Rawr
Deb Rawr

"The natives"? LOL....have you heard they made Hawaii a state?

Badonna L.Marrero
Badonna L.Marrero

Camille,I like the fact that you do enjoy yourself without your husband around but what I don't like is that when you are around your friends husbands you reveal all of your inner sexy, calm down girl and just be cool and nice and I am sure that world will like you for who you are and not because you are the BHHW that sure does not how to work a stripper pole.

ccruises
ccruises

I agree a.kaligaris, with everything you said