Camille Grammer

Camille looks back on all that's changed since this week's episode was filmed

on Oct 28, 20100

As I sit down to write this blog for the first time I am struck by two things. One is that I am so sincerely glad that I did this show. Even though, It has been quite an experience, and a daunting task at times. The second is how much a person's life can change in such a short amount of time. We are only three episodes in, and I am finding myself looking at my past with much trepidation.

I was still blissfully unaware of the drastic changes that were going to happen in my personal life.

This week, on the show, I was thrilled to see myself enjoying spending time with some of my oldest and dearest friends. Nick, who I played tennis with, and who surprised me in Las Vegas (although I was quite sure at the time that he was sent as a watch-dog for my husband) and Tricia, Nick's wife who you didn't see on camera this week, but hopefully will soon. Tricia was also in Vegas, but was back at the room getting ready for a John Mayer concert when the cameras were rolling. Nick and Tricia have been dear friends of both Kelsey and I for nearly a decade.

I have to thank Adrienne again for a wonderful trip to Las Vegas. I really enjoyed the time I spent with these wonderful, intelligent, and interesting women. I do think I was somewhat disconnected from the group that weekend. I suppose on some level I was feeling the need for quiet reflection. I have always been person who has been more comfortable around men. Maybe it was because I was so close to my brother and father. Through my time spent with them when I was young, I developed my love for sports and cars. Don't get me wrong I love a good fashion show as much as any girl—I just had a lot of time to develop other, not- so-girly interests in addition to shoes and purses. I find I really put careful consideration into my friendships with women because the relationships can be so sensitive. Let's face it: some women can be down right catty. This is what makes me cautious, but also what makes my true friendships so dear to me.

Also on the show this week you saw what was the beginning of a misunderstanding between Kyle and myself. I have learned over the past 14 years to keep my family life private and have become quite guarded in this respect. I know that seems contrary to a reality show, but it is still a learning process of what to share and what to keep private. I really felt that Kyle was a virtual stranger to me, and when she was riffling so many pointed questions at me about my vacation plans, it felt very intrusive—almost an interrogation of sorts. This lead to a misunderstanding, and, well, the story will continue from there.

It is interesting to watch yourself on a reality show. It makes you think about the things that you say and how what you meant to convey can be so easily miscommunicated and misunderstood. I am a playful person, and my playful sarcasm may be falling on deaf ears. My self-deprecating humor may not be as funny as I thought. I may have to put off publishing my first "joke book" until I fine-tune my craft.

Lastly I want to thank all of the true fans of the show. I know that this season will not disappoint them. There’s so much more to see—we are only getting warmed up. I do appreciate the support both for the show and personally in my time of evolution.

Until next time, Camille

143 comments
Deborah Kanic
Deborah Kanic

Camille, I'm truely sorry that your husband treated you the way he did when he asked you to go to the awards with him and said you could talk about fixing your marriage. Then after the awards told you he wanted a divorce and had someone on the side. When he did that to you he showed his viewers what a dirt bag he really is. I refuse to watch his show anymore. If my mother were alive, she'd stop watching his show to. He wanted you on his arm because you have class and grace. The other woman can't hold a candle to you. She must be a real dog if he is too embarrassed to take her to an awards with him. LOL! You know what I mean?

Don't let Kyle change who you are, be yourself. No one with any sense cares what she thinks. She's full of herself, most insecure people are, they have to be to cover up that low self image they have of themselves.

I'm glad you're dating but be careful with those young sprouts because they're normally looking for a surrogate mother to take care of them financially. You are welcome to show this e-mail to the public or Andy. Best Wishes in Apopka, Florida

Viewer Sarah Chomistek
Viewer Sarah Chomistek

Camille, I think you are such a sweetheart. I'm so sorry you have to go through a public divorce, I can't imagine how you are feeling. You keep your head up and know that you are beautiful, funny, and have a great personality going for you, so it won't be hard for you to charm some lucky man. It could be worse, you could be in my situation living with someone I cannot stand, and cannot get away from because I am not fortunate enough to afford it yet. Working and going to school trying to make a better life for myself is hard, especially with NO emotional support, so I know what it is like to feel alone. My guy is a 31yr. old so addicted to Facebook gaming that he lost his $12,000/month job and does nothing but game all day. Talking to him is even a chore. Even though he is here he isn't really "here", and it's lonely. So thinking about your situation, I feel it's sort of like mine because your husband might be physically gone so he is really not there, and my guy is so zoned out in his gaming that it feels as though he is really gone. It's sad. I gave up my apartment for him and believed his lies and now am stuck living at his dad's house and want nothing more than to move out. Between my horrid living conditions(physically) and circumstances while supporting us on a very small income is beyond frustrating daily for me. Having my loved ones(family) all the way in MI while I'm in Texas really sucks. But I wanted to share a small piece of my situation in hopes it cheers you up a little to know its really sucky for me too. My life experiences also coincide with Taylor's background a lot so my life's journey has been more than difficult with my hopes high for something, anything better! Camille, I sincerely wish you the best and so much happiness to you!! I hope my story can help inspire comfort and optimism, because if I had an eighth of the money you were blessed with I would buy one more pair of shoes so I have two, get a small apt, and be near my family and daughter! Anyhow, I really think you are gonna pull through the tough times you are experiencing because your strength and watching you handle everything gracefully inspires me! You are rockin' awesome Miss Camille! It's about empowering women not tearing them down!! ~Sincerely, Best Wishes, Sarah~

Michelle Ann Haugo
Michelle Ann Haugo

Hun I'm so sorry for you being misunderstood but u acted out before your divorce yet I can only understand your pain now But u will succeed hold onto your childrens love and love for U!

in your corner
in your corner

I feel for you. Yes, you brought some on yourself, but Kyle has "attack" personality. However, looked like you and Kyle made up and others stirred the pot, not to mention you are undergoing a painful public divorce, yet somehow, you have gotten no sympathy! Unfrickin' believable!

You are a strong, beautiful woman who handled herself with grace in a public situation. Kayte Walsh is a homewrecker and not pretty at all. Kelsey is an ass. I always liked him, but not after seeing him treat you so cold. You are his WIFE and mother of his children and should be treated with more respect than that, even if the marriage didn't work out.

Wishing you a better year!

Taybjay
Taybjay

Camille, I know I don't know you but as far as I can tell you are strong,brave,beautiful and giving and a wonderful and dedicated mother. I believe Kyle is very jealous for you and you are better than that. I hope that your heart heals quickly,however i think that you have such a big heart and a dedicated soul it will take some time to heal. I also hope that your mother recovers quickly from her cancer. I wish I could reach out and give you a big hug. All the best to you and your family.

dee dee
dee dee

I am trying to find out what sunglasses Camille had on in that Las Vegas episode also...wondering if you ever found out

West Coast Woman
West Coast Woman

I think Camile is nice, but a little superfial and materialist, I don't see to much talent in the Beverly House wifes, for me the best is the British woman, and Adriane, the are very nice, beautifull and inteligents. The rest are Barby's Dolls... with money from her husband or for granted... Its just an entretaiment.. Will be nice if some of the money they make with this show, they will gve to same people they don't have nothing!!

kim blackburn
kim blackburn

i agree, and ny, she screwed up and told everyone(includin veiwers) that kyle called her insecure,BUT shes the one who first said shes really shy, which as we all know, is a source of insecurity, so when kyle said, you shouldn't be insecure, she was being true and camille took it way to far from there,, as we all seen..........shes a kook!!!!!!!

Cram
Cram

I can not agree with you more. And for Camille to feel that some women are "catty" I hope she places herself in this category. I find an amazing insecurity about her personality. She can only relax around men because there is nothing she needs to compete with. Where is with women she finds things in her mind to pick at. I can only pray that she learns to accept and love herself. One thing that I did find disrespectful was when she felt the need to talk about her breast with the husband. Who does this? She creates good drama. I guess she's the "Danielle" of Beverly Hills.

A.O.
A.O.

totally agree!

PenniH
PenniH

HAHAH I agree!! You seem to be so classy and try hard to make us think that and yet you danced like that in public? What a dicotomy.

Viewerrn
Viewerrn

Very well said, agree 100%.

Mrs.Trish
Mrs.Trish

We love your style and fashion in Idaho!

katybug
katybug

Camille, Totally love you. Would love to know where you got the shoes you had on in the chocolate louboutins, where you met with your interior designer, you had on a skirt and top, also the blue shoes you wore when in Vegas I think it was, you were getting out of the car. Love your style.... Please let me know any info on these items.....Where to buy and the maker also the style if you know. Thanks

AWatcher
AWatcher

Camille,

I think you truly feel that you are giving and helpful to family and friends; but, when you discuss what you have done for those you love on national tv it does not seem so generous. For example, in Hawaii, you told you stated you helped everyone in the hot tub. Your female friend seemed shocked by your statement even though she did not say anything. Then, to follow-up with you have a Jesus complex! Girl, really??? OK, let us move on to the comment you made to your mother. You told her at lunch that Kelsy got her the good doctors that saved her life. Wow! Now, on first listen this does not seem bad; but,on second listen you were reminding her that she is here because of what Kelsy and you did for her. Low! Then, when you commented that your husband was "here" and Kyle's husband was "there", that was condescending and snooty at best. That's not nice.

IL60010
IL60010

Wondered why you would broadcast to the world that your friends were having financial problems? You even gave us their names. I believe you said that you let them stay in one of your homes and you gave them a car.

How could you be so inconsiderate to repeat such personal information about your friends?

Connie O
Connie O

I also would like to know the brand of Camille's beautiful dark glasses she wore at the Palm's pool. They looked amazing. I think Camille is a classy lasy!

JoLynne
JoLynne

Camille, When I first saw this show I was a fan of you. But first of all, you stated you don't drink. Then we see you agreeing to do shots and having no problem with drinking. Which is it? Also, while I do think that Kyle might have asked too many pointed questions and I see why you felt attacked, you have said yourself that you FEEL like pepole say that they don't care about you if kelsey isn't there. You say yourself "It;s time to step out of my husbands shadow and shine..." and at least twice an episode you talk about feeling like people focus too much on kelsey and that you want to shine also. I feel that since you already have that thought in your head, you took what kyle said as meaning that. she obviously didn't mean that. and she didn't say it. When you get attacked you get this little timid voice and try to play the victim...and you say you "won," but guess what? You really did look like an immature child. I would have gotten SO upset too if someone was blatantly sitting there telling lies saying I said something I didn't say.

get your story straight, please.

DoRightWoman
DoRightWoman

Glad I'm not the only one who sees this, too.

And, I believe Kyle.

Palmbeachchick
Palmbeachchick

Camile, You are a great dancer with a gorgeous body I get it you loved the attention but you don't want the attention of your friends' husband. just my two cents,

ke ke
ke ke

I am with you 100%!@!!!!

B-The-Professional
B-The-Professional

Camille: I'm glad you decided to do the show. To me you come across as someone who I would be friends with. I love the show because even though you ladies have it like that you are business women. Personally I get you! I too have two children by a "movie star" (to remain nameless) but I have never been in the limelight. My son and my daughter were and always will be my life (they are young adults now) and I'm proud of the way they both turned out. I am my own woman in my own right and except for those close to me who are aware of my past involvement with "him", I am proud of the things I have accomplished by myself. I work for a prominent law firm in downtown Los Angeles and I love to dance. You can usually find me out dancing Ballroom or Salsa. Dancing is good exercise and it allows me to live in my own little world (and I love to be a little flirtatious) and tune out all of life's little nasties, as I'm sure it does you. I'm glad you want to be yourself in your own right too. Enjoy yourself and if the ladies take your flirtatious nature the wrong way then let them deal with their own insecurities! Good luck to you.

Letdownagain
Letdownagain

Camille, first I love you if the other women don''t get you don''t worry, I have learned through some tough times that other women who claim to be friends are not. You said on the show Thursday that you have helped your friend with a house and a car. Hope they know what you have done for them. I have helped what I thought true friends, had a fundraiser for friend who''s husband became ill, paid some bills for them, gave her a job, then when I lost my job and slowly started loosing things like my car and maybe my house soon, her or other friends have just gone away. I was always the person to jump in and help friends and strangers, now I need the help and noone is here for me. I pray that yours friends let you know everyday what a great friend you are. Keep your head up with your pesonal life girl, you will come through it all.

Fan1234
Fan1234

Yea she does not have a hubby anymore I'm sure he realized what she was doing* Her behavior as a married woman is insane!!!

Julie S.
Julie S.

Okay, are you glad you got that off your chest? This blog is NOT about Kelsey, it's about Camille.

Vegas Baby
Vegas Baby

There is a Versace in Las Vegas, NV.

FTWTX
FTWTX

So, DO you drink? First you stated that you don't and in the blink of an eye you were agreeing to do shots. If you do, no big deal. If you don't, what was up? Why with the husbands of the other ladies? Very strange.

Aloha808
Aloha808

Camille, Have you ever thought about going back to school and working on yur education? It is very fulfilling and empowering. Best, Aloha808

Bama-TVChick
Bama-TVChick

I'm sorry, but I just can't help it: I knew girls like you in school: Shallow, gossipy, sneaky but always in a way that kept them under the radar. I suppose that type of behavior is forgiveable when you are in high school or college. But when you are in your mid-40's and a mother, it's time to freaking GROW UP! Stop trying to create drama for the cameras lady, seems to me you have more than enough in your REAL life. Clean that mess up. Clean your act up too while you're at it.

hwatcher
hwatcher

RealHWofCa...that was my opinion to which I am entitled and it did not take me nearly as much time to express it as it took you. You are as entitled to express yourself as I am. Again, Camille was out of line in mixed company, while you need convincing that she needs 4 nannies, I don't care how many she needs as long as she can afford them and she can fly as many interior decorators to NY as she can afford...doesn't bother me, I don't have to pay for all of that, but it still bothers me when any insecure woman draws attention to herself from others husbands. Period.

Dedicated Viewer
Dedicated Viewer

It is very interesting to watch the show and see how blessed you are financially. I like to see all the finer things that you are able to have and it is intriguing to me. My life will never have that enormous wealth and I am content to be a middle class American. It is just fun to watch. I do hope you and all the other housewives spend a lot of money on your charities every year. There are so many people here in the United States that are really struggling to keep food on the table. You have so much to be thankful for. With the holidays coming up, may I suggest you pass on your next handbag and shoes and help make some holiday cheer for families that really need it? Also, even though it may not be necessary to have 4 nannies, I applaud you for keeping people employed and provide them a steady pay check. Do something extra generous for your nannies this year. They are helping to raise your children which is the most important job of all. Best Wishes!

Viewer1986
Viewer1986

WOW!!! I agree and you are right... Camille is not a true tomboy!!

Viewer1986
Viewer1986

I would love to see how you react if a woman who claims to be your friend were to dance and talk about her fake boobs the way she did, near your husband!!

CallMeVenus
CallMeVenus

Hi Camille, I noticed that Paul is always checking you out. Not your fault! I think you should tone down the flirting with Nick...unless, there is something between you, Kelsey, Nick and his wife that we don't know about. I don't know what Kelsey is like, but I love his role as Frasier. I am so glad you're on the show...so far it's been my favorite! You have an amazing body, and if I could dance like you I'd be showing off, too:) You definitely need to be on Dancing with the Stars!

Nolga
Nolga

Unfortunately Kelsey is going through yet another temper tantrum and mid life crisis. It's time to nuture the family Kelsey instead of vice versa. You continue to run from the quality times.

Gag
Gag

Nick was SENT as a guardian? Whom do you think you are fooling?!

$DoesntBuyHappy
$DoesntBuyHappy

Actually, Adrienne is the richest according to all of the Housewives when they were on Andy's show (after the 1st episode I think).

Vee Lu
Vee Lu

Now Camille,

Adrienne is much better than me because if I had seen my husband flirting with you and vice versa, that trip would have been cut short and so would our friendship. I don't care how secure you are in a marriage, there are just some things that friends don't do. Talking about your "twins" in front of the husbands.....a bit much! Your on screen interaction with Nick.........hmmmmm! If Kelsey did send him to "spy" on you, it looked like a labor of love to me. It's going to be interesting to see what led to your divorce since you've stated repeatedly that you had no idea that it was on the horizon.

Amywestcoast
Amywestcoast

Love you Camille! You're fun to watch and Kyle is a bore! She's so incredibly rude to her sister and you. She must be very unhappy with herself. I am still trying to figure out how she is the fan favorite? I respect Camille for coming out with IBS and I give her a lot of credit for staying married to Kelsey Grammer for as long as she did. I NEVER liked the guy. And we can't not judge Camille from Kyle's words, the gossip queen of them all.. Kyle sounds like she will be causing 99% of the drama on the show. Stay away from her Camille the claws have been out from the get go!

Stacie Ardion
Stacie Ardion

i can see excalty why ur dirvoce happened just from the 3 episodes i have watched! thank god for this show so kelsey got to see what was going on behind hes back

new fan
new fan

I keep hearing how women are so caddy. Really! Having girl friends makes you sane but you have truly be friends. You are going to need some good girl friends now. You will get through the divorce if you can get your nose out of the air and start spending time with your kids. Also some of the things you say I think are taking too much credit. Hope you will learn to stand on your own 2 feet and stop mentioning Kelsey's name. Hopefully you have briefly lost your way and this change will get you back to the real world. Sometimes change hurts but it is the best thing for us. Good luck with your new chapter of your life!

ElleP
ElleP

Lisa is also the riches of all of them!!!