This blog is a difficult one. So much has changed since we filmed this episode.
Let's start with Kim's boyfriend and me meeting him for the first time. Kim did bring Ken to Paris' premiere party, but for some reason we never actually met. It was crowded that night, and we were all off in different directions. Kim never introduced him to our sister Kathy either, so I didn't know of any boyfriend. I started hearing about Kim's "neighbor" Ken from my nieces. Kim had been spending time over there, but still hadn't shared anything with any of us. Watching the show as an outsider, I think it must look strange to you that I am crying over Kim moving in with a boyfriend that she seems to be happy with. I wish it were that simple. I have many reasons for not thinking Ken is the right person for Kim. It looks as if I am crying because I want her to live closer to our family. Why do you think that is?
Unfortunately people simply cannot understand our relationship from watching a TV show. This relationship is decades in the making. Plus, there are many contributing factors that you will never see because I am not comfortable sharing them with the world. I am sorry about that. You may feel frustrated at times, angry, or curious why I have said or done certain things. For now, I have to wait until my sister is ready to speak up and explain things herself.
Kyle, please admit that you cannot stay out of anyone's business. If you feel torn, it is because you will not keep your mouth shut. In your sister's case, she didn't tell you because you never respect any of her decisions. In Taylor's case, you totally stirred that pot by suggesting that perhaps Lisa likes to prey on weak persons and implying that Taylor should stand up to her. Taylor was in the midst of a terrible time and did not need for you to push her further into the self-doubt with which she already struggles.
Getting back to your sister, Kim, most readers are savy enough to know there are underlying reasons for your concern. Please stop using "sister-love" for your judging ways. On a happier note, I don't think this show would be interesting without you.
Watching the last episode, Taylor openly discovered her problems. She admitted that she wen out of her way to be friends with Lisa, just like she was desperately trying her best to tip toe around Russell in their marriage, AND she admitted she doesn't know who she is. This is a full response to her problems. Just as Kim said in previous season, she is trying to be friends with everyone, especially people having certain amount of money in the bank or status. She is trying to fit in. She is behaving like them. She is buying the same things. She agrees with everyone's opinion, especially in one-on-one conversations. She is adapting to every person, to the point that she starts to forget what she is like with each of those people. The more people she meets the more opinions she gains, the more personalities she acquires. And of course she lost herself in all that likability contest. She needs some time alone, alone with herself, and nature. No TV, no internet, no opinions, no judgement, no Gucci or jewelry stores, just her and her thoughts, her hobbies. She is lost. And even more so after Russell's death.
can you not see Lisa saying she doesn't claim to be Taylors BEST friend is not the same as not being her friend? do the producers make you all act like airheads? You could have saved taylor a ton of grief by explaining lisa was not out to get her. shame on you
Kyle, I think most of us understand how close you and Kim are and the relationship between the 2 of you. I was choked up watching how hurt you were and to really see the sensitivity Kim showed towards you when she wanted you to meet Ken. I hope everything works out for her, with OR without him. Lisa's tea party was a disaster..And be careful who you "VENT" to and what you say....you never know who will twist your words and throw you under the bus...Oh yea..You rock girl..absolutely gorgeous!!!...just sayin !
Kyle, I haven't exactly defended you every episode of the season, but I am sure there's a lot we don't know regarding your relationship with your sister (and her relationship with Ken). I'm also certain a lot of people have been in the situation of being friends with two people who don't like each other and vent to you. It's tricky because if you say the slightest negative thing about one friend to another, it can be used against you. I don't think you deserve any judgment.
Take care! I look forward to watching the rest of the season!
Kyle, Lisa has always had your back. Always. With Camille last season, with Brandi this season. You have never had her back. She deserves better from someone that is supposedly a BFF. You are a great mom and wife, but you are not a good friend, unfortunately.
Very sad to see how you are this season.. I've defended you up to now but can't anymore - you seem to not be a loyal friend or a very nice person. Very sad really...
I actually liked you last season. Your true colors are coming out and they seem to be all kinds of different shades of black.
I am a little shocked by some of the comments posted here. Kyle, I don't think anyone could seriously say that they haven't vented about someone they cared about, nor do I think anyone intelligent could blame you for not wanting to get involved in other people's conflicts. It is almost always detrimental to do so, and deciding to participate in the 'he said she said' antics would be most unbecoming of you. I have been a fan of yours from the beginning, and still am. I would love to know where you are shopping. You love fabulous, effortlessly.
Lisa has backed you in all situations involving a conflict you had with someone. Even at the reunion when Camille called you a bully. Even though you are a grown woman who is fully capable of defeding herself, Lisa was the only one who said she wouldn't sit there and allow someone to say such things about you. You have not defended Lisa EVEN ONCE this entire season.
How do you figure telling Taylor that Lisa preys on the weak i staying neutral? You could have helped the two of them but instead chose to stir the pot unnecessarily. I don't get it. Can you imagine how Lisa felt that day? I hope you start putting yourself in others' shoes one of these days.
When I read the blog comments, and the facebook comments I am always shocked and appalled at the cruelty of strangers. All I can say is, as a stranger watching this show - It seems that you have been the best sister to Kim as you can be. And I can see how hard it is for you to let her go and make her own choices, no matter how bad they may seem. We don't know your history, but from last season we know enough to know you may have real reasons to worry about her so much. I also think you were put in a very bad place between Lisa and Taylor. I think Taylor disrespected everyone there by trying to "out" them with comments made out of context, etc. Just keep true to yourself. I watch this show, not for the entertainment value that most are watching it for, because I like the strong women I see in you, Lisa, Adrienne, and now Camille. Thank you.
Kyle, no offense but why are you *always* somehow associated with the drama on the show?? You seem so genuine when you're 1:1 with everyone, but your cattiness takes over when they're not around.
I agree, you're a great mom & wife, but as far as friends/sister go, you have much to learn about loyalty.
I think it was ignorant of you to say that you are going to not acknowledge a person, especially if that person means so much to your sister and she's in love with him. Don't you think that is hurtful to your sister? You need to grow up.
Kyle, I admire the fact that you you own what you say, good or bad. However, I don't know what it is with you and Lisa but it seems to me like you just don't go the extra mile for her as she would for you. I think Lisa is fantastic, she stands up for what she believe's and she doesn't mince words, and I have a good feeling she would go to the ends of the earth for you. You should re-consider how you treat her, especially in front of others. Taylor in my opinion, has a ton of issues and as she showed will throw any and everyone under the bus if need be. Pick your friends wisely, they are few and far between.
I think anyone who has a sister knows that there is so much below the surface that outsiders cannot necessarily see. I think you are a GREAT sister to protect her by not airing out all of that inside information. If she wants to reveal it, she will and it's her choice. As far as her new choice in a partner, my sister went through something similar and it was very hard to bite my tongue.....I think you are doing a phenomenal job of doing so! Oh...and your little girl is so cute!
Kyle, I hope you weren't serious about not acknowledging Ken at future gatherings. I married into a family that was very closed-off and not welcoming to strangers. Some were nice to me, but others - including my mother-in-law - would barely register my presence when I saw them. I was very confused because I didn't know what I'd done. It turns out that they just weren't comfortable with people they didn't know. I was hurt that they didn't try, though. It's a crappy feeling to be in someone's home and feel ignored and unwelcome. Please don't do that, regardless of how you feel about Ken.
Please keep in mind -- especially when it comes to your sister, Kim -- that it is not ALWAYS about YOU (I mean, CRYING because she told you she got a new boyfriend....????....Ummm....REALLY, Kyle!!! Crying???? Come on, girl!! Save the drama for your mama! That is ridiculous!!). Kim is a grown woman, and you need to stop trying to control her. I know she has her issues, but, in all honesty, I think you contribute to (and, possibly, worsen) them with your bullying, your constant judgment and your constant attempts to control her life. I don't blame her one bit for not telling you about her relationship.
I wouldn't have told you either.
Let that woman live her life!! If she falls off a cliff....well, then she falls off a cliff. Let GO and let GOD. He is the only one in control. Not you.
Also, you have NOT been a good friend to Lisa. Lisa may have her faults (Everybody needs room to be "human." She's human; therefore, she is not perfect), but she has always been a good and loyal friend to you. From what I've seen on my television screen so far this season, you have backstabbed Lisa and failed to have her back.
Not cool, Kyle.
Get out of Kim's business.
Learn to control that vicious tongue of yours.
And try to repair your relationship with Lisa if you can.
I feel bad that you were put in that situation! Regardless of what was said, you trusted Taylor not to repeat. I am sure Lisa understands that you are a true friend! Stay strong!
What Taylor did was like something out of high school... Going to someone's home and trying to get everyone in attendance to gang up on the host. That was her battle, and she tried to drag you all into it. Lisa was coming from a good place when she said that, although she and Taylor were not best friends, she's there for her. She even welcomed Taylor and daughter into her home. That is offering a lot, especially when there is alleged abuse. Yeah, she has the extra square footage, but she was also willing to go to bat for Taylor in getting involved. And Taylor didn't appreciate it. Very sad.
I really didn't like Mondays episode. Taylor was attacking Lisa at her tea and was trying to bring you in on her side and you did nothing to stop her to stick up for Lisa. Well, actually no one stopped Taylor and stuck up for Lisa so it's not all your fault.
I'm sure you feel concerned for your older sister. But you have to let her make her own decisions. Her choices are different than your choices. I think that you smother your Kim and she feels that in your eyes she can't do anything right. I totally understand her not sharing her relationship with you. You came in and judged the man without even knowing him. You actually came in and did what Kim thought you would do. It is sad she had to move far away from you just to be happy.
You claim that Lisa's ego has gotten out of control since the show started, but the same can be said about you. However, it's not your ego, it's your personality and character that is out of control. Last season I thought it was Camille that was the problem, now my eyes have been opened and your true colors are starting to show. You don't deserve Lisa and Adrienne as friends because you don't know how to be a good one yourself.
Kyle..I can't believe you were saying Lisa has a big ego...please, who is the one with an ego...look in the mirror ... Lisa is the most famous housewife in the whole franchise and I think someone's a little jelly. You are stating to sound like Jill off the RHONY....we all know what happened to her.
I think what Lisa meant to say was that alhough she is not really close to Taylor, Taylor is welcome to stay at her home. It was just a poor choice of words on Lisa's part. If all you feel Lisa is a bully and have discussed this with Taylor, you should have admitted it. I don't trust anyone of you, except for Lisa. Lisa is the only friend I would want to have from this show. Kyle you continue to disappoint from the game night and this episode.
Last year, viewers could tell that you and Lisa had a true friendship. You were my favorite housewife, but you've changed. It's sad. Doesn't history with someone count for anything?
Poor Lisa, what did she see in you by calling you her friend.......maybe you and Taylor deserve each other.....
I don't understand why you wrote that this was their argument, as in Lisa and Taylor's. The only thing that it seemed like Lisa was upset about was not being invited to Taylor's luncheon, which if Taylor would have explained to Lisa about not inviting her prior or immediately after and said "no hard feelings" I would think Lisa would have been ok with to a degree. There is a complete difference between saying someone is your friend and someone is your best friend. Instead of everyone focusing so much on "their fight" I would have thought as a group of friends more would have reacted like Lisa in wanting to help Taylor, who obviously was very unstable at the tea party regardless if anyone knew the TRUE reason behind it. However, it was a very fragile conversation to start with someone and I can see how you felt caught between the two. You always look amazing and I love seeing you with your family! You might just be the luckiest gal in Beverly Hills!
Kyle i used to reaaaaally like you! And I still do, actually. But seriously, why act this way towards Lisa?
Kyle, loved the glasses you had on when you were talking to your husband about Kim's new beau. Would love to know who makes them. Thanks!
You should have defended your long-time friend Lisa when Taylor was obviously using the tea party as a opportunity to attack Lisa. Taylor's behavior was ugly and mean. And you have been playing both sides of the fence with their friendships. You do talk bad behind Lisa's back. Admit it. If you don't, you are just another mean girl from high school.
Kyle, I agree that you have not had Lisa's back this year. She has been a really good friend to you! I am disappointed in how you seem to be one way with Taylor and then another way with Lisa. One thing that is easy to see is that Lisa is not a petty person. Would have been nice to see you tell Taylor that is not Lisa's way and also tell her to please not talk about your friend to you - but to address her concerns directly with Lisa. That is what real friends do! They don't play both sides of the fence.
I understand feeling that you are in the middle of a situation with Lisa and Taylor, but I have to admit, Lisa has defended you in the past when you were called a bully...She defended you very publicly on the show, on blogs, and on the reunion. You really have not had her back as far as we can see on the show. Again, I get that it is a sticky situation, but Taylor seemed to be on a campaign to blame Lisa for her problems. Lisa never said she wasn't her friend...she said that they weren't the best of friends. I think that by trying to stay out of it, you have inadvertently made it worse when you were trying to comfort Taylor. Be careful of that one. I know she has been through a tough time, but she really comes across as a manipulator, a victim, and someone who is trying to tear apart your friendship with Lisa. I like you very much, but maybe take a look as an outsider...
Kyle, I like all the ladies on the show but Taylor always portrays herself as a victim in most of the programs. She should have been upfront with Lisa from the start with her suspicions. It caused alot of unnecessary hurt feelings. I'd love to have Lisa for my best friend. Never did understand why you caused such a scene with Ken at that dinner party? Again, Taylor was involved in that as well!!
I can understand you not wainting to be in the middle of an argument but when people are clearly twisting things around then you should try to clear thigns up too. Lisa said she is not Taylor's BEST friend, that is not saying she isn't friends with her at all. Also, Lisa saying that Camille and Taylor don't really hang out was taken way out of proportion. I can see how you stirred up the drama with Taylor. It was all a big misunderstanding and Taylor is showing she is clearly just "lives in Beverly Hills". Taylor is a very crazy, insecure, jealous, and childish person. She should not have acted that way and frankly everything she said are her own problems not anyone else's. Lisa apologized eventhough she really didn't have to and let's move on!
I was so disappointed in your attitude concerning Lisa and Taylor. Lisa has been a good friend to you and you showed her what a good friend you are NOT. I would not want you as my friend. Those who walk the middle of the road get hit by both sides. Better to take an honest stand no matter whose side it falls on than be a coward.