Taylor Armstrong

Taylor explains why Russell left the shindig, and how things were when she finally made it home.

on Jan 6, 20110

Every married couple can recall an evening when one person is really not in the mood to go out and the other is…this was one of those nights.

As Mauricio's birthday approached, Russell was dealing with a heavy load at the office and we had been managing some emotional challenges at home with our extended family. Russell had to admit a close family member to the Malibu Beach Rehabilitation Center that week after an emotional intervention.

We were both extremely stressed, and feeling very different about how we each wanted to handle it. I thought we could spend the evening with our friends and forget about all the stress, while he was of the mindset to get some rest, try to relax, and have a little downtime. Both methods were good in theory but not necessarily on the night of our friend's birthday party with TV cameras rolling.

Russell was a good sport to accompany me to the party, and he did his best to have a nice time. He was tired, and preoccupied with his commitments, and although I wanted him to have fun, he just wasn't feeling it and I get that.

Russell has learned first-hand that a group of girls together with a DJ and a dance floor can turn into a marathon evening and he could tell we were headed down that path. My girlfriends and I can turn a simple dinner out into a five-hour chat session and he knows it. When Russell went home, he wasn't angry and I wasn't either. We weren't arguing. He was just ready to go home and it was late. I should have just gone home with him because after he left, I wasn't in the mood to have fun without him.

210 comments
SwagR
SwagR

I agree. Lisa called you out.You just just dance around it.At your birthday party Kim reminded you of what you did and started the fight between Kim and kyle.It's a shame Kyle chose you over her sister. SHAME ON YOU

general1318
general1318

I totally agree. Here is a hint...it don't always have to be the man to start the romantic gestures. Peace.

general1318
general1318

My words exactly...until you make right the wrongs you have done to Kim, NOTHING TRULY will make you happy. It's Call KARMA. Things are things TRUE HAPPINESS comes from within... Peace.

Jessica Davis
Jessica Davis

Hi Taylor! Who makes the long-sleeved dress you wore on the finale episode to your party? It was beautiful! Thanks.

Thatwhatsup85
Thatwhatsup85

Taylor you need yov apologize to Kim. You caused a lot of drama and then twisted the whole story. You would be a better person if you would take responsibity for your actions

Natalie66
Natalie66

I think you are dealing with reflecting on your life and your friends lives as a why doesn't my husband do this or that .sweetie I was in a marriage like that too. It is not that he loves you any less its just his personality. You change his personality. Look now at all the things you can reflect on that you love him for xoxo

Vicki Hoverkamp
Vicki Hoverkamp

OMG I am so glad some one said it before me,OMG how do you tell even some one that you dont know! I've been there not once but twice,its all great then one day BOOM-BOOM it's all different and us great wifes are making excusses for our husbands actions-well,NOT! Somethings up BIG time-got it been there get it-or so so sorry we all love you,but WOW signs all over the place, if not-wow weird

Mallory M
Mallory M

Hi Taylor!!! I have to know... Who makes that White silk racerback dress you wore at the White Party????? I have to have it!!!

hulali
hulali

Since your relationship with Russell has become a significant focus of the show, please comment on what you said previously about your marriage being 80% business and 20% romance. It seems to me from this comment that you married him because it was primarily good business sense. You live a luxureous life so I am assuming you were quite sucessessful in this context. I can understand why you would want a more affectionate relationship, and the sad looks on your face are heartbreaking. But but this was the relationship you pursued. 20% romance doesn't get you very much, but this is what you accepted in exchange for your financial security. Stop being so melancholly and envious of relationships that chose compatibility over financial security. It may not be too late to re-adjust your relationship, but you have to accept your part in all this and stop blaming Russell for not being more outgoing. Good luck you have a beautiful family!

ESTRELLA (STAR)
ESTRELLA (STAR)

IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE MAKING EXCUSES FOR RUSSELL'S BEHAVIOR. YES, YOU BOTH MAY HAVE HAD A TRYING WEEK PRIOR TO THE WHITE PARTY, BUT WHAT IS THE EXCUSE THE REST OF THE TIME? I CONSTANTLY SEE HIM WITH THAT GLOOMY LOOK ON HIS FACE ON NEARLY EVERY EPISODE AS IF YOU ARE A BOTHER TO HIM. STOP TRYING SO HARD. I KNOW THAT MARRIAGE IS HARD WORK BUT I ONLY SEE YOU MAKING THE EFFORT NOT HIM. I HOPE HE REALIZES THAT YOU ARE A WONDERFUL WOMAN AND YOU BOTH HAVE A BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER. JUST BECAUSE HE MAKES THE MONEY THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE A VOICE OR A SAY SO IN ANYTHING!!! STOP WITH ALTERING YOUR LOOKS. IF YOU HAVE TO CHANGE THE WAY YOU LOOK TO PLEASE HIM THEN HE'S NOT WORTH BEING WITH. WHAT DOES HE ALTER ON HIM TO PLEASE YOU?

Relationships are Unique
Relationships are Unique

You married Russell for a reason and should stick with it. Naturally us Southern girls want our "Gone With The Wind" moment, but sometimes we get an altered version... our own special version. Do not compare your unique life to someone else's... the elements and circumstances are totally different. All relationships take work. My relationship was spent flying from NYC to Hawaii just to see one another for days at a time. It has been 5 years and we are still hours apart, but we make it work. We talk and write one another, which is something we will continue even when we live in the same house... one day. I suggest you and Russell find your special gift and make the time to do it every week. Have a night alone with just you and him snuggling on a blanket, sharing popcorn, and talking about the positives in each other and your relationship. Just be together (alone) and things will turn around. Love comes in all shades and different packages. Russell loves you! When you gave your speech I could clearly see it in his eyes. Trust and believe in what you have... bc it's your's and your's alone!

HousewifeHYSTERIA
HousewifeHYSTERIA

Gorgeous Taylor, fabulous in every way, and beautiful daughter, Kennedy. Russell, maybe not the glam looks of his girls, but that DOES NOT MATTER. One would assume there must have been some kind of chemistry when you first met and married. However, when you told the story of how YOU pursued HIM for some time, I am beginning to wonder if there was any real deep attraction, friendship and unconditional love there at all. Was this a marriage for money???....and now you have awoken to the fact that money can not buy happiness...

Viewer in Japan
Viewer in Japan

WOW, this is true! Taylor and Russell need to compromise and she was the one went after him Not him after her...

Redskins, Ready!
Redskins, Ready!

So proud of you for being real and raw. Life just isn't always pretty no matter how hard we try. HOW brave you are!! But, you have always been so brave. I have always admired this strength in you. I depended on it growing up. You are not a spoiled child. (However, I can fit into that mold!) I am so proud of you! I want you to soar so high! No matter what you do in life, I have your back. I always have! As you have always had mine! The moment you and Kyle were holding hands while she was holding her daughter was a powerful female moment. (whether you agree or disagree with the words that were spoken, the symbolism was powerful) Thank you for understanding me when others didn't. That's what friendship is all about. I love you My Beautiful Friend!

feduphousewife
feduphousewife

Taylor, I'm so glad you explained about you and Russell. I was really worried about you both. Remember the episode when Adrienne's Uncle passed away and she went to her Mom's and Paul invited the guy's out for a drink. Well, during the conversation Russell asked Ken how he keep's a successful marriage. Ken said, never go to bed angry. Russell asked Ken how long he and Lisa have been married and Ken told him, 28 yrs. Russell was amazed. So, this tells me that Russell too is contemplating your marriage together. Russell wants to also have a happy and successful marriage. So, remember the old saying, that men are physical. Lot's more hug's and kisses for Russell Taylor. He's a quiet kind of guy, and seems like a loner sometimes, but you're his wife and you can get a whole lot more sugar with honey than you can with vinegar. When he kissed Kennedy good bye after breakfast, did he kiss you too? They didn't show that, but I was thinking, I didn't see him kiss Taylor goodbye. My husband said, well maybe she kissed him. We were trying to figure it out. If Russell doesn't kiss you then you put your arm's around him and kiss him. And Kennedy needs to see that her parents are very loving toward each other. Children learn what they see and live with. The "White Party" looked like fun. You looked real nice with that Turquoise Necklace on the white dress. We wish you the best, you certainly deserve it. xoxo

sjfromor
sjfromor

This is so funny! You should write more often. I kinda wish you could give me some advise just for laughs. You are a hoot

sjfromor
sjfromor

You are darling. I'd love to have you as a friend. I've been married 17 yrs to a man who is a social butterfly like yourself. I am much more comfortable in small groups and familiar surroundings. This is not a deal breaker. We have had many nights that ended with us leaving at different times. We have talked about this and agree to let each other be who we are. Our friends operate differently from us of course. We respect their ways and they respect ours. We love each other very much and have tons of fun poking fun at our opposite behaviors. I hope you and Russell get to that comfortable and confident place. It can happen. Wishing you both the best of everything, SJ

neurosurgerystudent
neurosurgerystudent

Taylor, You seem like a very loving and good-hearted person. Perhaps it's the southern upbringing; I grew up in Texas myself. I remember that at the beginning of the season you indicated that your marriage was about 80% business. Money and things cannot buy happiness. It seems to me that you are well aware of the parameters and expectations in your marriage. I realize that when looking at Kyle and Mauricio's marriage and interactions with each other you desire the same. However you know that your marriage with Russell will not yield such results. Taylor, you deserve better. You deserve to feel loved! Only you know the level of unhappiness and yearning you will endure. Good Luck!!!

Alyssa310
Alyssa310

Taylor honey, you are great and I really like you on the show. But honey you are cruising on a river called DA NILE. (denial!)

JOE D
JOE D

Taylor, Dumped that boring un-appreciating husband and move on, you are way to good for him. He is a boring selfish ass hole

Vee Lu
Vee Lu

Taylor, you stated that your marriage is a great business arrangement. The danger in that is when you make a life long decision, you have to be sure that you're getting the majority of what you want on the front side. Financial security is a biggie however the most important part of womanhood, the intimacy and affection can't be neglected. I experienced that with a man for 13 yrs and just recently pulled away because it was deal breaker for me and although I loved the man dearly, I will NEVER go lacking in that department for that long again. Especially when I knew from the get go that it was something so important to me. Maybe counseling is the first step. You'll never be truly happy with or without Russell unless you're happy with Taylor FIRST!

I've grown to
I've grown to

I've grown to really like you, Taylor, despite doubts in the beginning. At the risk of sounding judgmental, I think you married Russell for the comfortable lifestyle he can give you, and I agree with another poster that he probably married you as a check on his checklist to being a successful man. I honestly am not judging you for this because I think everyone is more or less a victim of their background, and after hearing yours, I can truly understand why you'd value financial security. But after hearing your comments on this episode and your obvious backpedaling in this blog, I think you need to ask yourself what really is best for you and him, whether that's having an open marriage, seeing a therapist, or whatever else. From what I can tell you both are good people and both deserve a fulfilling marriage and life.

beLove
beLove

Taylor, Fix your marriage in private, why would you want a public forum unless it was the reason for becoming a housewife. You married for business, that seems easy to fix.

sallie mae
sallie mae

Just hang in there and work on your marriage. It doesn't happen overnight. Everyone has their own way of making things work and you both need to figure out what your way is. My second marriage is great and we have been married 18 years but it took us years to get where we are today.

NES
NES

Hi Taylor! I think you are such a beautiful woman inside and out! And to be honest, I am so jealous of your skin! How the heck do you get your skin to be so smooth and flawless? What kinds of facials do you get/treatments do you do? I have been struggling with dry skin all my life and would love to know what your secrets are! And do you recommend any specific facial products?? Thanks so much!

Mary Purls
Mary Purls

You two should have a plan. Before the evening talk it through. You may want to stay late he may want to leave early. Figure out how you'll handle it and the evening will flow much better. You can have a driver bring him home and come back for you, or you can ask another couple for a ride. You can work together on these little issues. And they ARE little.

KellyMc
KellyMc

This episode upset me. Just because you think dancing is fun doesn't mean everyone thinks dancing is fun. There are many of us who don't like loud music and dancing. Your idea of fun isnt everyone's idea of fun. Do you do all of Russell's 'fun' things? Just asking...

meme peaks
meme peaks

Have you seen her dance? It's almost as awkward as her eating cotton candy. I am sure Russell doesn't want her to do that.

LindaLG
LindaLG

Marriage is work. Hard work. I do know that you do want it to work and thats great. Sooner or later we all have to ask ourselves why do we love the one were with. If you can't come up with real answers that will carry you through the hard times give it some thought.

Proud New York
Proud New York

I didn't read anyone else's comments so I hope I'm not alone.

Your husband is a great guy! You can see the effort and love he has for you and your daughter. It might not be like other husbands emotions but he comes with you to functions, he interacts with people. Even when you can see that he is 100% comfortable.

When are being filmed and certain behaviors come to surface it is hard. But you and him handle yourselves with grace.

Even in your blog you stood by your man!!

Love you!!

sheri wine
sheri wine

Taylor, What were your reasons for signing up for the show ? It is very uncomfortable to watch your personal problems all over TV.

djindetroit
djindetroit

you would rethink about being his client because he partied at his 40th birthday party?

robohobonobo
robohobonobo

Taylor,

I was skeptical about you at first. But I see through this show how warm and kind you are. You are a patient and forgiving person and a great mother and wife. My heart goes to you:)

Tonismommy
Tonismommy

Hello Taylor,

I am not sure what is going on in your marriage but I seem to relate to your husband very well. I am a woman who is somewhat anti social. I do not like the types of parties that you and your friends seem to enjoy. A fun evening for me is dinner with a couple of other couples, maybe a show and/or a coffee at a bookstore where we can hear each other speak in civilized tones. The screaming and carrying on was fun for a few years in college but as a mother I prefer to be at home with my children and I would never throw a party of that magnitude around my children. Seeing adults drunk and acting foolish is not how I want my children to think adults behave.

As for Russell, I am not sure if this bothers him but I would be very uncomfortable having cameras on me at all times and perhaps he is trying to appear respectful instead of as foolish as the others because of business concerns. I own my own business and would never want my clients to see me acting so out of control of myself. If I was a client of Kyle's husband I would rethink having him as my realtor.

I hope that all is well in your marriage and I hope that you will quit discussing your private business with Kyle. Talking bad about her husband on camera did not work out well for Tamara Barney and I don't think it is proper to bad mouth your husband to millions.

lisalott
lisalott

Oh Taylor I wept with you in that episode. You are starting to put yourself first. Even if that meant staying I loved that you were brave enough to say no. Even if you left a half hour later. Personally its hard to be at a party were everyone is having a good time and paired off. I have been in those situations with an ex who drove me nuts. Then I married a new nut who was out there but had to stop drinking and is now socially retarded. What matters is your strength. I am with kyle no man should ever make you feel bad it was selfish of your man to leave the party. Hands down I am with Patti stanger in this woman is the jewel that has to be adorned. You just do not leave your wife at a party because you want to go that is childish and boyish. He could have told you that he wanted to go what time and then if you still wanted to stay kyle then he could have arranged like you had suggested for the driver to come back and pick you up. How do you leave your wife alone at a party and not worry about her and go to sleep. It looked like an angry move on his part. I personally think yo are totally mismatched and you need a man who is more in tune with you. And if you are seriously worried about him leaving you for a 20 year old then he is just more retarded than I though he was. Be your own woman and keep doing these independent moves . He is used to the old Taylor now its 2011 girl keep on keeping on towards the sun, moon , stars..

Erika K.
Erika K.

As a previous poster mentioned, Russell behaves in a dignified manner. He has provided you with an unbelievably high quality of life. Why would you expect him to dance at a party when you said that he doesn't dance? You seem to be craving that "in love" feeling, and are constantly disappointed that you aren't fulfilled. If your husband loves you and wants to be married to you for the rest of your life, jump for joy! Your feelings of rejection are probably rooted in your painful childhood. Your husband might not be able to heal all of your wounds, a therapist might be able to help.

Housewife in CA
Housewife in CA

Taylor, after this blog, and your previous appearance on WWHL, it is obvious that you are trying to take back your words and feelings that YOU YOURSELF SAID and tell us now that everything was fine, and you shouldn't have made such a big deal about things.

You have said that you and Russel are better as business partners, and asked Kyle how long it took to become friends with her husband. You can't say now that you were misunderstood. I understand that you and Russel are embarrassed, but we're not buying it.

I hope that you are getting therapy for yourself, to discover why you feel you don't deserve to be happy (your abused past, perhaps?) and for you and Russel as a couple.

One last thing: if Kennedy is allergic to dogs, why do you still have one? Is it to please Russel, at the expense of your daughter's health?

anyviewer
anyviewer

Taylor, you seem unsatisfied in your marriage. It doesn't have to be anyone's "fault". You're an extrovert and he's an introvert - that's something that can be overcome by two people who are open and honest with each other. But you seem to long for a deeper connection that Russell won't give you. I wouldn't entirely say that he's a bad guy,because who am I to judge?, but you two should see a good marriage counselor to see how to have a marriage that fulfills both of you. You, Russell and Kennedy deserve a family that is tight knit and happy. Best wishes.

Sandi from Seattle
Sandi from Seattle

I think you are making excuses for him, Taylor, trying to convince yourself that what you say is the way it is. I don't mean to be cruel, I'm just saying that he needs to treat you better. Period. You deserve it.

A Housewife too
A Housewife too

Dear Taylor,

Have you ever tried pulling your husband out on the dance floor and showing him just how to have fun. If he's uncomfortable, maybe tell him just to stand still while you dance around him. He may need you to loosen him up some. Hopefully he'll appreciate it if you do it in the right spirit.

Blessings

Dani031
Dani031

I agree with the above comment! Taylor, you need to be more affectionate especially when in public places, so that your husband doesn't feel left out and alone. And please pay more attention to him when you're at a party - maybe you'll get results you want! Good luck!

rebelyellow
rebelyellow

Taylor, I do not know your life... with this show all we can do is scratch the surface. But whether you wish to make respectable excuses for your husband or not, it is obvious you are LONGING for something more. You can't make your husband have fun at events he's not interested in... you can't make him interested... but it seems as if there is more... Maybe it's the FUN, the PASSION and CELEBRATION that only YOU TWO can create for yourselves that is missing. You two should find activities other than business and raising your daughter as routine. You should have movie mondays, or dinner out on the town tuesdays... or run on the beach with your maltese sundays. Take a bath together wednesdays. Be completely naked and exposed, and just TALK with wine and bubbles. It is not bad idea to do these kinds of things. Yet if it does not work, then you have basically done EVERYTHING you possibly could to not make this marriage as dull and generic as it seems to all around you. At the end, you are a woman that deserves it.

I hope this comment gets posted... In the begining, you were not my favorite... after a few episodes, you definitely became my favorite because your heart shines through your eyes. You are humble, sweet and you really do not allow the drama on the show get the best of you. You realize there are way more serious matters in the world. I love you for that...

DDNY
DDNY

Exactly what I was thinking.....maybe she's now making excuses for her comments.... I think the comments were very telling and the blog is just back peddling.

newjerseygal
newjerseygal

Taylor:

My suggestion is that Russell is always very hungry and wants to eat. Why not sign up for cooking classes and once in a while have romantic dinners together just the two of you using your new cooking skills.

On the other hand, Taylor you look like you drink to much and don't take in enough calories...you are always on the verge of crying... poor diet

The marriage will not last but feed the old guy once in a while.

Beth_12
Beth_12

Jeesh, you never spend time with the guy. Why didn't you go up to him at the party and ask him to dance? Why didn't you ask him to sit by you and cuddle? At the Roaring 20s party, he tried to ask you a question and before he even finished the sentence, you turned away and greeted someone else. From my chair it looks like Russell has a wife who would rather not spend time with him.

kellau
kellau

Russell may have a bit of aspergers or another form of social phobia. I think it is great that he just comes to these events. How he participates is his choice. Just going may be the big deal to him.

RileysMom
RileysMom

Taylor, I love,love, love RHOBH and you seem to be just that...real. I am glad to hear you explain what happened the night of the "white party" since editing can make things seem worse. All couples are different and all marriages are different, I just hate that the show portrayes your husband in a bad light. You have a sweet soul and seem to be a caring mother. Good luck and GO SOONERS!