Taylor Armstrong

Between Snowball and her marriage issues, Taylor admits this was a tough episode to watch.

on Dec 6, 20100

This was a heartbreaking episode for me to watch. My concern for my little girl's health and the heartache over her puppy was very emotional. I felt horrible for my child suffering with swollen eyes and skin rashes and I felt awful for little Snowball as well. Because of the allergens, we were advised by her doctor that Snowball shouldn't sleep on the beds, go into Kennedy's room or be held by her often. I couldn't imagine how I was going to break the news to my little girl that her puppy might need a new home as her doctor suggested. I was frustrated and sad and didn't know what to do.

Love was the other tough topic for me in this episode and I shed more than a few tears watching my conversation with Kyle. Marriage, as we all know, is a work in progress. A quote I have heard is "Marriage is not a noun, it's a verb and you should marry one another every day" (or something like that). Well, I am learning first-hand how true that is. I am learning how quickly we forget about taking time for one another when children, work, and other responsibilities become our priorities. The day-to-day little "urgencies" replace the "important" items like taking time to communicate and work on the "friendship." We both need to do a better job on that part.

A friendship I especially cherish is the one I have with Kyle. She has been there for me. We have laughed a lot and cried some too and our relationship has grown stronger because of it all. Thank you, Kyle.

Until next week...thank you for watching!

XO Taylor

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33 comments
Cali33
Cali33

Hey Taylor! I love you and the show! Haven't missed one episode. And I hated to see Snowball go! What type of puppy was it??

Jasenka
Jasenka

Hi Taylor! You are gorgeous and my favorite one. I like your white /red dress that you had while sitting with your husband pool side and discusing puppy issue. I wonder who is designer of this lovely dress? Thanks and Good luck to you!!!!

Moss
Moss

Taylor your party was amazing and you looked so pretty

Taylor Quinton
Taylor Quinton

I also forgot to mention that I was horribly (and still am) afraid of needles. Shots aren't necessary. Just a pill every morning that lasts 24 hours! :)

Taylor Quinton
Taylor Quinton

Hi, Taylor! My name is Taylor also! I can relate to being allergic to a house pet and being very attatched as well. I got a kitten for my birthday when I was 5, and over the next couple years I became very allergic - rashes, puffy eyes, sneezing, conjestion, and so on. I am 20 yrs old now. I didn't have to get rid of my baby boy! It was NOT an option for me. Then, just recently my cat that I'd had since I was a kid died. :( And I got a new kitty for Christmas last year! I take Zertyx or Clartin D -- which is a dream come true in a pill!!!!!! I LOVE animals, so getting rid of them is the last thing on my mind! You don't have to buy expensive medication, only over-the-counter drugs. They work brilliantly! (I also found out that I'm more allergic to short haired cats than I am with long haired cats.)

Jeane
Jeane

Why do you always lay into Kim? Yelling "you have to stop this"? It wasn't Kim's fight. You were causing more problems sticking your nose into it. I think we haven't seen the real Taylor yet, and I don't think we are going to like her when we do....JMO.

Alicia M
Alicia M

Did your daughter get allergy tested?

I was tested as a 4 year old child to confirm that what I was allergic and the severity. I hope that your doctor's assessment was more than what was shown on TV... I was allergic to dogs and received maintenance shots since we had dogs as pets. It was not a big deal.

I now own a Maltese as an adult and her hair does not irritate me at all. What type of breed is Snowball? A maltese or havanese perhaps? If so, she may not be allergic to the dog but something else like food or detergent, etc.

I hope it all works out for your family.

Ashley, Florida
Ashley, Florida

Taylor, I just wanted to say that I think you're adorable! I saw you on Watch What Happens, and you're a beauty! I wish you well with everything in life! I'm not a big fan of Kim nor Camille, but you, Lisa & Adrienne are awesome!

Skyline
Skyline

Taylor, Taylor,Tailor!!!! You are a beautiful woman, with a daughter, and husband.You have almost everything any person wants,but you have a sadness that touches my heart, and I think that you are missing some heavy duty dose of self esteem.Love yourself more pretty lady, the best for you and family,

Viewer-kj
Viewer-kj

I am also a product of abuse not only growing up but in marriage as well it has taken me along while to learn to be self confident and strong enough to overcome alot. Watching y our episodes it makes sense how and why you are in the same type of marriage. you have lost esteem to feel you are worthy to have more and y our husband get this and uses you. pehaps not in physical sense but he does emotionally. I applaud you in helping others it is through this process you will help heal as well. i wish you the best and i hope you will see that you deserve much more

Viewerkls
Viewerkls

Phoenix19 - I think that you are being over critical of Taylor. Her daughter is only 4 years old and very attached to the dog. Taylor knew that her daughter would be very upset if the dog had to go and was being empathetic towards her feelings.. You can't rationalize with a four year old - they aren't going to understand the concept of my dog is making me sick, so we have to get rid of it.. They just see that they had a dog and now their parent is taking it away. I would be more alarmed if Taylor wasn't being considerate of her child's feelings - At least all of her angst and worry shows that she cares about her daughter and her feelings.

agnieszka
agnieszka

HEY Taylor! i was watching "what happened " today with you. and people criticized that you spend so much money on your daughter birthday. ok. but thanks of that birthday you gave a job to so many people( somebody made a cake, somebody was serving tables etc. etc.). your wealth brings money to the others, not only using charity, but the party like that. so i wish you every year you will be able to throw the party like this.

Cindy Stjernstrom
Cindy Stjernstrom

Taylor, I think you are a lovely person and have so many wonderful qualities and when I heard you speak about the abuse that you suffered or saw as a young girl it made sense to me. I believe that what you experienced as a child played into who you have selected as a husband. Your in a marriage with a man that is so condescending to you in every way. He may not be physically abusive but he's emotionally abusive and you don't even see it or feel you deserve any better! I think you do and I pray that one day or that this show will wake you up to the fact that you are not living the dream and that you deserve MUCH better. Your speech made it sound like your life is one to aspire to because you live in Beverly Hills and I really think that's the wrong message. Money doesn't give you self worth or guarantee true love and those are the real prizes in life.

Claire, Ireland
Claire, Ireland

Hi Taylor, Can you please tell me where you got the ring on your right hand (a flower I think) that you were wearing when you had your chat with Kyle? You're a lovely person and a great Mum. xx c

Phoenix19
Phoenix19

Taylor, I find this character assessment very telling: Adrienne got a dog and couldn't keep it but lovingly found a new home for it and moved on. You have a new dog and turned it into a drama about your husband trying to punish you and your daughter being scarred for life and terminally ill. Your drama queen is showing, may want to tuck it in.

Kim's Fan Karen in Philly
Kim's Fan Karen in Philly

AND A BIG FAN OF TAYLOR'S! - I see a lot of myself in you and my first husband in Russell. Russell is a tad awkward when it comes to new people & communicating about topics that don't include his work. He's out of his element if you will. He is a busy man, trying his best to create a lavish lifestyle for you and he, all the while without complaining about how money is spent. He may be a rather stoic guy, not much for warm emoting. But this doesn't mean he loves or wants you any less than a man who shows overt or obvious actions of passion or affection towards his mate. Russell is much more subtle that's all. Don't compare you & he to any of your friend's marriages. This is unfair to you both. Focus on YOUR individual strengths. Focus on what you two bring to each other & focus on him when the cameras are not rolling & maybe you will find more joy in the near future. I am ROOTING for you - I really want you to have happiness, not just size zero designer clothing delivered to your door.

AndreaViewer
AndreaViewer

Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day.

- Barbara De Angelis

Gisele34
Gisele34

You're probably my favorite, Taylor! I love your personality and you seem really sweet. Do you plan on having anymore children or are you happy with just one little girl? :)

BHHFan
BHHFan

It seems like you try very hard to do your best for your child and husband. You appear to be a strong individual yet you let your husband roll over you. It should be a partnership - don't cheat yourself. I have to say I'm a little confused about what attracted you to your husband when he is so emotionally void and a little deficient in the fun department. I wish you luck, you seem like a nice person.

joanna pro
joanna pro

Taylor, I just want you to know that it broke my heart to have to possibly let the little ones dog go. I dont know if any one ever reads these or not with your busy life and all but maybe someone will. What I wanted to tell you is that if you have to get rid of this georgous pet, there may be yet another solution to take her sadness away. Have you ever done research on bouchon puppies im not sure if i spelled it correctly but i believe these are the dogs that do not have dog like hair and most people that I know are allergic have wonderfull outcomes with these pets! Their hair is like soft fuzz and not to many to be allergic to them. If I am wrong, you can research other dogs as well but im almost sure it is a boushon. I hope someone looks at this and hope that it may help but its worth a try to not have her heart broke all the way if it were to work. Maybe you could have someone sit for your dog you have now and try out a new bushon where she can be around it all the time to see before you were to purchase on. Hope this helps. and hope someone read this. Joanna

mimi tholsted
mimi tholsted

Taylor, ...I think your husband have no clue about how to approach a women, so he does what he knows best - doing it in a business-like-way, .....I think you have to show him???, I saw a very sweet side of him when he was alone with your daughter in the kitchen cooking? oh yes he has it - but he does not know how? show him that you need him in a simple way just be beside him maybe even without words or business??? obvious you married him for a reason????

teacher1996
teacher1996

Taylor, I married my high-school sweetheart 15 years ago. I well remember being envious of my friends that had very affectionate boyfriends/husbands.... mine never was. I did talk to him many times and it would change for a while but not long-term, although our relationship was always otherwise very good. I heard about the whole "love language" theory and realized that if I wanted him to speak my language, I needed to learn his. He is very successful/confident/independent in many ways and didn't fall neatly into any of the "love languages", but he is also a tremendous man/husband/father, and I realized that he needed me to verbalize my appreciation and NOT nitpick all the little stuff. Wow....what a difference. With 15 yrs of marriage behind us and 4 kids, we're more affectionate/loving/passionate than we ever were. I really think it's about learning what each of you needs and making conscious decisions to not sweat all the little stuff. So, tell him what you need, and try to figure out what makes him tick, even if you have to make the first move. Good luck!

erika deri
erika deri

Hey girly, you should totally let your husband know what your lacking. If he does nothing to respect your wishes or change then try finding someone more compatible with, your worth it!!!! Best wishes

i care
i care

Taylor, as a marriage counselor I can tell you most men just want to be Told what to do to keep their wife happy and marriage intact. Don't make him guess, just tell him what you need.

In return, don't be afraid of him and doing whatever you want to/for him. Show him affection - show him how you want to be hold and what you want to be told. Be silly with him - I think both of you need to loosen up and start acting like the kid that is inside each of you.

Most find it hard to start conversations; this is what works. "I'm finding this hard to say, but ... " or "This is difficult for me to put into words, but ... "

Men are visual. If you try to explain something to them, use visual terms, such as, "When you said that, I felt as if I had been kicked in the stomach." or "I felt as if I was falling off a cliff."

Good luck! Life is too short to worry about what we're saying to the one we're living our life with!!!! :) :) :) Speak! Speak! Speak!!!

DC Dawn
DC Dawn

These people who say you're getting in between friends should really understand that while we love our sisters, actual friends are rare and special and sometime easier to communicate with. Your friendship with Tyler seems to be a gift to both of you. Denying one relationship does not help another. I have to say that at first I wondered about your sincerity, but as time has gone on, I've watched you work hard to be an attentive mother and good and caring wife to a rather detached husband, and I admire your honesty.

Am_Ham
Am_Ham

Taylor, I hope that in watching the show you realize how obvious it is that your husband does truly care for you. Your relationship with him reminds me of the marriage of two of my close friends; he is not emotionally open and lacks communication skills. I do not think that you should excuse his apathy, but he is proud of you and loves you. Sometimes it is just good to hear that other people notice.

BR
BR

Taylor, watching your daughter have her allergy attack, hit so close to home I too suffer from severe animal allergens. I thought about doing the allergy shots also but there is no guarantee that it will be successful, I do no that just looking at your little one her eyes the skin no one gets it. until you have an allergy you cant breath constant itching of the skin wipes us out and you feel horrible, it gets so bad I cannot go to anyones home that has animals no house parties for me. I agree with you dog in the house is huge undertaking and your husband should never have made that decision behind your back after what you dicussed already. He has no respect for your concerns apparently.

befriending
befriending

I think Kyle has befriended you to get back on Kim. You really need to show Kim some respect and stop treating her as if she is beneath you.

Linda in Phoenix
Linda in Phoenix

You always know how to execute wording Ms. Taylor. Perhaps you should also think about writing books. I would love to read how you translate your life to pages as eloquently as you write this blog each week.

I also liked how you called out Kyle's friendship. So many times in these shows we see girls backstabbing and saying nasty things.. you don't do that I am glad the show has brought you all together.

I also like how you are completely unguarded and show what seems to be true emotion. Life is tough it is what you make of it girl. You seem to have great opportunities in life and are a beautiful woman. Chin up girl, you have what it takes just continue down your own yellow brick road.

Any more Oklahoma Comments for us viewers?

Voice from Nebraska
Voice from Nebraska

Taylor,

I'm sorry about your marriage problems, but I think it stems from the fact that you were pursuing him instead of him chasing you. I would never chase a man for that reason. I'm not sure if you can turn it around now or not. Good luck in trying.

ncv
ncv

Taylor, your beautiful and your daughter is smart she'll understand why she has to give the dog up. Your husband on the other hand need to have regular conversation with Ken and Mauricio. He can learn a lot from them.

Plain_Jane
Plain_Jane

Ah Taylor, With love comes acceptance...So if you love your husband, you will accept him even without all the pda.

Viewer in MN
Viewer in MN

Taylor, if you like Kyle so much, I would think you would respect her relationship with her sister more. To me it seems that you would be all too happy to cause a divide between them and fill Kim's shoes in Kyle's life.