Adrienne Maloof

Adrienne discusses the trip to Colorado, her dinner party, and making peace.

on Sep 15, 20110

Thank you so much to those of you who have stood by this cast and this show -- we really do appreciate all of your support.

That being said, we opened this season with the dinner party at my house, and what was supposed to be a "mending of the broken fences" dinner turned out to be a lot more tense than expected. Paul and I had long planned to spend some time that day not only getting things ready for our party, but also to go over some things that needed our attention -- the boys' schedules and some schooling decisions, some business-related decisions that had to be made etc. Just normal household stuff. I had been working so hard on getting my shoe line going, and on dealing with some critical decisions about our basketball team, and Paul had been slammed with both his practice and the growth of his frozen yogurt chain that we hadn't had any time to just connect. Schedules are crucial in our house, and it's so important we stick to them so that we get the family time we need, too. So when Paul went golfing without telling me that day, I became irritable. I felt like he had blown off something that was important to me. You saw the results of that play out at the party. Should I have let it get to me in front of my guests? No, and for that I did apologize. It was a perfect example of being mad about one thing and letting it affect other areas of your life. Paul and I did talk about it later, and I think the best any couple can do is to try and handle things differently the next time.

Funny note -- when I was decorating that dinner table with the olive branches, my son asked me why I was putting "trees" on the table. I told him it was a sign of peace, or "not fighting." He duly informed me that when knights stop fighting and have dinner, they put their swords on the table so "maybe you could put swords on there." Good thing I didn't go that route with the décor, huh? The visuals on what that would have looked like just keep giving and giving. . .

63 comments
something2say
something2say

Adrienne, You're smart... You lay back in the cut. Did you purposely not attend Dana's Game party, because you can tell she's a wack job? Or was it you're way of avoiding drama, or even indirectly creating it?

Cindyfanviewer
Cindyfanviewer

Adrienne,

You're actually one of my favorite housewives. You're level-headed, you stay above the drama, you're never catty, always reasonable...until you get into it with Paul. Then you're consistently nastier and more condescending than I have ever seen ANY housewife in housewives history be to her husband except maybe Vicki from RHOC and last I checked, she and Don filed for divorce. BE CAREFUL. Just because Paul has put up with that behavior from you for years DOES NOT mean he will continue to do so, but even if he does, why would you want to show your children that this is how married people speak to one another? You emasculate him on a regular basis and at first the bickering was kind of cute, now it's just nasty. How do you think it makes him feel when you talk down to him in front of other people? At that dinner party you were REALLY inappropriate and you should have had a discussion after the dinner party.

And to the people saying this is "normal" and "real" for a married couple, well now I understand why the divorce rate is so high in our country. It is never ok to be condescending and snide to anyone in your life. Love and light, folks.

bondNY
bondNY

Adrienne you are such a role model for me ,you are so smart beautiful ,kind and humble ,always with measured behavior. the best of all the team ,Best.

kenneth stanford
kenneth stanford

Adrienne I love u girl. I think u are so down to earth, personable, relatable& beautiful classy woman. I think u are transferring your stressors onto your husband, which is making you look like a naggy bitchy wife for no reason at all other than u just want to be. I rarely have seen u or your husband have a conversation without sniping at each other last season & so far this season. I hope that we see a more loving couple for the rest of the season & not embarking on another divorce. I sincerely send best wishes & many blessings to u & your family.

Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia
Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia

Hi Adrienne, Saw the episode last night. Could not believe Kim. Apparently, she is back with the problems that she had before. I would continue to watch and see what happens. I am sure that you are concerned, FOR REAL!!!

God Bless You, Paul, your Children and Family,

Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia San Juan, Puerto Rico

glory5527
glory5527

I've been watching the show, and to be honest, the one thing that truly worries me is your relationship with your husband. You are a strong woman. Although I love your strong personality, it almost seems that , your strong personaltiy, is going to work against you in your personal relationship. We all get to that point sometimes when our husbbands just annoy us, but I see you have a wonderful man in your life. Pause for a moment, and stop and think? What was it about this man, that made you fall in love with him to begin with....my husband always said that every man has a breaking point, and the worst thing you can do to a man, is take his balls away from him, and treat him like a child...! you make a beautiful couple!! I want to see more of you guys..I reallly enjoy watching you both on the show..

Lynda Coziahr
Lynda Coziahr

I love your show and i will be going to vegas soon will you tell me again what casino you own so i can stay there. thank you and i will be watching your show .thank you

Lynda Coziahr in Florida

Casarier K.
Casarier K.

Adrienne, I use to think that you were the most level headed and caring housewife of them all. This season, you are so mean to your husband, that it's hard to like you. You humiliate your husband in front of others....you treat him as if he's a child. I believe at this rate, you will loose him, or he will end up having an affair with someone who makes him feel important. I have to wonder if you would treat him differently if you were like many other women who can't even snag someone that's willing to love them. I think maybe the two of you should go to therapy.

Kirbi
Kirbi

A- You are my fave! I really love your calm steadiness with all of the other women. You also are a tough lady with tons of class. I look forward to watching you every week. I just want you to know that you are great.

Patticakes
Patticakes

Love the awkward relationship between you and your hubby Adrienne! Hope it's the norm and not marital problems. I like you two together. He's more outspoken this season.

Beautiful home! Will you miss Lisa as your neighbor?

animasch
animasch

Hey Adrienne! Thank you for being REAL!!! You and Paul are just so funny. My husband and I play fight just as the two of you do. It make for a better relationship. If I can come back to be anyone in my next life I am requesting to be YOU! I love how you tell it like it is and help your friends when they need you. You are my favorite BHHW. And Jackpot is too cute! I want him!!! LOL

KymmieNY
KymmieNY

I think you are amazing. You are obviously beautiful, wealthy, fit and enviable, but you pull it off with such class. I find you to be the most humble of the housewives entire franchise. I am so happy for the success you have with your family and businesses.

Fort Worth
Fort Worth

Was the dinner uncomfortable? Yes. BUT I completely relate and think you guys are hilarious. I wonder now how many times my husband and I have done the same exact thing and never knew it. So glad you're back and looking forward to another crazy season :)

wtgbravo
wtgbravo

OMG....your glasses will never be looked at without thinking of Gigi! lol

Please keep being the smart, peace maker in this group! I couldn't stand to watch all the drama last year.

Viewers want to watch an hour of fun, laughter and a time to escape their own life drama for an hour.

I get the bickering between you and Paul but to much may come off as you being a bitch. Becareful, sweetie!

GeorgiaPeach70
GeorgiaPeach70

It's hard to watch you and Paul bicker; makes me sad for you because you have such a beautiful life apart from that. Nevertheless, I enjoy you both very much. Unlike most of the Housewives characters, you're both sensible, mature, and kind to others. You avoid the meanspiritedness and pettiness. Thank you for that, and I hope tensions inside your home ease.

Cali gal
Cali gal

Adrienne, You're great - I love your style, intelligence and inner strength! Glad you clarified what was happening between you and Paul at the dinner table - lol !! I think your feelings are prefectly normal that his golf game could have waited for another day - and these feelings have a way of surfacing at the most unexpected moments! Paul seems like a fun loving person and most likely didn't realize his golf game was sending the wrong messages until dinner was served ..hahaa ~ You two have a wonderful relationship - I can tell !

Thanks Adrienne for sharing a part of your world with us all -

susanw
susanw

I just love that you are so down to earth, and wealth has nothing to do with it! I thought picking on Paul at your dinner party went on too long, don't throw away a good man!

johannyc
johannyc

you have a great husband, be nice to him and you are such a nice person, don't change

FanFare57
FanFare57

Adrienne, You are my favorite BH housewife. You're intelligent, industrious, thoughtful and articulate. I think you are above the drama - usually. Your dinner party started off uncomfortable because nobody else understood why you were irritated by the hubby. He must do things that only you notice. Paul has ditched you for golf before. He seems to want what he wants when he wants it (like any other 2 year old.). I don't see the attraction with him. But, he's your choice, not mine.

anne0
anne0

You & Paul are just too cute~~~ and both of your doggies too. I loved when Jackpot was tugging on your beautiful German Shep's tail he (?) was so docile. Great training~ Your Chef tho has quite the attitude!

FanFare57
FanFare57

Great blog! You're my favorite. You are so articulate, intelligent and fair minded. It seems as though hubby is much more relaxed about things than you. Is he a type "C" personality? Maybe. Good luck whipping him into shape. He seems to do whatever he wants; when he wants (like any other 2 year old).

Chris from PA
Chris from PA

Adrienne, So GLAD you're back!!! Yes, thank goodness you didn't listen to your son and adorn the table with swords! But, golfing on a day you had lined up for important business tasks would have maddened me as well. You and Paul are just you and Paul.... I think you're both fantastic! You and Lisa are very grounded women who listen-don't over-advise and just try to be supportive. I enjoy this show the most and appreciate the warm moments as opposed to the constant and almost insane arguing on some of the other housewives shows. It's just great to see you again!

Feduphousewife
Feduphousewife

Hey Adrienne, I'm so glad you and your hubby made up. I think he is so funny. Maybe he likes to be humorous to hide the stress and exhaustion he's feeling. He cracks us up. Is your new shoe store on your website or does it have it's own website? Will you please tell Taylor she's in our hearts, thoughts and prayers. Take care and please continue to be the same and not ever change. Best wishes and blessings.

KP88
KP88

Hi Adrienne,

Wonderful blog. Very well put.

I will say that I found your place sitting at your table very telling. I've been to a LOT of homes. Some families well off, some not so much. But the one thing that always stays consistent is that the man is the man of the house and he ALWAYS sits at the head of the table. You're Catholic??? lol All I can say is that as long as you insist on being the husband of your relationship, you and your spouse will always have problems. Spouses do bicker, but your stuff is off the hook!!! Think about it!

Good luck...

ValerieP
ValerieP

OMG a shoe line! Wow I can't wait for it. The shoes you wore last season were always to die for! I like the way you and Paul bicker. You bicker but you love each other and it shows. I'm glad that out of all the housewives it seems that you and Kyle were the only two that Taylor reached out to. She didn't come straight out and tell you, but she let you in a little. That shows that the both of you can be good listeners. I know out of all of the housewives you and Kyle are doing your best to make sure Taylor is doing ok during this time. Anyways hurry up with the shoe line already:)

Oregon
Oregon

Really enjoy you and your family. A little wacky at times but fun. Thanks for being there for Taylor. All my prayers for all the housewives and their families.

Barbara in NY
Barbara in NY

Adrienne, while watching this episode of your lovely dinner party, I was feeling so sorry for you. Here you'd gone to such effort to create a beautiful dinner party for your guests, yet your hubby Paul was acting like a baby, asking for you attention constantly, over this that and the other thing which he could have handled very well on his own, such as getting dressed. That behavior would have driven me right up the wall!!!

I'm so sorry. But I'm also sorry to learn that you're pulling yourself in yet another direction to develop a show line. Enough already. Please consider the deleterious side effects for your lives if you let yourself become so stressed with yet another business.

You have your sons to consider. I loved your boys line about putting the swords on the table. How cute was that?

Now you have a new puppy who will need lots of attention.

Please don't spread yourselves so thin. That would be immensely stressful, and I don't want to see you and Paul hurt.

LformBAMA
LformBAMA

Were you pissed or what? Seriously,if I were already anticipating a dinner party with the guest list you had and plus disappointed with my husband because changed plans for the day,not to mention the wine flowing all thru the course of the evening,I probably would have been way way worse.Funny how the best intentions with the poorest results end up on camera.

JaciR
JaciR

I think you should have said something about the dog drinking from the glass at your dinner table. It was rude and had to make your other guests uncomfortable. - Still I adore you! And I am so happy you and all the original cast is back. This is my fave housewife series.

melindak
melindak

A very well written blog with addressing the sensitivity of Russell's suicide, and trying to bring some attention to a very big problem. Obviously, for someone to consider suicide, let alone act on it, they have issues that one can only wish they would seek out someone they trusted to confide in who could help them. As a mother of four teenagers, I try to reach out to them often, to know that they can talk to me about anything. Everyone is overwhelmed at some point in their lives, and needs to be able to trust someone that will help and support them. Like you, I am married to a Lebanese man, whose thought process is a lot like Paul's, so we bicker a lot too. I understand you were more angry with him at dinner, for playing golf and blowing you off during the day, but I hope that you realize after seeing the episode, that you didn't come off well, because everyone was uncomfortable. I, truthfully, have done the same thing, but have always regretted it, and we certainly try not to bicker in front of people like that anymore. It really doesn't help anything, it just makes everything worse, and usually leads to an argument about behaving like that in front of people. I have now been married 25 years this year, and for the most part we have grown out of that behavior, but the constant bickering loses its cute quality, and becomes annoying. Of course, I know that we both love one another very much, and other people may not get it, but I do, because you and Paul remind me so much of my husband and myself. Do try to make time for yourselves away from the pressures, it helps. However, I doubt that you will get his undivided attention, as it has been 25 years, and I still don't get his. I just pick and choose my battles at lot more carefully now. So both of you slow down a little, enjoy the children as they are not this young for long, and try to curtail bickering or arguing in front of your guests. I admire your values, your commitment to friends and family, and ambition. I think you are a very grounded, intelligent, caring and a beautiful person inside and out. I wish you and your husband well in all of your endeavors. Please continue to be a peacemaker, and avoid the drama of the women.

hulali
hulali

The new phrase "Bickertons" suits you and Paul perfectly! Its obvious you love each other, but both of you are used to being in total control of situations, so its understandable that there is conflict sometimes. From what is shown on TV, it does seem like you are the one that is rude and belittle your husband alot and thats really hard to watch sometimes.. Just sayin....

jillejo
jillejo

You are my favorite BHHW! I love your attitude your brains and the lovely banter you and your husband show on TV!

And who cannot resist Jackpot? Love him!!

FunYun
FunYun

Adrienne,

I still think that spouses should respect their mates....ALLWAYS...especially in front of others. ou kept calling him rude, when in fact you were the one who was being rude.....BUT YOU LOOKED FABULOUS BEING RUDE !!!! I love your chef...maybe Andy could give him his own show.?

Kim koris
Kim koris

Now, it makes sense. On the show we only see the "blow up" but as in any relationship there are ups and downs and "ironing out to do'. Just normal family stuff. Good luck, stay married and enjoy your family, your life... and many blessings to come!

bigdollsboudoir
bigdollsboudoir

Hi Adrienne, thx for this article!! can't wait to see the next episodes! also i saw some of your shoes line on the internet!! huge and beautiful!! i livein Paris, France but i'm a huge fan of the Real housewoves of BH! hope i'll come in the U.S. to eat some yogurt ice cream hahaha!! greatings from Paris to you and all the cast members and also your fans ;) xoxo

keeping it real
keeping it real

You were definitely over the top at the dinner party in front of your guests, you need to know when to stop! I also felt you show have interveened in the conversation between Kyle and Ken, it was sad that Lisa felt so uncomfortable that she wanted to leave. Taylor as usual played the drama queen and Kyle should not have gotten involved.

Oklahoma Viewer
Oklahoma Viewer

My sister is undergoing shock therapy because she was suicidal. So people do reach the brink of not being able to "survive" in this world. They truly are hurting and can't cope. I am so sorry to see Taylor and her little girl have to endure losing their loved one. We almost lost my sister and I had to come to terms with buring someone I loved way to soon. Life has ups and downs, we have to learn to cope and take the roller coaster ride emotionally. Tomorrow can turn around to be much different than today...any day!

pualani k.
pualani k.

Love you Adrienne! You are such a breath of fresh air :)

Angela Jackson
Angela Jackson

I just love the show Adrienne! Thanks for sharing your life. As a child I was raised in poverty so the lifestyles of the rich have fascinated me for years. I must say it looks like an amazing life. I am so happy that the show is going to continue to air. I so loved the olive branch idea and honey it is the thought that counts too. You always do the right thing. You are the peace maker. I understand your position as I am the peace maker in my family. You are fabulous!

Fan2011
Fan2011

I think it's really wonderful how all of you women are banding and bonding during this time when such a tragedy takes place like the suicide of Russell Taylor. It is such a great example of how insignificant some of the things everyone was fighting, bickering, disagreeing about are in the real scheme of things, just not important. So far this season I love everyone. Adrienne, you have always been my favorite because you seem to always conduct yourself with class and dignity. Maybe you rubbed off on some of your friens, because so far, everyone is showing love and class toward each other, it's refreshing. I'm sure the whole season won't be peaches and cream amongst everyone but it's nice to see everyone being so human, forgiving and compassionate.

RoniZ
RoniZ

Loved the episode, and loved Camille's house! Good to see you all getting along for the most part. I love Lisa but she seems to have changed a bit so far this season. I understand her backing Ken but she also needs to understand how what he said affected Taylor. But at that point, since she is not close to Taylor, I assume she did not know the extent of what Taylor was going through. Can't wait to see more of the Bickersons!

Viewer1234
Viewer1234

adrienne-- your kids are adorable, will we see more of them this season?

ViewerGiannithecollie
ViewerGiannithecollie

Love the show especially your family, Very happy something is being done about Suicide Prevention. Taylor is so hard to watch the 1st season, one in just 2 episodes she's so scary to watch. Also Kim addiction is a horriable thing. I've been dealing with my only child being addicted. tried Everything even Ibogaine What Brook just did. Bogus Sent my son 2 ST Kitts twice w/ a team from U.of M. nerologists. So been involved for about 20 yrs. So it's sad 2 see Kim . You & your husband where there for Charlie Sheen, good friends like you are what he needs. love the show gets my mind off being scared thank you so much.

UK Viewer
UK Viewer

Thank you for this blog,Adrienne. I can not wait to watch the rest of season 2 with the new cast members into the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills life.

Bobby Capps
Bobby Capps

Losing a family member is never easy for most. I feel for taylor. I will reserve any of my judgement s (which I have none) for my own mind and keep my to my own business. As a human being I am obligated morally to tell Taylor. I am sorry for your loss and I don't feel putting the show on hold would help anyone. Should Taylor need a little time allow her to take it. I find out that being around people helps you get on with your life more. You will not now nor ever forget this but you will learn to live with it. If Taylor comes back I would ask that no one use any of this on this show. it is just morally bad and KARMA will kick your backside. Go on with life and keep this part out of reality TV. It may lead to people saying vicious things they do not want to say but can't help themselves. Ca Ca happens. Clowning on one thing but messing with someones soul is, just bad news. I'm sorry Taylor I wish I could give you a hug. I support you ladies as you supported me. Karma What goes around comes around. I'm even a card carrier of PAY IT FORWARD! Thanks for your help. PAX!

PA Girl
PA Girl

Great Blog! Good for you for being honest about marriage and the ups and downs. My heart goes out to you all this season. We are thinking of you all and supporting you as well.

RNM
RNM

Love you Adrienne!!! You add a sense of peace to the show!! God Bless you and your family!

Blondie8180
Blondie8180

Love you Adrienne, so glad you ladies are back!!!