On to a more serious subject. . .
They say that hindsight is 20/20. Well if that is true, then watching events play out on television means you suddenly get X-ray vision, and you can see absolutely everything. Going into the spa day I didn't have that luxury. All I knew of Game Night was the overall picture of what both Brandi and Kyle had relayed to me, and one of the things that had stuck out to me was Brandi's comment about Kim, which both Brandi and Kyle admitted took place. I knew that any comment about her sister from a virtual stranger would be a huge trigger for Kyle, so at that point I thought I understood what had taken place and why Kyle acted the way she did. I didn’t excuse it, but I thought I understood it. I didn’t know about all of the other details from that difficult night, so when the girls got together at my spa day I believed that the first extension of the olive branch rested on Brandi’s plate.
Knowing what I know now, I would obviously have made different choices.
Do I think that Kyle and Kim were right to treat Brandi that way on game night? No, of course not. Absolutely not. But I’m not alone in that sentiment. Kyle herself has been the first one to step out and say that she isn’t proud of her actions, and as her friend, I have to tell you that isn't the Kyle I know, either. You are seeing one side of her. People are wondering why I am not coming down harder on her, but you are only seeing one side of her. You have to understand that I see all the other sides of her, too and I know that you are seeing some of her self-admittedly worst moments. I think we are all human, we all make mistakes -- some that are very painful for others -- and if the whole world judged us solely on those bad moments, no one would come out a winner.
There is something else that I don't think people realize. At the time of the spa day, I had known Kyle a lot longer than I had known Brandi. I see Brandi as very real, and what you see with Brandi is what you get with her, which makes me appreciate her all that much more. I enjoy her company, and therefore introduced her to the group. But I had known Kyle longer, and maybe that's why I had a tendency to give her more leeway, as anyone might when it's a good friend who is involved.