Cast Blog: #RHOBH

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Brandi: Lisa R. Should Be Disappointed in Herself

Kim: Don't Mistake My Sadness for Weakness

Kyle: I Have Never Had Anyone Put a Hand on Me

Lisa V.: I Tried to Warn Kyle

Eileen: Brandi Attacks, Then Deflects

Lisa R.: Kyle Didn't Create This Drama

#RHOBH Spoiler Alert: More Fighting and a Peeping Tom

Kim: Kyle Should Be Worried, Not Embarrassed

Brandi: Kyle Wants to Help When There's an Audience

Kyle: This Was Brandi's Master Plan

Lisa R.: It Felt Just As Awkward As It Looked

Lisa V.: Kim's Demeanor Was Questionable

Eileen: Brandi Loves to Stir the Pot

#RHOBH Spoiler Alert: Disgust and a Push

Yolanda: I Would Like to Apologize

Brandi: I Won't Make Excuses

Kim: I Wanted to Hold Kyle

Lisa V.: I Want Max to Be Ambitious

Lisa R.: Lots of Transition Happening

Kyle: We Are an Emotional Bunch

Eileen: Being a Stepmom Is Challenging

#RHOBH Spoiler Alert: Surprise and an F-Bomb

Lisa V.: A Naughty Child Shouldn't Be Rewarded

Kyle: Brandi Was Rude and Offensive

Eileen: It Felt Like an Attack

Lisa R.: It Was Shocking and Unprovoked

Kim: Brandi Is Brandi

7 Faces We All Made During This Week's #RHOBH

Brandi: Lisa V. Was Making Me Uncomfortable

#RHOBH Spoiler Alert: Shock and Tears

4 Questions We All Asked During #RHOBH

Lisa R.: Portia Is My Spirit Animal

Eileen: Brandi Showed Us How Not to Make Amends

Yolanda: I Took One for the Team

Lisa V.: Yes, Love Is a Big Word

Kyle: Moments Like These Are Frustrating

Lisa V.: I Won't Erase the Past

Brandi: I Don't Enjoy Anger or Grudges

Eileen: I Could Feel the Tension at Kyle's

Lisa R Reflects on That Bittersweet Episode

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Adrienne tells us how she'd change Spa day, now that hindsight is 20/20.

When I said last season that I didn't cook, I wasn't joking. Obviously.

Here's the thing – there are approximately 9000 other things that I'd rather do than cook. Getting dental work ranks up there, as does cleaning dog poop out of Paul's closet. I'd rather return my favorite shoes, and give up my handbag collection. Cooking is not therapeutic for me. I have been told that for some people, the satisfaction of presenting a meal to their family can be fulfilling.

Great. I'm all for presenting a meal to my family. As a matter of fact I can present Chinese and Indian and sushi and Italian to them all in one night. Welcome to Takeout Taxi, loves. That little menu catalog they send around about all their restaurants is the best cookbook I know.

I know Lisa wants to know why she didn't know about my tanning booth. I'd like to counter that I didn't know she was regularly cooking chickens over at her house. Amazing what secrets neighbors keep!

On to a more serious subject. . .

They say that hindsight is 20/20. Well if that is true, then watching events play out on television means you suddenly get X-ray vision, and you can see absolutely everything. Going into the spa day I didn't have that luxury. All I knew of Game Night was the overall picture of what both Brandi and Kyle had relayed to me, and one of the things that had stuck out to me was Brandi's comment about Kim, which both Brandi and Kyle admitted took place. I knew that any comment about her sister from a virtual stranger would be a huge trigger for Kyle, so at that point I thought I understood what had taken place and why Kyle acted the way she did. I didn’t excuse it, but I thought I understood it. I didn’t know about all of the other details from that difficult night, so when the girls got together at my spa day I believed that the first extension of the olive branch rested on Brandi’s plate.

Knowing what I know now, I would obviously have made different choices.

Do I think that Kyle and Kim were right to treat Brandi that way on game night? No, of course not. Absolutely not. But I’m not alone in that sentiment. Kyle herself has been the first one to step out and say that she isn’t proud of her actions, and as her friend, I have to tell you that isn't the Kyle I know, either. You are seeing one side of her. People are wondering why I am not coming down harder on her, but you are only seeing one side of her. You have to understand that I see all the other sides of her, too and I know that you are seeing some of her self-admittedly worst moments. I think we are all human, we all make mistakes -- some that are very painful for others -- and if the whole world judged us solely on those bad moments, no one would come out a winner.

There is something else that I don't think people realize. At the time of the spa day, I had known Kyle a lot longer than I had known Brandi. I see Brandi as very real, and what you see with Brandi is what you get with her, which makes me appreciate her all that much more. I enjoy her company, and therefore introduced her to the group. But I had known Kyle longer, and maybe that's why I had a tendency to give her more leeway, as anyone might when it's a good friend who is involved.

That being said, I don't excuse what went down at game night. I would not have asked Brandi to apologize that day had I been at Game Night. I think I would have still tried to broker a peace agreement, but I wouldn't have asked Brandi to make the first move. I have to give her credit because despite it all, she did buck up and try. She's a strong woman, and even watching it again I saw the effort she made. Unfortunately, I think it was still too soon to let things go for everyone involved. Both sides threw some pretty personal digs out there on Game Night, and as much as I wanted apologies to fix things, it wasn't going to happen yet.

It isn't easy being stuck in the middle!

For those of you who have asked, yes -- I do have all of those spa treatments in one of the rooms of my guest house. It's like buying a stationary bike though -- as much as you think you're going to use it all the time, you don't. So despite the tension, I was really glad to have the girls over and have the chance to pamper them a little bit. We did have some laughs -- Camille's "experience" with the tanning machine still cracks me up.

To this day I wonder what she was doing in there! LOL


P.S. Lisa, don't worry about me knowing my way around the bedroom. I’m clear on where all my spices are up there!

P.P.S. I really do love my family too much to cook for them.

Kim: Don't Mistake My Sadness for Weakness

Kim thinks Brandi and Kyle's fight at poker night had very little to do with her.

Today’s episode started exactly where we left off, back at Eileen’s poker night. I remember just wanting to leave so badly that I just kept on walking and didn’t even see the physical altercation between Brandi and Kyle. I was caught between a rock and a hard place. I mean one is my sister and one is my friend. I wanted to make it right, so I tried to speak to Kyle, but there was so much chaos between her and Brandi. Then the other girls joined in and at that point, I was frustrated and honestly wasn’t feeling well. I just wanted everyone to let me go home! This drama may have been about me at first, but it definitely ended up being about those two and whatever residual animosity they had towards one another from the past.

On the following day, my pain got even worse, so I spent the whole day getting tests done at the doctor’s. Next evening, I was admitted to the hospital. In my last blog post, I mentioned that I had been struggling with bronchitis and pneumonia for weeks. Well, the doctor said I had a fractured rib, ruptured disc, and hiatal hernia, which was caused by the increased pressure from coughing. No wonder I was in so much pain before poker night! I was in the hospital for nine days. But I'm happy to announce that I’m currently healthy and well!
Even though my family and I are going through some tough times right now, I feel stronger than ever because I need to and want to be there for Monty, my daughters, and son. All you moms out there know, we don’t get days off! Although it seems like I have a lot going on, that’s exactly what I love about my life! Planning my daughter’s wedding is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever done. I can’t believe my babies are all grown up, and I could not be more proud. Taking care of Monty has been bittersweet--it’s so painful to see my best friend slipping away, but at the same time, our relationship is stronger than ever. We’re treasuring every moment we have together. Don’t mistake my sadness for weakness. If I were not strong in my sobriety today, I could never do the things I’m doing. Thank you to those who have shared their kind words and support!
Speaking of family, my favorite part of the episode was seeing Yolanda with her son. Oh my goodness, I really related to them, because I’m going through the same thing with my son, Chad. Family dynamics change, and it does get lonely for both Chad and me now that our girls have left the nest. But this is also a special bonding time for us--yes, he’s totally going to have to hang out with his mom more, which both of us don't seem to mind at all! 
XO Kim

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