Cast Blog: #RHOBH

Being There

Brandi: Lisa R. Should Be Disappointed in Herself

Kim: Don't Mistake My Sadness for Weakness

Kyle: I Have Never Had Anyone Put a Hand on Me

Lisa V.: I Tried to Warn Kyle

Eileen: Brandi Attacks, Then Deflects

Lisa R.: Kyle Didn't Create This Drama

#RHOBH Spoiler Alert: More Fighting and a Peeping Tom

Kim: Kyle Should Be Worried, Not Embarrassed

Brandi: Kyle Wants to Help When There's an Audience

Kyle: This Was Brandi's Master Plan

Lisa R.: It Felt Just As Awkward As It Looked

Lisa V.: Kim's Demeanor Was Questionable

Eileen: Brandi Loves to Stir the Pot

#RHOBH Spoiler Alert: Disgust and a Push

Yolanda: I Would Like to Apologize

Brandi: I Won't Make Excuses

Kim: I Wanted to Hold Kyle

Lisa V.: I Want Max to Be Ambitious

Lisa R.: Lots of Transition Happening

Kyle: We Are an Emotional Bunch

Eileen: Being a Stepmom Is Challenging

#RHOBH Spoiler Alert: Surprise and an F-Bomb

Lisa V.: A Naughty Child Shouldn't Be Rewarded

Kyle: Brandi Was Rude and Offensive

Eileen: It Felt Like an Attack

Lisa R.: It Was Shocking and Unprovoked

Kim: Brandi Is Brandi

7 Faces We All Made During This Week's #RHOBH

Brandi: Lisa V. Was Making Me Uncomfortable

#RHOBH Spoiler Alert: Shock and Tears

4 Questions We All Asked During #RHOBH

Lisa R.: Portia Is My Spirit Animal

Eileen: Brandi Showed Us How Not to Make Amends

Yolanda: I Took One for the Team

Lisa V.: Yes, Love Is a Big Word

Kyle: Moments Like These Are Frustrating

Lisa V.: I Won't Erase the Past

Brandi: I Don't Enjoy Anger or Grudges

Eileen: I Could Feel the Tension at Kyle's

Lisa R Reflects on That Bittersweet Episode

Being There

BH Producer Dave Rupel explains how he captured the big moments of this week's episode.

Greetings, viewers! I hope you enjoyed this week's episode.

As a veteran reality TV producer, I've been called every name in the book, and pretty much been accused of every despicable act in the book -- that I manipulate the action; that I put words in people's mouths; that everything is scripted and phony. None of those things are true.

Allow me to explain my perspective. In my twenty years of working in reality TV, often times you will have a participant that has no inhibitions in front of the camera -- say Puck, from Season 3 of The Real World: San Francisco (which I worked on) comes to mind. However, most people -- even people who appear on reality TV -- aren't Puck.

Sure, the ladies of our show are willing to share the fun and fabulous parts of their lives -- and can be willing to expose their argumentative sides (see: Game Night.), but believe me when I tell you that none of the ladies like to be vulnerable on camera. Sometimes it's when they let their guard down a little though that something unexpected happens. It's those moments of vulnerability that are so real and relatable and are what, in my opinion, make good reality TV so compelling. So, it's my job to try and capture them!

Here's how it happened in this week's episode. All season long, there has been growing tension between Taylor and Lisa, which looked like it would soon boil over into a confrontation.

In last week’s episode, you saw Taylor visit Kyle's house for an "important conversation" before the séance. In that conversation, she told Kyle she was ready to confront Lisa.

We expected there to be a confrontation between the ladies at the séance so that is what we were preparing to cover, and then low and behold it didn't happen.

However, a few days later, we were scheduled to shoot the Women in Business event, where Taylor was nominated for an award for her philanthropic work. When we shoot any function, one of the first questions we ask is "who else is attending?" We do that for logistical reasons. How many microphones do we need? Can we cover this with one crew, or do we need two? When we asked Taylor that question, we were surprised to find out Lisa was purposely left off the guess list.

It was clear to me after the séance that Taylor was not going to confront Lisa at a big event. However, it was equally clear to me that once Lisa found out she had not been invited to Taylor’s event, Lisa would call Taylor out about that and then the confrontation was bound to happen.

I knew Lisa's feelings would be hurt by this realization, and they were. It was a very vulnerable moment for her. Please know that I don't get any kind of personal satisfaction out of filming moments like these. I felt bad for Lisa because I adore her and I knew this news upset her. However, I also adore Taylor and it was her right to choose to not invite Lisa for the reasons she states in the episode.

As I've often stated in my blogs, it’s not my job as a producer to create phony drama. I didn’t tell Taylor and Lisa to have issues. Just like I didn’t tell Taylor not to invite Lisa. Their conflict is all-too-real

Another unexpected moment was Taylor's impromptu consultation with Paul Nassif at Lisa's front gate. Paul wasn't scheduled to be on-camera. He really was just dropping by to ask Adrienne a question. But his arrival just happened to coincide with Taylor’s storm-out. My team just went with the flow and we captured a very surreal "only in Beverly Hills" moment where after storming out from a heated argument, Taylor runs into her doctor who can examine all the filler he recently injected her with. It's too strange not to be real! The drama and emotion amongst the group at Lisa’s tea party was so raw, it could never be staged!

Finally, I want to say that all of us on the show take the issue of domestic violence very seriously. Far too often people don't talk about it because they're ashamed -- and that shame so often lets it continue. It's been a difficult and very real journey for the ladies this year, particularly Taylor, but if we can help even one person suffering from similar circumstances by sharing it with all of you then that is a very good.

Thanks for taking the time to read, and please give me your feedback on this episode.

Kim: Don't Mistake My Sadness for Weakness

Kim thinks Brandi and Kyle's fight at poker night had very little to do with her.

Today’s episode started exactly where we left off, back at Eileen’s poker night. I remember just wanting to leave so badly that I just kept on walking and didn’t even see the physical altercation between Brandi and Kyle. I was caught between a rock and a hard place. I mean one is my sister and one is my friend. I wanted to make it right, so I tried to speak to Kyle, but there was so much chaos between her and Brandi. Then the other girls joined in and at that point, I was frustrated and honestly wasn’t feeling well. I just wanted everyone to let me go home! This drama may have been about me at first, but it definitely ended up being about those two and whatever residual animosity they had towards one another from the past.


On the following day, my pain got even worse, so I spent the whole day getting tests done at the doctor’s. Next evening, I was admitted to the hospital. In my last blog post, I mentioned that I had been struggling with bronchitis and pneumonia for weeks. Well, the doctor said I had a fractured rib, ruptured disc, and hiatal hernia, which was caused by the increased pressure from coughing. No wonder I was in so much pain before poker night! I was in the hospital for nine days. But I'm happy to announce that I’m currently healthy and well!
Even though my family and I are going through some tough times right now, I feel stronger than ever because I need to and want to be there for Monty, my daughters, and son. All you moms out there know, we don’t get days off! Although it seems like I have a lot going on, that’s exactly what I love about my life! Planning my daughter’s wedding is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever done. I can’t believe my babies are all grown up, and I could not be more proud. Taking care of Monty has been bittersweet--it’s so painful to see my best friend slipping away, but at the same time, our relationship is stronger than ever. We’re treasuring every moment we have together. Don’t mistake my sadness for weakness. If I were not strong in my sobriety today, I could never do the things I’m doing. Thank you to those who have shared their kind words and support!
Speaking of family, my favorite part of the episode was seeing Yolanda with her son. Oh my goodness, I really related to them, because I’m going through the same thing with my son, Chad. Family dynamics change, and it does get lonely for both Chad and me now that our girls have left the nest. But this is also a special bonding time for us--yes, he’s totally going to have to hang out with his mom more, which both of us don't seem to mind at all! 
XO Kim

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