This episode finally addressed all the gossip, chatter, and reality regarding Taylor and her marriage. I must admit, it seemed a bit passive aggressive of Taylor not to invite Lisa to her event -- especially knowing that not only would she find out about event, but also because Taylor was planning to attend Lisa's tea party the next day.
brandi hang in there i think you are interesting and genuinly a nice person. kim is just nuts. who would actually want her as a friend. her sis kyle is just school girlish. the girls that i think are great are camille and addrienne. i hope to see you on the show for a long time.
Brandi, Liking you more and more. You are pretty well balanced and that could prove refreshing. Lisa is upfront about everything and I believe you are the same, you could be good friends. I think Kyle threw her under the bus and has not been the best of friends with her for sometime. Your bff always has your back. Camille was right to point out the elephant in the room and then Taylor pretends to not know WHAT they are talking about, really?? We didn't know but yet we all guessed. Taylor should never have handled this at Lisa's tea, Wrong place, wrong time. And then she should never have drug the other girls into it. Cheap shot!
As a health care professional we can do nothing in a case like Taylor's as she is a grown woman. An abused woman's best place for help actually comes from those friends brave enough to put themselves out there for her. Sorry Brandi, but saying things like "he was always sweet to me" is probably the most counter productive thing you can do as it negates his heinous crimes. The man was a monster to his wife - being dead doesn't change that.
glad to to see that u blog no matter what!This is what we viewers want to hear:interpretions of what we see!So its very defining when "stars"of the show dont blog.IE,kim ,taylor(although she gets a pass for a few weeks,but when ur able to date someone else u should be able to blog ?.)So,back to my point,I do like u soooo much,for ur realism towards the "real world".Keep ur head up,lady!
Brandi, You are the voice of reason on this show! Please keep up the great posts-- you speak the truth and the viewers love you for it!
All I can say is I love you as the new addition. Please stay true to yourself and do not change couse of this show. Now I know why Adrian gets a long with you. Both of you are great on this show. I also love Lisa and Camille. All of you have me as a fan.
Brandi, the thought that comes to mind when I started to write this comment is..."Here Comes Trouble". LOL it's all good, people have said that about me all my life. I get it and embrace it now (albeit I've applied a few filters here and there). I was astonished at the behaviours displayed towards you on the show--shocked! It can be really hard to deal and be with company that doesn't want you there. You have to question whether or not You want You there. But sometimes, it pays off in the future. Some of my best friends have started with similiar explosive beginnings. You have a wonderful disposition of keeping everything on the surface which can be the last thing some people want. I'm hoping you find your "grounding" and not just because your on crutches LOL. Looking forward to seeing more of you on the show!
I think it's hard to believe that the ladies hadn't spoken to Taylor previously, being that it was so obvious that she was emotionally unstable. I would have thought that she was at risk for a suicide attempt with all the mental stress she was under at home. I was in a domestic violence situation from the age of 15, it is a confusing situation that can not seem to be rectified by basic common sense. It wasn't until I was married for 9 years that I finally came to the conclusion that I could not make it work. Now to some that might seem crazy but in that frame of mind, your life is in slow motion. There is no next month or next year, just today. You just have to get through today with your relationship intact, you exist for the happiness of the abuser and your own needs are not yours at all. Till one day you look outside your life and see people being showed love and you become desirous of what they have and that's when the violence hits an all time high. You begin to fight back and expect more from your partner, your confidence begins to grow "A Voice" and that's when I really got the beat down. So many victims don't make it through this part, the violence turns to murder. My own situation was ended finally with a gun pointed to the back of my head while I sat across from my husband who was sitting on the bed. He said he would kill me with that gun and I turned around, cigarette in hand, looking right down the barrel of that silver 9mm and said "You gave up the right to say what happens to my life a long time ago" only seconds later as I turned back around (I was not expecting that) I felt and heard a shot, the hair on my head was blown out of place. He had shot himself in the head. You'd think that was the end but it got worse and even more alarming, it wasn't till later on that I had learned that the bullet had exited his head out the bridge of his nose and came right at me...They never found the bullet, I had to clean up all the blood and matter by myself. You see, they don't come to your house to do that for you, you have to pay and I had nothing to pay with and no one to help. There were more details I will refrain from speaking of but I did not find any bullet in that room. I am an abuse survivor but so was he, he still lives to this day, somewhere and my kids and I live everyday with that memory. Please if anyone reads this, heed the warnings and don't wait to intervene...It really could be to late.
Brandi is not needed on the show. It was good until she came along. Also Taylor is just a lot of trouble and she doesn't listen to what is actually being said by Lisa or Kyle. Also Dana on the show makes no sense either. I love the show, but as it is going now, I may not bother watching it anymore. I love Kyle, Lisa and Adrienne, but the others....no further comment.
Very sweetly and tactfully put. It is obvious that you are happier and more confident than when you started this process. Good for you!
Funny blog, especially at the end regarding being egotisical & having pictures all over the house, pretty funny! I like you!
Love you on the show. You are by FAR my favorite housewife. I admire you for not speaking about Russell since he is not here to defend himself. I thought it was quite clear from last night episode that everyone had doubts of some kind.
Brandi, You've got a fan here. I love your authenticity, honesty, and your strength. Your insights/assessments on situations/things are very spot on and relatable. And on top of all of that you are the most physically beautiful BHHW!
"I knew Russell only briefly. He was always kind and sweet to me, so I will not speak ill of someone who cannot defend himself." Thank you for having some courage about you. You are admirable. Brandi I don't put myself around people who really have a potty mouth or seem to have a hard edge like calling themselves a "slut" and seem ready to fight. The quote above shows more integrity and less ego than any of these women have, so maybe I am missing out.
Love love love you! And I agree with you about the picture thing. At least Lisa doesn't have a huge portrait of herself circa 1980's glamour shot like Kyle does. I hope you and Lisa get close because you two have so much in common. You both shoot straight from the hip, and neither of you are so stuck up that you can't appreciate a little vulgar humor from time to time. Ps. Am I the only one who caught that "pearl necklace" comment of Lisa's? Hilarious!
Brandi, you made some keen observations. I agree that Taylor should have and DID know that not inviting Lisa would be an issue that would rear its ugly head later, and I agree that Taylor did seem awfully prepared for a showdown. What was not cool was that Taylor kept looking around at the other ladies and saying, "Right? Right? Didn't you all say that, too?" As if all of them sat around discussing all of Lisa's faults in a grand jury indictment proceeding. That must’ve made Lisa feel awful. So that was wrong on Taylor's part. If you have a problem with someone, even IF all of the ladies did indeed privately slam Lisa to Taylor, when Taylor confronted Lisa it should have been Taylor's problems only with Lisa only. Don't bring other people into it, it is neither your job nor your right. HOWEVER, speaking from experience, and in Taylor's defense, Taylor has had abuse in her past, whether it was in childhood, adulthood, or both, because it is, sadly, very evident. The outcome of this physical and mental abuse is is a serious lack in self esteem. Any comment, therefore, said by someone as confident and self-possessed as Lisa, would affect Taylor deeply. Take Lisa’s husband’s comment when Taylor said she was seeing a therapist and he said he would never need a therapist. Taylor was hurt cried about it, because she saw that as being personally judged and found lacking. That same comment, made to a confident Kyle, for instance, and Ken would have been shot down then and there and told that well, hey, I’m glad you’re perfect, but I’m not, so shut up. Taylor needs to realize that child abuse is far reaching and because of what she went through as a child, it has shaped her personality, and she hears things and takes things that often times were not meant to offend.
I agree with you Brandi. Besides, being on a reality show, facebook, twitter etc. means we're willing to share our lives with others. Including pictures of ourselves. We ALL have pics of ourselves somewhere. I just don't understand the problem Taylor had with that. I, too, consider myself a kind and good friend to anyone I meet. But we can't always be close to everyone. Even in our group of friends, we have a "core" group where we share more than we do with the others, even if we all care for each other. I also didn't understand why the others kept insisting Lisa said "Not your friend", when clearly she said "Not your BEST friend". It reminds me of season 1, when Taylor insisted she didn't say or say something as she talked with Kim, and yet the tape clearly showed Kim was right. I understand that Taylor was, and still is, hurting deeply, but to attack someone who'd tried to offer sincere help, is unconscionable. Even if they weren't close, if Taylor had reached out to Lisa, then maybe a close relationship would have started. Yes, it was a blessing you missed all that :)
I agree!! I don't know what the big deal is about having pictures of yourself around... Keep it real, Brandi!
I want to start with how much I love you being added to the RHWBH. What a breath of fresh air. I'm curious, Taylor never really talked to you about her marriage? Wasn't that you at Adrienne's BBQ announcing that you believed Taylor was getting divorced? Wasn't that you at the BBQ announcing that Taylor was on the "divorce diet". I'm scratching my head trying to figure out who was desperate enough to "leak" a story to the tabloids. Any ideas?
Brandi, so glad you werent at that luncheon. LOL. You surely didnt need to be in that horrible mix. With all you had gone through and may still be going through, enjoy. You are turning into one of my favs, along with Camille. She has come far and you are also shining through as a true honest person. Keep it up. Those women are really jealous of you and her so run... I was kinda glad to see Kyle squirm when Taylor called her out. Payback! hahaha. I hope we, the viewers, come to see you meet someone nice for you and your boys and your life goes in the direction you want. You deserve to be happy. One of your fans - Michelle
Brandi.... You have so far shown nothing but a person trying to be accepted into a group of women who are jealous of your youth and beauty. They act like they never heard a swear word or even used them themselves.
Stay true to who you are. Stay away from Kyle and Kim...they are the high school mean girls we all hated when we were young.
Taylor was delusional....I BET you were glad you were not there!!
Good luck in the shark tank
Well Said! I have to be honest, I was not a big fan of Brandi's at first, but not I appreciate how she says it like it is. I don't think Lisa has an "Ego" because she has a picture of herself on her ipad. She also has Jiggy with her in the picture and She loves him dearly...Lots of people have pics of themselves and a loved one on their electronic devices - it doesn't mean someone is being egotistical... I think Taylor needs more than just therapy...
Brandi, I like you, but I think you enjoy getting caught up in the fray of it all. Please stop analyzing these people. Because the truth is they will like you one day, and then they will hate your guts the next day. Being around these women is like vying for a popularity contest. Honey, it just ain't worth it. Do yourself a favor and spend as much time as you can with your children because that is what is important. You see that they are just about ready to gauge each others eyeballs out. That is because these woman are not fulfilled in their lives. So please keep your priorities straight.
You said it short, cordial and to the point ..."I will not speak ill of someone who cannot defend himself."
It's about time these women get a shake up. First Camille and now You! Good job! And keep telling them how you feel. They all have ego's, they all need therapy, and some of them need to step away from Paul and all plastic surgeons.
Thank you, Brandi....please keep urging your fans to call the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence if they need help. All calls are confidential and there IS help out there. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect.
1.800.799.SAFE (7233) 1.800.787.3224 (TTY)
Brandi, I loved your blog. You're a very smart woman - it's apparent that you know Taylor more than you would like to. Love you on RHOBH. You're a great addition
Nice blog. Truly.
I still think you need a filter, but I'm liking you a bit more these days.
Just don't make the mistake of thinking any of these women are really your friend (except for Adrienne and maybe Camille). Don't let your guard down.
I hope I'm wrong.
Def missed your presence this week's episode...glad u weren't part of Tea Party Drama
TEAM BRANDI all the way !!!
It seems that you love to be in the middle of conflicts. You were not even there, but there you are giving to not interesting opinion.
It seems that you love to be in the middle of conflicts. You were not even there, but there you are giving to not interesting opinion.
Appreciate your perspective and insight Brandi - you always tell it as you see it, without taking sides. You are a breath of fresh air! Looking forward to seeing you again on next week's episode.
Brandi - I look forward to seeing you every week, but glad you were not in the fray this past episode. Things were out of control and the accusations against Lisa were uncalled for and confusing. Taylor is in a fog at this point and doesn't know what she is talking about. She is so angry with her situation that she lashes out at others instead of her husband and she is spinning out of control. What she should be doing is LEAVING him, not making excuses or causing conflicts, but this is what many do.
There is a blogger here (LittleGirlSaved) who speaks of horrible personal experience with this issue- I think she made a great point: Once an abused person "finds her voice" in these situations, the abuser gets even more intense. The "victim" needs more than their own voice to fight back. They need others to intervene and help them get away or get help from authorities and this is dangerous b/c sometimes the abuser wants to kill everyone. It's a difficult thing to get involved with and this to me means even more that Lisa kept trying to reach out to Taylor and she offered a place to stay if needed. So did Camille. They were willing to go above and beyond to help Taylor-these are what great friends and great people are made of. I hope you are closer to Lisa and Camille now as I consider you to be like that too.
Taylor is so hell bent on venting anger that she can't even recognize her marriage is over. She needs to get away and her supposed friend Kyle is making things worse by stoking the fire about stupid stuff- jealous, petty stuff. Kyle should be ashamed of herself! Taylor and her child were in a very dangerous situation and are lucky to be alive in my opinion. Taylor did not need to be amped up on false accusations and meaningless fighting. Arguing about what someone has on their screen saver? Wow- here Taylor is busy trying to control Lisa in reaction to her own controlled world by her husband. I admire Lisa for remaining calm throughout this ridiculous encounter.
Brandi- you are smart and have plenty to offer and a great guy. Let go of the anger towards your ex: he will not suffer from it, you will- be glad you are rid of a weakling. Don't waste your time on him or what he has done with his life, except for how any of it affects your children. This is a tightrope walk, but I think you are strong and can do it the right way. Make your life and your children's lives be the best and let go of the rest. I wish you all the best in the future! xx