Camille Grammer

Camille thanks Dedra for her support -- even if it might have come at the wrong time.

on Dec 7, 20110

Before the party I was really looking forward to spending time with the girls. Brandi had wanted to get all of us together for a nice girls' night. I was excited about getting to know Brandi and her friends better. I didn't anticipate any major conflict with seeing Taylor at the party. Even though I wasn't sure how she was going to react, enough time had gone by that I thought we could bury the hatchet.

Obviously, this episode was very difficult to view. Watching Taylor get so emotional was difficult. I felt so bad for her. She was in a lot of pain, and I didn't realize at the time the severity of her situation.

That evening was especially challenging because Taylor had obviously distanced herself from me. As I saw her pain, I empathized with her because I had gone through so much pain myself over the last year. I wanted to help, but I couldn't because she put a wall between us. It hurt that she accused me of something happening with her situation at home, but harder still was seeing Taylor in that emotional state. At that point, what was I to do? Obviously I wanted to reach out to help her, but I'm being accused of causing problems in her life. I felt that she was taking a lot of her own personal frustrations out on me. Knowing that a friend is hurting is bad enough, but I was unable to reach out and help because of that wall Taylor put between us.

318 comments
Nice Girl
Nice Girl

I really understand and like Camille she is wonderful....What I really want to know is why does everything have to revolve around Kyle...She has to be in every single thing that goes on....Even when her Mother n law had a face lift she still had to make it about her by crying and running out of the Doctor's office...Please get over yourself Kyle...as for you Camille keep doing what you are doing you are great!

chelea surls
chelea surls

I thought the way your friend d or whatever her name is went off on taylor was totally uncalled for!!! She was really trying hard to win you over huh? she seems so fake too! two peas in a pod:)

TEAM RHOBH
TEAM RHOBH

CAMILLE. WE STARTED TO LIKE YOU LAST SEASON. AND TRULY FELT BAD FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN. BUT THIS SEASON YOU AND YOU PROBLEMS ARE NOT THE MAIN FOCUS, GOT A LITTLE UPSET ABOUT YOU LIMELIGHT TIME? AS FOR YOUR FRIEND DEDE, SHE STARTED AND CONTINUED TO KEEP THE SITUATION. WE AGREE WITH SOME OF OTHERS THAT YOU KNEW EXACTLY WHAT WAS GOING TO TAKE PLACE BEFORE YOU GOT THERE. AND NOW YOUR PLAYING THE VICTIM AGAIN. DID IT EVER CROSS YOUR MIND THAT YOUR COMMENTS ABOUT TAYLOR'S SITUATION ON T.V. THAT SHE REALLY WAS SCARED RUSSELL WOULD SEE THIS AND SHE WOULD BE THE SUFFERING THE CONSEQUENCES. SORRY TO SAY YOU LOST 25 FANS THAT GET TOGETHER FOR RHBH RELIGEOUSLY EVERY WEEK.

CDA
CDA

No doubt it escalated into an ugly cat fight in a heartbeat. However, while Dedra may be a 'bff' she was over the line. She crossed the line. She more than anyone caused it to spiral out of control. She was like a pit bull that could not pull herself away when some common sense and awareness (of Taylor's fragile emotional state) should have clearly prevailed. I applaud Adrienne (she consistently) keeps her composure, a clear head and tries to always do the right thing and does not stoop to the level of "mean girls" and join in the catfights that ensue. Bravo Adrienne!

PS It is no wonder she is so successful in business.

NikkiMM
NikkiMM

I cannot understand how everyone is fooled by Camille's charade as a decent person this season. We all saw her true colors last season. She is a self-centered spoiled woman who wants others to feel bad for her and will manipulate situations so she can be the helpless victim. In the off-season, she probably met with a publicist and went over how she should behave to repair her image because she came off so horribly last year. That's why she says little this season, but I think we saw the real her come back out at the tea party. She didn't make the comments about Russel beating Taylor because she cares about her friend. Taylor was pissing her off and she wanted to humiliate/upset her in return. If you are concerned about your friend, you tell them so (when not in front of television cameras and not in the midst of a big argument). Then she tries to be the victim again when meeting with Adrienne and Kyle by saying that she doesn't understand why Taylor is upset with her for just repeating what Taylor had told her. She knows why Taylor is upset. She's upset because Camille said it on camera.

lclevis
lclevis

Camille, you have more class than the rest of the ladies and have shown it this year. As for Taylor, she is in desperate need of mental help and hope she gets it before she damages her daughter. With her actions on TV I am really surprised that child services are not keep tabs on her and her daughter. They need to. Keep on being the classy lady you truly are. I can see why Taylor doesn't blog, the truth hurts. Grow up Taylor, its time you have a daughter that needs a mature mother and parent.

Lindsay
Lindsay

Hi Camille, I was delighted to see Dedra defend you, Taylor behaved terribly! I really find it impossible to feel much empathy for Taylor when she knows what your going through, and for what ever reason decides to hold you accountable for the problems in her marriage. I think you have a wonderful support system in your friends, and your fans!

hulali
hulali

Don't be too hard on yourself about the drama with Taylor. She is the one that caused all this grief and is trying to divert blame to you now that she and Lisa are friends. She put herself in harms way by choosing to stay with someone she claims physically abused her on a regular basis. Brandi's party was just a fisaco waiting to happen becasue everyone knows that when you mix too much alcohol with an emotional distraught woman the tears and drama are bound to happen. It seemed to me that everyone at that party was liquored-up (with the exception of yourself) and acted horribly.

joe c
joe c

There are alot of people out here going thru divorces that are not on television. One thing I have learn going thru a divorce is that its tough to trust people. Couldn't imagine what it would be like in your situtation. Best of luck and always trust in those friends who will fight for you and show humility. They are hard to find. Your great on the show!

gljord
gljord

Were we all watching the same show??? Camille's friend Debra went after Taylor and had no right to attack Taylor in anyway. Camille just stood there and watched her do it, which meant she had no problem with her doing it. It was not Debra's problem to fix and I give her no grace for her actions. People were saying that Taylor was drunk, so was everyone. It seems like everyone is going out of there way to make Taylor look crazy and unstable, when everyone is just one event from having a breakdown. If Taylor doesn't to talk about it at the party then that should have been the end of it. A private conversation would have been more appropriate. Debra owes Taylor a public apology, instead of being praised for being a good friend.

xmas
xmas

shake your booty, shake your booty!!

fanofcamille
fanofcamille

You are such a wonderful hostess. Your homes are beautiful and it is fun to watch you whether it's in Malibu, New York or Beaver Creek. I hope the producers will understand their audience - we want to see ladies having fun and of course glamour!! I loved your green earrings. You should start a fashion line because you are so stylish and you have the perfect body to showcase the clothes.

Marhank
Marhank

You are my favorite. You are genuine. When are you going to come out with a makeup or clothing line. It will be successful!!

Snickers
Snickers

You are my favorite housewife both seasons. You are a classy lady and have handled yourself so well. Loved the episode of you and the gals in Vegas having fun. Kyle should be excluded from group get togethers and just be in scenes with her family. I will not watch the white party this Monday, very disrespectful to Russell because who knows what psychoTaylor said off camera to stir up trouble.

Mayte Bella
Mayte Bella

Camille, You are so logical in how you've handled everything. . .Taylor is NOT the only person who has gone through difficult times, you've definitely had your share and you acted classy and in control all the way through it. There was no excuse for Taylor to pick on you, and I totally admire you for standing up to her twisted ways. She's totally out of control and you're totally class. Good for you for doing the right thing--Taylor looks like a silly, immature fool.

carlota
carlota

I really think you don't understand what you did wrong. I mean, the problem wasn't that you tried to get things straight so that you could understand if Taylor was being abused or not. The problem was that you did this on nationam tv. I think your kind of crazy for exposing your friend like that, I mean, I hope you it wasn't't intentionally and that you've realized your mistake. Measure your words carefully, for other lifes are at stake. I hope you guys have made amends and can move forward as strong women. But just stop excusing your actions by saying that you were just repeating what Taylor was saying, because she had never said it in front of the camera and it makes the whole difference. You exposed her personal situation in front of the whole world and it escalated into a suicide. I'm not saying it's your fault I'm just saying accept your wrongdoings and move forward.

lddevos
lddevos

I just have to say this, I totally get the build up of frustration which led to you blowing up at the tea party HOWEVER all of the talk afterwards about how you "didn't say anything she hadn't already told all the girls" is rediculous. YOU SAID IT IN FRONT OF THE CAMERAS ON NATIONAL TELEVISION. What part of that don't people understand???

Camillew2011
Camillew2011

Taylor said you put her and her daughter in danger, so who told Russel you talked about their problems? Obviously Taylor herself. What does she want? All she wants is to be in the center of attention. I don't understand why would all of you (except Kyle and Kim, they all belong with each other) hang out with someone like Taylor?????

d4j4speed
d4j4speed

You have been my favorite both seasons. I admire the way you handled your divorce with dignity, WOW. I would have flipped. You are amazing. I am sure your EX is kicking himself right now, he gave up a classy woman for a mousy girl. Keep doing what you do.

I do hope that your friend DD will not be on the show much, she's weird and pushy. I know she is a good friend of yours and I am glad for you, but, she is not right for the show.

You have done nothing wrong on the show. Stay away from Taylor, she is scary.

amp54
amp54

Camille,

On two occassions your best friends have taken up your banner and gone after individuals that you have conflict with. It happened last season with Kyle and your psychic friend and it happend with Taylor and Dedra. I kept wondering why this was happening. I watched you with your friends in the car while driving to Brandi's and I finally got it. You are a master manipulator. You plant the seed, then water it by making yourself out to be the victim and watch it grow when your friends take up charge. Shame on you. I am not fooled.

Paula Mete
Paula Mete

Worry about snow, in Malibu not us viewers. Taylor told u she wanted the truth out there and u only told the truth as she told you. I am kind of tiffed at the gals 4 not sicking up 4 you and backing Lisa. all the gals needed to do was to sit down w/her and get it all out in the open. and get on with it. I do not like the addition of Dana. she is too much of a gavone and spacone for my simple italian taste. i love your comments on the money. Anyway, this is all after the fact of russell's suicide. Taylor just was afraid to leave and that was it. she left her daughter in that so called domestic abuse situation. To go home and tell Russell what u said, c'mon what kind of play was that. What, did she want to rile him up to hit her. Is she that pathetic? I lived thru yrs of physical abuse so I do know what I am talking about. And we were split up, he use 2 break into my house. i chose not to live in the situation. Laws were different back then, I didn't have them to protect me and the doctors in the er knew what was going on. i mean they saw me 1 a month. They never did anything to help. I was afraid he would kill me if I opened my mouth so I really don't understand Taylor's mentality. Talk to abused women & they will say the same thing. I feel that Taylor is a drama queen and doesn't really know what abuse is. You should not feel bad at all. Taylor stayed there, was it the truth? And where was her good friend Dana?, thru all this crap? YYYY did taylor tell u gals? Most abused women do NOT tell their friends or family, which is why many r stuck in the situation, some end up dead and dont have anywhere to go, so y did Tylor tell u gals this stuff? Makes u think, huh? Did it really happen. i could tell by your face and Kyles that u 2 had doubts and Lisa defenitely didnt trust her from the start. Maybe Lisa should have stayed w/her first gut instinct. Again, u should not feel badly at all. Take care of your familly, worry about them in this day and age. Happy holidays 2 u and yours.

LoveRHOB
LoveRHOB

First season I wasn't the biggest fan of Camille but I've grown to really like her now. Taylor on the other hand Ive never cared for and I'm starting to dislike her even more and more. She is a wreck. She blows everything out of proportion, cries about nothing and is rude to everyone. I don't know why Kyle even deals with her. She uses her relationship as an accuse to get pity and attention from the other housewives. I have been in abusive relationships before but still did not act like the mega drama queen,cry baby that she is. She's lashed out at Lisa and Camille already this season for no good reason. Taylor you have been blessed far more than anyone I know, so quit crying and make the best of it. Your daughter doesn't deserve to be raised in your dramatic, emotionally unstable environment.

beachgrl
beachgrl

Camille, As always you look amazing. Love seeing your dance moves again this season. Please, please make a dance video! Teach us ladies those incredible moves. Keep up the great work. live, love, laugh

ViewerKathy
ViewerKathy

I would love to see you fight your own battles, instead of hiring your pit bulls to do your dirty work. Same ole same ole....ect. You are far from my favorite ( only above Brandy) which isn't saying much.

audrey b.
audrey b.

hi Camille, hooray! i found a website i think it was wetpaint? where D.D. tells us what products she uses when she does your makeup! hooray! She has quite an impressive list of clients in her portfolio, as well, on her own website!

would love to learn more about skincare products, in addition to the makeup.

and YES, she's been a terrific friend of yours--a true compadre, in the good times + and the well, not so good times, where it really counts.

Elizabeth Juric
Elizabeth Juric

Firstly I REALLY LOVE YOU this season! Things didnt turn out great but Taylor needs to own it. TAYLOR started it! She went around town telling EVERYONE about her marriage problems and because Lisa calked her out in season 1, Taylor wanted it to be the girls vs Lisa and was using rumors that she put out there to be Lisa's fault! She started to speak on everyone's behalf and THAT's when you had enough!

I'm sorry that Taylor is going through s***, but she put the walls up, she chose to stay home and live with Russell at that time, she chose to let people know things and she chose to put cards on the table and out private conversations!

Did it escalate? Yes! Was it your fault, I dont think so!

boncast
boncast

You should have kept your friend in check. I saw a gang of people around Taylor and your friend was loose just instigating the sitution. You and your friend showed very poor restraint and behavior.

Viewer1960
Viewer1960

Camille, since Taylor doesn't have a blog I will tell you that you didn't do anything wrong. Taylor saw fit to tell everyone about her problems and when you only repeated it back to her, she panicked. She told Russell what you said but didn't tell him that she was the one that told all the girls. She never seems to want to take responsibility for anything. Just like last year when she goated you and Kyle to fight and then repeat things to Kim and later deny it. Taylor really is a trouble maker. I know that Russell is no longer a problem for her but be careful. I don't believe she has a lot of money and she knows you do, so be cautious about what you say or do around her. She truly is not a friend and doesn't want any one to have friends. Good example: How she pleaded with Lisa and made a fool of herself and forced Lisa into a relationship. She;s going where the money is so be careful.

helen
helen

I hope you read this, because it's a little late. Taylor doesn't blog yet and I can see why. I'm sure she is afraid of all the bad mail she will get if she starts blogging. Anyway, what can she say? We are all seeing her breakdowns live on TV. It makes me sick to see her dump on Lisa and then on you. How could she be in any way helpful in the DV support group? She obviously didn't take anything to heart. I believe that she is a very delusional and deceptive person. She lies to herself first of all and then repeats those lies to anyone that will listen. How abusive could her husband have been and how controlling when it is he that is dead and she is alive and writing a book about it? Something is not right with that scenario. You have really been a joy to see this season. See, how someone is supposed to act when they go through a bad situation? They grow. You have grown and you are supportive of those who are going through tough times. It's good to see you get your life together. Kelsey is a good actor, but he is not a good person. He is very selfish. His children will see it for themselves as they grow older. Stay close to them and be the great mother that you can be with the role model you have in your mother. Best wishes.

DIGNIFIEDaddict;)
DIGNIFIEDaddict;)

Taylor has been unstable and clearly heading for a breakdown since the beginning of the season. Whatever she blames on you, is MISGUIDED. Taylor should not have done the show, her own behaviors and emotions, as sad as they are, have been broadcast news because she made it that way, NOT YOU!!!!!

Krista Allen
Krista Allen

Camille, I actually like you a lot better this season. As far as the Taylor situation, I can understand where she is coming from in a way. It makes it hard for her to be able to confide in her friends and be on tv. It's not easy to understand where someone is coming from unless you have been there. I know she put some of that attention on herself that day, and that is why I think you are both at fault for the fight. I know your friends were trying to stick up for you, but the way your one friend reacted was extremely immature. She should have butt out and let you two go talk. Instead she started making things much worse.

mari hill
mari hill

I honestly feel that Kelsey Grammar didn't want to share the spotlight that is why he did what he did. He is a womanizer as well - move to the next fish too quickly. You are a kind and classy woman we have grown to love. Any man would be a fool to leave a woman like you - so I am wondering if he has regrets already. Simply because the woman he is married to doesn't hold a candle to you my dear - you are way beautiful and better disposition. Your heart is sweet and kind. He must be in regret city by now. Also your revenge of that handsome man is the best medicine. Your man is so hot!! God is good and God will always give you the last laugh. Enjoy your life - you deserve it.

MonicaViewer
MonicaViewer

Camille,keep your head up, you just told the truth of what Taylor herself told everyone else. Taylor needs professional help. Such a phony- I never even see tears when she's carrying on. I can't fathom how she still gets invited to functions because whenever she attends something she acts crazy. Personally I do not believe her claims of abuse. I think Russell had a lot to put up with poor man. Hang in

pen joy
pen joy

I agree with you Camille. Taylor is definitely taking her frustrations on you. The real problem is Taylor's personal life and God knows what's really going on. You spoke the truth and truth hurts. Taylor couldn't accept the fact that you blurted it out on national tv. She's a drama queen and a fake. She looks like she's acting most of the time instead of being herself. It's painful to watch her.

Mumzer
Mumzer

DD is a loyal friend; you're lucky to have her. I hope you remember what it was like to be Kyles target last season and will defend or at least empathize with Brandi now that she's being bullied by Kyle. The way Kyle and Kim have treat people is truly hard to watch.

debbie cisneros
debbie cisneros

Hi camille I am huge fan of yours and after finding out what Kelsey Grammer is really like,,,,I can't even watch him anymore.You have beauty and class. Bravo to you .Debbie in Denver

carmencromartie
carmencromartie

I have a best friend and I am a best friend, and I can say what Dee Dee did was mild compared to if someone had beeen taling s*%# about my best friend.

NYCBee
NYCBee

Camille, you are one classy woman! Honest, caring, always giving- The world would be a better place if more people were like you. Wishing nothing but the best for you! You deserve it!

CarissaSF
CarissaSF

Camille - you have some interesting friends. Last season you had a crazy psychic friend who exploded all over everyone and was downright mean. This season, your friend, Dede, exploded all over Taylor. Both can't seem to behave with alcohol, both seem to love the attention, and both seem to be "sticking up for you", while sticking their nose in something that is none of their business and escalate it to the point of "crazy".

Fabulouswon
Fabulouswon

I can't believe that people are actually praising Dedra for "sticking up for you." As if you need anyone sticking up for you. Me thinks our little Dedra was A) drunk B) desperate for camera time & C) Redundant. The latter being a pretty good indication of having had too many guzzlets of her cocktail.

Kassi1970
Kassi1970

Oh Camille, I wish you would not be so hard on yourself. All of the viewers hearts went out over Taylor's traumatic behavior all season. To be on a show like that takes fortitude, to expose yourself; but, we all knew something was so wrong because Taylor never said anything positive about Russell; it was always negative "not comfortable with him here"...."can't stay, if he wants to leave"......"wish he wouldn't attend"....."wish I had what the other gals who are married have"......we knew there were problems and most importantly, if there was physical abuse, someone should have seen it. If it was verbal abuse, then she should have left even faster, as abuse escalates. Our hearts go out to Kennedy, as she seemed so sad in all the shows.

Thank you for not putting your children on TV, thank you a million times. We do not need children, under 18, on these reality shows. What must go on in the minds of young babies seeing TV cameras all the time, in their homes? We will find out, down the road.

You are amazing, as you ran that production company. So keep your fingers in the pot.

DD is a good friend, but the wine flows and all heck breaks loose, doesn't it? Glad you are starting to appreciate life without having to be "approved of" by your former hubby. We all know his track record and guess what? You got out of what may at some point end up being so much worse. I do know and Freedom is All Yours Now, so enjoy.

It is good to see the "real you" this season and to see how you conduct yourself. Bravo to you for staying on this season so we could enjoy "the real Camille".....and you had no choice in the Taylor situation, you tried to help. Every one of you women tried to help her. She had such powerful women, everyone of you who tried to help, she should have taken the help before the season began. But that is "what coulda, shoulda" and now I am sure you have provided the support she needs. I just wish she would take some time away from the TV and protect her poor little girl from the chaos. Sad.

Happy Holidays and I know these will be good ones because you have your children, your amazing mother and dear loved ones around you. So enjoy; don't concentrate on "how life use to be" and have lots of girl fun.

You were funny dancing with Brandi, but it was never girl on girl, as I think that Brandi was afraid to fall. Well, the men certainly love it, don't they?

Happy New Year

Jessica...
Jessica...

I think Dedra went way too far. This was not her battle. She may have been defending you but she wouldn't let it go and was forcing the situation. Taylor had almost everyone of the women talking (yelling) at her at once. Then Brandi just alienates her further by kicking her out. It should have been Dedra that was kicked out. Ridiculous. Taylor may be an "emotional wreck" but was/is already living in a personal hell due to the drama in her life. When people haven't had their voice, it's very difficult when they reclaim it because it can be hard to gauge what is best to say, feel, and think in certain circumstances. Have some compassion. I know Camille is going through a hard time too, but at least she's not having nervous breakdowns on camera. Seriously, some compassion would be nice to see.

cindy1963
cindy1963

Camille,

I love you this season. You seem so genuine but I understand you were going through alot last season, that's why you were different. I'm glad that you have friends that defend you but it seems like D.D is going a bit too far. She sseemed like she was ready for anything that night at the beach party. She even made a comment in the limo that she would be ready. There's a time to be a friend but I think a line has to be drawn when she gets involved in things the way she did at the party. Anyway, I hope all works out for you in your life. I wish you a very Happy Holiday and all the best for you and your children in 2012. I hope it's a better year for all of us. Take care and tell D.D. to calm down. I hope you return for another season on RHOBH.

New Yorker
New Yorker

Dedra doesn't seem like a good person and I think she just tells you what you want to hear.

Lug
Lug

Camille, I just saw the episode of the Malibu party and I commend you for maintaining your self respect, and your reason for saying that comment that bother Taylor. As a therapist Taylor was lashing out because you were the "safe" punching bag, she couldn't do it to her husband because of whatever reason she had for staying with him that long. You could tell that she just couldn't do it anymore and the fact that you blurred out her "secret" meant her facing reality. Thank you for showing that even in upper class you have these problems that need to be addressed and not overlooked or cover up.

Lug
Lug

Camille, I just saw the episode of the Malibu party and I commend you for maintaining your self respect, and your reason for saying that comment that bother Taylor. As a therapist Taylor was lashing out because you were the "safe" punching bag, she couldn't do it to her husband because of whatever reason she had for staying with him that long. You could tell that she just couldn't do it anymore and the fact that you blurred out her "secret" meant her facing reality. Thank you for showing that even in upper class you have these problems that need to be addressed and not overlooked or cover up.

killykilly
killykilly

I'm so happy to see you have taken Brandi under your wing. I think there is a lot she can learn from you, and I'm sure you will learn from her as well. D.D. means well, and is a fierce friend, but she needs to know when to back off a little. She loves her friend that much is for sure. Taylor never seems to shed tears when she cries and I find her sudden recoveries from hysteria puzzling. I can understand you having reached your limit and calling Taylor out. She needed to admit what was happening, if it was. I am enjoying you very much this season and can see why Kelsey fell in love with you. However, he is now a fool. Hang in there Camille. Stay poised, but not too poised. ;) Love you and your little posse, D.D. and Brandi.

keeping it real
keeping it real

Am I the crazy one, or did Camille set that up before the party? Why on earth was the making herself the victim to her "friends" telling them how Taylor wouldn't accept her calls? I'm sorry, but if I tell a friend someone that personal in confidence I would be outraged that someone put it out there for the whole world to see and gawk at. Camille is in the wrong, and well she knows it. If you don't believe me, watch the Cheshire cat like smirks she gives when her friends fall for act. Everytime her friends come around there is much drama. DeDe was out of line because a. it wasn't her fight, and b. she is not Taylor's friend to demand that she does anything. Or, is DeDe trying to be the new "Allison." I can't believe so many people can't see through Camille. She's as transparent as Scotch tape. Always getting her friends to fight her battles while she sits back acting magnanimous. And classy people don't act like her and Brandy did in public. Get a room!