Camille Grammer

Camille explains her frustrations leading up -- and during -- Lisa's tea and discusses what she regrets about that day.

on Nov 14, 20110

Since it was Taylor’s luncheon, it was her prerogative to invite whomever she wanted. Actually the Housewives have been together at almost every event this year. I invited all the girls to my mother's benefit for the John Wayne Cancer Institute. We usually all go as a group. I wasn't surprised that Taylor decided not to invite Lisa. Taylor had been talking about Lisa's attitude towards her. I didn't know what to expect going into the tea party, however I was pretty much pre-occupied. That week was very difficult for me because my ex-husband filed for full custody and my mind was filled with concern for my children.

For me personally it was a very emotional day so I almost didn't make the tea party. It was a tough decision for me to even drive all the way to Lisa's house. I didn't want to go if there was going to be any drama. I didn't want to be involved in any because I was going through so much of my own. But there you go, I found myself smack in the middle. It wasn't by choice.

So I already began my day feeling vulnerable. I empathized with Taylor as she explained her feelings about Lisa. Obviously she was in a lot of pain. She also discussed her situation with Russell with all the women. It was the elephant in the room. We were all trying to help our friend. Since I'm not a therapist, I'm not qualified to make any assessment of her personal life. The only thing I can offer is advice. Lisa and I and the girls had offered our help. It was a very difficult place to be in.

217 comments
psychicyo
psychicyo

CAMILLE... although last season there was a small part of me that admittedly enjoyed your mind games as they were harmless you have like I always knew you would come into your own. I think it was a shock for Kyle that you were strong enough to stand up to her and not take her crap so good on you for that. I'm sure you can see Kyle's behaviour toward Brandi at the game night was irrilly similar and I understand your comments on that. You may have noticed I did not mention Kim and her rants as I think she is just past the point of stupid. Taylor is a very troubled girl with more issues than you probably realise and I would be careful there with her. I understand she was in a terrible situation within her home but wow the girl really does need a reality check and take some responsibility for her behaviour. Does she ever watch the show and how she acts? I would have to wonder. I think your fantastic and I don't say that just to blow smoke up your rear but I do mean it. I hope everything works out with your custody battle but as an intuitive Camille...I can honestly say you will be fine there. I also know there is someone special coming into your life that may upset the apple cart. Enjoy every minute of it as karma works both ways. I look forward to seeing more of the show.

Lorraine Gregg
Lorraine Gregg

I think you are the only real person on that show Camille. You tell it like it is and I love you for that reason. Kelsey Grammar is an idiot to have let you go. Keep the faith Camille, God has better plans for you.

onlyme
onlyme

Are you kidding me? Taylor is lying! First of all, at the white party she said to her husband (Russell) that Camille exaggerated. Then while all the other ladies are in Hawaii she tells her therapist that Camille repeated only what she had told her. Never a mark on her to be seen until recently. Any one can walk into a door and self inflict a small bruise. Good for you Camille for saying it OUT LOUD for all to hear. I think Russell was only acting on what Taylor told him, which was only another lie in order to hide the lies she had been telling the ladies.

Smile and Nod
Smile and Nod

I do believe people can change for the better-but it's hard work! The the last season of RHOBH was a wake up call for Camille. I suppose any reality show would be. Big time kudos, Camille for calling Taylor out. I don't think you did it to be hurtful, it was really out of frustration of trying to be a loyal and protective friend and feeling hurt when she turned on you. People who are abused blame everyone else besides the guilty party. Including themselves! One thing that disturbed me last year was Taylor's speech at the benefit for abused women. "You too can live in Beverly Hills like me". Who wants to be rich and miserable? I'd rather be grounded in my lower income bracket with a husband who works hard, loves me and the children unconditionallly, and is an equal partner. That isn't saying that all people who have money are miserable, but in Taylor's case it was crystal clear for the past 2 seasons. I hope this show gives anyone who is being abused the strength and will to take whatever means necessary to save themselves.

Henny
Henny

I think Taylor is a big trouble maker whereever she goes there is drama! she made trouble for Camille & Kyle right from the start. She stires the pot then playes so inocent. Lisa did not trust her from the begining it was more then just Russell. Taylor was out to destroy Lisa because she knew that Lisa was not buying her storys. Taylor is the only one that put her child in danger,if there was abuse in the house she should have removed her self and her child!! DeDe went overboard and looked Crazed. Camille you are a strong Lady and need no one to fight your battles!

jordan123
jordan123

Good friends tell the truth and in this case you were truly being a good friend by confronting Taylor on a serious issue that she had spoken about with all of the women.

Taylor was putting herself and her daughter in danger and blaming you for simply confronting her on the matter is ridiculous.

This is a reality show so yes private matters will be broadcasted for all to see. Taylor knew what she signed up for. No one forced her to do a reality show.

All the respect to you Camille! Only wishing you the best for the upcoming year!

ricadimples
ricadimples

camille! you're one brave lady! you've changed for better. hang in there

Carolina girl
Carolina girl

Camille, Don't like how you blurted out what Taylor told you in confidence. It was like you were accusing her of lying about the abuse. It takes a lot of courage as a abuse victim to tell some one what is going. They go through a lot of trouble to hide things ; to appear normal to everyone . Taylor was not lying to you but she was just in a lot of denial. What you did was not cool. You could have put her life and her daughter's in more danger. As a survivor of domestistic abuse I was appalled the way you confronted her. In future if a friend says something in confidence ;don't betray her or question why it does not make any sense. Just be there for your friend.

ConstanceMarie
ConstanceMarie

I believe you when u say it was out of frustration. Taylor was talking about "honesty" but yet she wasn't being honest herself. Its a sad situation she was in BUT if u are going to try and "clear" the air then be careful because some stuff came out that she(Taylor) didn't like nor want to hear...But yet she wanted everybody to be honEst...

I love u this season Camille!

livininin
livininin

To fellow_abuse_victim on December 5th, I am so sorry to hear of your past troubles. How awful that you were submitted to abuse. I am SO glad to read your comment - it's one of the few sane ones I've read. I was shocked to hear the women concur with the statement that they'd never seen any bruises so it must not be true. I wonder if no one wanted to speak up because they were afraid of giving up Taylor's secrets, at least I hope that's what it was because it's too stunning to believe that they could be so ignorant.

I am also disappointed to hear so much blanket support for how Camille confronted Taylor about the abuse. It was just too harsh and judgmental and I thought it crossed boundaries. It did not seem born of caring or concern.

I don't know anyone who has been abused but I think one would have to have lived under a rock to not know that someone who is being abused would be scared and might look for empathy in strange ways. Taylor may be a mess but maybe it's not all her fault or something she's doing consciously. She's obviously troubled and to dump on her like so many people are seems rather sad to me. If people can give Camille a pass for her horrific behavior last year, chalking it up to stress, maybe Taylor deserves a bit of the same thing.

katinhatt
katinhatt

Total class act - Camille! The most real housewife and the most gracious of all the women.

Peebe
Peebe

You are a class act and will not be drawn into the "the victim room" where Taylor is frozen in time.

evalwoman
evalwoman

Too much wine and too much DD.

Ajjanae
Ajjanae

You did nothing wrong in this episode. I felt that Lisa and Taylor should of talked outside alone and settle their own issues with each other. Taylor dragged you ALL in with her personal issue with Lisa and then go out and talk to Paul about it. I'm sorry, but she asked for it. If she didn't want to, she should fight her own battles. And now, she shouldn't be playing the victim and blame you for it. She needs professional help and she owes YOU an apology.

kridle
kridle

Can't believe it, but I actually like Camille now.... I do have to giggle though, Camille, stop trying to use words and phrases you don't know, like "goat me" and a few others...be yourself girlfriend! p.s., goad me is what I think you meant.

dgirlinpink
dgirlinpink

Camille you did nothing wrong, you were trying to save her life. I hope she realizes that now.

ElaineaSue
ElaineaSue

I love watching you this season and wish you all the happiness and success in the world. You are a strong and classy person. I am sorry for Taylor, but - I still don't know what I think the truth of that situation was. I don't think you did anything wrong, and don't let anyone make you think you did. If this abuse was going on for six years and everyone knew about it, then keeping quiet about it wasn't helping anything at all.

Alexandra1095
Alexandra1095

Camille, I think Didi was responsible for the drama at Brandi's party. She went too far. She was on Taylor's face screaming at her. It was none of her business anyway! Apparently, since you decided that you're going to be sweet and innocent this season, you have your "entourage" doing your dirty work. Didi started everything. If she hadn't been there, nothing would have happened.

Honey let me tell u
Honey let me tell u

I have to say I agree with you because even if i feel bad for Taylor cause she got kicked out out brandi's house the day of the tea party i was like so frustrated with the fact that she went to talk to Paul about it,like who does that ! there is no way i would ever insult somebody in their home super rude.The situation with Lisa and taylor should have been work out on another day.If taylor was so mad at Lisa she should of never went to the tea party.She did not invite Lisa to her function.You know she had to be told the truth in her face sometimes people need that.Now we do know what happend in a way cause i don't really all the details but it is a sad ending.

SouthernLady1
SouthernLady1

Camille, you justifiably called Taylor out and have the support of millions of viewers. You extended an olive branch and Taylor...well for someone who says she "hates drama" Taylor takes it to new heights. None of you are counselors and it is obvious that Taylor needs serious mental health treatment. She milks her melt downs simply to stir the pot and try to get each of you to be her bestest friend...she doesn't know how to share but knows she wants to be everyone's favorite friend. It's time for all of you to step back and collectively with the support of BravoTV insist that she enter a treatment facility immediately. If indeed she is grieving Russell's suicide on top of years of physical and emotional abuse, her only hope of healing is through professional help. Exposing her meltdowns on national television for the sake of a paycheck is nauseating and nonproductive.

Vee Lu
Vee Lu

Every bit of what you described in your blog is why I have had a problem with Taylor from day 1. You could look at her and tell that there was something brewing underneath with her and Russell. I guess her trying to manipulate and stir the pot with you ladies was a product of her abuse but that's what Lisa was trying to get Kyle to see in season one and it happened again this season. Taylor may have gotten a fraction of her voice but she was still showing signs of passive/aggressive behavior and that night was the catalyst for the disaster that happened. She had been hiding her secrets so well that when you put her on blast, she couldn't handle it. You did nothing wrong because you all were protecting her at the time. If she didn't want you all to know what was going on in her household she shouldn't have told it. I don't want to come across mean or callous but everybody is taking a lot of blame here except the persons that needed to. This season, there is a lot of protecting of "bad behavior" under the umbrella of "loyalty and friendship" when quite a few ladies need to step up and take some of this humble pie (i.e. Kyle, Lisa, Kim, Taylor, Dana and DD) I pray that her therapy sessions can provide her an outlet to vent and deal honestly with her issues. In time, she will come around to forgiving you. It may not be this year or the next but it will happen.

cristina ruiz
cristina ruiz

Camille..I agree with most everyone else..Taylor taking all this out on you..cause you were the one who finally said what everyone else was thinking...You have been very gracious this season...

clv129
clv129

camille: no offense, but lose those hideous green earrings and necklace set!

EmilyATallahasseeFL
EmilyATallahasseeFL

I can see that you're growing and maturing (as we all should continue to do), and I commend you for that! You are a strong woman and a great example for others to follow. Nobody is perfect, but everyone should continue to strive to grow and get rid of all the drama in their lives... which you are doing! I love it!

KS Housewife
KS Housewife

Camille, you've been nothing but supportive of Taylor. She was not able to recognize that, and it is all on her. Some people are real , like you, and some just like all the attention. When they cannot get the attention they become emotional vampires. You've grown a number of supporters through your honesty, oppenness, and thruthfullness.

Vivtexas
Vivtexas

Camille, like you said emotions were high and you said what you felt! You've apologize a million times so the ball is in her court. But Taylor is the one being selfish and manipulative by turning the tables around and making you look like the villain. I'm so sick of her self pity behavior. You did nothing wrong, if anything Taylor is the one that needed to something to save herself, how dare her say you are putting her and her family in danger? I just cant believe she'd say that? you only repeated what everyone already knew!!!! I understand you regret saying it, I would have too, but everyone is human and says things they regret - saying and doing are 2 different things, your actions have proven you care about her and you are truly and genuinely sorry.

Only thing I disagree with is your friend butting in at Brandi's party, I get she loves you and all, but this is between you and Taylor. Her behavior and drunk face right on Taylor only escalated drama. Otherwise, kudos to you for staying quiet and ouf of it!!!!

Jamal-Gilbert
Jamal-Gilbert

Camille,

I honestly have to say...not a fan last year. This year, loving u! I love that your not backing down and being this weak person. I like the strong you.

viewer from mo
viewer from mo

Camille, I am so pleased to see the overwhelming support you are getting regarding the sad situation with Taylor/Russell.

ginny42
ginny42

I am sorry I just don't see why everyone can't see the problem,,TAYLOR, Camille you hit the nail on the head. Taylor isn't truthfull, I think she is all about drama and if anyone has noticed there is NEVER a tear when she is suppose to be crying, She is as fake as her lips. Camille I just love you this year stay true,Everyone would be better off to stay clear of Taylor.

whydoievenwatch
whydoievenwatch

Dear Camille, last year was a nightmare on several levels, I don't have to tell you that. And this season you have really redeemed yourself as a composed classy woman who is beautiful inside and out. You have an overwhelming majority of fans on your side, which is evident on all the RHOBH fan sites. Viewers back you up. My advise to you is to leave this trainwreck and not come back for another season. You're too good for this crowd. Let them claw away for camera time and attention while you live your wonderful life. My best to you and your good friend DD.

Rose Carman
Rose Carman

Camille, I have to say last season there were times when I didn't like you, but after your break with Kelsey, I loath him, and have gained some new respect for you. I support you in the recent incident with Taylor. I am so sick of watching Taylor play the victim, and if she truly is, then she needs to take a break from filming and take care of her personal life. I think many of us loyal viewers are sick of seeing her cry and carry on every episode, and putting the blame on everyone else. I understand also, Deidra's actions, in support of you, she was there through all of your problems last year and was just be supportive of you based on that. You are a class act, carry on.

Lesley P
Lesley P

Honestly camille u didn't do anything wrong u were be a true friend like you always have Taylor is such a drama queen sorry to say but I cant stand her everyone is trying to help her just like camille is and she took it the wrong way!! I don't understand if she can't handle the truth then keep ur mouth shut Taylor. Camille was being a true friend so good for u camille!! U did the right thing I hope all goes well for you and ur family and may the lord bless you in your life camille.I hope Taylor can forgive you because u have been such a great friend too her..

CindyfromDallas
CindyfromDallas

Camille, you did the right thing! I think Taylor told you about the abuse, because she wanted you to be the one to tell everyone. In fact, it seems like everyone knew anyway. If she was worried for her life, she could have taken her daughter to any of your houses to stay. It seems she has a real problem with telling the truth! That woman loves drama!

Sidda
Sidda

Camille,

I couldn't stand watching you last year but this year, you present yourself with grace and elegance. You have done nothing wrong with Taylor. Taylor likes to play the "victim". Someone like that you just have to leave alone and let them figure it out.

Truth of the matter is that Taylor opened the door for the truth to come out when she called Lisa out and tried to bring everyone into the argument. Taylor can dish it out but can't take it. You would have known nothing to tell if Taylor hadn't told it.

My question is why is Kyle so quick to cut Brandi and put her down but Taylor she excuses. Taylor's behavior went beyond poor taste. She totally lost it and I would have ask her to leave also.

Mgirl
Mgirl

Camille, You have a grace and dignity that I envy. You are soft spoken even when you are upset. I wish I could be like that. You are lucky to have all that you have even though your husband left you. You have two kids and a beautiful house(s). You are so classy. Taylor is a women who has lost the run of herself. Stick to those who are supportive and don't give the drama a second thought. Keep in mind what is really important. Best of luck to you.

rhobh_addict
rhobh_addict

I know some of the folks here are condemning Camille by exposing it on national TV, but I honestly couldn't understand Taylor's motivation in confiding to so many women "in secret" (Kyle, Faye, Lisa, Adrienne, you) of her situation. I can imagine her confiding in one or two of her besties as a cry for help and support off camera but not all the women who were cast of the RHOBH. To me, Taylor first targetted Lisa this season, and the misteriously moved the target to Camille...

realitybite
realitybite

Beware of those that come off like innoncent bystander's, cool & collected.. sparking all sorts of fires & using their pitbull, deranged friends to do your fighting... then acting so concerned on a subject matter, that was shared in private but then putting it out there on public display! to me, that isn't a sign of concern or friendship but rather someone that enjoys watching the fireworks go off around her, while lighting the match! i hope u can live w/ yourself & your role in how everything played out, leaving an innocent child, fatherless.. certain matters should be dealt in private & taken seriously!

KFB
KFB

I commend you for taking the high road. You obviously care very deeply and were concerned...you never brought these things to light on your own or with any bad intentions. Taylor seems to add so much drama because of the issues she's facing. If she wanted to keep them behind closed doors, she sure didn't try hard enough. What a sad sad situation....especially for her daughter when all of this unfolds to her in the future. Unfortunately, this all is out there forever. I wish you and your family the best and you have to continue to focus on that. I think you were trying to handle your own things as well as trying to be a friend...for that I have much respect. Take care.

ginny77
ginny77

Miss C, I really like you who you have become this year. so go you. Good luck with Taylor & brandi, those 2 are nuts. I would stay far away from both of those 2. They are nutssss. Good luck with your x, i know how that can be. I feel for you. do not give up. I think you'll be ok, just get a really good lawyer.

Live&Laugh&Love
Live&Laugh&Love

Camille, I commend you for being such an excellent friend to Taylor. You shouldn't have to apologize for being a good friend. I hope it doesn't offend you to say that I believe that this divorce was the best thing that happened to you (besides your lovely children of course). You have grown so much it seems. I wish we had seen this woman last season. I don't know if it was having Kelsey as your crutch last season or what, but your ego wasn't in a good place. Now, myself and the other viewers are able to see what a remarkable woman, mother, friend, and daughter you really are. You are an exquisite woman and I wish you nothing but the best! I also hope you are a bit weary of Brandi..she doesn't seem like a classy lady. Yes, you both experienced similar situations with men, but I can sort of see why Eddie may have chose a different path. Look at how classy and respectful you have handled yourself during your divorce. The same cannot be said for Brandi. And why did you say that up until this point Lisa had been phoning you a couple times a week? I hope you two haven't fallen out as well!

PeterPro
PeterPro

Taylor craves and needs attention to breathe. She contructs INDIVISIBLE drama. At least Kyle gives you the splits for god's sake. Now she wants to sell a book. Who wants to read about someone that makes everyhting up? I'm sure her Dad was bad to her Mom,and her husband followed suit, I'm not saying she's lying-But, who wants to pay money to read a fictional book, where I'm positive everything is fabricated and comes from someone whose actions SCREAM, look at me pleaseeeee! Look at my drama, poor meeeeeee. Her writing that book said it ALL to me about Taylor. Camille, you were the only one brave enough to do and say the right thing. In my opinion, you quite possibly saved her life, not put it a risk.

So not a Mellisa fan
So not a Mellisa fan

It looks as if your friend is acting out on your behalf which only makes you look bad. She needs to stay out of this business.

Kristi dave
Kristi dave

I think you're great Camille! You are my fav!

conrex
conrex

Has anyone noticed that every party that Taylor has gone to, she has started arguments and drama? Shouldn't all these conversations be between the two people that are involved and not at a party? Taylor has runined at least the last three parties. (I know all this happened prior to Russell's suicide)....

viewer1011
viewer1011

AS I said before in a previous post that once again never made it, I think the true you has come thru this season and i see a kind and caring person. You only said what everyone else was thinking, Taylor is a mess and a trouble maker since the beginning, she really is one big contradiction. BUT PLEASE keep your friend DeeDee out of the mix. Although loyalty is a great quality her obsession/devotion to you borders on creepy I really hope all this turmoil and drama can resolve itself.

Golflady
Golflady

Camille, I don't know who needs more attention, Kyle with her dancing and doing the splits or Taylor with her drama. They both make me sick! You are smart and learned from your mistakes last season. I really like you and Lisa, the rest of them deserve each other...Keep doing what you are doing, its working...

Ohsotrue
Ohsotrue

I think if you all call yourselves friends then speaking the truth about Taylor shouldn't have caused a problem. I think your personal situation has made you more likeable because you now realize one can never say never and this past year has opened your mind and now you are more humble. After your divorce you can only get better and you truly have proven that (that's my statement so you can't have it, lol).