Dana Wilkey

Dana explains why you've got to be tough to take game night and gives you the scoop on her new nickname.

on Oct 10, 20110

Boy I really come off as a s--t starter at the end of that episode!

Truth is Brandi and I were not friends yet, and she was not my favorite person going into that evening -- so if you sense me turning on her quickly. . .I did. Our relationship has had a serious arc over the year, and I don't want to ruin it. You'll just have to watch.

Kim and Kyle are great girls; they are very protective and loving toward each other. It's obvious when you are in a room with them and really nice to see. I have always enjoyed Kyle's quick tongue and great sense of humor, and there are a lot of layers to Kim. She has had such an interesting life, and I love to hear her stories when she shares them. When I came to the door and saw Kim, I could immediately see that she was in what I call "baby bird" mode, and I just wasn't going to attack her even though she came off a bit disrespectful with the "Pam" thing. I decided to turn it into a joke between us, and we really had fun with it. If the best she could come up with was I need a better housekeeper, it's all good.

The gush about Hawaii to Camille was a bit much. In the beginning of the night, I wanted to make everyone feel at home, and I guess I over did it. Taylor picked up on it. Watching Taylor and I together on the show was so nice. I love that girl!

141 comments
Jackie H.
Jackie H.

Am I the only one who notices at the beginning of this episode when Taylor and Dana are baking cookies, Taylor's left eye is swollen and bruised?? And she is obviously avoiding the camera on that side of her face and covering it with her hair.

lovenj
lovenj

I started reading your blog then thought why bother? As soon as you got to Kyle and Kim, I lost interest.

Marc G
Marc G

I was really sad after watching game night. You were the hostess, and yet you knew kim and kyle were talking bad about brandi...I mean if brandi can hear what their saying, you surely could too. Yet, you simply took their side and kept (oddly) talking about wanting to go away with them.

Thus far, the people you seem to like the most on the show have made fun of you and how you always talk about prices and how over-the-top you seem to be...one in particular is kyle, so in future you might want to be closer to people like brandi, who I haven't seen say a bad thing about you while watching the show.

Picsy
Picsy

Guess what? Brandi, not knowing it was right on the money when it comes to what your boyfriend does on the road!!!

Sheila Fl
Sheila Fl

You did not display your self as a good hostess. In fact you should have been the one to say something to Kyle and Kim about their behavior... no you where to busy sucking up to Kim and Kyle... I am sorry but your lack of class was just not believable. P.S. you should watch last years episodes Kyle will never be a true friend. She seems to be a one person at a time friend.

PamRae
PamRae

Dana I dont care for your excuses! You were fake and rude! What kind hostess ignores there guests who clearly asks for help? How did Brandi get down the step Dana? I saw you totally ignore her. Shame on you! I guess the song money cant buy you class is about you!

Ali B.
Ali B.

First of all, let me just say that first impressions usually stick in somebody's mind forever. You made a bad one. The way you treated Brandi in your own home, at your own party, as hostess; was revolting. You came off as the slightly overweight, insecure, name dropping, unpopular girl in high school. Beverly Hills or not. You tried so hard to suck up to Kyle and Kim and left another person,injured no less.... just to fit in. Pathetic. Let me tell you something, in high school I was the captain of my cheerleading squad and a model, but I made a concious choice to be kind to all and treat everyone with respect. It's sad that as a 23 year old young woman I am feeling compelled to write to you. It's something my mother raised with me and it's clearly lacking in you. Before you continue to make an ass out of yourself on national television, just know this. Treating Brandi that way will not make the Richards' sisters like or respect you. Or anyone for that matter. Stop following and start leading.

Arealmom
Arealmom

Not a fan of you so far. You try too hard to fit in and it comes across bad. Shame on you for acting the way you did when you were the host. Don't think for one second Kyle won't turn on you. Your time is coming. Watch out!

TheresaRichardson
TheresaRichardson

Why do you feel the need to label all of the clothes that you are wearing. People who talk don't have anything.

I feel you were mean to Brandi and you are looking so desparate to find friends.

Get a life

FanFare57
FanFare57

Dana, As a successful event planner, you may be very good at spending other people's money. And from your materialistic comments, you enjoy spending your own money frivolously. However, as a hostess, you have a lot to learn. 1. Serve actual FOOD with alcohol. 2. Treat all of your guests with warmth (or else don't invite them). 3. Don't behave like a spoiled, selfish tween by serving yourself first. 4. Be fair minded and don't take sides in an argument. 5. Take control of the situation if tempers flare. Sitting there like a lump while tears streamed down Brandi's face during her brawl with the evil sisters made you look absolutely stupid. After the fray, you then turned to Brandi to blamer HER! You, madam, are an idiot. Keep hidden behind your $25,000 sunglasses because you live in a very fake world. (btw: Even Kyle laughed at you with you were kissing her derriere.)

Lisasuel
Lisasuel

They were talking crap about her, HID HER CRUTCHES, and WERE in and out of the bathroom. Good for Brandi for sticking up for herself after all of that. And SHAME on you for feeding the hyenas.

Jamie from CT
Jamie from CT

Let me get this right...if a guest in your home feels uncomfortable they should get up and go to the bar? Okay makes perfect sense...NOT

BarbaraTD
BarbaraTD

You were the hostess and acted as rudely as your 2 nasty guests - Kyle and Kim. You seem to be so intent on "kissing up" to the "right" people, and you come off as a phoney.

I have no respect for you and honestly, you don't even seem to have a mind of your own. How you acted was almost as bad as those 2 classless sisters.. You add nothing to the show.

And by the way, anyone with money does not brag about it.. I'd trade in those 25 thousand dollar sunglasses for some lessons in manners!

jshellicolorado
jshellicolorado

I really hope they don't keep you on the show. You want so badly to fit in. I see you as the kind of person to act like a friend with who ever is around and back stabbing the other ladies and visa versa just to feel accepted. There's someting not quite right with you.

iamsmitty
iamsmitty

As the hostess of the party you should really have intervened. And even though you may not have prevented an argument from taking place, your intervention would have most likely prevented the argument from escalating. The fault is not all your own, though, as you did not know these ladies very well... their friends should have intervened as well, as soon as they saw that you were not taking any action. But these types of situations rarely escalate like that in real-life so it makes me wonder how much of a factor the cameras were in this instance.

gigi 123
gigi 123

I read your bio and it is impressive. You obviously have had serious loss and "true grit".

But your "game night" I could have ordered out at my favorite restaurant with 30 minutes notice and done better that you did. And you are an event planner?????

You seem so eager to be friends with this group of women. And to impress them with your material wealth, your gifted son (come on he really speaks a foreign language??), etc.

I truly don't know what to make of you. If you have women at your house that are ready to kill each other, I think I would suggest a time out. Taylor had to intervene. Odd??

Viewer5001
Viewer5001

Dana I think your a crack up! I wouldnt sweat game night. Every time the ladies collectively get together at one anothers house something runs afoul. IT just so happened to be at your house this time. Hosting a group of females that may or may not get along isnt easy, but being one of the new girls Im sure made it more difficult especially not really knowing all the players. Well hand in there lady. You seem like a lot of fun, hope to see more of you (by the way your clothes are cute, but I really dont need the details of who made them, how much you paid and where you bought them, just thought I'd put that out there)

Viewer2222
Viewer2222

By sucking up to Kyle and Kim you've become one of the "mean girls". Have a mind of your own.

K7
K7

I could get past the excessive call out of price and designer of all items you wear, but you lost me and my respect when you jumped on a mean girl bandwagon to "fit" in. It's rather sad to watch.

It will be your turn next!
It will be your turn next!

"Do the right thing" - keep that in the back of your mind. Kim Richards couldn't bother to get your name right and drew attention to the fact that your bathroom didn't sparkle. Brandi was polite to you. You picked the wrong team to suck up to. Your insecurity is the most obvious thing about you. Brandi was brought into this fold by Adrienne, and that says a lot.

Gayleen
Gayleen

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahah!!!!!!!!!! Your few friends wrote the good blogs, I get it.

GG
GG

Why the heck does PAM even have a blog!? TEAM BRANDI!!!!!!!!!!

bike20
bike20

Dana,

I happen to be a 43yr.old professional woman and I live very well. Difference is I don't feel like I have constantly tell people how much something cost.

The fact that you do is sad. You cling on to everyone, even Camille looked uncomfortable at your party when you kept saying anytime you want to invite me to Hawaii, feel free. Really Enough with the Kissing Up!

As for Brandi , I think you are all acting like " THE MEAN GIRL'S " , and you are all way too old to be doing that. You said sorry if you came of mean, I would say ; RUDE!! If you are the Hostess of a Party and you invited these people then you should make everyone feel comfortable , not just the one's you are kissing up to. By the the way I earn my Money , but I was taught never to throw it in anyone's face. I like people for who they are , not what they own.

Think it is time for you to GROW UP!!

Markus
Markus

Dana, you make me laugh. I think it definitely has to be awkward 1) being in this new social circle, you always want to make a good impression and impress your new friends 2) doing that on TV, can't be easy. I think you're funny and I hope to see more of you. Love you xoxo

MarionI
MarionI

What goes around comes around! Done watching...

blog visitor
blog visitor

to the commentor ""something2say""

I LIKE WHAT YOU WROTE SO TRUE LOL

Goodtogo
Goodtogo

Don't you think you're grown up enough to get to know someone before you jump on the bashing bandwagon? I'd hate to meet you or either of the two sisters...

AnnaG
AnnaG

You seem like a really sweet girl. However you were trying way to hard to fit in. You totally added fuel to the fire between Kyle and Brandi. "Kyle make it stop"...really? As the hostess you should have made Brandi feel a little more confortable. As well as put an end to the craziness! I get that you weren't friends with Brandi but thats no excuse to hop on the mean girls band wagon.

whatev1212121
whatev1212121

That was NOT nice how you treated Brandi. Sorry but you looked like such a follower saying "make it stopppp" and "dont call me pam" she was obviously kidding. Rude and NOT CUTE.

604jackie
604jackie

hmmm i am unsure of you still. you seem like a lot of fun. the price and name dropping is a bit much, but i find i do that sometimes too. even more often what happens is other people comment on what i have and how much it costs!

i think you mean well, but you did come off as sucking up to the sisters for whatever reason. trying way too hard. just be yourself and not so insecure. i get why you were angry about brandi calling you pam, but it was very weird you let kim get away with everything. perhaps you felt sorry for her as she did seem off the rocker. the next episodes will show your true colours, but as the host it was you who should have stepped in. if you didn't feel close enough to brandi to invite her to your home, then you should not have invited her.

BarbinGa
BarbinGa

I can totally see why you and Taylor are great friends. Worker Bees, not Queen "Bs"

santa barbara viewer
santa barbara viewer

I think a hostesss has the responsibility of stepping in when someone is insulting another guest at their home. I would have stopped the air kissing with Kim "I love your soul"???? Obviously, you love people who insult you. Self vs. self; they win. And although Brandy joked at your expense at the BBQ but I thought she was trying to be funny and cut the tension since there was so much thick air. Kyle was mean girl @ BBQ & at Dana's. I don't BELIEVE for one minute it was editing. This is her true color. "Color her Mean Girl"!

Jewishmom
Jewishmom

Dana, you should have spend some of the $25K not on sunglasses but some furniture and pizza for your guests. Who serves only desserts and to those girls??? Come on. Also, you're a host. you need to make sure everyone's having a good time and the Richards girls... gush, what can i say. Mean, nasty, i can go on.

smiles16
smiles16

I am just wondering why anyone would be so insecure to kiss up that hard to KYLE and Kim. Two beautiful Ladies but that's it. You have bragged how rich you are and I have read how intelligent you are, so I am confused why you are cruel?

Tasha212
Tasha212

Dana, you really need to stop with the label name dropping, or mentioning how much things cost. I'm also from California, though not from Beverly Hills, and in my case, I only mention price, when I find a bargain ,For example: your red leather chairs look identical to my own I picked up at Target priced at $60 each. Hope you didn't pay 6 thousand for yours:-)

Viewer
Viewer

Dana -

You were so rude... You looked like a high school girl trying to impress the mean girl clique. So sad... And the faux shock at Brandi's jokes at Adreienne's was so transparent... Please... You all have no sense of humor...

Cherie Doughtie
Cherie Doughtie

That episode was pathetic. My opinion has completely changed about Kyle. She's acting like a bully and you are a bystander to the bullying. These women are not ever going to accept you because of your designer clothing, your sunglasses or your big house. It does not matter what you do, they are going to trash you behind your back about it until you do something that makes them fear that you are taking some of their attention away (as evidenced by their seething jealousy when the tall, stunning and younger Brandi first entered the room at Kyle's charity event). Unfortunately, her mega-power diminished when she opened her potty mouth. If you used the money from the desserts you had to throw away that night, the decor that did not impress them, the $25,000 sunglasses and the Valentino clothing you probably dropped too much money on that day just to impress them.. you could do something BIG.. put a child (or two) through college or pay for someones cancer treatment. A straight donation.. without a gala or a party to gain selfish attention. As a result, you will be a better human being inside and out. This, my darling, would give you the respect that you so long for and the confidence that you think you will find by earning bragging rights for your fake friendship with the extended Hilton family. The only possible candidate for friendship that I can see you have at this stage is Adrienne.

Tulipgirl
Tulipgirl

Dana, I like your spunk but, girl, you dropped the ball as hostess. It's up to the host to keep things civil and upbeat. You showed a lack of social finesse in how you allowed the tension to escalate into bullying. You might not have been able to change people's feelings that night, but a decent host could have hosed down the situation so that it didn't get as out of hand as it did. And to openly gang up on Brandi trying to brown nose Team Richards made you look mean and desperate. The irony is I think you could have gotten the women to like you more if you hadn't tried so hard. Also, I hope you see that constantly bragging about how much things cost or what designers you are wearing only make you look desperate to be seen as equal. Notice none of other women go out of their way to let others know how much their things costs, what designers they are wearing, etc. Relax and let your genuinely fun side shine thru and you'll be fine. I like ya, even though this post may not reflect that.

Vivienne214
Vivienne214

Dana, as the hostess of a party it's your job to make sure that all of your guests are comfortable. You failed miserably by allowing Kyle and Kim to gang up on Brandi and even added your own mean girl comment toward Brandi (I don't like her, make it stop Kyle). Your label name dropping is tacky and you haven't gained a fan here, that's for sure.

downtownsbrown
downtownsbrown

You were the host of the party!! You don't treat guests like you treated Brandi. I was embarrassed watching you. But you probably feel no shame - you don't seem like that type of girl...

tiger1962
tiger1962

What's with the constant statements about how much you pay for stuff? Its not flattering. Just saying!!

heatherkm
heatherkm

I agree with most everyone, you should have stepped in. I think Brandi has a tendancy to leave a bad taste in ppl mouths, and I don't blame you for not liking her. I don't like her much (so far) either. I do think I like you though. You seem to have a good sense of humor. The label dropping & telling the cost of everything is REALLY irritating. I realize you are probably thinking, "they're only saying that b/c their jealous". (That's apparently a standard response in Beverly Hills when another woman has issue with you.) But it's not the case. It irritates me when ppl do that with things I can afford, always has. It's just tacky.

Colormewithkisses
Colormewithkisses

What were you thinking inviting someone and ganging up against them? That was your job as a hostess to try and keep the peace at your house. I also don't like that every chance you get you have to show off what designer you are wearing. Hello, just like Camille said, if you really have money you don't talk about it.

Wagga Man
Wagga Man

Dana, you're heaps of fun and I love your sense of humour, but in my country (Australia), we're what you'd call a 'try-hard'. Please stop being a try-hard. PS: I still think you're great mate! Luv Wagga Man xox

Mean girls
Mean girls

Frankly, if you think someone is being left out by a bunch of catty girls, wouldn't you want to be nice to them? Dana was the hostess and should have tried to make Brandi feel more comfortable. Instead, Kyle and Kim were being bullies and Dana was one of the henchmen. Brandy was backed into a corner and lashed out.

Paul G
Paul G

Hi Dana, It's interesting to hear your thoughts and what you were going through during the entire ordeal. But as the host, you should have stepped in before things really blew up.

Felixi
Felixi

How is it that you attempt to validate animosity towards Brandi while letting Kim completely off the hook? She showed up late to your party, brought her own milkshake, called you by the wrong name at the front door, completely broke apart the group dynamic as she snuck away and took Kyle with her, AND she complained that your house was dirty. What more would she have to do to offend you? Drop-kick your mother?

Given your *constant* need for approval by way of brand names and status (Fendi, Valentino, and the 25k glasses) I would say you see one thing when you look at Kyle or Kim- the chance to spread the word that you're licking the boots of Paris Hilton's aunts.

Arie W
Arie W

It's kind of sad that you are sucking up to Kyle and Kim, especially when Kyle is making side commentary on how you are clearly a label whore. Everytime you label drop it's like a desperate cry for acceptance from the group. I think overall you seem like a nice woman, you seemed very outgoing and personable, but the moment you turned on Brandi at game night, I had second thoughts about your character. We can see that you want approval from these girls and want to be part of their clique, but you're coming across as a doormat.

Oudi_99
Oudi_99

I love you Dana. You're a nice girl and you're right about Kim & Kyle :)