Dana Wilkey

Dana shares how proud she is of her stepson's songwriting skills and gives her thoughts on Kennedy's birthday party.

on Nov 21, 20110

Conor Flynn is my son. He is the young cutie performing with Ace Young for Kennedy at her birthday. His title card said "musician" -- probably because "Dana's future stepson" would have looked awkward. I wanted to start my blog this week with that because I was so proud of him, and I want the world to know it.

My b-day present to Kennedy was a really intimate gift from our whole family, and I hope she enjoyed it. Ace Young and Conor worked very hard on the song for Kennedy and the staging and total performance turned out super. The song still makes me cry. You can download the "Birthday Song" on iTunes if you want to pick it up or listen to a sample of the produced version.

Not sure you can see him in the episode, but JC looked so cute in his red cowboy boots, hat, and shirt. We shopped like crazy together for our cowboy outfits before the big day. The best part of the day was when JC danced with me. We were laughing and spinning while Conor and Ace performed. It was a great moment.

My young son was obsessed with the word "America" at that age for some reason, and he kept saying it to everyone at the party. He even grabbed a flag in his cowboy outfit and was waving it around. It was hysterical! My daughter (future stepdaughter) Chloe was with me that day too. If you saw me standing next to a beautiful girl that's her. Love you Chloe!

70 comments
Mary from Pa
Mary from Pa

I feel really bad for you. you can't possibly think you can ever compete with Adrienne or Lisa or Camille? Be gracious and get while the gettings good. Sorry, but you just don't have what thy do.

Dan JOHNSTON
Dan JOHNSTON

Well I like you! I think a sense of humor has its place! I am sure that you have learned that Beverly Hills talk doesn't really play in the Heartland! Funny though!

MsDebee
MsDebee

It's so unbelievable that you would even mention Brandi as not trying to "connect in a meaningful way". When she approached you and Kim, you had the perfect opportunity to "connect". But instead chose to stare at her and reply "awkward"? You need to learn some social skills or you will never "connect" with anybody. BTW...this party was for Kennedy, not your stepson's music. Russell had every right to dictate how he wanted things done. Your weird.

loveyourshow45
loveyourshow45

You did a beautiful job with the birthday party!

Hope to see You & Brandi next season!

Swagner
Swagner

I hope your not on the show next year! I know it's hard being the new girl but watching you with Lisa, Kyle and Kim is a Kiss ButFest! You try way too hard and it's painful to watch. Your a social climber with the women you think will get you higher social standing but rude and mean to Brandi when you just met her at your game night. I don't like you and stop with the designer name dropping! No one is impressed! You don't really fit in with the other wives so go back to your party planning so I don't have to fast forward the remote whenever your on!

Brem
Brem

You really irritate me. You seem like you have a pretty good heart deep down. But I wish that you would stop name dropping and kissing peoples' butts. You're WAY too good for that. I also hate how you jab at people in passive-aggressive manners. It's pretty simple, Dana. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. Be clear and do it privately if need be.

Congrats on your marriage by the way. I wish you the best. Even if you do rub me the wrong way at times.

MissMisty
MissMisty

Dana, I just have one question for you ... don't you get scared wearing those sunglass now that you've told the world how much they cost??

for the fancy stuff
for the fancy stuff

I think I figure out your story Dana. They brought you to the show coz they thought you would add some lavish lifestyle knowing how much you spend on your things, so you agreed to be on the show and when you were there you, the housewives and the people behind the show realised that you do not fit. You yourself is still wondering what were you doing there..! Having you in the show was only for fancy stuff you buy and it is exactly what you pressed on in the show after realising the cause of bringing you coz you have nothing else interesting to contribute with.

TexasBlonde
TexasBlonde

Dana, you are such a fun bubbly person. I think you would be a great friend to have. Taylor really needs a good friend right now and I hope you can be there for her. Taylor has burned a lot of bridges and I hope she takes heed to the words of her therapist that she has been the cause of her friends comments because of what she has told them. Taylor has no reason to be upset with Camille. None. Taylor needs to realize this and apologize to Camille.

I feel like an oddball because I cannot stand Brandi. She functions at a very immature level and has a junior high level vocabulary. Brandi could evaporate from future episodes of RHWOBH and would not be missed.

annynan
annynan

Dana, I must say that you are getting more and more gorgeous with each new episode!! What are you doing? Is it your hair? Are you losing weight? Whatever it is, it works and you have been looking beautiful!!

jacquelines
jacquelines

I agree with your blog russel was trying his hardest to be the king or something lol. That honestly doesn't go with him but oh well whatevers right! Kennedy's birthday party turned out to be really cute I really liked it alot. I am thinking of actually doing that for my daughter myself but I am going to need alot of help cause i am not very good at planning or oraganizing nor sorting things out lol. I have to give props out to brandi cause she said hi to kim but she is not ready to move a step forward. And I am like kim at times i mean i don't take alot of medication or medecine like she does but i do get like her at times and it's very uncomfortable for me. My sisters tell me and they notice it to . take care

Lauralovesbng
Lauralovesbng

Dana, I'll be your friend.......Since no one else has reached out to you, I am. Just don't make me feel like you've made Brandi feel. I'd hate to make you feel "awkward", now that would be horrible for you.......

RealityFann17
RealityFann17

So youre the party planner, as in you got paid to plan that party for Taylor and Russel? Maybe Im confused. Either way, prioritize their preferences. Its ok for Russel to want a very wonderful gift to his daughter to take center stage. Kennedy liked the horse better than the "concert" anyhow. She's a CHILD, not a teen... even then I think a horse beats out an unknown singer... Next time tell your son to TAKE THE DRINK OUT OF HIS HAND at an underaged birthday party... come on.

Aimee1176
Aimee1176

Sorry , but I do think it was out of line for you to speak to Russell the way you did, accusing him of trying to be father of the year. She was still his child, and party planner or not, I think you spoke to him in a very disrespectful manner, considering he was probably still writing a check out to you at the end of the day.

Princess Diva
Princess Diva

Dana, I like you alot and you are ok the other girls are just making you work hard for their friendship. It's great you are supportive of Taylor and I'm sure you know more than you are telling. Your son was great and I wihs him the best. You are a good friend and I hope these girls will be more open to you...

RoJo749
RoJo749

Russell wanted to give a very BIG present to his daughter, and he should have been able to do that whenever and however he pleased. There was very, very little footage to support your claim that everything was supposed to be about Kennedy...lots of Taylor posing without her daughter. Ace -- awkward (use your personal tone of voice with that word). Kids party and he's got a drink in his hand while singing to her?! The words were quite lame and not a beat one could dance to. Awkward. You really don't fit in...it's okay, though, neither does Taylor.

anna.
anna.

I think you probably are a strong woman who made it on your own. Why is it so important to be part if this group?

boncast
boncast

Ignore the haters. You're alright. :)

breezeby
breezeby

It's interesting that you don't understand why the women don't want to get to know you. You really don't have to look any further than game night. First of all,everyone looks so uncomfortable as you waited for the rest to arrive. And hungry! How do you expect those women to eat those desserts. Take a clue from Adrienne's Spa Day, everything plentiful and healthy! Where was the fruit...yogurt sundaes, little cookies? Next you saw how Brandi was being crucified and yet you were kissing up to her tormentor, instead of trying to diffuse the situation. Then you're talking about going on trips and "journeys" with these women and they don't even know you. You need to back off eventually they will get you.

jaintn
jaintn

I've watched every episode of RHBH so far and my impression of you is that you enjoy seeing other people confronted or in awkward situations. The look of positive glee you got when Brandi walked away after trying to be nice to that basket case Kim says it all. I don't want to see you on the show next season and if you are still on, I'll simply fast forward you. Love that DVR! Oh, and are your future step-children's mother in the picture? Bet she just loves hearing her children referred to as "my children" by you.

Colinda
Colinda

Please don't fall into the "friend of the moment" game Kyle plays (for whatever reason). You seem like a genuinely nice person. I like the way you handled Russell at that ridiculous party -- and you're right, getting a full-sized horse which is obviously a bit skittish for a neurotic five-year-old is idiotic to the max -- be honest with everyone and stop giving the impression that you think any of these women are "better" than you. They're not. Different, maybe, but in no way superior. Best of luck to you in your marriage, and don't let yourself turn into plastic. Don't trust Taylor, either. She'll knife you in the back and try to make herself look the victim, same as always.

Maggimty
Maggimty

I don´t think Kennedy enojoyed the party, I believe Taylor try too hard to please everybody even if she spends so much money for a party that her daughter didn´t want. And Pam, I mean Dana, don´t you think you are not acting like a real friend? You seemed much like a troublemaker to me. Even though I don´t like Russell, he has the right to plan her daughter´s party as he wanted, you only wanted your son to have his air time. I am not sure you are coming back to the show next season.

Trina Ann Stith
Trina Ann Stith

Good Morning Dana, I also wanted to wish you and your family a wonderfful Thanksgiving as well, love Trina

yakka
yakka

Dana,

You write: "I remember asking myself, "Where do I fit in with these women?" and not really having an answer." Well, I don't have an answer either. Where do you fit in exactly? What exactly do you bring to this show? If you don't know where you fit in and and viewers like me don't know either, then maybe you...don't?!

TSquad
TSquad

You're trying too hard. "Make it stop" as you would say.

NJ Housewife
NJ Housewife

Dana I feel like you could extend an olive branch out to Brandi to make her feel better but you chose to be more interested in being liked. You slam a man who is now deceased in your blog for his kids and family to read, not cool. Leave him out of this. The whole party was kinda weird and sweet at the same time and it was for his child, so he can call the shots. In the end we saw it was all about your step son and a lead singer getting happy at a kids birthday party. Life in CA is too weird. I am not sure yet if we have seen the real Dana or some act. I just hope you are real and honest with Taylor especially at this time.

TheBitchNextDoor
TheBitchNextDoor

Well you're delusional if you believe that song was anything other than average.

Gd
Gd

Dana,

It is very obvious that you are only in the show because of Taylor. (No wonder).

For your information, Russell had the right to do anything at Kennedy's party. Who are you to get upset at that. I am so happy that Kennedy one day will be able to see her father trying to be the father of the year for his little girl. What is wrong for a loving father to show the world he is the father of the year? This is a right he had, and it is not any of your business.

If you are a friend of Taylor, please help this woman to seek real professional help.

Respectfully,

nanab
nanab

For the life of me, I can't see WHY you are on the Housewives. You don't contribute anything that is revelant. I will stop watching next year if you and Brandi are part of the cast!

blondiegirl
blondiegirl

Dana I think those expensive sunglasses have warped what you see. I saw a father who wanted some input in his daughter's birthday while you needed to air grievances about a man who is no longer alive. The other glaring thing I saw was you hanging back and not helping a situation. Brandi appeared very nervous but had the balls to approach Kim (who acts like a 4 year old - 5 would be too mature). You could have said or done something to break the tension but you just sat there kissing Kim's butt. I think the reason fans and castmates can't connect with you is that you don't seem trustworthy. If you would take a stand and be a friend instead of trying to get the Richards gang to notice you, I think you would be surprised how the public would respond.

 Penelope
Penelope

I guess I finally figured out your purpose on this show. You constantly have your nose stuck up everyone's butt! You want everyone to pat you on the head, saying you are a good little housewife. Kennedy didn'g give one hoot about the song your son and Ace performed. It is apparent that you are looking to get some warm pink fuzzies. So glad that Russell blew you off, because you did overstep your boundaries with the party.The honest truth is you act as if Taylor is your woman. Get a life!

Vav
Vav

The party was not about you, for you, your step kid or Taylor..it was for a 5 yr old who certainly doesn't need all those people around her to celebrate. Russel was her father like it or not and he had every right to give HIS gift any time he wanted. Too bad that poor man isn't with us to defend himself as you trash him in your self serving blog.

Vivienne214
Vivienne214

Dana, it's sweet that you went to all of that effort to make a song for Kennedy's birthday. One thing bothered me though - Russell was Kennedy's father and he seemed like a great dad. So he had every right to want to do something special for Kennedy. It wasn't just Taylor's party. It was Russell's party too.

Amy0729
Amy0729

You continue to be a Kim and Kyle 'suck up' which really is silly of you. Somehow you have decided Kim and Kyle are the 'popular' girls and you are gonna be in their 'inner circle' no matter what. Do you think the 'popular, mean girls' would really stick around and be your loyal friend if/when you needed one. Seriously, are you that desperate for famous friends? Be a good example to your son and show him the proper way to treat people. Brandi was trying and you just let her stand around feeling foolish. I felt for her and have concluded you are useless in the friend department and Kim is just an addict imploding on the inside.

Lizzy.B
Lizzy.B

I actually enjoyed you this episode. You are a great friend to taylor no arguging that I love how you saw she needed help and got down and dirty to help with anything. Good friends are hard to come by and she has a good one in you. Btw Ace Young is soooo under-rated and HOTT!!!!!

Happynewyorker
Happynewyorker

I have to laugh at the comments written on this blog. Dana, i'm so glad you didn't tell us the price of your outfit. You have a bubble personality, which is great. To say that i know you, when it's what is placed out on BravoTV, and editing, that makes you seem like a terrific person. My husband and I watched the show last night and were happy to see that you helped out and didn't just sit around with the drink, you got involved. I feel that the song was boring, I hate to say. The singer had no hump to himself to bring out the song. You can't did a good job as a friend to Taylor and her family during Kennedy's party. hey, I loved to have party like Kennedy's for my daughter's birthday. but, lavish isn't what we are. Good luck!!

mitsy
mitsy

You worked hard to get that party ready. Taylor was wrong to say the things she said about you during the show.....showing up late or whatever.

Nothing could ever please her. The more she gets the more she wants. Russell was also rude to you, I hope he did thank you. Scary rude!!!!!

Cards
Cards

Seriously?! Why would Brandi try with you? You were unforgivably rude to her as the "host" of game night. You have brought absolutely nothing to the table with regards to having a friendship with Brandi, and she's supposed to help you fit in? PLEASE.

Vjb
Vjb

i have mixed feelings about you. sometimes you seem like a riot fun to be around and you can be silly at any age, (child at heart) but on the other hand you say things like "noone tried not even brandi" did you not watch the show? you were in the scene when brandi came over to talk to kim, and you say awkward when you should have said hi how are you? show kim thats its ok to make friends and for her to stop being such a bore. maybe youd find out that you and brandi seem to have fun attitudes in life that are common.

seattlegirl27
seattlegirl27

Hi Dana-

After reading some of these other comments, all i can say is SOME PEOPLE TAKE THINGS TOO DAMN SERIOUSLY. I thought you were funny, not childish. And what you felt about Russell was how i would feel also. You seem like a fun chick! I love the show and I can't wait for the rest of the season!

Mumzer
Mumzer

Can't imagine how you could feel okay with the way you behaved around the Kim and Brandi interaction. Grow a backbone and some integrity and call out your new friend Kim ( who you've known for all of 5 minutes) about acting like a 2 year old. Remind her that she was disgraceful at game night and Brandi was only reacting to her offensive words. You could have helped that situation, yet chose to be a follower once again.

Viewer77
Viewer77

Dana - I really like you. In fact you are probably my favorite on the show. You are by far the most "real" and you seem like a great mother and friend.

Chops
Chops

You're a follower. It seems like you talk and laugh with anyone whose not talking about you. You're one of the new girls... Be different. Bravo hired you because they saw something different. You don't have to suck up to the other girls

Ruby2
Ruby2

we get it...you're taylor's friend.

SGee
SGee

I'm glad you weren't cast as an actual housewife because you come off as fake and desparate. Please just be yourself if you are around next season.

glad my life is normal....
glad my life is normal....

"Taylor's effort at being an event coordinator" .... Wow, even your compliments are underhanded jabs! I can see why Kim is the one who seems to like you the most, you two are exactly the same! You can talk smack all you want about Brandy, but who is the one who has continually tried to apologize and mend fences and who is the one giving the condescending jabs? Yup.

HBeez
HBeez

I like that you helped Taylor, I mean really helped by physically doing something. Better late than never. But I must say the song...not so good. Off key too. Kinda....bad. Sorry. The truth hurts. I don't understand the rudeness towards Brandi, jealous much? It comes off that way, that all of you were jealous of her from day one. She is a beautiful girl who speaks the truth...and again...the truth hurts. Like Kim is on SOMETHING and everyone knows it but the "housewives" are in deep denial to help her cover it up. If it wasn't meth then what was it? Well, we know now so Brandi wasn't that far off. She said what we were all thinking and if that is what it took to explain Kim's strange behaviour, well then, so be it.

Viewer 777
Viewer 777

Very disappointing to see how you just let Brandi sit there as she was trying to extend an olive branch. And you want Brandi to be kind to you?? I wonder why no one, including yourself, tell Kim how ridiculous she is behaving and childish. She is the one with the major problem and she was horrible to Brandi the night at your house and all you did was sit there and laugh. You were embarrassing. It was your home, you should have taken control of the situation yourself and made all your guests feel welcome. Especially when her crutches were hidden. Grow up!

KatNJ63
KatNJ63

This week's episode WAS TOO much Dana for me - don't want any more Dana to be honest.