Dana Wilkey

Dana discusses the drama of this season and wonders why anyone was nice to Cedric at the party.

on Jan 17, 20120

The opening of Sur was a lovely event. I spent most of the party drinking in the back area and socializing. I was asked to let the women have some time to work out their differences with Taylor alone, and so I respected that and didn't interfere. I did check on Kim when she was in the bathroom to make sure she was OK. I wanted her to know that I was there if she needed me. This season was tough for me. There were very personal and serious issues happening with Taylor and Kim, and I can't tell you how hard it was on me. It took so much energy!

Was anyone surprised Kim thought she was pregnant? I was. I thought Kim would have been passed that point in her life and didn't think she was that into her guy to go there.

Lisa showed a lot of class in asking that waitress that had been involved with Brandi's husband to leave the party. I also was shocked at how much restraint Brandi showed toward the waitress. I must say I would have really let her have it if she had been involved cheated with my husband. I don't know the details of Brandi's previous marriage, but one thing I know is that I hate cheaters with a passion. Cheaters should be ashamed of themselves. Women who help cheaters beware -- once a cheater always a cheater and if you think it will be different with you, you’re wrong. They are fundamentally broken in there and no one can fix it.

I was surprised Brandi and the others were so nice to Cedric. I don't know him very well but I didn't say "Hi" to him because on principal. If he betrayed Lisa and her family and I don't have a strong personal relationship there then I'm not going to be cordial. Why would I be, if I really believe he was so bad to her? If Lisa is my friend then I better reciprocate the respect of not being friendly with someone who has seemingly hurt her so deeply.

That's it! Love to hear from you!

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107 comments
Loving the show
Loving the show

Of course you would wonder why be cordial because you're in high school and you are too busy trying to fit in... They need to find someone else to replace you on the show!

Tammie2412
Tammie2412

Dana, It seems like everyone has been so hard on you all season. Your cast mates, Bravo, & especially the viewers!! I think if Bravo would allow us to get to know you better, we may like you. Many viewers seem kind of close minded about you. I'm sure it would be very difficult to be in your position. That said, give Brandi's husbands ex-girlfriend a break. You/we don't know the situation. There are 3 sides to every situation. His, hers & the truth. And as for the other woman (or man) they aren't the one with the commitment. I'm sure you don't like all of these negative comments to/about you; people who don't know your situation, yet judge you. Maybe you shouldn't be so quick to judge others.

GD
GD

Dana,

Please stop attacking Brandi. Your behavior is not helping your image.

Alycat9705
Alycat9705

FanFare57, you took the words right out of my mouth! Bravo!!!

lupe777
lupe777

I agree with you about Cedric. I found it a bit hypocritcal of Adrienne of all people. Why be polite to someone like him? Just walk away from him there was no reason for him to be there except to cause a stir.

Hope to see more of you on the show.

erin elizabeth:)
erin elizabeth:)

love you Dana! i want to see more of you on the show!!!:)

Sam64
Sam64

The drama with Taylor and Kim was hard on you....are you serious? You are like the high school girl who wants to get in with the popular crowd. I was surprised that you are a party planner because when you hosted game night you all kinda sat around on dining room chairs waiting for guests to arrive and then you did not have enough food for everyone.

renee11
renee11

Bravo..PLEASE...drop Dana and bring Brandi back as full fledged housewife!!!

FanFare57
FanFare57

Why Be Cordial? I realize that you were out of the room when Cedric entered. However, when you watched the scene on tv, you must have noticed the ladies' shocked expression when he strolled in. He caught them off guard and kissed them. Kyle even asked what was he doing there. Maybe, you could pay attention better and diss less. Obviously, you've been treated like a second tier cast member, being shunted off to back rooms while the main action takes place in the FOH. Your minimum camera time has just got you desperate to make up for it by bashing Brandi and anyone else you feel is taking your due place. Get over it. If you don't return next season, we won't hold our breaths or be disappointed. Your 15 minutes are up.

Viewerdk 7014
Viewerdk 7014

Like you alot better than brandi! Hope u come back next season, instead of her.

caryn c
caryn c

I think the ladies were "cordial" to Cedric when he first walked in because they weren't sure if he was invited or not. They looked very confused and seemed unsure of how to greet him but didn't want to be rude to one of Lisa's guests if, for some strange reason, Lisa and Cedric made up and he was actually invited. I would probably have acted the same way because I would never, never have the gall to go to a party where the hostess hated me and I wasn't invited.

Bravobloger@Tampa
Bravobloger@Tampa

Dana, I was glad to read the producer's blog that noted Brandi was instrumental in asking Cedric (her friend) to leave - Thus yielding a better bond between Lisa and Brandi. Cedric is the one who imposed kisses on the girls - in that setting appeasing is a better approach than rejecting . as you might have appeased Russel with a greeting.

Your Blog does stir the pot week to week with discusion - usually not in favor of Brandi . Glad the cast and Dave can help clear things up for you in their respective blogs.

BH Fan

rlouise
rlouise

I love this show and am totally addicted to it. Only annoying part is when the new cast members, like brandi and dana try hard to fit in. it would be nice to see them as themselves and not so desperate to be part of the "in crowd".

a2bkatl
a2bkatl

Dana Your filming was edited as the producers n directors decided your motives. You still could have done well, had you been a good hostess when a guest is being attacked in your home; then condescending to her that you are sorry she had a bad night

Then, telling Taylor her friends had turned on her, dropping names n prices for that market placement you engage in, being a high priced event planner who isn't familiar with cowboy/western themes in California, the son speaking Thai, eh, ok. the stepson upstaging Taylor and Russel's event that you did NOT plan, according to you, eh ok. But your are only marketing in every clip. I get that editing, spinning and exploiting takes a lot of stuff we don't know about, but your set up and not coming off well. I am sorry this was done with you, I hope it leads to you learning about the trade you are actually in, how social etiquette is handled and how you want people to perceive you

Character is who we are when no one is looking

Bama#1
Bama#1

How much did it cost and who made it?

Kim Aiello
Kim Aiello

yes when i watched him come in and then say hi to kyle i didn't get it... i'm sure she was shocked but my first response to him would have been "so not kool" you gotta go"

FanFare57
FanFare57

It's been so tough for you that you've had to endure Taylor's and Kim's problems (even though you just met Kim & hardly know Taylor). It's been so hard on you to have to stomach Cedric's presence even though you never met him. Your good friend Lisa thought so much of you that you were banished to the back room. Meanwhile, Brandi was in the front room where all the action took place. It's so sad that you will say anything to curry favor from the BH ladies, even though they've excluded or ignored you, in spite of your giggling, butt kissing and name dropping habits. It must be rough on you that all of your price boasting has turned viewers and the ladies off from you. Don't go away mad, just go away (& be cordial on your way out the door). I'm sure you'll get some lovely parting gifts for playing the game.

seniag
seniag

Were you really even at the party? Snubbing someone for a friend is a poor reflection on you and your own character.

Chris with a K
Chris with a K

Hey Dana, I prefer you over potty mouth Brandi. I think your association with Taylor ruined your chances on this show, take care and good luck with everything you do. Kris from Ca.

Lively1
Lively1

Cedric was there to create some drauma for the show period! someone said he was invited and I believe that because he was wearing a mic unlike the waitress that didnot have one on. This is the ending of the season and I think Bravo is winding up the audience to stay tuned for more discussion about Cedric. Dana, I think your a kind and sweet woman that is trying to fit in with these women interesting match really. These other women could tame a wild bull and I think you might get hurt so walk softely. I think Brovo needs to bring in your fiance so we can get to know you.

Stehjdgnsgbrsgnthndghjdthn
Stehjdgnsgbrsgnthndghjdthn

Your blog is always about Brandi. It's funny, it's like you need her to be relevant, it just shows your insecurity in my opinion. I also think it's stupid when girls lash out at the female he cheated with. That's the thing she's doing you a favor! I want a man who will be with me because I'm his everything not because there isn't opportunities. Besides if it isn't that girl, there will always be another one. He was the one who was committed to you, not the girl. While I think the girl is stupid, wouldn't get into a catty girl fight in my friends place of business. She handled it well, especially since it's lisas place of business! Also I'd just lik to point out to everyone Brandi has always said she knows Cedric it wasn't a secret.

Ash16
Ash16

I can understand why Lisa and Ken were polite and brutal at the same time. Lisa and Ken were the hosts of the party and were responsible for their guests, so she probably didn't want to cause any unnecessary drama by getting into it with Cedric. Lisa has class and didn't want to ruin the party for her friends by becoming enraged at Cedric. However, I felt that there was no reason for the other women to be cordial and greet Cedric as they did. I would have been way more thrown off then they appeared and definitely would have questioned his motives and probably would have made him leave myself, so that Lisa wouldn't have to deal with him. I thought that the other women had no reason to be so friendly to him.

ViewerinIndy
ViewerinIndy

Dana,

Kudos to you for being a loyal friend despite not always being in the "inner" circle. You are quirky and funny, and a great addition to the RHOBH.

To fellow readers who believed they need to clarify the definition of "cordial:" Dana is just as capable of using internet dictionary resources as you are. Was her point really lost on you?

vnp081108
vnp081108

i thin you should brush up on the grammar and spelling before taking on a public blog like this.....

deidre923
deidre923

Yet again and again you single out Brandi in your blog. Every week you make it a point to emphasize something negative about her!

EricaGOLI
EricaGOLI

Dear Dana,

Please quit slinging mud at Brandi. She is not your competition, or the person who is responsible for you lack of camera time. YOU ARE!

Brandi was famous and well known, in modeling, and being in a high profile marriage that ended in infidelity. She is also a dynamic personality, so the cameras are going to be on her more, and more. And thankfully so, because she helps bring balance to so much negative drama. She is fun, and light hearted..So, slinging mud only makes you look not worthy of even being in the same room with the other women. Its quite aweful.

I just don't know how much longer the other women will feel comfortable about being around you. You are far too judgemental on them, when you don't feel included in their get togethers, and trips. I personally would not want to be associated with someone who constantly slings mud everytime they might feel neglected. Its not the way to get attention! Good behavior is!

With that said, I do hope you will be on the show next season. I'm sure this has had to have been a good social learning experience.

Here is hoping to see more and better from you next season.

RealityFann17
RealityFann17

Agreed! I would have talked to him either apart from re-voicing what Lisa and Ken were saying... Leave. Good for you. Wish the show showed more of you and your life! You show off a bit, but I like it. No one else does that hahaha! Like they are ashamed of the funn their money brings. Get a life! Most of us who watch the show are watching for the glitz and glam we will never have access to! Thank you for being so candid. Its a funn, interesting part of the show! Please re-sign to the next season if they offer you a spot :)

mitsy
mitsy

You did look very nice at Sur.

cluelesshw
cluelesshw

Have to say I didn't care for you to begin with, it took some time for me to get your humor. You hang in there. Will be looking for you and some coverage next season.

Miss Manners
Miss Manners

Want to see more of you and like you. You seem awkward and like you are out of touch with your own feelings at times. You're trying so hard to fit in that somethings you say and do seem insincere, but I really identify with that since my background is similar. Don't you think you are a bit hard on people who make mistakes? You aren't allowing others to learn from their mistakes when I've seen so many cringe worthy moments created by you. Hope they let you learn from your deeds.

Florida_Gal
Florida_Gal

Why be cordial?

Indeed. Why? I think a person can still behave in a civil manner as exhibited by Lisa and Ken. They were honest but politely asked Cedric to leave. It's not necessary to be overly warm or inviting but you can most definitely be civil. I think it's really important so that matters are not escalated.

By the way, cordial can mean 'deeply felt' which can be used to express a 'cordial dislike'. So it doesn't necessarily mean affectionate though most of us would use it that way.

I hope that Bravo is very civil when they do not renew your contract for next season and that you respond in a cordial manner thanking them graciously for the opportunity provided.

Have a pleasant day. :)

ILoveGod
ILoveGod

Dana, the ladies seemed to have been caught off guard and seemed shocked when Cedric showed up at the Sur opening party. None of them looked overly friendly to me. It seemed more like a nervous awkward type greeting than anything else. There doesnt seem to be a place for you on the show. Sad to say, but maybe you should have quarreled with one of them and earned your keep. You were too busy trying too hard to impress them. Brandie, on the other hand, held her own and " passed initiation". Thats probably why she's in alot of scenes. This show's probably not for you.

BETSY ALEX
BETSY ALEX

Dana!

Our family loves you! You are such a great, sharp persoon. We want to see more of you on the show!

LL from Texas
LL from Texas

Why be cordial?? Because that is what people with class do. Cedric came to put on a show and get attention. The ladies would have played into his hands had they done otherwise. As others have stated, this isn't high school. These women are allowed to make their own decisions about whom they chose to be their friends. Lisa is an adult, and she doesn't behave in a petty way. This didn't bother her. And, to eat your own words, YOU were cordial to Russell. Maybe you didn't believe Taylor either?

Keppie
Keppie

I would have just flashed a peace sign to Cedric -- peace be with you, now go away. No snub is needed, that would only make things worse. Be classy not trashy!

ryan albregts
ryan albregts

I feel like you've been really shut out by the other women and yet you still write about your loyalty toward them and you're the only one who was kind to Taylor. I hope they start to reciprocate the kindness you've shown them.

Sunflower Mommy
Sunflower Mommy

Being cordial is what a civil person does (especially when they host people at their home -- hint, hint). Confronting Cedric would have simply escalated the situation and further damaged Lisa's party. I am sure Lisa appreciated that everyone kept their cool.

Feedback
Feedback

I think people have been a little rough on you this season, I just want to say that in terms of the Taylor situation I respected your loyalty to her, and your with DV advocacy/ charity organizations has helped you be more understanding of her and her responses and behaviors. The fact is that the cycle of violence is a complex one and I have reallly appreciated the fact that you have never blamed or questioned Taylor!

Steve W.
Steve W.

Dana, there just was not enough of you this season. My friends and I think you are an absolute hoot. We love all the fierce glamour and nice homes, but we also need a hearty Dana chuckle in contrast to all drama.

TNC
TNC

Dana,

I completely agree with OCally!!! I was horrified that Taylor would bring her therapist to Lisa's special night and once again make something all about her. I do not for one minute believe anything that comes out of her mouth especially after the drama she created last season. I truly hope that Bravo does not bring her back next season because if they do then they've lost this viewer and they may as well rename the show to the Taylor Show.

BH Fan 01
BH Fan 01

WHOA? This season was hard on you? What was happening with Taylor and Kim was hard on you and took your energy???? Imagine what they are going through!

Why be cordial? You thought that what Brandi did to Kim when they first met was horrible but you were still cordial to her.

You my friend need to grow a backbone and quit jumping from one side of the ship to the other. You are a phony!

Jill from SR
Jill from SR

Dana, it was easy for you to snub Cedric because you are the only woman on the show who has never met him! I don't think he even knows who you are. The ones that do know him, were coolly cordial in their efforts to not make a scene. God knows this show has had enough of those. I realize that you and Brandi are both auditioning for one slot so you're bound to feel competitive, however, that doesn't mean you need to chip away at her behavior on every blog you write. She doesn't do that to you so please stop.

Rebecca535
Rebecca535

"There were very personal and serious issues happening with Taylor and Kim, and I can't tell you how hard it was on me. It took so much energy!"

Boy do I hope you are kidding, or it evidences a supreme lack of awareness of yourself and others.

Bravo...please let Dana get back to her own world. She means well, but that about covers it.

Stellanola
Stellanola

I agree with the person who said the ladies were cordial to Cedric to get him out quickly. Imagine the scene he could have caused had he been treated badly. I think you mistake loyalty for permission to be rude. You were nasty to Brandi at your own event just because Kyle and Kim were. I don't know about other viewers but that was such a turn off that I've waited all season for you to redeem yourself. You haven't. It's why I enjoy watching Brandi and not you. I don't recall her once naming the designer of her possessions and it makes her more relatable. I really hope you learn something from this experience.

Maggimty
Maggimty

I guess the ladies asked you to stay away from them, because they don´t consider you as a housewive castmate! You have tried so hard to be with them, that maybe they think you are not trusty. I think you should quit to the show, because I really think you are a good person, but the show doesn´t show it.

Viewer of reality
Viewer of reality

ok your past couple of blogs have been very real. no suck up in this one! you are finally staring to grow on me......

Cedric showing up was just so fake and contrived, not reality at all.......and the reason that the cast was nice to him, I can only guess....

Colormekisses
Colormekisses

I thought you said you didn't really know Lisa in your previous blogs and now you are sticking up for her. I don't understand you at all....

Baltimore, MD
Baltimore, MD

Dana, it's called being polite. You see someone, even if you don't like them, you say hello and be cordial. It's called being respectful and not stooping to their level. Do you not have any home training?

Jeannie from Texas
Jeannie from Texas

If I had to choose you or Brandi to continue to be on the show i would choose you. I think you have more to offer and we didn't get to see that and I think you need to be given a chance so we can know you better. Brandi, doesn't add anything to the show. Just my opnion.