The opening of Sur was a lovely event. I spent most of the party drinking in the back area and socializing. I was asked to let the women have some time to work out their differences with Taylor alone, and so I respected that and didn't interfere. I did check on Kim when she was in the bathroom to make sure she was OK. I wanted her to know that I was there if she needed me. This season was tough for me. There were very personal and serious issues happening with Taylor and Kim, and I can't tell you how hard it was on me. It took so much energy!
Was anyone surprised Kim thought she was pregnant? I was. I thought Kim would have been passed that point in her life and didn't think she was that into her guy to go there.
Lisa showed a lot of class in asking that waitress that had been involved with Brandi's husband to leave the party. I also was shocked at how much restraint Brandi showed toward the waitress. I must say I would have really let her have it if she had been involved cheated with my husband. I don't know the details of Brandi's previous marriage, but one thing I know is that I hate cheaters with a passion. Cheaters should be ashamed of themselves. Women who help cheaters beware -- once a cheater always a cheater and if you think it will be different with you, you’re wrong. They are fundamentally broken in there and no one can fix it.
I was surprised Brandi and the others were so nice to Cedric. I don't know him very well but I didn't say "Hi" to him because on principal. If he betrayed Lisa and her family and I don't have a strong personal relationship there then I'm not going to be cordial. Why would I be, if I really believe he was so bad to her? If Lisa is my friend then I better reciprocate the respect of not being friendly with someone who has seemingly hurt her so deeply.
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I am soo with you on your comments regarding Cedric ... why were they hugging him and saying how nice it was to see him.
Keep blogs like these up, and I may actually start to like you.... Maybe. The season is over and u will not likely be asked back. But I am finally glad that you took your head out of your ass before you wrote this blog.
You seem to be the only friend Kim has. I really like her and wish nothing but the best for her in her sobriety, but someone has got to tell her that astrology is total crap and that being a Virgo is not an explanation or an excuse for anything. She could really benefit from taking some college courses. She seems stuck back in her teenage years and would be happier with some maturity and I think that obtaining a real education would be beneficial to her and perhaps expand her world.
I did see you coming out of the bathroom with Kim at the end of the show. You looked very pretty and I am sorry we didn't see you for more than that 5 seconds. Just too much Taylor and Kyle crying again. At least no one did the splits!
Why is it that just like with wanting to be recognized for how much things cost (as if that makes you worthy), you also want to be recognized for being a good friend? Just do the right thing, value the right thing, and stop telling viewers how great you are.
I'm with ya' on the Cedric business. He's a real piece of work, that one. You seem like a sweet person, Dana, and I hope you don't continue to fall for poor Taylor's manipulations.
Your are such an amazing.classy friend! I respect how you think and would love to be your friend! You are a TRUE friend! I hope the others see it!! If the they don't THEY are really missing out!!7
Dana, Glad your on the show-your so fun! Your just so sweet Dana and a good friend. I Would love to have you as one of my friends if I lived there!
Hi Dana, As we the viewers have gotten to know you in my opinion you have shown me that you are honest and a great friend. To those viewers who think you are just kissing ass, they need to realize that your just trying to get to know these people in this situation you are now apart of RHOBH. Besides for your comments about monetary items you are pretty laid back and real. And I 100% agree with you about Cedric. I would never, especially as a good friend; acknowledge him and kiss him hello or good bye. And although Kyle is one of my favorite house wives her comment back to Cedric about if she afraid of Lisa was wrong. I know she obviously doesn't like confrontation as we can tell from the past, but say this has nothing to do with Lisa and everything to do with how horrific of a person you are. To me a good friend is someone who will stick up for their friends and or family when the time calls for it because it's the right thing to do.
Anyway Much love to you and your family xoxo
You are right on about Cheaters. Brandi sometimes seems a little screwy, but who would not be with all the BS she dealt with from her ex and now Leann Rimes who publicly taunts Brandi. I think you are generally good, sometimes you have seem to be a little nasty but maybe thats just editing!
I agree with you Brandi, I was surprised to see the ladies be so friendly to Cedric. Brandi I could understand, as she had a relationship with Cedric prior to knowing Lisa. But I was surprised to see how almost HAPPY Adrienne seemed to see him! Definitely struck me as odd. If I was Lisa and saw that he a. crash my party and b. was embraced by my group of friends I would have been even more upset about it.
Brandi has a long history with Cedric that doesn't involve Lisa but as for the others... Every blog you seem to try to keep the focus on Brandi. I think it's you that is your own worst enemy. Quit picking on the other new kid to fit in with the cool kids.
Dana I really like how you are there for your friends no matter what. Even though it seems you just met some of these women you are very loyal. Its hard to find that quality in people today.
Dana, Oh yes-Lisa showed a lot of class, as always, with the waitress scenario (and so did Brandi). Yikes...how awkward that must have been!
I don't know if Kim really thought she was pregnant. I think sometimes some of what we hear is the mixing of some fairly strong medication--which by now, I am hopeful has all been straightened out in rehab. She is sweet and very kind of heart...so I just keep hoping for change and growth (and minus Ken-ugh!).
I didn't think as you said in last wks episode to Taylor that any of her friends turned on her or abandoned her. I forget your actual wording. I think they went on vacation, didn't trust Russell any longer to have them come along. AND, Taylor needs to find the strength from within to battle her demons. Taylor STRESSES how much she needs her friends.... We all do. Yet, the power and strength we need when we have a crisis have to at least be initiated by our own selves. Sometimes I think Taylor expects too much out of these friends. Hope that therapist stresses that to her. When friends feel lied to, or used or threatened, they retreat. Again, who wouldn't? I think they've all done an outstanding job of trying to support her-even Camille!
I think Brandi had a relationship with Cedric that was completely separate from Lisa. Often, your friends don't like each other or have legitimate grips with one another. That doesn't always mean you have to completely drop one of them in order to be loyal to the other, even though it may make things tricky.
Agreed on the whole Cedric thing, he really had some nerve showing his face there. What was he expecting? to be welcomed with open arms? How did he even manage to get in? The whole thing surprised me. Ken showed amazing restraint by not tossing him out immediately. I didn't even realize that you were there at the opening. They should give a little more face time. I enjoyed you this season, you're funny and seem like a really nice person. The only that bugged me about you was the 25K sunglasses. What were you thinking? Anyway, I hope they invite you back next season. Best of luck to you Dana/Pam.
Wow Dana, so sorry Kim and Taylor's very tragic personal issues were so hard on YOU. My sympathies to YOU for their problems.
WOW...I actually agree with you on this blog! I, too, "hate cheaters with a passion". Brandi is lucky to be rid of the dog...He's Leann's problem now LOL
Dana, I idolize you and Lisa for being such loyal, true friends. I totally agree with you on the last thing you said in your blog - reciprocating the respect of not being friendly with someone who had hurt her so deeply. It's hard to find good friends.
I was shocked that Cedric showed up. Everyone was on good behavior - well, Kim has some problems but everyone handled the waitress and Cedric the Unwanted well. Love watching you all!
I am with you Dana. I would have told Cedric "no" out of respect to Lisa too. He was acting like he was so innocent and kissing everyone. Hope your back...you add a different perspective on things.
Dana, You are a loyal person to your friends. I agree with you completely about Cedric! I was appalled that those other gals even acknowledged him, let alone the kisses on the cheeks! I would have said excuse me! Get lost, you have been horrible to my friend, and I NEVER want anything to do with you! You are a nice person Dana, stay that way.
dANA, I did not notice you last night on the show. I saw you on additional footage here. You looked beautiful. Once again you came to one of the girl's rescue (Kim). You seem very loyal to the people you call friends. It is a great example for the viewers to see. Not many people are as trustworthy as you seem to be. Many people gave you crap for name-dropping. But I like the true character you are showing. I would love to see your wedding, too. Is there any chance?
I have to say you actually seem like a really good person and I am becoming a fan. Which is kinda funny because I really didnt like you in the begining I found your bragging about spending pretty ridiculous and offensive in a way and yea its your money and you can spend it however you like but 25000 dollars isnt sunglass money to most of the people watching the show. its more like the average persons yearly income and there are so many people who can use it for more than that, I mean its pretty furstrating to see you spend that much on glasses knowing that it could probably be enough money to help someone through college and improve their quality of life and you spend it on glasses. But when your not bragging I realized that you are a pretty cool, nice and wonderful friend I assure you at the end of it you might even be a favourite of the show.
I agree concerning Cedric. All the other ladies should have said for him to leave and not hug and kiss him. They should have supported Lisa not talking with him. It is very obvious he is a leech.
I agree with you on the warm welcome the HW'S gave to Cedric he didn't deserve it. You handled it very well and showed respect for Lisa
Dana, I really like your spunk and sense of humour. I would have liked to see more of you this season. I hope they keep you for next season- you've got a great life and I would love to see more of it. Alexia
The pics of you at the party were very cute - thank goodness you got to have fun instead of getting caught up in all that drama!
your amazing so understanding so glad u r in the picture wish u best of luck on the show think ur amazing, big fan of u!!!!!
Why didn't we get to see you at all?! That sucks! Glad you were invited and that you came though. I'm with you on Cedric. I'm not fake enough to fake kiss and hug with a scum like that. Look forward to seeing you next week I hope. At the very least, I'm sure you're at the reunion. I hope.
YES!!! I was shocked to see some allow Cedric kiss their cheeks! Shocked! Disappointing. Glad to read others felt the same.
Okay Dana, I've not posted on a blog like this before but I CAN'T take it anymore! How do you always manage to make every episode about you? STOP! Any generous, good-natured spirit is completely overshadowed by your narcissism ! ENOUGH!
Gee Dana, it's called being polite and not making a scene. Take a lesson or two from Lisa who handled the Brandi/waitress situation with much class.
I think youre a great friend Dana! I love how you are there for your friends no matter what, and that you stand behind them 110%! More women need to be like you. I hope Andy brings you back next season just for your positive energy!
You are absolutely right about cheaters, they are fractured beyond the ability to heal totally. They will always have a weakness toward other partners and when to much strain or "pressure" is applied . My former husband broke once and he was never able to heal, leaving myself and four children behind.. They snap. But as far as leaving an abusive relationship, I can say from first hand experience , you have to have a really obvious reason to leave. A horrible fight with visible evidence is ideal because somewhere along the way, I stopped believing I was "abused". We see woman abused on TV and how their limbs are broken or faces bloodied and swollen , well if I didn't look like that, I felt I could handle it. Truly , if he would have just given me visable wounds, then maybe people would believe me. So when did I begin to doubt someone would believe me? At 16 Exposing my fathers sexual abuse against me since the age of 6 or 7 and being called a lying "B" by him and many family members.. Maybe that was the beginning of my fracture.
Anyway, you spoke rightly and appreciate your boldness.
I don't like that you were asked to stay away from the girls... Almost like they didn't want you in the taping of this episode. Also re: cedric, it's more just like say hi, keep the drama low, and basically just say I'm sorry my loyalty is to Lisa. Did you see Kyle, she's so fake.. She's like oh hi and kisses Cedric but she hesitates bc she doesn't want backlash from Lisa. I hope Lisa doesn't forget how fake and hurtful Kyle was to her. She's very self interested and in order to get liked by everyone and be mrs popular, she'll do anything, even be disloyal to her friends. Go back to season 1, Taylor was the troublemaker causing the rift btw Kyle and Camille... She even admitted to it as evidenced in the lost footage. (hate that bravo doesn't call people out at reunions.. Very annoying), and Lisa saw thru it but kyle upon season 1 and 2 was so mean and rude at Lisa because of it.. You can tell Kyle loved how the two of them seemed to want Kyle's attention. Just saying. Ok back to you...hope your back next season.. Be cool, don't kiss Kyle or Kim's ass.. I'd pick to be Adrian's friend. She's pretty awesome and normal.
I concur with all your convictions - Your a cool chic and happy to see you on the show. Hope you get a permanent spot. Cheers
You are very sweet and growing on me. Don't try so hard with the other women. You are very sweet and have a lot to offer without kissing their butts. Best of luck.
Great to hear from you Dana! I really want to make it clear that I have so enjoyed you this season. I always feel a bit cheated when I don't get to see you in an episode. You're simply delightful! You seem to be so loyal, and always call it like you see it! I'll definitely admit that game night I wasn't impressed with you, but you've more than made up for that since and I always get a good laugh while watching you over something or another! There have been so many rude, hateful comments made on these boards concerning you and it ruffles my feathers every time! I'm keeping my fingers crossed that we'll see a whole lot of you in season 3. You're such a fun loving, interesting , intelligent and compassionate lady. Good luck to you in all you do and God bless : )
I agree completely Dana - if you treat my friend the way Cedric treated Lisa, I have no desire to speak to you. I would completely ignore them. And, in fact, I'd be a little ticked at the people who were friendly with him...
I have a question, Why do you make blanket statements? I notice this in many of your blogs. You seem very nice and have great intentions but there are always exceptions to generalizations. For example, sometimes cheaters do change, just like addicts or anyone wishing to reform a behavior. I don't condone cheating in the least but it seems a little extreme to say no one can help them. Everyone can be helped!
That said, it's so nice that you've tried to be a friend and show loyalty to the women :)
I really am hoping you stay on the show Dana! you bring a whole new light to things. I adore the others ~ well, most of them. Kim not so much and sorry Taylor not so much. I do hope we get to see you more on the show! :)