When Cedric walked in, I thought, “Oh no. . .here comes trouble.” While Cedric was always nice to me, he was also very transparent. He clearly had an agenda to which Lisa was blind. Other than maybe the times at Villa Blanca, the only interaction I had with Cedric was shown on Season 1. However, it didn't take a rocket scientist to figure him out.
Your Blog seemed like a weight was lifted from your shoulders.
Best wishes for Kim and your entire family. A tough road still lies ahead so hopefully Kim has long term professional support - and maybe some privacy short term. A Reality Show may be too much right now ??? That's up to you... being that you are her Mom. lol
Kyle, You dont have to explain sweetie, I know how hard it is dealing with addiction. As a nurse I see it every day in my work, but to have a family member with this disease is far harder, and more complicated to endure, personally. My medical logic is supposed to kick in, but my emotions, and love for my family member, always get in the way. We have a pattern of interaction, that goes back to when we were children, and to start behaving towards the other person in a different way is often impossible. Even when at times, in our hearts we know they need us, it's very uncomfortable to change the dynamic. God bless you and our precious Kim. I feel for both of you.
Kyle We love you so much. It is apparent that you love your sister deeply and did not want to give up on her. Our family has members with alcohol and drug addiction and after years of thinking I knew so much about it, it wasn't until this year when my nephew nearly died from drug use that I too finally agreed that drug addiction is a disease. He is now sober and back to his authentic self. His behavior while on drugs tore our family apart and many family members were so angry with him. We have all moved on and realize the drugs are to blame. He is full of shame for everything he did, but he has to forgive himself, as I hope that Kim can do. She seems like a very sweet, kind, genuine person. While I am very sorry that Kim and your family had to go through this, I am glad that this issue has come to the surface and that you talk about how it is an addiction. So many people, even after all the information that is out there, still believe it is just a weakness and a choice. I hope that many people can learn from this and maybe Kim can see that she is actually going to help others! Good for her for being so brave. We need to remove the shame from addiction and help others to really understand. Blessings to you and your beautiful family.
I am sending Prayers to your family that Kim can remain sober for her children/her family/herself : ) I am hoping we see lot's more of Kim...
Love you Kyle. You are my favorite. I will keep praying for Kim so that she knows she is not alone and is worthy of all of the wonderful things God has for her.
I hope you really try and understand your sister and her problems and do not put her down! As for Taylor she is a liar and manipulative and only cares about herself. I cannot watch next season if Taylor is on the Housewives....Goodluck with your sister and everything else..
You are getting so popular that I am unsure if you will even have time to read this!
I am happy to read that things are better on the family front. Recovery from addiction is a life long effort. I want to suggest you get counseling with an addiction specialist yourself. It is possible that the hurt and stress of those years may have left some scars. Also, addiction affects family members, and it is very important that you learn how to deal with the disease.
You are so pretty and I love your spirit.
May God bless you and your family in every way.
As always, this post will not appear, however, here I go... Kyle, I do understand your position with Kim. You are in an almost impossible place by loving her and wanting her well. However, I disagree with you airing things to the other cast members, especially in the negative way you have. Hurt, fear, frustration, and all the rest does add up. But where is the respect and protection Kim deserved. God forbid, but relapses are common in addiction. Will you turn on her again? Please get the counseling you need to help Kim or distance yourself, in love, until she is well. She is not Brandi or Camille, she is your sister. Show her compassion.
Nooooooo, say it isn't so! This season cannot be over already!!! I can't believe I'm saying this, but I will miss seeing you and Kim arguing. Though it was uncomfortable to watch at times, it has been a good diversion to all the other things going on in my own life. Please, however, if you have any say in the matter, don't have Taylor back. While Kim was uncomfortable, Taylor was disturbing.
I am so glad that Kim received help for her addition. Being a recovering person myself it was really hard to watch. I hope the family also get so help since it is a family disease and can be fatal. Good luck.
Kyle, I think you're a wonderful, loving sister. I cannot understand those fans who said you should walk away from your sister. If you walked away who was going to help her. Speaking as someone who has a sister, you did the right thing to stay by her side. Sisters drive eachother nuts, but when life gets tough we stick together! By the way,I really enjoy the show!
In the episode "A Day Late, An Apology Short" it is so obvious Kim is under the influence of some kind of benzodiazepine. I totally understand why Kyle is worried for she has every reason to be. Kim is clearly messed up at the dinners, when she was crawling around on the bathroom floor, missing flights, not waking up until noon, etc and Ken (wow no explanation needed) just enables her. Kyle is so real and honest...you are one of my favorites and I hope your sister finds the help she needs. Its not right what she does especially when Kyle and her husband have done sooo much for her. Kyle stick to your guns your doing the right thing.
Kyle, While none of us will ever truely know the family dynamic between you and your sister; but a viewer take is this - you say in your interviews that you dont know what to do with Kim, and that all you want is for her to be happy. But bringing up all she does to disappoint you is not helping, or making her happy. I also suffer from panic disorder, and occasionally need medication to help. What I look for is support from those who love me. Having a panic disorder is difficult, there are not 'triggers' that you can state will set you off, and it is not a visable disease (not like a broken limb). Anything can set off an attack - the most important thing for me is to know that my family supports me, even if they dont really understand it. Instead of telling her all her faults, try to understand that all she really needs is support - you dont have to agree with what she does, and Im sure she knows her faults. If you continue to just tell her what she does thats wrong, or disappoints you, just knowing she will have to see you could be stressful enought to bring on an attack. You said that she has gotten help; you too may want to talk to someone for suggestions on how to deal with her going forward, to help her recovery, and yours as well
Best of luck - I hope everything works out, and you two find your way back to each other
I am enjoying watching the show very much. I feel much better about you since the first fight with Brandy. I think it's clear that your sister would complain about the attention from you because she didn't want the attention from the cameras about WHY she was behaving the way she was. I think it's clear you were trying to help her and you love her. I'm sure it was very hard to struggle how rude she was being with everyone and her desire to want everyone to act like they didn't care that they've been waiting around for her. She like all people with addictions think they're fooling everyone else. I hope she is doing better but addiction issues really are issues for life. I think it is great that you care about Taylor bit I find it sooooooo annoying that you kept saying you don't need to apologize to us....that was and is not true...what she did this season was not okay and she needed to apologize. Sadly people that are in abusive relationships learn how to manipulate others and often play victim for others sympathy. An apology was the minimum of what she needed to do. I just wish you would have spoken for yourself only. She tried to make Camille look bad. That's why Adrianne is my favorite. She isn't about the drama and what is right is right and what is wrong is wrong and she calls it as it is. This is being an adult. This makes us women look good not the taking sides.
Wow, I'm surprised I'm the first to comment? Anyway, I'd just like to mention that I thought it was inappropriate, really, for the doctor (was he actually a doctor?) staged an impromptu group therapy session at Lisa's event.
I like you, but I thought you shouldn't have pressed Kim so hard at the night of your husband's bday celebration, at the dinner table, in Hawaii . . . Lisa had suggested, wisely, earlier, that you should just accept that she was late, late, late, and not "push it."
I like the passionate side of you, but I also felt there was so much drama at the Sur opening, between you and Kim. Of course the HW shows feed on drama, but you were in tears every episode this season, weren't you? I hope things smooth out for you, now, and I know we're discussing the past, now. Hopefully, we can all learn lessons from our mistakes.
Love to you and your family.
I apologize, I had to search for a while and finally found that she just got out of rehab. I do hope this does the trick and that she is happy from henceforth.
Hugs and Love Kyle
Kyle-- you are very articulate, and a great sister. We can not let our family go-- no matter what they do... within reason. I respect you for your support, and your commitment to all your family. Alcoholism IS a disease--and though treatment does involve choice-- there is no choice as to whether or not a person has this issue. I hope this is a great learning experience, and that there is new improvement in your lives..
Sometimes you end up caring about a family member so much that its very difficult to see the truth. I had to deal with the hard reality of a cousin that I considered a younger sister. Unfortunately to say, at 21, she is no longer with us and left behind an infant son. Besides myself, there were two other cousins that tried to help her, but she alienated us from her life. She was beautiful, smart, had a scholarship to a great college and a great life ahead of her, but got mixed up with a lowlife and drugs after highschool, so this was the end result. Even though that Kim may consider your persistance as meddling, never stop caring for her, becuase that is when it is truely over.
Nice blog, Kyle. I still think you would benefit greatly from Al-Anon. And I'm happy for Kim, but her issues will be a life long struggle. I wish all your famly the best of luck.
I'm so glad to see that your sister is getting help. It was hard for me to watch the complicated relationship you had with your sister. It was like watching my and my sisters relationship. Unfortunately I lost my sister to her illness (cirrhosis) 1 1/2 years ago and it is very hard! But I love and miss her dearly!! So happy your family is doing well and thank you for sharing.
Kyle, thank you for this blog. I just watched the last episode of RHOBH and I'm so sad to say goodbye to all of you. When I read the blogs it amazes me at how invested we viewers are in your lives. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or not, lol.
I'm so happy for Kim and her sobriety. So happy for all of you. I truly believe she's going to make it, and if there are a few bumps in the road along the way, that's OK, it's to be expected. Ultimately the time will come when she regains her power/strength, will start making big decisions, saying "no" and all kinds of things that might make the people who have babied and protected her feel a bit put off. Don't. It's a wonderful thing. You all have work to do, but the rewards are so worth it...just keep moving forward.
I pray Camille comes back, hope Brandi stays..she's a fabulous addition! Dana doesn't fit in the show at all, or the show didn't fit Dana. Either way, I hope Bravo doesn't bring her back. I also hope Bravo doesn't bring Taylor back. I don't ever want to witness any of what she brings to the table again. I don't care what the "excuse" is, there's no excuse. It was horrible and left a really bad taste in my mouth. I tune in to be entertained, not traumatized. Taylor has very serious issues in real life to work on - issues that should remain private.
Pandora's wedding was spectacular, the perfect way to end the series What made it so lovely for me was seeing all the women get along and support each other vs. the jealousy and stupid made-for-ratings cat fights.
What made RHOBH so above the other housewives shows was your class, your wealth, lifestyle, etc. I hope it stays that way and the Taylor days are over.
Thanks Kyle for opening your home and heart to us viewers. All my best to Kim and that gorgeous man you're married to. :)
Hi Kyle, Just watched the last episode......an incredible wedding! I laughed out loud when Mauricio told you his tux was dark blue.....and you said....did you have to say that...couldn't you let me think it was black? I so get that....Enjoy your break. Looking forward to season three. Laugh lots, Susan Brown
I am so glad Kim is getting help. I remember her since i was a little kid. I am 48 now and delt with my issues, but let me say , when i was at my worst , I only needed my family. Don'tgive up, try to put aside the anger, and try 2 be there for you. It will help you to , to get thru. Life is to short,
No one who has had any experience with adiction thinks that ending your enabling of Kim "sounds easy." Yes, it would be tough for you. But THAT's what you do if you want to help someone you care for. I hope Kim stays sober for her and her children. I hope you get to AL-ANON (which I don't get the impression that you have) so you can stop enabling her.
Kyle, I desperately want to reach you to offer that your sister may exclude herself from your gatherings simply because there is alcohol present. It was noticeable that she was not in a lot of the footage this season, but then, you gals usually have a cocktail or champagne readily available. Just a thought...it may be difficult for her for a while. Best wishes to you and yours- Beth from CT
Kyle, It is obvious how much you love Kim. And what you have been willing to do for her and her family is admirable. Most people don't care anymore and people perceive Beverly Hills as a cold plastic fake place. But most of you have shown us that incredible women live there as well. I hate these shows but am addicted to yours because of how real and honest you ladies come off as. You seem to learn from each other and watching yourselves. People could take a lesson from you and how you acknowledge what you have done wrong and also how you stand behind your friends and most importantly how much you care about your family.
I feel your pain. I lost my sister Kim to the disease in 2010.
Your sister was doing everything mine did. I am so glad your Kim got help and that you are there for her.
I am sad that people told you to walk away..my family did that to my sister and it was painful to see...it is just as painful to watch your sister destroy herself, but again I am so glad she got help.
Good luck to the both of you!!
Very nice to hear Kim is in a much better place. Kims very fortunate to have two loving sisters who are there for her. It's nice you have her back now.Hopefully we'll have her back next season.I have always been a fan.
Kyle I love you on the show, and seeing what you went thru with your sister brings back a lot of memories for me. I had a sister that was dealing with drug addiction, we as a family did what we could. She would get help and slip up. I am glad Kim is now sober. I was not so lucky, my sister died of a accidental overdose. Love her and be there for her. xoxo Connie
What a season filled with real not made up drama. I am glad for you and your family that Kim is on the right track, because the evening at SUR was a real eye-opener. We saw glimpses of Kim's problems mostly in Hawaii, but her behavior before and during the opening of SUR was so disturbing. It made me wonder about all the talk about Ken and him being so controlling. What I saw was a man just trying to keep it together with a girlfriend who was out of control. Of course I realize that only a portion of the story was being told, but from what we saw someone had to keep a constant eye on your sister so she wouldn't get hurt. It was a weird relationship but I certainly wouldn't say that Ken was the only bad guy in it. I find him to be a little creepy, and off but Kim was really both demanding and a complete trainwreck. Thank goodness the direction has changed and I hope she continues her recovery.
Kyle, you are right it is very hard to watch someone go through addiction and not try to help them or be there for them. There is also a point where you are enableling them which I think now you see you were doing. Not letting Kim take responsabilty for her actions, always hovering, or trying to clean her up, like at Dana's party is contributing to her actions. I dont think people wanted you to stop loving your sister. They were trying to tell you to stop picking up the pieces. Everyone in Kims life seemed to be making it too easy for her to continue her addiction. I think as viewers it is easier to look at the situation and see the problems because its not happening to us. I am so happy for Kim's sobriety and I hope you and your families can become closer now. Taylor situation was and is sad. The problem initially was not that Taylor leaned on her girlfriends for support, but that she dragged them into the situation and used thier sympathy to try to plan to take down Lisa. When Camille didnt want any part of it and said what the issue was with Taylors honesty Taylor then with the help of her husband tried to take down Camille. I still cant understand why someone who was being abused by her husband, would go and tell that husband what Camille said about the abuse? It is just so obsured. It slipped in a therapy session. I really dont buy it. Well the reunion looks like its going to be intense.
Thanks Kyle for your forthrightness, honesty, and kindness and for letting viewers come into your life. At some point, please share your full story about growing up because it could help many people. I get the sense that there is so much there that you are just not ready to share.
I have mixed feelings about Taylor and really don't think I can watch her anymore on the show.
As for Lisa, she's very entertaining and I love to watch her. She's sort of mean to Ken, and I imagine she has a dark side that she doesn't show her fans. But, she's great to watch.
As for Camille, she is almost mute on the show so I can't decide if she's worth having on or it's better to replace her with someone more interesting. I feel that with the gag order her lawyers placed on Bravo, she can do no harm, and that makes it hard to get a view of what she's really like. At the end of the day, in my books, she'll always be a gold-digger.
Adrienne and Paul are marvelous. OMG, the "hot air" scene was so funny. Poor Paul. Though, he can take it.
Don't like Dana - she's too materialistic. As for Brandi, she's fun and light.
I hope you can bring in a couple of new housewive with truly wonderful lives (who are doing great things) into the show next season.
Thanks for a great season. I have looked forward to Monday nights and am sad the season is ending. Thanks for making Monday nights so terrific.
I think your doing the right thing on helping with your sister. Having someone you love go through a hard time getting over and addiction is hard because i know how it is. I was angry at my brother for some time until he understood that the addiction wasnt getting him anywhere. And he understood that his family was always there for him. I believe your doing the right thing by telling her what you feel.
Hi Kyle, I watched the finale last night and it was a great show. I'm glad Kim is getting the help she needs. It has been so obvious this season that some sort of abuse was going on with her. Did I miss something about why she dislikes Brandi so much? It seemed to me that she was acting all "high-school" at the game night episode....ie: not wanting to be on Brandi's team because she didn't know her and already disliked her. I think now she dislikes Brandi so much because Brandi was onto her substance abuse and called her out on it. (?) Also, the night of the white party...when she confronted Brandi....it was painful to watch Kim's behavior. I saw that episode a couple of times and was more and more painful to watch each time. I think her bf, Ken, was probably a bad influence on her and was enabling and doing drugs with her. What a pig! Just a note on Taylor, last night at the end of the show was the BEST I have seen Taylor look.....EVER!!! Good for her :) Anyway, I will miss all of you and look forward to the reunion show. Next, it's ON with the RHWOC!!!!! :))
Best wishes for Kim's future.
I really was disappointed in you during the snippet for the Reunion show!
You do not need to explain or apologize about the interactions with your sister. People who watch the RHWoBH seem to believe that they KNOW you from watching a few hours of edited footage. We do not understand the full dynamics of your family relationships nor should we be so judgmental when we really do not know alot of the story. It aggravates me when people push their opinions down your throat because they think they KNOW how best for you to deal with Kim. You are doing the best you can, however Al Anon would probably give you the support and insight to help your sister and yourself cope in the future. I hope they show much more of your family next season. I so enjoy the scenes with your kids, esp Portia. We do not see enough light hearted family times....the season was so heavy with Taylor's drama and Russells suicide. I hope Taylor is not back next season..she needs to focus on helping Kennedy heal. All the best to you and your family. I hope Kim stays on the positive path she seems to be on. (NO MORE KEN) lol
I spent 4 years angry at my kid for ruining every occasion with his addiction. It got to the point that when he went into rehab, it was a vacation for me. Somebody else was dealing with him and I could acually leave my purse out of a safe. I lost him November 1, 2011. I would do anything to get him back. If you think that being on this show contributes to her problem, throw your weight around and keep her off the show. You're getting some really good advice here. Continue to educate yourself on this subject. My prayers to your family.
I spent a total of 5 months in rehab, I went three times. Each time I came home I swore on my life I was done, I meant it. The times I relapsed I couldn't believe that I was in trouble again, I was embarrassed and so depressed that this disease addiction was ruining my life. It's important for you to know that it is not anybody's fault and nobody can fix it. I've been clean 11 years and my relapse was just apart of me really understanding that I have no power once I use. I hurt my family and friends and even after 11years it makes me want to cry. I learned so much about the disease and that really did help, Kim will KNOW how strong she really is when she gets some time under her belt, It is the most frightening I've ever done, I knew I would die. People need to understand that once an addict gets going you lose the power of choice. I hate it when people say "just stop", people are out of their mind if they think I hurt everyone I love so I could catch a little buzz.....The party was over a LONG time ago, I used because I thought I could "handle" it, I can't, if Kim works with other addicts she will stay clean, I swear it helps me realize where I was and she will understand the disease and she would be an awesome sponsor for someone! I have a degree in .Child Psychology and a semester shy of my Master degree in counseling, I say this because an addict is not the tweeker hiding in the closet, it does not discriminate. Kim on a substance is not the sister you know, when she is clean she will be the sister you've been missing. 12 steps saved my life and now I work with teen addicts. Good Luck to you and IF Kim starts acting weird call her on it, don't listen to what addicts say....watch what they do!
@ Beth, from CT.
You are absolutely right about the envirnment in which these ladies gather. There is usually drinking involved. It's like someone eating a piece of cheesecake in front of you, while you're on a diet! Except with alcohol or smoking, one little sip or puff, can set a person back to the beginning. Unlike a diet, an addict doesn't get a 'cheat night'.
Kyle- I pray that Kim has gotten the help she needs and continues to fight this battle. She'll fight it her whole entire life, so she needs an army to help her through the stuggles that she will continually face in her fight. Don't give up on her. She has already given up on herself, that's why she drinks. Encourage her DIRECTLY- not just in interviews talking ABOUT your sister. Remind Kim of how strong she is and the positive things in her life.
Peace and Blessings
Kyle, I just watched the last episode. You all looked so beautiful at pandoras wedding. Looking back I loved when Taylor talked to you guys at the opening of lisas new restaurant, when you all came together and put your hands on each others. You also made a toast on the last episode that you are so lucky and blessed to have all the ladies in your life. You are lucky in so many ways. Girl friends are the best. You do have your ups and downs but at the end you need each other. I love you guys and I'm sad it's over. I wish I were in your group. I love you all:) I can't wait to read your book and I can't wait to see you guys again! I'll miss you
I absolutely get the relationship between you and Kim because my whole family is in recovery. I think if Kim comes back next season, her storyline should be her recovery because so many viewers struggle with her issues. I understand that the filming of the show is stressful so a healthy group of sober people helping Kim to deal with the stress in a healthy manner is necessary. I'm really proud of Kim for going to rehab. Watching her this season has been stressful. I hope that you continue to confront Kim on unaccepible behavior because that is also paramount in recovery. You were right in saying that letting things go with Kim to keep the peace is not a real relationship. If it is okay with Kim go to a therapy session with her. It is much easier to work threw issues with a therapist I think because they make each party listen to the other, and process the feelings. Like you said, you have an extremely long history, there is strong feelings, and therapy helps. Even though it was very hard on Kim for this issue to come out in front of millions of people, millions of people have the exact same problem. She now has greater accountability, and can potentialy help many people. Everyone knows Kim doesn't like to communicate so when you see her let her know that her fans are proud of her!! Remember that some of this is your story to tell because you are involved as her sister! Love you and Kim! Best wishes always!!!
@JMac 7678: You clearly are not the family member of someone with an addiction. Kyle, I get it. I have a mother with a gambling addiction and when that person in the depths of their disease, you don't know them or get them. You want so bad to help them that sometimes you end up enabling them and finally you have to realize that you really don't have control and in the end it's up to them to get help. I have had others speak unpleasant of my mom and her behavior and I realized that I needed to stop being defensive and realize that they were speaking the truth. What matters the most is the place that other's are coming from when they say something. I don't think that "Brandi's I told you so" look was coming from a bad place. I think that Brandi had a lot of empathy for Kim's situation because she has known many in that same situation. The night at game night, Brandi was simply defending herself against a couple of bully's (although, I don't recommend calling someone a meth addict). It is to Kyle's credit that she recognized her not so pretty behavior and tried to make amends for it. Kim, however was too far into her addiction to realize her own undesirable behavior. We are all human and all fall....it's how we get up that matters. I hope that Kim is finally in a healthy place and continues to stay there. I pray Kyle and her family are able to be there as a support and not a crutch (hard to do sometimes. I know from personal experience) for Kim. And I pray for Taylor and her situation because she was in just as bad of a place, it just wasn't an addiction holding her down, it was an abusive relationship. Great season from all the housewives and friends. Kyle, I hope that you and Brandi can be civil. While you may not have much in commone, you don't have to be mean.
Kyle, I'm so happy for you, Kim, and your family, now that Kim is in sobriety. Please let Kim know that she had more people rooting for her than I think she realized.
I think when most people suggested you walk away from Kim, they didn't mean that you should turn your back on her. Anyone who has dealt with an addict knows how incredibly frustrating it is and how helpless you can feel trying to help them. It's up to Kim to help Kim, and it sounds like she's on her way!
Thank you for sharing part of your lives with us. I'll really miss you Ladies!!
You are a very beautiful, classy lady and a wonderful wife and mother! You also add alot of fun to the group and your life is so interesting! Really enjoyed watching this season, best of luck!