Alcoholism is a disease. Surely this isn't news to you. Being angry with an alcoholic for drinking is like being angry at a polio victim for limping. Kim obviously needed professional help, as has for many years. All your ranting and controlling behavior succeeded in doing was to alienate her. Not only that, but what kind of human being tells a sister that her mother couldn't die in peace because she was so worried about her screw-up daughter? Could you possibly BE any crueler? In addition, the way you treated Brandy when she first came on the show, and at Adrienne's pool party, was disgusting. To sum it up, you have as much work to do, if not more, on self-healing as your sister. Anger management, co-dependency, jealousy... pick one!