Kyle Richards

Kyle shares what she really thinks of Ken and why she couldn't let Kim's late arrival go.

on Jan 11, 20120

I really had been looking forward to Mauricio's birthday in Hawaii. For the first time ever, I was not able to enjoy our White Party. I really felt bad about that because it was also our daughter Alexia's and Faye Resnick's birthdays (Alexia's is June 18th, Mauricio's is June 25th, and Faye's is July 3rd). We always throw the White Party in honor of all of their birthdays.

When Kim told me she was bringing her boyfriend Ken to Hawaii I understood that she wanted to have someone to be with. I wasn't thrilled, obviously, because I had never been a fan of his. One of the issues that Kim and I argue about is her being irresponsible. We all showed up at the airport on time, except for Kim. I was frustrated and disappointed because I thought it would be fun for us to all fly together. That's half the fun!

When I first laid eyes on the island hopper "plane" that was supposed to take us to Lanai, I didn't know if I should laugh or cry. It looked like a 7-Up can with a propeller! It's no secret that I am not a good flyer. However, I will say, that the hypnotherapy you all saw me go through on Season 1 really did help. Carrying the Zohar (the red book you see me holding) also makes me feel better. The girls love to tease me about my issues with flying. Watching the episode and seeing Brandi slumped over in her seat on Xanax, I thought, "OK, I will stick with my Zohar." I become quite religious when I fly.

372 comments
dexdon
dexdon

You are funny. Taylor called Lisa. You were more concerned about Brandi and Ken than Lisa was ...you would have thought he was your husband. Jealousy obviously...is that why you are always so mean to her?

ABC Viewer
ABC Viewer

Kyle: When I watch your show, I think about my experience in Al-Anon. I know you might not know anything about it but I encourage you to go. You will feel freer to separate yourself from your sister and YOU will become happy. Well, I know it has been that way for me and thousands upon thousands of people. I love you.

eileeBen c
eileeBen c

I am not even sure if you read these posts but for what it is worth I think you are a great sister. Continue to support her and she will return the favor when she is well. I also want to praise you for your marriage and your constant attention and love for each other. Continue to be real because that is who you are, and understand you cannot solve everyone you love issues. Be true to you and what you believe, your marriage, your daughters and your true friends and love will alway ssurround you. i enjoy watching you!

Isadora
Isadora

I wish you and Kim health and happiness.

raskewl
raskewl

Kyle, As a sister myself....... Hawaii was hard to watch!!! Your actions keep getting worse towards Kim. I know you say you're in a better place now, and Hopefully you are, but watching that table scene , Kim kept telling you in Hawaii that she was THERE. Like -Please drop it Kyle. Be happy I'm alive and CELEBRATE! If you watch the season, time and time again you choose to call her out in front of EVERYONE making the situation awkward for everyone and showing your own unchecked manners. Nobody witnessing that can enjoy themselves with all that going on. Do you realize how many people you affect aside from KIM? I don't think the belittling was in good taste at all. Your husband's birthday? SAD that you fly all the way to Hawaii- find a bone to pick and you keep picking and picking. You couldn't let it rest even for your husbands sake. Maybe you can reflect on how YOU handle situations and the outcome. Not tasteful. Did anything get resolved by your actions and words? Lisa tried to explain that to you, but you weren't hearing her at the time. You're beautiful on the outside. Practice being a lady of grace. You have a beautiful family and alot to be thankful for everyday. Your example to Kim isn't one that I would like to mirror. I understand your frustrations, but grace is being Kim's confident behind the scenes. Even when you may not understand in black and white what's going on in her life or mind- you can be a friend to her. You mentioned that you hadn't seen her in a long time when you were interviewed. Why you weren't seeking her out behind the camera for a sisterly one-on-one saddened me. GENUINE love and concern in the darkest moments mends many fences. Even when she was pouring out her heart to you at the shop and crying, you're trying to straighten her up and you said......."Don't do that. Don't do that." Like- "You're messing up your makeup, -you're embarrassing me". Why wouldn't she cry? She was trying to reach you! She was breaking and you're throwing the pieces back at her, Did you offer her a place of rest? "Come to my house Kim, rest awhile. Soothe your soul and think. I offer you my love and home. A place to sort it out if you need it." I didn't see that you offered her anything that day. The message to us viewers wasn't one of sincerity, although you cried. Seemed you were more concerned about how things looked for the camera. If you truly care for Kim, remember to treat her as you would like to be treated. Take even a moment and think ----am I being graceful to her? How would I feel if she did this to me ? The condition of the heart is evident in our character and conduct. You may have been disappointed by her actions and choices, (evident in your lashing out) however, Ki'ms heart was so heavy with her inward battle and then more laid on her with the criticism, the pain in her demeanor from the two-fold burdens couldn't be hid and certainly took its toll on her. Is it any wonder Kim hides from activities ?? I wouldn't want to be faced with the constant prattling either. She tried in grace to stop you in Hawaii before it got out of hand several times, not wanting to spoil everyone's lunch, but you insisted, as If she could somehow redeem herself when you weren't going to accept it anyway. She had to leave the table. I truly hope you guys can pave the way to a brighter, more sincere future. Such a beautiful group of ladies. I realize drama is what keeps many viewers tuned in. However, lives are affected. Please don't let Kim continue to be your punching bag. Life is brief. Enjoy the precious moments together. I have two sisters that I love dearly. I know what its like to have the older sister look out for me. I try to mirror the grace shown towards me to my younger sister . Your daughters are watching you and will one day mirror you. I hope things TRULY get better and better between you. All the best~

Lonnie Nielsen
Lonnie Nielsen

Hi Kyle. I watch the serie every day from Denmark and I love it, specially you and your family. Now I want to ask you where is it possible to buy you'r black handbag.

Tweetyhann
Tweetyhann

Kyle, I am happy to hear Kim is getting help for her problem. Addiction is a big part of my family & it is tough to live through, but Kim will come out of this a stronger & more self aware person.

Did she kick that dirtbag Ken to the curb? He is a piece of work & gave me the creeps from the first time I saw him! It is a shame Kim felt he was the one that would make her happy. I wish the best for her & hope she will find happiness within herself soon.

I love the show & all the husbands & wives! You all have more courage to allow everyone a peak into your lives!

Take Care, Jayne

Lacy_Grace
Lacy_Grace

Kyle, As we all know, Kim is in recovery and we are praying for her and cheering her on that she sticks with it. She is a lovely, talented woman who just needs help getting over her anxieties and this can be done with good counseling, 12-step/support groups and if needed, the right kind of anti-anxiety medication (not being mixed with alcohol). What she doesn't need is an "alleged psychic" (who clearly has gotten all of her information from the shows and Google!) "helping" her. Nor, does she need you scolding her over and over again in front of the cameras and in front of friends. I understand your frustration with Kim and her boyfriend's behavior in Hawaii and you certainly had a right to be angry/upset. HOWEVER, my husband - an amazing guy like yours, is a doctor in psychology and frequent "expert guest" on TV, and we both wish you could have chosen a healthier and more responsible way to confront your sister. Not just for the sake of allowing your husband to enjoy his birthday dinner but also for the sake of all of the other guests. It's very obvious from the way last season ended and the humiliation you dealt Kim in not being able to cope with her behavior, that you are very enmeshed with your sister. In this season, you even admitted you treated her like a daughter and "mothered her" too much. This is YOUR part of the problem and at this time you are in a state to do the right thing whereas Kim was not (until hopefully now as she truly gets better). The best and most reasonable thing for you to have done was to seat Kim and her boyfriend at another section of the table and just ignore them and enjoy yourself (pretend to enjoy yourself if necessary for your own sanity and the peace of everyone else there!). You could have confronted her later in private and told her how you felt. You seem to have a need to be "the most popular" housewife/ cast mate from the way you jump in at parties and have to grab attention (like doing the splits and taking the focus from the belly dance instructor, and getting on the table at Pandora's engagement party). Many times you've lost your temper on the shows and this problem in handling your anger is NOT Kim's fault - that is YOUR problem that you will have to work on at some time. I'm thinking of your White Party last season and that poor woman that was obviously drunk and hanging on your husband. To run over and attack her (and Kyle, that finger jabbing in someone's face is incredibly lacking in taste and integrity) was a clear sign you need to deal with your anger better. My husband is a good loooking guy who's frequently on TV (and written best selling books) so I've seen women hitting on him at events but if they're drunk out of their mind, I know it would be ridiculous on my part to start screaming at them! ALSO, when a woman starts to come on to my husband, guess what? HE tactfully removes their arm and asks them politely to respect his space and to NOT disrespect his wife (me). So maybe, if you weren't so overbearing in your behavior, your husband could do what he should do in a situation like that. Do you even see how you "mother" both your husband and your older sister? Btw, what happens when a woman flirts with your husband when your NOT there??? As much as I hope Kim recovers and stays on track to find true happiness, I also hope you seek help in your co-dependence with her. (CODA are great support groups for this -- bogus psychics are not). We sincerely wish healing and wellness for you, your sister, and your families.

Chris C.
Chris C.

Kyle, are you the voice of Ceravé ? I saw a late night commercial and the voice over or spokesperson sounded like it was you. I used to do voiceovers for videogames and I am really good usually at hearing a voce and recognizing it. Just curious.

vintageglam
vintageglam

I think that one must remember that the problem is the drug, not the person on drugs. Kim has an illness that needs to be treated and will always need to be treated in order to be in control of it. Family members of addicts also need to be treated because sometimes the family members of the addicts have feelings of resentment, anger, distrust, etc, and its hard to interact with the addict after rehab when these feelings still linger on. It's important to see the drug as the problem, and not the person. Their actions are what they are due to the substance and not because thats who they are. I really wish your sister much luck in her recovery but I also encourage you to get help to deal with having an addict in your family. Groups such as ALANON can be of help.

Viewerteresa
Viewerteresa

kyle,

my mother died from complications of alcoholism. it's hard to watch someone kill themselves, without anger, love, fear, and apprehension. Kim may relapse, but it's part of the disease for some. i wouldn't be surprised if she relapses - she's born to drama. if she could work on that in treatment, she has a better chance of living a long, happy life.

i screamed at my mother. i begged her. i hospitalized her. i loved her. she died when i was 27 years old. she was 48. i am now 54. i've lived half my life without her, and the pain never leaves. the other day i was thinking about something and thought about calling her. then i realized i've never stopped needing her. kim is reminding me of my mother, and it all comes flooding back.

i don't regret yelling and screaming at her to LIVE! it looked really bad to the outside, but i love her, and i'd do anything to keep her or have her back.

kim is a lucky woman to have family that loves her as much as you do. my mother only had me.

luck to you and yours.

Susan Brown
Susan Brown

Kyle, I have watched you deal with your sister and truly do understand your frustration and anger. I always had an element of guilt that I was not doing enough for my sister...when, in fact, I tried too hard. I would love to talk with you someday....we seem to be alike. I am so glad to see your use of humor. You are quick to laugh and enjoy your family. I have 2 sons who are both out on their own, but I treasure our times together - laughing, confiding, loving. Perhaps we will meet for the spa day.....but if I do not win the contest, I still hope to cross paths with you someday. Best Wishes, Susan Brown

cheryllleee
cheryllleee

Hi Kyle, I was a fan of yours last season. This season I'm not really sure. Yes, you're imperfect, we all are. I just feel like you allowed Taylor, who in my opinion is mentally ill and a master manipulator, regardless of what circumstances made her that way, to insinuate herself in your life while she systematically broke down all your relationships with people she felt threatened by (and by threatened I mean she felt they were closer to you than her). She was the one who instigated ALL the arguments and confrontations between you and Camille, you and Kim and you and Lisa in both seasons. Taylor (Shana Hughes) is the one common denominator in every key argument in two seasons. I hope that your compassion for a broken person doesn't leave you picking up the shattered pieces of all your other friendships.

RebaD
RebaD

Now that Kim has sought treatment for her addictions, it is time to let her live and learn on her own. She is a grown woman. I know it is hard to watch someone get and fall down again, several times, but they will NEVER learn anything if we enable them. As for setting to straighten things with her on Mauricio's Bday was just wrong in so many ways. It was rude to do with your guests in attendance, as well as it being a get away for your husband. Then to see how Ken was also as frustrated with Kim in getting ready for the dinner, it seems that she has a lot of growing to do and it seems that you are stunting this growth. You cannot help her, she has to do it for HERSELF! It's plain and simple. She doesn't drink because of you so why would she stop for you? Do you get where I'm coming from? Anyway, do love the idea that you are loyal to your sister and familiy, however, it is time to let go, as one does with a child heading to college....

Judith Cauldwell
Judith Cauldwell

Kyle, I think you are the most beautiful, inside and out, the kindest woman I have seen in a long time. I haven't been able to get it straight, You are Kim's younger sister right?! You certainly look younger. You are so sweet and you have a very handsome hubby, who loves you so much! That is obvious! You always try to look for the best in everyone. I understand why you were so upset with Brandi, but it did look bad. To go to someone's house and spend so much time in the bathroom. I feel so bad for you that you get dragged into all Kim's problems, whatever they are. It is her business and only her business, but it is obvious that something is going on. Maybe her Dr should change her meds. Whatever it is, it is bad that her and her kids have to go thru all that. Then there is you and your family. How much are you suppossed to take? It is not your fault or your responsibility to do anything about your sister's antics. She is a grown woman and you should not feel guilty for the house, her behavior or anything else.... I wish you all only the best!!! God Bless

erin elizabeth:)
erin elizabeth:)

did your husband want to go to hawaii with a bunch of his wives friends for his birthday?!

kpjohnson
kpjohnson

I mis-judged you last season. I'm sorry.

Viewer
Viewer

I hate it when you cry, You make me cry too!.. cant believe im on this blog, but i do feel for you in those moments.

Viewer from Maryland
Viewer from Maryland

You are such a good sister for trying to take care of Kim but I hope she does not come back. She makes the reruns impossible to watch. You were rude to your guests for holding them up to wait for Kim. I hope without Kim on camera you can concentrate on your family and friends.

MissMisty
MissMisty

Nursecarolyn, I could not agree with you more! Controlling, so early in the relationship, not to mention being jealous and paranoid, thinking that everyone is talking about him. Uh uh... NO!! That right there would have me running to the hills, or someones house. But, I've been through it for many years and many tears, so that's easier said then done. And, sisterhood is hard, but y'all are blood and really close so I can understand you watching over her. If something was to happen to her you'd never forgive yourself, and Kyle, that's a tough job and it takes a lot out of you so I guess no one really knows what to do as everyone is different.

Good luck to you two! :)

PS. I read that she went into rehab but after a week left?? Anyone know if that's true?

Pampi
Pampi

Kyle, I understand what you are going through with Kim. I am hoping her rehab has taught her to be a stronger person. Some of the bloggers must have forgotten how much you and Mauricio have been there to help Kim and I can see why you are concerned about the choices she makes. Keep being the sister you are Kyle.

ksue
ksue

I could see the frustration Ken had dealing with Kim. I think you are unfair to him, he might not be your cup of tea, but maybe you should be thanking him for trying to take care of her. You shouldn't have confronted Kim at your dinner party, I don't know how you would think that would be a good idea. I can see you really love your sister and are concerned for her, but you are going about it all wrong. I don't know, I think I'm still not over how mean you were to Brandi either. I'm so disappointed this season, not much fun, but lots of meanness.

Carolann Altobelli
Carolann Altobelli

Hi Kyle, I just wanted to let you know that your my favorite housewive! I am 10 and i love this show! i feel terrible for Kim after she said what Ken does and says to her. GOOD LUCK!!!!! From: CAROLANN

dobemom
dobemom

Who know if you read any comments but here goes. I appreciate your frustration about KIm and if the press reports are accurate, I am glad she is in rehab. I do have one issue and that is - did you have to pick your husband's birthday trip as the time to call out Kim? A birthday is joyous and a celebration. Would it have been wrong to at least think about postponing your discussion and subsequent tears about Kim's behavior? I know you say that you approach issues directly but humiiation of another on camera with the rest of the gang may not have been the best timing. Maybe privately would have been more suitable. You and Kim could easily have addressed your issues on camera when the two of you were talking versus how uncomfortable you seem to make the others at 2 dinners on a Hawaiian vacation for your husband. Again, the celebration should have been the focus not such hostility with your sister and partner. Millions saw this and I must ask what lesson you wanted people to take away from the experience. Direct is great; timing is more important. Proper timing takes away most of the attack mentality when a crowd is present.

Lynn4819
Lynn4819

A big WOW for the opening of **Sur** and so much drama including Cedrick. What a set of B**** he has and I'm glad he was told to leave. And then we have Kim..Oh My Kyle..I have been watching each show leading up to this one and knew it would have to bust out sooner or later. IMO Kim is saying ANYTHING to cause some drama in your life and wants everyone to FEEL sorry for her..poor little Kim? I have to wonder what was the truth about Ken..He seemed very attentive to Kim the several times they have been on camera. Lordy..who would not be **over the edge** trying to take care of Kim? Kim knows she is on camera and does her darnest to put on a show. I feel she absolutely needs help but I would also try some tough love with Kim...And now for Taylor...after watching her at Brandi's party and now at Sur..sorry Kyle but I still feel she is after attention as well. And I think she now has all you ladies right where she wants you. Something still stinking in Taylor's life and behavior..IMO of course. We all know of Russell's passing and how sad I feel for Kennedy and his other children...I just can't seem to trust everything Taylor is saying. And now she brings her *shrink* with her..??? Was it for backup or was it a *date*?? Will miss you gals and will watch all the re-runs of course..and hope all of you return back into our lives/your fans. xoxoxoxoxoxo

yellow rose
yellow rose

Why didn't you let Kim buy back her interest in your family home? Saying she is welcome in your home anytime doesn't cut it.

meme009
meme009

Kyle, Just want you to know that Your little girl is so cute. I just love seeing her on tv with you.

Aileen
Aileen

Step back & let Kim live her life the way she wants to. Ken is a victim of Kim's impairment too.

YogiDaBear
YogiDaBear

Kyle, you are an amazing Mother and a wonderful wife. You are a very loving and devoted sister to Kim, although sometimes things don't get handled the right way with her. Her boyfriend Ken is a total control freak and horrible with her. She seemed to just be soooo lonely that she 'tolerated' him and thought it would be a good idea to move in with her. My heart breaks for Kim. I wish her well and hope that everything in her life straightens out and that you and her resume your close sister relationship you used to have. I know it's been really hard on you trying to deal with all of Kim's issues, personal problems, relationship problems and mostly trying to not expose her very personal addiction problem right on live television. It was like when Camille finally said something out loud on television about Taylor being abused by Russell. You try not to go there and say anything on live t.v. Some things just can't be hidden because of erratic behavior. I feel for you Kyle. I have a sister who has a prescription drug problem and my family just sweeps it under the carpet and nobody talks about it or does anything about it. I'm always fearful of getting that 'Phone Call' that something horrible has happened to her or a car accident or something. My heart really aches for you. It's really tough and when you have a loved family member that is going through something like this you feel helpless. Kim seems that she has been avoiding you because she just doesn't want to hear about from you. She knows that you love her Kyle, but she hasn't excepted responsibility for her addiction and is basically in denial.

One of the things that I want to bring up that both has to do with all of this and I haven't seen anyone mentioning is when Kim told you that she was 3 months late for her period. Is she indeed pregnant? If so, what is happening with that and the fact of her being in rehab and the repercussions of being pregnant and on drugs (whether prescription or not)? This has been on my mind since I watched the show. I thought for sure that someone would ask when you were on WWHL, but it didn't.

By the way.... you and Mauricio are an Amazing couple. You can totally tell that you guys have a Great relationship and you are very lucky. Couples in Hollywood don't usually have what you two have. I'm so happy for you guys.

I wish you all the love and luck in the world with what you are going through with Kim. Feel free to personally contact me if you want to chat. I know what you are going through. I am just really, really glad to hear that Kim is no longer with Ken. I don't know how she stood for him being sooooo controlling. Man, she couldn't go anywhere or be on the phone without him being up her keester. She must have felt so smothered and depressed. I know that she has been so lonely for so long. But, she needs to find a healthy and happy relationship to be in. Maybe Patti Stanger can find her "Mr. Right".

Much Love and Great Big Hugs, Darlene (your biggest fan)

layoffkim
layoffkim

Kyle, you really should stop trying to control Kim. You micromanage her entire life and decided to hate her boyfriend after you met him once. Maybe if you love her as she is she won't have to take valium to be around you!

debi
debi

You have a beautiful life, beautiful family and a beautiful soul. You need to show your sister some tough love and stop over looking her excuses for her rude behavior. Time to cut the cord and let her find herself again. Life is way too short to being worrying about a grown woman who has some obvious mental issues. I think the way you and Mauricio handled the lateness situation was spot on. I would not have been as kind as you both were.

Nursecarolyn
Nursecarolyn

That's the best our beautiful Kim Richards can do for a boyfriend?! That really was the defining moment for me, seeing her settle for a controlling, obviously jealous man. And I know that you and Mauricio will be there for her. People really don't understand the complicated dynamics between a family member in crisis, and the supporting family members. None of us have a right to judge how you should handle the situation with your sister, easy to say, not easy to do in reality. God bless you, God bless Kim. My prayers are with you both.

Lmvw
Lmvw

How about a blog the day after the show???????

JojoWB
JojoWB

Kyle there is a lot going on for you and I am sure it is all overwhelming at times. But the issues surrounding Kim and Ken are really fairly familiar to me. As a single mom, it is very difficult. I make NO excuses for the lies and no shows. But Kim needs to find peace within herself. She has to start with her and therefor end with her. The only thing you can do is be her sister, set the boundaries, chose your battles wisely, and try to let her do the talking when the opportunity arrives. Ken?? I don't know what she saw in him, TV can be deceiving at times. But honestly, a weak moment and a charming a-- can portray itself as a dream come true. I love what you try to do for your sister, and I pray someday she listens and then does the work. But as hard as it is, she has to do this for herself. Sometimes hitting rock bottom is the best way to learn a lesson. Love yah!

Ashlis
Ashlis

I highly doubt u will read this one little comment in the plethora of advice you are being innundated with...best advice is no advice for if advice were taken the world would be a different place :) HOWEVER since I can't resist, Taylor has ruined ur rare and precious friendship with Lisa probably for good, Kim is seriously in trouble whether u all remain in denial or not is irrelevant to her, she is so lost that I don't blame Ken since she has to be an incredibly infuriating individual to be with. People are so shallow and appearance obsessed that they have hated him from the start....if he looked different u guys would have been all over him and u know it :)

real housewives junkie
real housewives junkie

Hi Kyle, You are a good sister to Kim. I agree with how you and Mauricio hold her accountable and don't enable the substance abuse. You did enable Kim on Dana's game night, which did Kim no good. The boyfriend, Ken was gross. He looked like he had chewing tobacco in his mouth at all times. Glad he is gone.

Malibu210
Malibu210

Kyle, why doesn't your older sister Kathy ever appear on the show with you and Kim?

Ashr
Ashr

I think ken was taking care of your sister because she was wasted and falling apart. That's why he seems to be controlling but he is really trying to pull her together and make sure she doesn't make to big of a fool of her self

Team Kyle
Team Kyle

I am only posting because I can't stand to read all of these total strangers weighing in on your behavior and Kim's illness as if they know anything about you or your life. Every addict is different and every family has its own dynamics. Although I am also a total stranger, I wanted to send a positive and non judgemental message.

Stay strong, trust your gut, and just let the haters hate (they are going to hate no matter what you do or say). You have a beautiful family and are an amazing mother and sister. You and Mauricio were so funny on WWHL last night! It's obvious you are perfect for each other and have so much fun together - you are a joy to watch.

I'm sad this season is coming to a close and hope you have signed on for another season - I can't imagine not watching RHBH!

All the best to you and your family.

InMyHonestOpinion
InMyHonestOpinion

Kyle, I'm puzzled. You're snooty to: a) Camille, and now you're friends; b) Brandi, and now you're friends; and now the target is: c) Ken. What is it about Ken that bothers you so much? What? It hasn't been evident in the show, we've barely had a chance to get to know him prior to your dissing him. Help me out please? Thanks!

MaDonna Medley
MaDonna Medley

Kyle, I really hate to see that you and Kim have had a rough go and I know there are many things UNSEEN to the world. We judge by what we view, however, I understand that Kim has had some personal issues that she's been dealing with and you're just tired of covering for her when she had to "deal" with them on national television. It has to be extremely hard to deal with this as a family while the entire world watches. I pray that things are better and there will be continued healing for everyone involved. You guys are real people even though we watch you all on a television show, so I pray for you all. You all make me smile during the funny times and cry during the sad times. You all live the life so many of us long for, but since it hasn't happened for us, we'll watch you all live it up in BH!!!! Love the show so much!!!

ViewerfromDC
ViewerfromDC

Kyle you need to go to AL-Anon. Your sister is an addict and it affects your behavior. You need to learn how to separate her addiction from her. With the addicts in my life I simply tell them that I can only be around him or speak to him when he is not on drugs or alcohol I no longer blame him for his addiction, I just know that I love him and I can only talk to him when he is himself. Al-anon teaches you to be responsible for your behavior and stop reacting to the behavior of the addict.

Fl viewer
Fl viewer

I think Ken has been a victim, and so have you, of Kim's manipulations. I'm convinced now after the last episode. She's secretive and always blaming -- you, Ken, someone else. She plays people against each other. Don't you see this?

terri lynn
terri lynn

Hi Kyle! I read your book and loved it! Thank you for the tips! Specially that irresistible Mcevoy gloss.They should pay you because they are probably selling more! :) I think you should be a Pantene spokesperson too. Regarding your sister, I feel that you need some assistance, maybe with a professional. This situation has been so horribly hurtful to you and I do need you need a specialized person to walk you through it. I feel you are a being co-dependant and are still trying to control her. When I saw you on the show with Mauriciol, WWHL, you said, "she's is not with Ken and won't be if I have anything to do with it!" You need to let her go! She will not get better if you don't. Addiction not only hurts the addict, but their surrounding family. Your deep suffering is affecting your children and your husband. I hope you find the way, because you seem to be a good person.

Good luck!!

Lively1
Lively1

Kyle, I love you really! you are incredable. I wish I had you as a friend.. I also feel that everyone is trying to offer advice about Kim and the truth is your going to continue on the same path as you are now - "Until you get tired of it" then you will have a good sit down with Kim and maybe an intervention then back off and let her take control of her own life. I am not a big fan of Kim most of the time I want to jerk her arm she is so immature and dependant on you or now Ken, but sister's continue to look after one another. Please stop for yourself and for your family. Everyone loves you and I want to see more of you. I love your home, the clothes you wear I think your beautiful really I do, but Kim's problems are not your's dont make them your's. I feel sorry for her but you cannot fix her. I think she feeds off of the attention and is so draumatic...anyway, I love this show more than any other on Bravo but I want to see progression with everyone also, Keep on being the wonderful you that you are. Lot's of love.

Jerri Wright
Jerri Wright

Just a comment: Ken is different. Do you think he is trying to help Kim with her drug problem and also keep it quiet to Kyle and the public which makes him appear sneaky. Just an observation He seemed very irratated when Kim was lolly-gagging around getting ready and searching thru bag after bag for "something". There is something very odd with him but drug addicts usually find eachother. Kyle, as hard as it is, you're going to have to let Kim hit her bottom on her own time otherwise you will continue to be hurt. I've been waiting for 28 years for my brother to hit his bottom and have been hurt everytime he had a plan and can't/doesn't follow through. I lose hope everytime. Good luck and I pray Kim's bottom isn't fatal. Sorry so doom and gloom.

DarcDarc
DarcDarc

I skim these blogs and kind of chuckle how viewers become so vehemently invested and then I realize I am too I suppose. Most of the blogs are just people venting but I stopped at “BlackandBalack’S” blog. She was RIGHT ON THE MONEY. Kyle, I understand Kim is in rehab, but addiction is a lifelong struggle; even if she comes outta there smiling and whistling “Dixie.” You, your sister, SOMEONE needs to listen to what’s built and built in her to get here. “blackand balck wrote:” Just the fact that she is missing her period should alarm you that her mental and physical health is suffering. All this time you did not see her, you was living in your own world. You only call her when she is late to the event. If she would be my sister, you would be in constant contact with her. Yet the only time learn she has problems is when there are cameras rolling and she happens to attend the event. Saying that you love her is just words. Holding her broken heart and carrying her into the health is what you should be doing with your very sick sister. Other then your crying on camera how tired you are of carrying for her, I just don’t see any prove of it. But I do see you attacking her and blaming her and get angry at her. Always demanding some behavior from Kim as if you are blind to the fact that she is not well and can not deliver your demands.”

She was right, at the Sur party, she was so far past where you were in pain, she was “screaming” for help, and all you wanted her to do was admit to YOU, that somehow you were right and you wanted an apology. Kim knows you love her, really if we’re being honest; you’re the only one in that group of ladies who does. The rest I’m sure, all really “care” about her. You don’t need an apology, you need to help Kim or she is going to be gone. Everyone keeps writing about Kim taking too much Xanax or mixing prescription drugs. Good Lord, are you kidding me? I’m a drug counselor, and those scenes leading to the party were TEXT BOOK drug use, if you’re taking Xanax, they last a long time. You throw 8 or 15 in your purse and you’re very functionable. KIM, I couldn’t believe “aired” her actions, my god she was screaming for someone to notice. When you’re on some illegal drug, the quick high, those are the ones you need to make sure you have - you literally move every 20 minutes positioning yourself to be able to have and to “set up” what you need. If you’re going to a party, you have to take the set up with you and have enough to last every emotional encounter with a matched “hit.” Kim looked as if she was arranging for a very long night of encounters. The last thing she needed was you demanding an apology. Kyle, I know you love Kim, but if you continue making this all about YOU, Kim is going to be gone and then you have a lifetime to live with that. Don’t worry about your apology until she gets clean, stays so for a year and then work out your past issues, believe me, if she stays clean, she will WANT to and yes, you are owed an apology and she will give it, but not now! Are you that wrapped up in this show that you can’t see what’s in front of you, or have you always been this self-involved with her? You wanted Kim to “act responsible” like writing the utilities check and calling when she is going to be late, and KYLE, she can’t even move room to room without being discombobulated. This is just a show, find drama for ratings elsewhere. Don’t use Kim. Are you guys waiting for another tragedy? Here you were wanting Kim AGAIN to say she was sorry for being late, and ruining YOUR life, and she was so far gone she could barely find her way out of the bathroom. If you noticed, the only two who haven’t judged her are Paul and Adrienne, and she clung to them like a puppy, Adrienne is handling your sister better than you right now, follow her lead, it’s not about you…right now.

Packer fan
Packer fan

More Brandi! Less Kyle! Sorry, sister, but you're not as fab as you think you are, and your sister needs help. Stop playing to the camera and help your whacked out sister, now that she's out of rehab! I agree with Krazy Kim, though...I do think that you look down on her because she isn't 'like you'....(again, you're not that fab)! You seem a little judgy of her..and just a tad snooty. I'm sorry to be so harsh, but come on! I would hate to see RHOBH put more of the spotlight on you and your so-so family, and less on the REAL women on that show like Camille, BRANDI and Lisa! Now, THOSE 3 are truly FAB and FUNNY! Not a Kyle fan, A packer fan

April Voss
April Voss

Kyle, you are so amazing! You are my ultimate favorite housewife ever! You speak your truth, you love your friends and family, you are a true role model for women. Just keep being you! Women aspire to be real and true just like you. It rhymes. Go California! Hottest women in the world.

kathy from florida
kathy from florida

Hi Kyle...I can so relate to you! I too am 42 with long dark hair with a sister who's 46 and blonde...We go through the same issues as you and Kim..she also had a substance abuse problem but what affects me so and watching you guys makes me feel like I'm not the only one.. she is self absorbed ..never once has apologize f for all the hurtful things she had done to me..never owns up..take respomdibilitu I love her so much and want us to be best friends .but I'm do tired of it being one sided ...ugghggg