Anyway, I knew I wasn't going to get anywhere with Kim that night and had resolved to let it go and just have fun on our trip. However, when Kim kept us waiting again the next morning, I was embarrassed. It's different when it's your sister. If it had been a friend I wouldn't have felt the same. After waiting in the bus and then trying to get her out of her room, we had been waiting almost an hour. I felt a combination of frustration, sadness, and guilt that she would be missing another beautiful day in Hawaii. We DID have fun and laughed a lot that day. I was happy once I got past the guilt of seeing my sister at the dock.
On our way to dinner that night we had barely spoken. She stayed near Ken and laughed with the girls but never mentioned the boat or barely seeing any of us on what was supposed to be Mauricio's birthday party. At dinner, I could no longer pretend everything was OK. Ken wasn't helping matters either. I didn't trust him and felt he was not a positive influence on my sister. He knew I didn't care for him and made sure I knew he felt the same about me. No love lost there.
I was very worried about my sister and didn't care what he thought about me. I know I seem overly emotional at times regarding my sister but I had been keeping a lot inside. We already put so much of our lives out there but I felt certain things were a private family matter. However, not for long. . .
Until next week. . .
XO , KYLE
Follow me on twitter @KyleRichards18
Kyle- Ken's not exactly easy on the eyes but hey, I was willing to give him a shot for Kim. Woah. I was wrong. What an ass. He confronts Adrianne and Paul because he's totally paranoid and then tells you he "doesn't care" that you're upset. He's kinda ugly inside too. But you have to let it go. Kim's a big girl.
I know it's hard and I'm sure things are different now than they were back during filming, but sometimes distancing yourself is the best thing you can do both for you and the individual who is suffering at the time.
Kyle, Kim likes to sweep things under the carpet while you like to put it on the table. Obviously, that's a big difference in handling problems. Kim and Ken acted as though they were on their own vacation; apart from the group. You were hell bent on them conforming to your vision of the trip. Kim has set herself away from everyone since day 1 of season 1. Why bother constantly banging your head against the brick wall of Kim's obstinacy? You're too overbearing and drama filled this season. I agree with your assessment of the boyfriend. You must have agreed with Brandi's comment. She was right.
You are way too involved in your sister's business. I cannot believe you were listening at the adjoining wall in the hotel in peeking in her room. That's just weird. Let her live her life. You can't make her desisions for her so back off and let her stand or fall on her own!
At the begining of the season, I didn't like you at all. But now I have to admit... LOVING YOU! Hope things get better for you and Kim. Totally enjoyed watching you and Lisa "break into" Kim's room. Love the strong unit you and your husband are. Thank you for letting us peek into your lives.
Obviously, your "grilling", expectations, and the whatever you have been doing is not working with Kim. You knew what could or could not happen when you invited her. I know she is your OLDER sister, but, maybe it is time you step back from the situation. Was it rude for her to be so late? Yes. Could they have missed the wake up call? Plausable. I can see why she removed herself from the situation at the dinner table. It was clear she didn't want to air dirty laundry. You say she and your husband have never fought. I highly doubt that because there has been a seen where you said he still has a lot of issues with her. You do this often with people you see as broken. Whom you view only dreams of having your life. You come off as if you have all the answers. That they should follow in your path. Quite frankly it is very off putting. Same goes for Taylor. She is exhausting and yet you kept trying to fix her. It seemd she rather liked to be the center of attention even if it came at the expense of negative behavior.
Kyle, I'll be honest with you. After some of your antics this season, especially your treatment of Brandy, it's been hard to root for you, but seeing Kim last week and in this week's episode you have one hot mess on your hands and I truly feel for you. You need to force her to own her actions and not put yourself in the position of feeling like you have to rescue her or make excuses for her. Her behavior is deplorable and now she's found a runnin' buddy who's just like her. Honest to God, how you kept from losing your temper is beyond me. He was disrespectful to his hosts (as was Kim) in every way imaginable and if he was my guest would have been asked to leave and if he took Kim with him, all the better. It's great that you love her, but sometimes the best way to help her is to cut her loose and stop making her problems your problems. This is on Kim. 150%. I'm speaking from experience.
Happy , Healthy, and Joyous New Year Kyle. Must tell you that everyone i speak to says the same thing, the love and devotion you show to your Family, is quite real. The Strength you have with getting Yo-Yo'ed every other episode by Dear Kim.. is outstanding and to be admired. Most just love your fun side, and agree that this season you didnt get much of a chance to show that side. That said, i have been wondering if the strength you show, and devotion could be one factor in Kim's behavior towards you. Kim shows signs of 'rebelliousness'. Like the Teen that never had that chance to Rebel... it has to come out sooner or later. You could represent, in your need to protect, a kind of Doting that Kim responds to as being reprimanded.. and you become her 'Target'. She knows how to push your Buttons, but you have installed a few in her as well. The good part about all that is , it's classic. Nearly every Family that has more than one early on 'over-achiever' in the same fold, will have the same dynamic as you and Kim share. I mention all this as the most recent news shows Kim is home now. I know you have been anxiously waiting for her... and many of us out here that have been concerned about her are glad about her recovery. She deserves to be good to herself. You just keep doing what you are doing, and dont change a thing. Wishing you and your Family all the best. Now, i will have to go thru withdrawals myself, as your 2nd Season Ends! ..Oh the Misery !
What a beautiful vacation SPOILED by tour sister and that mongrel - so sad! U did nothing wrong but care - shame on her....I know she is "sick" but still not fair for her to ruin vacation for everyone! Love u and Mauricio!
Oh Kyle, I felt SO Bad for you this episode.
I hope that you can rest easy now that Kim is in rehab.
Best New Years Wishes!
P.S. I'm glad that you and Brandi are getting along. It really is refreshing to see that you've begun to treat her with respect. =) Kudos Kyle!
One of the toughest things in life is to love and set boundaries for those you love.
This is one of the greatest show on T.V. today. It show people with money have problems too. Now if it only show people with money set boundaries for the times when things turn south.
If Kim wants her life this way with a man that looks like he's sitting on thumb tacks all the time. LET HER GO.
I'm sure this blog was difficult for you to write because Kim is your sister and of couse the trip to Hawaii was on behalf of your husband. In addition to that Kim just left rehab and the reality today could be quite different then it was then, but your job is to discuss the recent episode shown.
I have been sober now for close to 20 years, but had 15 very destructive years prior to that. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy and trust me, it IS an illness, it's NOT a choice. However, that's also not an excuse. I applaud Kim for having the courage to face her demons on national television. She'll probably save a life or two for doing so. Believe me, in the depths of the disease,you just want to be alone. Isolated. Being around "normal " people is extremely uncomfortable. Especially family/friends. I think that's why you see Kim's behavior being so contridictory. Her normal self wants to be there, wants to participate in life. The disease says run away....the disease usually wins.
I'm very proud of Kim for going to rehab and making the effort to battle this disease. It's not easy but it's SO worth it. I think you should also get help for it Kyle. You need to learn to not take her disease behavior personally. You need to understand that you cannot fix this. You have a very strong personality and Kim (in her disease state) is fragile. You are over-bearing, even though your intentions are good. She doesn't need that. I also feel that the stronger she gets, the more you pounce because you are also attached to your "role" as fixer, protector, etc. The people around the addict are just as sick as the addict, and as fiercly attached to their dysfunctional role in it all.
I say this all with sincerety to help, not to hurt. It is what it is and pretending otherwisze is just foolish and hurtful for everyone involved. Your personal power lies in your choices. You have the choice to accept Kim exactly as she is, wherever she is, or to leave her alone. No more "where are you " phone calls, no more helping her with her make-up in the bathroom, no more excuses, no more playing the victim to her unpredictable behavior. Just leave her alone and you watch, once she KNOWS the gig is up, she'll come around better than new. I really think Kim is going to surprise everyone. The two of you need to let the past go too. It's all water under the bridge, you both made mistakes. It's over.
I wish you all the best.
I just have to ask a few questions. Why did Kim have to explain why she didn't want to travel with the group to Hawaii? And why can't she decide not to do an event? Why does everyone have to do everything together?
Kyle - I know that you and Mauricio have taken some heat from viewers regarding the manner in which the issues with Kim were handled, and I want to tell you that I truly sympathize with you. Kim was abhorrently flippant, totally selfish, childish and out of touch with reality. Her behavior, not only on this trip, but throughout the season, was a red flag too large and obvious to ignore … besides, she definitely owed Mauricio a direct and *sincere* apology, in addition to the entire group for persistently, continually, derailing/affecting their plans. Kim's behavior during that trip must have been tearing you apart inside -- with anger and frustration for what she was doing to you (and everyone else as well), as well as extreme concern/worry for the clear and present danger in which Kim had placed herself - defiantly refusing all help.
By signing up for this reality show, Kim agreed to put her life on display in return for notoriety and renumeration and in doing so, she has caused the viewers of RHWOBH to feel deeply concerned for her welfare. As a result, the viewers also want STRAIGHT ANSWERS regarding Kim's issues … it isn't right for her to publicly showcase such obvious dysfunction and then play the 'privacy card' when it comes to the issues at the root cause. Kim volunteered to open up her life for broadcast, she enjoys the benefits/payments from the show, and I'm assuming that she is so out of touch with reality that she does not realize how blatantly clear her issues come across on camera.
Honestly, we deserve ANSWERS regarding Kim and what is afflicting her … and I truly hope we get them.
(Kyle - you are blessed to have a husband who loves you so much. I saw the way he looked at you at the final Hawaii dinner --- and seeing you so upset/hurt by Kim's lies, Mauricio confronted Kim. It was so clearly an act of love and solidarity … something I always wanted but never had when I was married. How wonderful that you have a man like Mauricio.)
You were being a concerned sister, and it has been evicent since the first season the you love and care for her, but people need to experince the consequences of thir actions. I hope your sister can get the help she needs and find someones who will support and not enable her.
Life is to short, and you should just be happy to have a sister and let her be Who she wants to be, and love her unconditionally, Not on your terms, That's REAL LOVE!!
Loved this episode. You and Lisa together are hilarious - she definitely has your back. It was so funny to see you stand behind Lisa when knocking at Kim's door. Lisa gives you great advise and insight about your sister. When you are with Lisa you look comfortable and relaxed - no drama - just fun.
Kyle my heart breaks for you!! I have six sisters and there is sooo much drama with us but there is one that I swear talks and acts just like Kim!!! Everytime I see Kim, I think of my sister and she's got a problem with drugs! I know it's easier said than done but what I do is just remove myself from the situation because I've got a bad Irish temper and I've let loose before and I was lucky I didn't hurt her, I just got so overwhelmed!! You guys look like you had a great time without Kim there, too bad she didn't just stay home and you would have had a blast the whole time!! Let it go Kim, it's not worth trying to save someone who doesn't acknowledge the problems. I wish you nothing but happiness and love!
you are one of my favorites :)
I am very sorry about your sister. You probably know this, but people with those problems are not well aware of others. You cannot control them or expect them to act rationally or courteously.
I feel very bad for you, and what you have probably been through. But you need to learn how to detach in a loving way.
Good luck and God bless you!
Wow Kyle. This is the first time I can say that I have empathy for you, or have "liked you". I have only started watching this season. Your actions have not translated well. I think the reason you might come off in a prudish manner, or judgmental, as others might say, is because you want it to be known that you are fun, but there are limits to how far you should take it. Approving of others would show to your sister that you too approve of how far she takes her "fun". This is what is lost in your translation, and comes across as overbearing or jealous. Just because you say, and say, and say, and say...doesn't make it true. I think this is your defense mechanism- to fake it until you make it. Profess that Kim doesn't have a drug problem, mother hen her, and stay on her butt, then it passes. Say your family is strong and intact, forge ahead, and rough patches pass. You use this as a defense mechanism, I understand. But you only come across as disingenuous. You cleave to Taylor to sell your method, but faking it never really works for long unless that person is willing to fix the underlying problem. And that is the key right there. THAT person has to want to change and fix it. Their intensions need to be pure. You would come out a lot better if you would be honest as well, and realize that you cannot control and fix everything. Life is a process, and it is not a pass or fail. It is how we handle each bump along the way that we will be judged for. I am not saying not to be tough on Kim. I would probably do the same thing. But Kim has to want to change, and being there to bail her out all of the time will not help her come to this conclusion any sooner. As far as your body image is concerned...you are beautiful the way you are. If you would not shell out your insecurities on others like Brandi, you would come out winning the beauty pageant every time. Others want your husband...no, not really. You keep talking about "stay away from my husband" when really, Maricio needs to be taking care of that. You never should feel that a threat is about to take your husband away..but this is not the fault of the women...this is Maricio's job to make you feel secure and say what he needs to keep the women at bay. You just need to say "thank you, I know, he's hot", we both are lucky to have each other. If you are worried about your middle, well, look at your beautiful children and thank them. Yes, you are busy and have four kids, but take the energy and anger that you waste on Kim, put it around your waist and hit the pavement. Then, you win. Okay last thing..I say all of these things because these are issues I fight within myself every day. Signed- Beginning to really love ya.
Kyle, I can 100% agree with your frustration of Kim and your not trusting Ken, but seriously? Did Mauricio have to do that to them? It was embarrassing for your friends, even Lisa told you to stop it. Why did you choose to ruin thing? You were right next door to Kim and you were upset about that, so why are you saying you wanted her there, even Mauricio said "who would want to be stuck out here with her for 3 hours" how is that wanting her there? You have some serious issues with Kim and I know why, but you have bigger issues with the way you deal with them. STOP trying to embarrass her and help her, when I tell you it doesn't work, take my word for it, it does not. I'll leave it at that.
PS, everyone knew why they were late, they all heard the conversation, Mauricio looked foolish during that scene, just ask Anderson Cooper.
I really feel for you Kyle. You just want a normal relationship with your sister and you keep hoping time will fix whats broken and things will get better. Kim needs to get off this show and continue her rehab because she is the only one that can make it better. Best of luck to you and your entire family. Hang in there!!
Kyle, we all have relatives that cannot be on time. We solved that in my family, we tell them to meet us at 5PM, instead of 7PM. They are still late, but maybe a half hour. Try it, it may work....
I would wait 5 min for her and then leave w/out her, but I wouldn't get so upset about it since its a on going thing. That part will never change! She is missing the fun, her loss. I just wouldn't have blown up about it. she is a big girl and can choose to go along with the group or not.
I would wait 5 min for her and then leave w/out her, but I wouldn't get so upset about it since its a on going thing. That part will never change! She is missing the fun, her loss. I just wouldn't have blown up about it. she is a big girl and can choose to go along with the group or not.
We are 100% with you and Mauricio!!!!!!!!!!!! People simply do not understand addiction and how it affects everyone. The addict is oblivious though.
Just hang in there Kyle . Your a very strong lady and I totally understand about feeling responsible for family.
I get it. It is very hard to deal with a pattern of unremoreseful, inconsiderate behavior. I do believe that someone needs to earn trust in terms of reliabilty. You can continue to emotionally invest in someone' behavior when they exhibit entrenched patterns. This is why leaving for the boat without her is a good idea. That is the tack to take in the future as well, and just say, factually, this was the plan, we missed you but had to go on. Also, stop trying to save your sister's face. Her behavior speaks for herself and she should be accountable. don't go into the bathroom to fix her and make her more presentable. Don't be embarrassed or try to deflect or confront. Just let her stand on her own to account for herself.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE seeing you and Lisa having fun TOGETHER! Wish to see more of that on season 3, because when you guys are stading up for each other, showing true friendship, that's what makes the RHBH different from all of other shows. Team Kyle and Lisa ;-)
i think you handled it well, considering, Kim was so obviously out of it at her lunch with Ken, God only knows how she was by dinner. All you can do is love her but i don't blame you for wanting an explanation and apology, i just keep saying what is wrong with her? every time she is on, well now we know for sure and i wish her well, but Ken is so creepy, part of her delussion i guess. love you!
I hope your sister is better now, Kyle. My younger sister and I have a similar relationship. This year, I've resolved to not allow the absent-minded things she does to steal my joy. If she asks for help or advice, I'll put my two-cents in. Otherwise, unless she's endangering her life or the life/safety of another, I'm staying out of her business and maintaining my own peace of mind.
I love the whole idea of the White Party! I might throw one myself one day when my boys are older. Don't ever cut that long, sexy hair!
I enjoyed this episode! Watching you and Lisa climb over the balcony, to get to Kim's room was hilarious. You and Lisa cheered me up and it reminded me of Lucy and Ethel. Sending healing prayers for you and Kim. Its obvious you love and care about her and she needs your support now, more than ever.
Kyle, I cannot imagine Kim being so selfish to the whole group. Being late for family is one thing,... but holding up so many friends was sooooo selfish of her and Ken. I hope "Moe" had a good birthday in spite of Kim and Ken. I hope Kim stayed with the rehab and counceling so that NOW she is doing well. We heard that she went to rehab, but I haven't heard any updates since then. I wish the best for you and your family this year.
That dinner conversation/grilling with Kim should have been a private family matter. Performing that little scene on camera was an exercise in public humiliation. No one cares for that boyfriend. He wanted to be famous---and now he is (infamous is probably a more apt description)!
meowwww. Your comments always about Brandi always seem so catty. You need to really learn how to focus on yourself and let others do what they're going to do.
You handled it a lot better than I would have! Other than that one speed bump in the trip, it looked like everyone was really getting along, which is good to see! Thanks for sharing your lives with us every week!
Kyle I love you and your family. This could not have been the first time Kim has been late for something. Life for some people will never be smooth sailing. Why can't you except the fact that Kim is one of those people. Ken is not the best looking guy, but he seems to take offense when someone is pushing Kim's buttons.
You get angry over things that really shouldn't mean anything. Instead of questioning Kim in front of everyone, you should have taken her to the side to ask why they were late. Who cares if they were? You are with your fine husband, friends you enjoy on a beautiful island. Just enjoy the moment. If Kim and Ken missed anything, that was their loss. You could have given them an itinerary with the departure times. And a statement that says "we will wait 15 minutes for you, then will leave". If Mauricio is paying for everyone to be there, then that is very bad taste for Kim and Ken to disregard the group and do their own thing. But clearly, your life is wonderful, why do you continue to be angry and made about insignificant things.
You had every right to be frustrated and angry with your sister for continually being late and making excuses, but I don't understand why you and Mauricio kept attacking her about it in front of the entire group. Most people would talk to their sibling one-on-one privately, not in front of an entire table of people. It was beyond rude. It make everyone uncomfortable, and there is no way it was going to go well. You seeemed to want to humiliate Kim at every opportunity. Remember, if you are disrespectful to Kim in front of your friends, you are essentially giving them permission to disrespect her too. You seem to thrive on drama, and while it makes for entertaining television (I know you've tried to parlay this reality TV show experience into a show), you are selling your sister down the river in the process.
In addition, the viewer already knows why Kim was constantly late, given that she just spent time in rehab, so why would you continually hound her about it in front of others. You are not a nice person.
Kyle! I've spent an hour writing two different comments, and none went thru. If they are lingering somewhere, I apologize for the repeat :)
I love you! Just as a reflection on the season, I think you have amazing character. No, you are not perfect, nor do you claim to be..BUT...you acknowledge your mistakes and take the blame when it is due. That takes amazing courage - very admiral
I understand your relationship with your sister. I truly hope everything works out the best for you two. I understand your need to protect and where your frustration lies. Sometimes, you may come off harsh - but again, you do acknowlege that, and hopefully learn from it
What a wonderful marriage you seem to have - that is something to cherish, and I know that you do! I love that 17 years later, you still are utterly in love with eachother - and I love how Mauricio treats you. Lets hope Kim finds that, I know she wants it, and I am cheering for her.
You go girl! I wish I lived in Beverly Hills, I think we would get along amazingly. I can be a sarcastic bit** just like you and I love it about you.
I wish nothing but the best
Kyle, You need to stop trying to manage your sister. It is like herding chickens. It was Mauricio's birthday and you should have been concentrating on him. But oh no, there were all the cell phone calls to her, over and over. Are you ever going to get it?? Let her be, let her sink or swim on her own terms. Lisa is right, you can not win with this one and now that she has obnoxious Ken, she feels empowered with him by her side to stand up to you. Live your life, love your husband (I felt bad, he was cheated because you were babbling and bawling, again). You could benefit from some counselling. Live YOUR life and let Kim live HERS, YOU really MUST cut the apron strings.
Thanks for blogging! Mauricio is quite the athelete. When he was swimming among the reefs, he looked like a professional scuba diver. He was really moving quickly through the water. If you can swim that good then it must be so fun to swim with the beautiful reef fish! You did good also, you are a good sport and got into that awesome water! You also planned a great birthday for him! Keep up the good work & have a great week! xx
Those issues (late arrival at both airport and catamaran outing) should have been addressed bwtween the 4 of you NOT at the dinner table. Once Kim said she wanted to drop it at the table you should have. Kim's a big girl who needs to grow up and learn her own lessons.
Kyle -- since this show started there has never been a time when you are not in the middle of conflict with someone. In the first season Camille was the villain, then you went after your sister Kim. In the second season, so far you have been at war with Brandi and now Kim again. I have a real problem with someone who attacks her own sister (who is obviously very troubled and needs help) so publicly. From other posts it seems like other fans of RHOBH agree with me.
Kyle, my heart goes out to you! You lost me the first of the season when you were mean to Brandi for no reason however, I am coming back to your side. I know that you love Kim and want the best for her however, at some point you are going to have to let go and put it in Gods hands. Kim is an adult and is going to make her own decision good or bad. Her behavior is very childlike so the more you try to give her advice and guide her the more she is going to do the opossite. For the sake of your relationship and YOUR sanity, just be there for her WHEN she falls :) Blessing to your family!!!!
wow kyle why can you have nice vacation with other memebers have pleasent time with on your husband's birthday... Insteade you are too dramatized whatever your sisiter beheavior... I know kim has problem but you degreade her all your fake crying and top of that your husband too what she did wrong on and on whith your carry away like bully... You could let her be her while she was with her boyfriend they are human being you like them or not ... I were kim I would not be with you sitting with dinner table your drama also the way Lisa actin is so discussed... You can put up for Taylor but you can't give break for your sister break... I do not approve kim's behavior but kyle you better learn how to love your sisiter not your way ... She needed help not your bulling in front of friends and audience like me... You are almost bad as game night... I felt you are bas as Taylor.... Less drama you are no longer child actress get real.
Kyle- Out of ALL the housewives, you are by far my favorite. You seem real and genuine with your concern for your sister but it's obvious she isn't going to change. Not without the help she so desperately needs. If she's been in rehab before and yet continues to have substance abuse issues then maybe she needs psychological counseling to get to the root of what drives her to self medicate. Sweeping things under the rug never helps a situation and I can understand your insistence that she be held accountable for her actions. Not only on the trip but in life in general. She's in denial and will not admit anything as long as she continues to be. If she's NEVER been forced to take responsibility, you can't expect her to now. It's a concept that is foreign to her. Sometimes we can keep people in our hearts but not our lives.