This week we return to the tea party, where emotions ran high, loyalties were divided, and I floundered as I wondered if any support would come my way. . .
I expected too much. Even though you give others support, it is still impossible to assume that you will be rewarded with the same. I learned you can't expect loyalty to be reciprocated. Take heed. It was like rats deserting a sinking ship. I don't want anybody to "back me." If you believe I am right, and many had voiced the same doubts as I over the last year, then speak up. Don't do as I had mistakenly done, in defending Kyle against Brandi when I did not have an accurate picture of what had really transpired.
What did I learn from this humiliating experience, where I was insulted so publicly? I learned to pick my battles, and I realized that the person I was dealing with had greater battles of her own. Was my pride hurt? Yes, of course. Hearing Kyle confirm Taylor's accusations against me regarding my ego was very hurtful. But it was also enlightening, as previously I had no idea what had been said between the two of them.
Lisa, This viewer has found you to always be honest & frank & sincere, when warranted. Yes, you can be sarcastic, but that is not a negative. It's funny. As for Taylor, aside from her marriage problems, she has always come across as grasping & insecure. When someone tries as hard as she did, they only make themselves look bad. You wary feelings & response to this was normal, I think. As to Kyle, that friendship seemed real & I hope that it is mended. No doubt you will explain the Vegas issue to Adrienne in the next episode. Stay yourself & realize that this viewer felt more empathy for you during the tea party than any of the other women.
Careful with Taylor darling. A friend she is not. Pinky swearing after that scene at your lovely tea party made me cringe. Even after all that has tragically transpired, her talk show junket leaves me more uneasy and untrustworthy of her. I feel you have been spot on about her from the very beginning. Hope she finds her way in life without hurting others. I adore your wit, your love of family and how everything you touch is elegantly beautiful! Looking forward to a glimpse of Pandora's wedding!
You handle yourself well. You're a class act and come off much better than most. Hang in there. Your #1 Indiana fan. Ps....hope to come to your restaurant sometime!
You handle yourself well. You're a class act and come off much better than most. Hang in there. Your #1 Indiana fan. Ps....hope to come to your restaurant sometime!
You are the best, Lisa. Keep your head up and away from the snakes, namely Kyle. I believe Camille tried her best to back you up by confronting Taylor, so I hope you realize that it appears she is a true friend at least.
Lisa, First off you are most definately a Class Act! You invite the ladies for tea and figure it would be a nice fun time and instead Taylor, for whatever reason, decided to come "armed for bear" for her confrontation. I have no idea why she thought the other ladies would go along with it. Adrienne is just too much of "wimp" to confront someone about something, especially in front of the camera. I saw a snippet of the reunion show where Andy asked her about being Taylor's daughter's god mother, which Taylor had mentioned several times in interviews. Adrienne tried her best to put it so nicely that it wasn't true. She did the same thing on the Watch What Happens Live show when asked a question concerning the mess. While she says she is diplomatic, somethings you have to just say it like it is. She was definately NO help to you and failed to stand up for you. You could see by Camille's face when Taylor was saying things that she had no idea what Taylor was talking about. Kyle just sat there and again failed to come to your defense. Taylor has been kissing Kyle's butt the past two seasons to get Kyle to be her friend and take Kyle away from you. Taylor was/is just jealous of your life and the love between you and Ken. However, Taylor lied...surprise.. about trying to be your friend and kissing your butt, all she tried to do was come between you and Kyle and she succeeded. Kyle was the one she went after as a friend, using that poor little me act she was so good at. And, Kyle feel for it hook, line and sinker. But all it did was show that Kyle was NOT your friend. her comments and jabs and failure to stand up for you show her true colors. I think that out of all the women, Camille was the one that put a stop to the crap. Now for the parties in Las Vegas, an old family friend OFFERED to host it at his place. If Adrienne wanted to host it so badly and out of friendship she should have offered it immediately once the engagement was announced. Why should you have to ask her, a friend steps up and offeres. This was anot a event that had anything to do with supporting her hotel in Vegas but a gathering of freinds and family for the bachelor/bachelorette parties. So why not then offer the hotel for the honeymoon. But she should't have expected you to ask her, if she was any kind of friend she would have done as the old family friend did, OFFER to do it! You are such a wonderful woman who is always there for your friends no matter what they need. Don't worry about the others and stay true to yourself!
Very well said. You are a very decent human being. No one is perfect (including Adrienne).
Taylor is a woman with a lot of mental issues. Kyle is not really your friend. I have to say I have been very surprised at Adrienne's behavior this season. What happened to Adrienne?
Lisa I totally agree with your blog.
Happy Thanksgiving to you and your lovely family.
yep, this is all direct and fair. More than fair. I feel for Taylor, and no one should deal with abuse, but I also feel she instigates many issues, creates division, and is manipulative. She also has been involved in shady business practices ... and seems to equate big spending with self worth. I think Kyle is backing the wrong horse - one she feels sorry for, but is not a person of integrity or trustworthiness.
Lisa- You are a class act as usual! You did all you could to deal with the misinformation and assumptions of others. I am very impressed with your ability to navigate troubled waters and do what may be in the best interest of Taylor. Beware- Kyle is not your friend. Just be careful there.
Hope the wedding went off beautifully and that Adrienne let go of her issues about the Bachelorette party. It's understandable that the bride and groom should decide where events are held. Best of luck to all. xx
Lisa, you are loved. I am sorry it didn't occur to Adrienne that perhaps there was a reason why your daughter's Bachlorette party was at Planet Hollywood and that there was no "slap in the face", but sometimes people see only what they choose to see.
Be real, be yourself, and you will be able to look yourself in the mirror.
You have dealt with this very gracefully, Lisa. Conflict is inevitable, but how you handle it is what defines you. You have been completely mature with all of this, and I hope things are better now for you and the girls. Looking forward to seeing your daughter's wedding (if it is aired on this season!) Lots of love, stay true to your beautiful self. :)
Every week I am pleasantly surprized by your grace under fire and wonderful sense of humor! You are as beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside.
I disagree w/ some things in your blog, but Bravo doesn't post comments on your blog unless they say you are brilliant so I won't bother. I love your daughter, still in love w/ her fashion sense and attitude. More Pandora.
Well said Lisa! I don't know how I would have handled the situation, but it was actually sweet to see that despite your apprehension you chose some form of peace-making. As my mother says, "Somebody gotta have some sense!".
Some people like the drama, I don't. I strive to be entertained by the normal everyday, so I don't need drama (especially other people's) to get some excitement. Although I believe that everything is not as it seems on some of these shows, I do recognize that this is your real lives and friendships and businesses and feelings and when the cameras go off, you all have to still deal with these situations, feelings and realities.
I hope that, if it's in you all's best interest, you can somehow despite the craziness find a way to hold together during this crazy ride. Keep your head up, and your eyes OPEN!
I felt very badly for you at tea, and I thought you handled yourself with a lot of poise. Unfortunately, you're finding out that Kyle is not the good friend you thought her to be. I'm sure that was a tough lesson, but regardless of how you were feeling inside, you kept your cool and dealt well with Taylor.
Lisa, You are a kind hearted soul. I totally understood why you apologized and comforted Taylor. Clearly and understandbly, Taylor was an emotional mess and there really was no reasoning with her. You could see she was broken and she really just needed your support. For the life if me, I can't not understand Kyle's clear displeasure and you and Taylor making up. Personally, I think Kyle's response was pure evil! If she were truly either of your friends, she would be pleased that you resolved your issues. I guess she didn't want to not have Taylor to talk sh*t with about you. She's just increbibky jealous of your fabulosity. She's a fool! I would be honored to have a friend like you!
P.S. I love your relationship with your daughter! It's clear you two are very close. Who needs a friend like Kyle when you have a Pandy?
You behaved impeccably. It's too bad that some of your friends have proved to be less than loyal. True friends are a treasure and scarce in life. Don't let others' character flaws cause you to doubt yourself.
Glad that you didn't pick the awful giant red box for Pandora's invitation. Don't let the wedding planner bulldoze you. You and Pandora have great taste and don't need his domineering style.
Lisa, you are great. I do feel bad to see you constantly having to defend yourself. Nobody can say and do things perfectly all the time. I think you are honest and would be a good friend to have because you seem very loyal. (and you're hilarious!)
Lisa, I'm getting the impression from your recent blogs that you and Kyle are no longer friends. This is so disappointing because I have enjoyed watching your friendship and I'm a big fan of both of yours. I hope you can work this out. I haven't seen anything this season worth ending a friendship over.
I felt so bad for you when you were being attacked, but it was Kyle's betrayal that was so heartbreaking because you counted her as a friend. But after the way she turned on her own sister last season and allowed the other girls (esp. Taylor) to gang up on her sister, don't take it personally.
I hope the rumors are true that you are getting your own show! Then we can still get to see you and you can be free of the snake pit.
Kyle said in her blog that you and Camille are not speaking. If it has anything to do with Taylor, I hope you both can put it aside.
Stand strong! You rock!
You're amazing. I enjoy watching you so much! And I'm glad you stated what I was thinking. It is outrageous to think that every event, every occasion in life would be celebrated at a friends restaurant/venue/hotel. I'm sure you don't get mad at Adrienne when she eats/drinks elsewhere. And I'm sure she does. I thought it was very odd, petty behavior coming from Adrienne of all people! Is there more to this story?
If Adrienne wanted Pandora's Vegas festivities at her hotel then why didnt she offer it to her? I'm surprised at Adrienne on this one. I cannot understand why people choose to make events about themselves when in fact this was all about PANDORA...the bride-to-be. I am glad you and Taylor had some sort of resolution. Lisa you are doing your best to stay above the foolery...please continue to do so.
Does Adrienne have every social gathering of hers at Villa Blanca? I don't really see why your daughter has to go to the Palms. Not fair at all for Adrienne to back you into that corner.
Hi Lisa, You are such a lady and an inspiration to us all, on how to behave properly--regardless of how badly someone else is acting. ANYONE else would have thrown Taylor out of their home and banished her forever. I have been manipulated myself by a few female former co-workers/users hinting around about abusive marriages, who I knew were only out to profit off of my generosity. I hope that isn't the case in this instance, but things look very suspicious.
Everyone, tends to make snide comments about others at one timer another. Even about our closest friends. You are no exception. Context and intent are everything. Remember the old adage? "It's not about what you say, but how you say it." You have made some snotty comments about Taylor and some comments have been in support of Kyle about Taylor and Brandy. Either way negative is negative and it is important to own up to it. We all can be snarky! Try for the positive is about the best any of us can do.
Lisa, you're great, BUT I do think you're giving Kyle a bit of a hard time in a situation that is not so black and white, as opposed to Camille obviously mishearing her, and Brandi being a total stranger to both you and Kyle. Taylor is also Kyle's friend, and Taylor was incredibly needy- agreeing with her that your ego got a bigger does not mean she was attacking you out of hate or a negative place rather than supporting Taylor, who probably was telling Kyle multiple negative stories of you when Taylor was unhappy with you, making it easier for her to agree. In an unnatural situation where all of you have been forced together, conversations about each other are going to occur, it's inevitable.
You have a strong personality and you DO pepper it with jokes that sometimes probably rub people the wrong way. Not everyone can handle it. It's not a poor reflection on you or the other person receiving your jokes, but it's just the reality of the situation.
You seem to think that blind allegiance is a good thing, but like you now say, although rather negatively paint, it is not. If it is apparent that multiple people have been snipping about your actions, (Camille, Kyle, Taylor) it won't hurt just to look a little bit on the inside and perhaps ask why.
It's a difficult situation, but Kyle was probably only trying to be both of your friends. You'll navigate it like a star like always though.
Best, an awesome viewer.
Still love you. I totally understand your conflict resolution. You didn't want the whole thing to keep going on. Who wouldn't want that abuse to end. Adrienne should have reached out to you about hosting your daughter's bachelorette party. Obviously, you have other older friends who take it upon themselves to offer as opposed to waiting on you to ask them. It's almost like someone in the group being mad about you going to Mohammed's house for your daughter's engagement party. Like always, rise above the drama. I loved watching you try to rein the wedding planner in. It shows you have a good head on your shoulders. Like I said, I still love you and you are still my fav HW!
Lisa, once again you have shown the class that all of the others only wish they had. I was surprised that Adrienne took offense about where Pandora chose to have her bachelorette party. It really wasn't any of her business. And I thought it a little petty for her to react the way she did. As for Kyle...she doesn't handle confrontation well at all. And unless she has control over a situation, she founders. She could learn a lot from how you and Taylor came together at the end of the tea party. It was a good end to an otherwise very heated afternoon and a lot better solution than any of the others could have come up with. Just don't let the others drag you down with all the pettiness and remain yourself. Not a one of them can hold a candle to you.
We can learn so much from you. I absolutely adore you. You are the epitome of class. All the ladies are jealous of you. Is that simple!
You are still my favorite!!! i support you 100%, i have always backed my friends, i am extremely loyal, so i know what it feels like to be betrayed by klye. But in kyle's defense, her husband is a real estate broker, it's his job to kiss ass as i would assumed kyle would too; otherwise, really where does their income come from if not from the show!!! You are true to who you are and you have so many fans who don't care that your screen saver is a picture of yourself, you said it perfectly, "who cares", the haters, haha!!! i will keep watching you as you have so much to offer and you are not a follower, but a leader!!!
Love you Lisa, You are so honest with everyone and you never get the same respect. It is such a shame. Keep it classy girl.
Kudos to you for admitting that you may have learned something from your very public lashing by Taylor and lack of explanation from the others. Many in your shoes would reacted differently, I was impressed that you actually gracefully backed down from the fight and accepted your friends’ trials and tribulations as more important than your own.
I was less than enthused that the others seemed to doubt Taylors conversations with all of you about the abuse she suffered. I am a survivor of domestic violence and my ex came off like the boy next door. And I too, told others in confidence, albeit not viewable by the TV masses, but they too expressed doubts and further alienated me. Support is exactly what she needed.
I enjoy seeing your extravagant lifestyle played out; I cannot imagine living like that. Although, I have learned even the rich and famous have issues. It was refreshing to see you pull in the reins on the invites, especially with your wedding planner tossing discretion to the wind.
Lisa, again, you've done absolutely nothing wrong and have been unfairly and unjustly attacked! There must be something in the water out there, or perhaps the pressure in the atmosphere is off, because so are many of the RHBH!
You have nothing at all to explain. It was obvious that Adrienne heard "through the grapevine" and instead of giving you the benefit of the doubt before getting upset, we've sadly seen a new side of Adrienne where she seemed to have uncontrollable anger! Wow what a scene! Jumped on Kyle's conversation regarding the tea party and immediately unfairly targeted you as the cause of her unjustified anger!
Lisa, I can't wait to surprise my sister with your book! As a Francophile and Europhile, I understand your language, and applaud your respect for the proper nuances of the use of the English Language. So sorry that you are wasting your time with some of these ladies, time to move on and I think you see that.
Congratulations on Pandora's engagement! Anyone would love to have you as a mother and friend, you are a fine lady and it's nice to see someone who appreciates the elegant things in life!
Carry on! Love you on the show! Wow please try and get some fresh air away from these catty women, grifters, and users. All my best and take care!
Lisa, please don't change. I knew you were not at fault when the bachlorette was not held at the Palms. It's not in your nature to be unkind and that is very apparent in the way you treat your friends and enemies as well. I think Adrienne may be a bit jealous of you (and I am a fan of hers as well). I think at this point, the only one to trust is Brandi!
Hi Lisa! You are class and beauty personified. You saw Taylor for what she was, and it takes a very wise person to recognize what was going on. You certainly don't appear to have a big ego to me. Keep being who you are.
You're fine, Lisa! I can understand your bewilderment this season. You are like the only normal fish in a bowl full of crazy sea monkeys! :-)