Lisa Vanderpump

Lisa explains her relationship with Taylor, Ken's comments, and the trip to Colorado.

on Sep 16, 20110

Well hello and welcome to Season 2.

There are no words that can diminish the pain and devastation felt by the entire cast after the tragic death of Russell Armstrong. The unexpected shock thrust upon us just as we were reaching the finishing post of Season 2, the exhausting journey that we had muddled through, many times at odds with each other, but ultimately an unspoken, unanimous bond that tethered us together, as we navigated our way through the troubled waters of this really, real reality show.

I personally was at a loss for words. How could this have happened? How could we have foreseen this tragedy that would leave a trail of emotional and financial debris in its path?

Fatherless children, Taylor -- although recently separated, but still connected to a man with whom she had spent many years and bore his child, uncertain of her future and emotionally overwrought at the sheer brutality at which he chose to end his life.

114 comments
WindyCity1
WindyCity1

I recently watched this episode as a rerun. Have to sat...while Ken doesn't need to "sugar coat" some things he says, to call someone weak when they are trying to take a positive step in their situation...he should have kept his opinion to himself.

My own DD needed to see a counselor a few years ago and her father is of the same opinion as Ken. People who seek therapy are "weak". Or as he said, "Mind over matter! You don't need outside help." Considering he was part of the problem, his statement was so far off base. Needless to say, she quit seeing the counselor and a couple of years later ended up on a three-day watch because she had attempted to "hurt herself".

If a person you know says they are seeking counseling/therapy PLEASE be supportive! The weak people are those who deny or refuse to see how counseling helps others!

A_Viewer
A_Viewer

I disagree that Ken had to "sugar-coat" what he needed to say before saying it. I may personally disagree with his opinion, but that doesn't mean that his opinion is wrong or that he is in the wrong for having that opinion. Following the dynamics at the dinner, there was no malicious intent in him saying that. They were having a conversation. I guess, having all of the information we have now and looking at it, it might seem to us like a spite. But folks have to remember that that was happening in real-time, and so it was a conversation between friends.

Sandra M
Sandra M

Lisa,

You are the best housewife of all the shows combined. I love how you hold yourself to a higher standard and expectation, but never faulter from being completely honest. That is the kind of woman I was raised to be as child. I have great respect for you and your life and achievements.

My mother orphaned me, and if I could pick a mother she would be all of you. I wish I knew what it was like in your world if just for a moment. I have changed all of what I am to differ from what I came from. I hope that my future generations will do great things much far beyond what I have the resources to do. I wonder what I would be if I had no limitation on oppurtunity. I feel like no matter how hard I tried I could never get there, but I also believe that if anyone can achieve the impossible its me.

I have to comment on your jewelry and fashion. I love it all. The necklace you wore the last two episodes for your interviews with the pink shirt. Stunning beyond anything I have ever seen. I LOVE it. I need to know where they sell the fake mimic! I was in awe. I find it the most beautiful piece of jewelry I have ever seen, hands down. Then in the recent episode the magenta off the shoulders with the earrings, awesome. You were some pieces that have huge impact, but seem so right with how you present them.

I love your unique beauty as well. You have a unique pretty that stands out, like Kyle as well. Its a natural looking beautiful, so true beauty I guess.

Your house or is that rude. Mansion? Love it love it love it. Great taste.

Sandra M
Sandra M

Lisa you are all of the woman I was taught to become from my childhood. I respect and am utterly impressed by you. While I was orphaned by my mother as a child, I only wish that she would have been like you. I love the way you hold yourself to a higher standard and expectation all while being honest.

The last two episodes during your interview. The necklace with the pink top was beautiful. I am in love with that piece, amazing and perfect pick. I love your home, and wish I could see your world if only for a moment in time. I will never be where you are, but my hope is that my future generations will make it there. I am doing well for myself especially considering my life circumstances, but I just wonder who would I be if I just had the oppurtunity of no boundaries.

You are wonderful and I look up to you.

Viewer1992
Viewer1992

Lisa, you're still awesome and lovely... But I still can't believe you just sold your gorgeous, gorgeous house, though.

With all the negativity from New York and New Jersey, it's so nice to see someone as non-fake and friendly as you, Lisa.

Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia
Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia

Hi Lisa, Saw the show where you are at Camille's house in Colorado at dinner time. YOU LOOK GORGEOUS WITH THAT BLOUSE!!!! FABULOUS!!!! I am so sad seeing Taylor the way she was when she was filming this season. But more or lesss that is what happens when you divorce. You really go out of your mind. There are trouble in Paradise!!! I think that Kim is having problems again. Sorry for Kim and Kyle. I am so happy that your daugther married. I could not believe that at one point Cedric went to one of your parties???? I WOULD CONTINUE TO WATCH.

God Bless You from San Juan, Puerto Rico Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia

pollyanna
pollyanna

LOVE you Lisa, and Ken. It is so refreshing to see an intact, complete and happy marriage. And Ken is pretty tremendous when out with the guys he said that he regretted using the word "weak" about himself regarding therapy. I do hope Taylor can understand where he is coming from. Also.... I hope the Sur expansion goes through!!

Ninagirl
Ninagirl

Lisa, your husband is entitled to his opinion and he did well.....

Kristina J
Kristina J

Lisa, I still think that you are absolutely fabulous. While I was mortified at Ken's comment about therapy, I respect his opinion--however, I think it was entirely inappropriate given the circumstances of another guest at the party.

To put this into perspective, say someone you know was seeking treatment for drug/alcohol abuse, would it really be appropriate to voice your opinion that "it's a sign of weakness" to seek help for your problem?? If someone is in trouble and they are seeking help to make things better, the only thing that should come out of your mouth in front of that person is a sign of reassurance.

SusanO999
SusanO999

We all love you, Lisa, I'll start out saying. Have to add that I think you and hubby were wrong on this one. He may have been stating how HE would feel, technically, but it was said in a way that did insinuate others who got help were weak. I'm not a big Taylor fan, but my first thought was...that was not a nice thing to say, that it sounded very judgmental. If he truly meant it to be his personal opinion, he should have said, "I'm sure it can be good and necessary in some cases, but it's just not something I'd be comfortable with, personally." Sorry to say, I would have been offended too. My ex needed "help" for years and refused to get it until he nearly destroyed his life, including losing me and our son in the process. It got very scary, but at least I made it out alive, unlike too many women. Men too often are told that getting help means they're weak, like Ken suggested, so they don't do it. That needs to stop. It's actually takes a lot of strength to get help when needed. Please don't perpetuate that getting help means you're "weak" stereotype anymore. thanks!

Alabama Bell
Alabama Bell

I agree...they are trying to put you in a bad light...I will not go there with them..Ken is wonderful..he has a right to his own feelings...enough said

Jeff1066
Jeff1066

Lisa.....you should not have to defend your husbands opinion. It was a dinner party conversation and he interjected his personal view, which one generally does in a conversation. If Taylor was offended...too bad so sad....don't bring up your intimately personal life in a dinner conversation that you are not ready for rebuke or adverse opinions. So very sad what happened to Taylor's husband, but that was personal turmoil that she chose to air at a dinner party which was being broadcast to the nation....shame on her!

P.S. Lisa.....you and Giggy ROCK!!!

Theasluna
Theasluna

Lisa, your kind words for Taylor are commendable. It is heartbreaking for anyone to suffer the loss of a loved one. My heart breaks for the children involved. My husband passed away when our daughter was very young, and even though my father passed when I was young, it hurt more to know the pain first hand that my little girl was feeling. It is a pain I would not wish on anyone, there are no words to even describe how it feels and how helpless you feel as you watch your child's heart break into pieces, you know they and their lives will never be the same again. I hope that all of you support her child unlike the 'adults' in my child's life who hurt her further when they just seemed to fall off the face of the earth. I have to say, you pegged Taylor last season, I am sorry for what she is going through, but she seems to be at the center of all the drama and likes to stir the pot. I do not trust her, and you need to watch your back. She may have fooled the others, even those you considered a friend, but in the end, it is painful to really learn what people really are. God Bless. Also, Ken did nothing wrong, he spoke about therapy and his feelings about if he would go for therapy, but in true Taylor fashion, she had to twist it to make it all about poor little her. I let my dogs drink out of glasses too, the other women need to get over it, I have seen them do so much worse than that LOL

Denise J
Denise J

Looks like the first couple of shows edit you as the mean girl so far. I hope they knock it off!

Patticakes
Patticakes

Hello Lisa, Ken, & Giggy! You are a class act!!! I'm a van!!!

Sonja-Meister
Sonja-Meister

tamawils1, you are not alone. I hate to think what might be happening when the camera is off?????

Also, Kyle did nothing wrong at the dinner table.

Michelle in Easton, MD
Michelle in Easton, MD

I am a firm believer in the 'stiff upper lip' and 'suck it up' mottos. I feel Taylor is cleaver and enjoys working a crowd. Her personality reflects the person she is with and when she's in a crowd, she's either the center of attention for being cute or an emotional wreck. Lest we forget her breakdown at Kyle's white party? And there are the times when she would cast an 'I need sympathy' look at the girls as Russell told her it was time to leave. "Poor me" seems to be her montra. Women are more powerful than men have any idea and when I hear women who are constantly miserable or scared I understand you can get stuck in a rut and may need a little advice and guidance; but you still need to "put on your big girl pants and deal with it" because women are the foundation of any household. Life goes on whether you are ready to deal with it or not and there's only so much you can accomplish in one day. Push the crap aside and do what needs to be done; do you! And at the end of the day, a good woman will not let herself be kept down! So, KUDOS TO KEN for stating his feelings... and mine!

Boston Housewife
Boston Housewife

Can't wait to see the wedding. Hope they show it. I'm sure it was better than the Royal Wedding! You look great this season. Looking forward to watching another exciting ride with Giggy.

Carol Strong
Carol Strong

Lisa, I am glad you are all there for Taylor during these difficult and trying times. I just hope she appreciates you and all the support you are giving to her.

Layla00
Layla00

Lisa, Ken didn't make a faux pas, he stated his opinion on a dinner conversation Taylor chose to talk about. No one forced her to talk about her therapy, Ken is an old school gentleman and I would you wouldn't have stuck around so long if he weren't. Please don't apologize on behalf of Ken's opinion, that's what happens at a dinner party.

I was peeved at Kyle too, she had no right to go at him so strongly, stating her feelings were hurt was fine, but to accuse Ken of picking on Taylor sort of infuriated me.

Anyway I LOVED YOUR HAT! There I said it and I thought you looked gorgeous as ever! The house was beautiful, you all looked like you had fun and who could not forget "taking the creaky beavers up to beaver creak" LOL you're just too much. Big hugs Beverly Hills is back!

Sherrard Crespo
Sherrard Crespo

Love you Lisa! and Ken! Yall are amazing! I don't think what Ken said was offensive at all. He clearly stated it was his opinion, he did not point at Taylor and say "y'all are weak for going to therapy", he even prefaced his statement by saying it was a British thing. Kyle first even said most men wouldnt go to therapy. My real question is, what problem does Adrienne's cook have with you?

Jaime - 27587
Jaime - 27587

I really love Giggy he is the cutest little thing ever!

cindymindy
cindymindy

Hello Lisa, Happy Belated Birthday! My birthday is also Sept. 15, and I hope your day was a great as mine, as I am sure it was. Also, congratulations on your lovely daughters wedding, I hope we get to see some of it. I know we all can't wait to see your new home too! Welcome back to you and all of the other ladies.

HousewifeHYSTERIA
HousewifeHYSTERIA

Lisa, LOVE having you back...and I feel YOU make the show "real"!! And....regarding Taylor's issues with the word "weak" at Adrienne's party, somehow I heard Ken say HE would feel weak if he had to go to marriage therapy. NOT TAYLOR!! HE himself. And Taylor did question him further on the issue, so in the limo ride to Beaver Creek, Taylor was dead wrong in accusing Ken of offering an unwarranted personal opinion.

zocola
zocola

Welcome back. So sad that the season had to start on such a sad note. You, Ken and Giggy look wonderful. I felt that Taylor was too sensitive to Ken saying that he would feel weak if he attended therapy. She took what he said all wrong. Ken took what Kyle said all wrong too. Offended was what Taylor was. I hope that you caught on to how other people see Giggy as a dog not your love. I am left wondering if Adrienne threw out the $500. glass and how many people don't think your lips are as lucious after the kiss. I hope this season is a good one!

karenne
karenne

When Kenn mentioned he would not want to go to therepy for his marriage, I believe he meant, that if a marriage is "not right", then he would take it upon himself to find out what he could do to please his wife. He cannot imagine "being in therepy" when he vowed to love you forever, and make you happy, whatever that is, he takes it seriously. I t hink you are a very lucky gal, indeed! He adores you! its so obvious! To not be able to please you would be so horrible for him, he cannot imagine it! wow....Soak in it.

ValleyVal11
ValleyVal11

My favorite is back!!! No matter how hard Bravo tries to paint you in a bad light, we viewers are smart to know that you are a very honest, caring, classy and witty. Yes, Ken is entitled to hid opinion. I don't understand why nobody is mentioning how rude Kyle was jumping all over him at the table. Congratulations on your daughter's wedding and Happy belated B-Day!

DogLovR
DogLovR

Dear Giggy,

Jackpot's cute, but you da dog, dawg.

Aloha808
Aloha808

Lisa, My dear, where is Sir Giggy's blog???? Been waiting for that!!! Love, Aloha808

LetMESay
LetMESay

Oh God I am so glad you are back Your Majesty and blogging. This show is like an addiction and you my dear Lisa are the icing on the cake!! I really love reading your inciteful blogs. Have to say though as much as I love Sir Giggalot he should not be at a dinner table and he certainly shouldn't have been drinking out of that glass!! But not to fear, you are still perfection in my book! Long live Queen Lisa!!

Love All Housewives
Love All Housewives

Lisa you are a classy woman who really sees the truth in people. I remember alot from season 1 and like the fact that you were real. I also so love the compassion you have for Giggy - that brought tears to my eyes. You are non drama and can say it like it is - without offending anyone. You are a real friend to KYLE and I hope you both stay close. Ken's comment was not offensive at all - Cant anyone have a different opinion without drama ? Looking forward to the rest of the season.

redbud9
redbud9

Hi Lisa, you are my favorite. Classy, smart, level headed and successful (although I'm not sure I agree with the whole dog eating off the table thing). Anyway, you are smart enough to see right through Taylor, but Kyle apparently isn't. From my vantage point,Kyle is just as much a troublemaker as Taylor. The only possible reason she would have brought up the topic of the remark at dinner was to stir the pot. And even at dinner I thought she needed to keep her comments to herself. Kyle is a phony and apparently not the friend you thought she was, and after giving your listing to her husband you'd think she would be wanting to be extra nice to you!!!!

BillieNJ
BillieNJ

I absolutely adore you; YOU are my FAV housewife. You have a great sense of humor and you tell it as it is. I didn't think what Ken said was as insulting, but I suppose at the time Taylor was very sensitive and took it too personally.

greysea
greysea

Lisa you are awesome - I have a feeling your going to have a bumpy road this season. Stay with Camille she seems like a smart and true person! Love you and your wonderful family - your my favorite!

sharon12123
sharon12123

you were last season and this season my favorite ...Your real and you tell it like it is i agree with the other poster it looks like they are trying to paint you and Ken as bad eggs , your viewers wont fall for it !

johannyc
johannyc

love you Liza, and do not allow anyone to come between you and Kyle, you two are the best housewives ever. you are beautiful and funny, but most of all, honest. bravo to you

FanFare57
FanFare57

Lisa, I may be in the minority. I feel Ken did not say anything hurtful toward Taylor. He stated how HE would feel, period. European men are culturally different than American men. Ken even prefaced his comment with that statement. Either Taylor had a hearing impairment or was overly sensitive. She certainly liked to stir up trouble just to keep hold of Kyle's attention. So far, it looks as though Kyle is falling into a trap set by Taylor. I think your instincts about Taylor have been correct. She's a bit deceitful and... someone to be wary of.

Annette from Chicago
Annette from Chicago

You never cease to amaze me with your succinct recaps. I absolutely adore you!

greysea
greysea

Your my favorite - stay true to who you are - I think you will be the target this year - sadly!

Love your class!
Love your class!

You really are a class act. Your husband was stating his opinion about himself. I love your dog. Pets become family. Who cares if they take a little sip of vino! LOL

anne0
anne0

Lisa, You are exceptional. Not only in class and humor BUT in great antenna's.(w/Taylor--not the moocher) You/Ken could smell something off with the Russell unit and you were so right! Congrats on Pandora's wedding~~

jerome
jerome

Lisa, as said by others I have to say you are the best of the cast, class and beauty, you are amazing! I am completely on your husband's side and support his comment on consulting a shrink.. He did mention 'weakness' because Taylor had opened up saying that it did drive her "crazy". Which I can understand since her problems started in her childhood and not since her marriage. Instead of crying saying that she loves her husband she should learn to be more affectionate. Something is missing all right. She should learn it fast before destroying the next man she meets.

Hobbs
Hobbs

You are the best. So classy.

rach 1
rach 1

lisa i love ur attitude and u seem to always keep it classy ! the girls were being bitchy and immature in the limo i would feel awkward! also y does everyone suck up 2 kyle??? u and ken r a great couple and have a nice family! u always say it how it is your a sincere person who has no badness in them!

tamawils1
tamawils1

Why do you kiss that dog in the mouth like that??? Am I the only viewer that thinks that is just gross.

Simply Me
Simply Me

Lisa, I love you, you are my personal fav of the whole cast! I do agree with you when you say that Taylor is manipulative. It seemed like she manipulated Kyle to forge a wedge between her sister last season, now she is doing the same to you. Hope you stay grounded and keep moving forward!

ViewerBeverly
ViewerBeverly

Great gal Lisa. Your the cats meow! I know jiggy, love him to pieces.