Lisa Vanderpump

Lisa shares her emotions immediately after the tea party and her conflicted feelings leading up to it.

on Nov 17, 20110

I remember so clearly after shooting this episode how I felt. I wanted to walk away and withdraw from these ladies -- to go back to back to a time where I didn't have to defend myself to them, when I just lived in a cocoon with my family, and I was not up for their scrutiny at every pit stop, when I was not trying to navigate my way through this minefield of emotion. That time seemed like a distant memory. . .Welcome to the tea party from hell.

Oh it was so difficult -- firstly knowing I had deliberately been excluded from the lunch, when generally we all do things together. If the roles had been reversed and it was my friend left out, I wouldn't have been able to accept that without saying something.

Now a point you didn’t see was the fact that I said I would not bring the subject up first at my tea party. I would wait and see if the lunch was brought up. It was casually, but provocatively, mentioned that they all went shopping after. Now I knew, just for my own dignity, that I had to confront it.

238 comments
mikaisra
mikaisra

Love you Lisa. You are so humble and modest regardless your wealth. Real down to earth x x

VJC
VJC

I think you are just super, Lisa! I understand your sense of humor! (Still love, "(Camille's dinner party) was three clowns short of a circus", from last season)! I love your screensaver and have the same w/ my pet too! Oh, Giggy is a Total Star, but might we see a bit more of your other pets? Now, as for the ladies.... Oye vey! Obviously, you are 1000% right w/ your reservations about Taylor. She's got some problems and she needs to go away for a bit and get her head back on straight. I hope this tiff btwn you and Adrienne blows over, b/c you two are very similar and have the most in common out of all the other BH's. I'm surprised Kyle didn't pick up for you at the tea. Not sure about Dana yet, and I do feel sorry for Brandi (sheesh, what awful crime has this girl committed to warrant so much nastiness from the sisters?) As for Kim, this show is probably not a great idea for Kim. She too should take time off and regroup. Lisa, Camille, and Adrienne are the faves this year (though LIsa has always been the real STAR of this show!)

single39
single39

Lisa is classy and older than the other women. I think that she stays clear from the other women and shows up when needed. Love Lisa!

gingerbread
gingerbread

Lisa seems the most level headed out of all but remember that before Kyle 's party she told Taylor to confront Lisa infront of everyone so she could have support. So when Taylor spoke to Lisa I did not see Kyle have her back but if they group decided to attack Lisa what would Kyle have done. Kyle has a self interest and needs to be liked by everyone. What kind of a friend does that to Taylor and also to Lisa whom she has been friends with for years.

solecurious
solecurious

Lisa, you seemed to be the most level-headed. Taylor is a victim. Playing the "poor me" all the time but the "passive-aggressive" can rear its ugly head and come out and lash out at you! She is always down-trodden and the one "without a voice"? Really? I can hardly tell. This episode is the best testimony of her passive-aggessiveness and manipulation.

Mia from Pompano Beach Fl.
Mia from Pompano Beach Fl.

Hi Lisa. I am a big fan of all you ladies. I just wanted to say you keep saying no one had your back. Camille did call out Taylor and confronted her, so I think that she did have your back in doing that. I don't feel so sorry for Taylor, I think she is a lot more calculated then she seems. All the best to you.

ozzy241
ozzy241

First of all no matter how you feel or what you are going through under no circumstances should you be disrespectful in someones home. Never attack anyone in their home especially when they are hosting a tea party which you have been invited to. What Taylor did to her is what I call a form projection. She wishes she would have been strong enough to confront her husband the way she attacked Lisa and to involve the others to join in on this cut throat behavior in Lisa's house is low class, ghetto and right out disrespectful. Why is she even on this show? Taylor did comment in the past that she was afraid of losing this lavish lifestyle. It is obvious that she allowed this man to beat her because she was afraid to leave him and give up her lavish lifestyle. It is not a coincidence that she left him when he was going broke. She took the beating over the poverty. That was her business and her price to pay but to involve the others and cause confusion yes they had no choice but to discuss it which she feels is behind her back. Remember Taylor was flirting with a man who was hired to play at her child birthday party? And lets not forget the pictures she sold of her beating. Once again, totally inappropriate. People talk about people is it normal, now if it is done to hurt another person then that is just malicious. The discussions behind her back was a violent situation that needed to be discussed. Lisa said we are not bestfriends but she did not say we are not friends however she was willing to help her. In my home if you are disrespectful I may allow you to insult me but when you are done you must leave. It you scream you have seconds to remove yourself or I will personally remove you. Kyle should stay out of it. I find her to be very caty and gossipy. Lisa tried to stop it by saying I have had enough of the bitchy behavior.

Kelly B
Kelly B

Dear Lisa ,

I adore you , you did well with Taylor at the end. Reconciliation is better for both of you. But I'm very surprised that in the 21th century, you seemed so unable to recognize an abusive relationship : a lot of information is available online or near you. What Taylor was living is called "Domestic violence Tiffany's style" by Dr Jeanne King for example. Lisa, there are so many associations , books, informations about domestic violence, even for rich women.. Be aware of that. What I dont understand is that Taylor was telling you her abusive relationship since one year and you or the other girls did nothing to help her, I mean really help her. Remember she was the victim, of course she acted weird because she was so scared...So lost... So alone...

I am seriously wondering why you and the other women didn't decide an intervention to help Taylor . Did you know that every day, more than one woman died because of domestic violence? In France , it is one to ten.

Otherwise, I adore you and your sense of humour, your elegance and sometimes your sarcastic way to tell things. Kelly B from France

Michelle09
Michelle09

Dear Lisa,

Keep your chin up and that beautiful smile on... I'm shocked at Taylor and Kyle!

Much love! Michelle

RealityFann17
RealityFann17

and also Im really sorry that tea party happened to you... undeserved.

RealityFann17
RealityFann17

Let me just say b.c Taylor FEELS you are the popular girl who wont let her in the In Crowd, doesnt mean its true. Taylor FEELS alot of things that arent true. You didnt purposely exclude her ever like she did to you. Give Kyle another chance, like I think you will :) Kyle is naive and is trusting with taylor bc taylor worships her. But I think youd have a great friendship in taylor if you allow it. BUT you do NOT have to. Youre in a position in life, like Kyle is, where you both make the right life choices. You both are sort of mentors if you will. Taylor meant it when she said she needed strong women in her life. You have to be aware and willing though you are under no obligation. Just a thought. Taylors a project for sure but her loyalty I believe would be like no other. Just make sure you ALWAYS clarify exactly what you mean when you speak with her. Cause she tends to hear things they way she PERCEIVES them instead of how they are intended.

melinda Brer
melinda Brer

Love u! you are the only one on the cast who has class.. well i will say Camille has redeemed herself this season but Kyle-catty and petty, Kim-trainwreck and Taylor- just sad. so glad to see a strong beautiful woman like you representing a lost bumch..I will note, Adrian is an amazing beautiful woman who also inspires.. you and her are my favorites! Kudos!

A Sane Person
A Sane Person

Dear Lisa,

I was dismayed to see you hugging Taylor and making nice nice. Taylor is a manipulator extraordinaire! I know you meant to be kind and supporting, but don't let her bamboozle you.

I just love seeing the lovelight in your eyes when you look at Pandora. I am that way too with my daughter and son!

Colinda
Colinda

Lisa, I am of Cajun ancestry, and your dry humor reminds me of certain family members who tell the funniest stories with a straight face and the same kind of wry humor you display. Don't worry a bit about that nasty piece of work Taylor. Personal opinion is that she suffers from a personality disorder and will always find someone to blame for her perpetual mantle of victimhood. Let's not forget that she's the one who stirred up Camille (whom I've quite come to like) in New York which led to all tht mess between Camille and Kyle. Forget Taylor. She does not deserve your friendship. Yes, I'm sorry her husband killed himself, but nothing was as it appeared in that family anyhow.

Jenny55
Jenny55

You are my favorite housewife. I can't believe Taylor had the audacity to insult you in your own home. I don't think you have been rude or mean to Taylor in the past. Taylor is a liar and an opportunist and you are the only person among all the wives who has been able to see right through her B.S. Keep being yourself and don't let anyone bring you down. You are FABULOUS!

Tina Q
Tina Q

Lisa, you are my favorite. You're charming, funny and gorgeous. And real without being mean. It was awful the way Taylor behaved at your tea party. She was a guest in your house for pete's sake! Keep being you. Lots of people love you, even if Crazy Taylor doesn't.

Debra Samuels
Debra Samuels

I just want to say what a graceful person you are. I think you have to be one of the most honest people on tv. I find inspiration in watching a strong woman navigate in the world with her soul intact!! BTW rock on Giggy!!

Ardelle
Ardelle

I don't know what to think - I really like your humor - and the kindness you showed Taylor when you told her she could stay with you. However, you were jealous of Kyle and Taylor's friendship last season. You do have an ego, and are sharp tongued even when you don't have all the facts. Kyle is friends of both you and Taylor, which is not easy to be put in the middle. You should not have commented on Taylor's luncheon. That was stirring the pot! What did you expect her to say? Taylor has always been very sensitive about your comments and needed to confront you - I will excuse her because of the emotional state that she is in, and she is very emotional!! You say that you have been picked on - you have made comments about Adrieanne, Taylor, Kim, Kyle. Get over yourself. It wasn't the "tea from heaven!"

Currie
Currie

What is the name of the wine that Lisa always drinks that has been dipped in white wax to seal the bottle? Is it available nationally or just in California? Thank you !!!

JoannaLo
JoannaLo

Lisa - YOU ARE A CLASS ACT. you handled yourself so well at that tea party! You are my favourite! You know the truth, you speak the truth, every time there is a clip of you talking about the episode.. I can never agree more, you're always right, humble, down to earth, understanding, classy. I adore you SO MUCH!

lily1234
lily1234

WELL LISA IN THIS EPISODE TAYLOR SEEMS TO BE OFF HER ROCKER. YOU HANDLED THE SITUATION LIKE A VERY CLASSY LADY.

Viewer N
Viewer N

While watching, I wished I could jump through the screen, give you a big hug, and yell for Taylor to back off. I could easily recall the conversation she mentioned--and that you had said you were not her "BEST friend." That she misheard what you said and then stewed on it shows what a bad state she was in. Easier to make you a villain than to deal with her true demons.

As for you having a pic of you AND Giggy as wallpaper and thus having a big ego: puh-leeze. This from a woman who made herself the star of her daughter's birthday photo shoot--or who would barge into a lunch date you have with Kyle and then want to take center stage at that lunch?

Taylor has massive insecurities and issues. Understandable, yes, but she shouldn't be casting stones and then playing the victim (and I am not even referring to her marriage here). Good on you for being true to yourself, Lisa. Stay gorgeous, inside and out!

FanFare57
FanFare57

It seems as though you need to do a "friend" inventory: Taylor's responses to you have been wack-o. She really doesn't make sense. Kyle has not stood up for you at all and tries to pretend to be Switzerland, while talking about EVERYONE behind the back. Kim is useless because she is always moving... Now, Adrienne feels betrayed by you for not selecting her property for your daughter's party. (Maybe, Pandora selected the venue?) You seem very serene under pressure (except from your strange event planner). The gigantic invitations may be special for Pandora but they are $150/ea. Not one guest will keep it longer than the wedding day. You might as well give every guest a bag full of money!

Cynthia fackler
Cynthia fackler

When this season is over and Andy hosts the reunion make sure he plays the scene where you say you know you are not Taylor's "BEST friend". Her insistence that you said you were not her friend reminded me of Camille insisting that Kyle said nobody would be interested in her without Kelsey Grammar. Perhaps then Taylor will apologize to you and realize what a generous lady you are. And remember, being confident and capable is not ego.

Kim Hinnkle
Kim Hinnkle

As always, Lisa, you handled yourself with grace.

..desert viewer
..desert viewer

Your patience is to be admired! It seems so apparent that the real problem stems from the way Taylor is processing everything.. yet not seeing she is the problem.. rather dull viewing I thought!

esther194
esther194

I have never seen Taylor "kiss your A_ _" as she said and I am so glad she is not coming back next season. I must say I was extremely pleased with Camille jumping in and confronting Taylor with her lies and/or twisting of the truth!! She reminds me of Alex on NYHW when she was trying to make herself be more assertive. I'm also very disappointed with Kyle turning on you and taking up with that vapid Taylor. As for Kim, there is no help for her, she'd be a mess even if she wasn't "on the wrong cocktail" of pills. Adrienne is a nice person, just hope she and Paul stay together. DON'T LEAVE THE SHOW! Although no one would blame you if you did since you have no true friends that have come from this show.

nicalo
nicalo

The repeat airing of the video clip of your "we're not the BEST of friends" comment to Taylor, to counter her claim that you said you two aren't friends period, reminds me of Season 1. I recall another videoclip, of Taylor and Kim talking at the airport and Taylor starting up trouble. Later, Taylor so adamently argued that one thing was said at the airport, while the video clip clearly showed otherwise (that Taylor started the trouble) and that Kim (of all people) recalled accurately what was said. How can someone misconstrue things so terribly and stand behind it so fiercely when there is constant video proof otherwise? It makes me wonder how much of Taylor's "real" life experiences are based in facts and how much is just her dellusional interpretations. Lisa, continue your weariness of Taylor, please.

lregan
lregan

Lisa you are wonderful, Taylor caused a lot of problems last year and looks like she is up to her old tricks this year.

jasminurse
jasminurse

How can Taylor be so upset with Camille and Lisa. They aren't the only ones seen on the show talking about Taylor's marriage troubles. There are numerous times her domestic abuse is implied in the show. Remember Paul's birthday dinner with Adrienne in the episode before? The numerous one-on-ones with all of the girls.

seattlegirl27
seattlegirl27

Lisa,

You are so fun to watch. I love seeing your humor, your home, your family, your giggy, your restaurants, and especially what you wear! You are so classy and so funny at the same time. that is a really great combo. Plus you are beautiful with such great taste. I think you are probably everyones favorite. Especially since Kyle showed some of her true colors this season.

Team Lisa!

divauta
divauta

The screen saver on my phone is a picture of me with my dog so I see nothing wrong with your screen saver being you and Giggy. I thought you handled yourself with composure, dignity, and empathy in a tough situation. While offering Taylor support is admirable, please continue to listen to what your instincts tell you about people and their possible motives.

kateedidwhat
kateedidwhat

The more I think about it, the more I am struck by what a true lady you are. I can only hope to have half the self control you've demonstrated. Kyle is a lot of fun but she's too quick with a knife to your back. I think it's clear from your blog entries that you feel the same way.

catnipduckie
catnipduckie

Lisa, I just watched the little video of you and Taylor from the new episode. And I just want to say that I am so proud of you and happy that you were so sincere and humble and listened to her, appologized to her and were willing to wipe the slate clean and be her friend!! Mazel to you, my darling!!! muahhhh...kisses and love!! Kim

Viewer88
Viewer88

Lisa, I say this out of love, but your daughter's husband is definitely a closet case. I know about these things and it's painful to watch... she has an interesting conflict coming her way.

Warm n Sunny in Diego
Warm n Sunny in Diego

Lisa, I am very disappointed that Adrienne seems to be very competitive and jealous of you, that Kyle has backstabbed you and Taylor tried to discredit you. Heck at this point, oddly enough I think Brandi would be more of a friend to you then any of these ladies! You and Brandi seem to have the same demeanor, you sit back and look people straight in the face and never flinch when they're criticizing you and going on with their rants about how horrible you are. Your calm demeanors make the other ladies look looney.

Kelli Ash
Kelli Ash

As usual, you are a class act, Lisa. Also, I LOVE how your sweet, beautiful daughter wanted to include you in her bachelorette party! Being that I am also best friends with my mother, I thought that was beyons telling of the relationship you have with Pandora.

Laurielaf
Laurielaf

Lisa, you are my favorite. You are real and a really classy lady. Watch your back, especially with Kyle and Kim and Taylor.

Sassha Martin
Sassha Martin

Lisa, there is nothing wrong with having Giggy & you as your screensaver. Why not look at one of your happiest moments when you touch your screen? Taylor isn't your best friend nor is any of those other ladies especially not Kyle & Taylor. Taylor clearly needs help & just wants a shoulder to cry on when she's having a sparadic bad moment with Russell. She will never be emotional stable while she is with him. I'm loving Camielle this season also(Ur my fav).

People want you to wear your feelings on your sleeve but that's for people who don't REALLY know who they are and actually cares what other people thinks about them. Stay bluntly honest and true to yourself.

LucyLou
LucyLou

Good Grief @ Taylor saying you are egotistical for having your own picture as a screen saver on your iPad! I not only have my own pretty face plastered on my iPad but also on my iPhone and my husband's as well! Taylor needs to get over herself. She makes every last thing about her! Ugh I adore you, Lisa

bird0961
bird0961

Lisa - keep your head up - you are the most "real" person on the show. You say what you mean and you mean what you say. The others are catty including Adrienne which I am quite shocked at - she seemed so much more together last year.

You and your husband are awesome. None of this should get you down and I can clearly see why you would want to walk away!

Illinois Girl
Illinois Girl

I think people just feel sorry for Taylor. She treated you like crap and everyone sympathizes with her given her situation. I think you are the only honest person on the show. The rest of the girls criticize you because you have the whole bit.

housewive fan
housewive fan

Lisa You are a class act. You handled yourself with class as you were being attacked in your own home. You are the show. What happed to Kyle? Not liking her at all this seaon. I'm really feeling Camille

Palmbeachchick
Palmbeachchick

You are the best, I watch the show because of you Love and Light

jeannie
jeannie

Lisa you can just do no wrong!!!!!!!!!!! I adore you!! My dog had same problem as giggy (itching) my vet ahd me was him everyother day for 4 weeks with Palmolive dish soap, the switched to Wen by Chaz my dog isn't itchig and grew his hair back. xoxoxoxoxoxo

J carpenter
J carpenter

Lisa, Didn't care for you at first. Came from a dissolving family like Taylor and learned that she stayed with her husband because that's what she knows. That being said, you should not have to apologize for having a good life. You were good to offer Taylor a place to stay as you did with Cedric, who turned out to take total advantage of your kindness. I thought Camille was crazy last season, but now I think it was all Kyle. She acts like she has such a great life with her husband. I think if it was so great, she wouldn't behave as she does. You tried sticking up for her and her crazy sister. Everyone knows that Kim also has major issues. When this show is over, at least you can say you stayed true to what you believe in. Don't think the rest can say the same. Camille sure is a better person than she was portrayed to be. If I was Adrienne, I would watch out for Taylor, she seemed awful friendly with her husband.

bkliz
bkliz

Hi Lisa, honestly you are the most real of all the Beverly Hills housewives. You call it how you see it, especially regarding Taylor, and I respect that. Taylor knows that you see her as she really is and that started last season when she instigated the fight between Camille and Kyle. I don't believe she really wants to be fiends, but she is afraid of you. I do not believe that you had anything to apologize for since you are not responsible for the way she feels. That is a choice on her part. I love that you are perceptive and have the ability of discernment which is lacking in reality TV. Nobody on this earth is perfect, but you are perfectly yourself. Don't change a thing! God bless

MtnMom
MtnMom

Lisa!! I love YOU!! I don't see where any of those hateful comments came from. Anyone would be lucky to have you as a friend! Keep being you. You're the only reason I watch the show :)

IvanaLSwe
IvanaLSwe

Hi Lisa !!!

I do not really know where to start, I live in Sweden so I'm a little after to see the episodes. Yesterday I saw episode 11 and I was so angry, I felt so sorry for you. I can not believe that grown women acting like teenagers !!! You were the only one who behaved like a real lady (You are a lady never forget it!!!). For us outsiders, it is clear that Kyle and Taylor are not your friends. Taylor is a broken woman, she should have taken care of their problems instead of blaming them on you. The worst thing I know is people who do not stand up for what they think, talk behind your back and turn the words you say. :-/

Enough of that !!!

Lisa, you are a real lady and you inspire me so much. Continue to be yourself you are wonderful !!! Best regards from cold Sweden, love you !!!

ps, excuse my English ;)