I remember so clearly after shooting this episode how I felt. I wanted to walk away and withdraw from these ladies -- to go back to back to a time where I didn't have to defend myself to them, when I just lived in a cocoon with my family, and I was not up for their scrutiny at every pit stop, when I was not trying to navigate my way through this minefield of emotion. That time seemed like a distant memory. . .Welcome to the tea party from hell.
Oh it was so difficult -- firstly knowing I had deliberately been excluded from the lunch, when generally we all do things together. If the roles had been reversed and it was my friend left out, I wouldn't have been able to accept that without saying something.
Now a point you didn’t see was the fact that I said I would not bring the subject up first at my tea party. I would wait and see if the lunch was brought up. It was casually, but provocatively, mentioned that they all went shopping after. Now I knew, just for my own dignity, that I had to confront it.
Lisa, You are the shining star in this show. You deserved better from Kyle than to just sit there not saying a word in your defense. If anyone should be loyal to you, it is her. You have jumped to her defense on numerous occasions, and when it came time for her to stand up for you...well, it didn't happen. Be wary of her and her intentions. I for one would cherish and protect a friendship with an amazing woman like you. Stay strong and beautiful!
You have all of my support. Thank you for being such a strong, classy and honest person. All the best, G
I am a first time blogger so here it goes: Taylor has severe emotional issues which cause her to not clearly see the true picture. I believe you have integrity and class which no one on the show seems to possess like you. I believe you are a very honest, gracious and kind woman for extending your heart and home out to Taylor and she is reacting like a child. Stand tall Lisa, you deserve it
Lisa, I just want to tell you how much I love watching you. You are a classy woman, and I really admire you. I don't understand why Taylor came to your tea party when she didn't invite you to her event. I also don't understand why she came to Pandora's engagement party when her husband wasn't invited and she kept talking behind your back. Keep on being classy, xoxo
I really like your personality, I think you are real and sincere. Obviously, Taylor had her own issues, and the thing about the tabloids was just silly. I must admit, I reacted when you repeatedly said to Taylor to "eat", and said other sarcastic things. I mean, in that way its easy to understand that Tylor didnt know if she could trust you or not.
Lisa the problem is Taylor never realizes she has a problem. Obviously she knows how ti give as good as she gets. It was evident from the moment she entered the tea party. You all know more of what went on inside their marriage. But, Russell cannot speak for himself. I don't condone domestic violence but observing Taylor these past two years, she is far from stable. She is on the verge of snapping herself and not in a good way. I think Taylor was never your friend. She is one of those want to bes who is friends with whomever can do the most for her at the moment!
You handled yourself beautifully in the episode. You were being attacked in your own home by your so called "friends" and we could tell you were definitely blindsided by it. It was hard for me to watch because I really felt for you. I think your blog also was perfect. You are a class act. I hope you received some apologies from the ladies, especially Kyle.
Lisa, You were attacked in your own home, at your personal event and I am sure you felt blindsided. This had been a looong time in coming but Taylor picked the wrong occasion. She picked it so the other girls would back her up which never really materialized to the extent that she wanted it to. Weaker people can never stand alone. You took it head on and brought up her event that you were excluded from. Maybe Russell had some imput to that?? She at this point was not her own person but was flailing out. I am sure you felt awful, anyone would. Your home is your sanctuary. I would have asked her to leave at that point. And then when Russell was brought up, she developed amnesia..."what are you talking about,etc." Fake. She got more than she was expecting that day, just on another subject.
Lisa my daughter and I love you. We felt so bad for you and we felt the book was thrown at you for no reason. We wish you a blessed holidiay.
I'm sorry you were ganged up on. You are the most honest and loyal friend in the group. Don't worry the public sees it.
You have to remember that people often hear what they want to hear. Rather, their experiences are clouded by personal feelings and issues. When Taylor kept saying you said you aren't her friend, when you really said you weren't her best friend, is an example of that. (It reminded me of Camille hearing Kyle say no one wants to with you without Kelsey.)You were saying "I know we aren't close, but I want to help". She heard, "I am not your friend," and she hasn't been able to hear anything else. It is the same thing with the "Taylor has no friends" when you said, "No one has been out with her". That may have been wrong, but you didn't say she didn't have any friends. At the end of all this, it seems clear to me that as unfortunate as the last year has been for Taylor, she creates drama and trouble and anyone around her is at risk of getting sucked in and labeled her attacker.
Lisa, There is no need for you justify your actions. You invited the women to your home and you were attacked instead of thanked. It's interesting to me that you seem to only attribute your hurt feelings to Taylor. I agree it might have been a snub, that she didn't invite you to her lunch. But big deal, if she didn't want you there did you really want to be there? I wouldn't. You seem to hold Taylor to a higher standard than you do Kyle. Why is that? You yourself said, you and Taylor are not best friends (even though she kept saying you said you were not friends) but you claim that Kyle is one of your best friends. It was Kyle who was disloyal to you, not Taylor. It was Kyle who trash talked you to Taylor. One would think you would have learned from last year what type of person Kyle is. She didn't even show loyalty to her own sister, why would you think she would display any toward you? Kyle's world is all about Kyle. Seeing how she totally took the spotlight from Pandora at Pandora's engagement party was shocking to me. Seriously, it was YOUR daughter's party, a once in a lifetime event, and Kyle HAD to make it all about her and her splits. The episode became all about how bendy Kyle is rather than about you and your daughter.
I thought Lisa was a very gracious hostess while being berated in her own home by Taylor. Had that been me I would have told her to watch her step! And she came because she was invited? She could have said she couldn't make it! Remember this Lisa..keep your friends close, your enemies closer!
Lisa, I'm a huge fan of yours. I honestly was surprised when you brought up the luncheon so quickly at the tea party, as I don't remember anyone mentioning the shopping trip that you allude to in your blog. If that was intentionally edited out of the episode, it just serves as further proof that the producers are out to paint you as the villain.....wonder why that isn't working so well for them? Because it's so untrue, and because your integrity and kindness ALWAYS shines through! Just keep on being you, and public opinion will continue to be in your favor. You, unlike Taylor, do not have to have overdramatic emotional meltdowns to elicit sympathy.
It was distressing to watch this episode, both as a survivor of domestic abuse and also as a woman who has been blindsided by the behavior of people I thought I could trust. I know when I was in my own toxic and troubled relationship I transferred a lot of my anger and hurt on to the wrong people. I didn't feel brave enough to direct my anger at the right person. But I also manipulated my support system, because I was very broken. It is only in hindsight that I can see how my behavior affected friends who were trying to be supportive
When you tell Taylor that you're not masquerading as her best friend what I hear is "we haven't been close, we've had our problems, but your situation is too important for those things to matter and I would like to help you". She's twisting what you say, and part of that may be her personality and part of that may be the situation at home.
I've never written in before, but I wanted to say I'm such a huge fan of your class and dignity in handling this matter. It is too bad other people that should have supported you were less than helpful and (at least it seems from what we're shown) actually stirred the pot behind the scenes. And quite frankly, if I look half as good as you when I'm your age I would have my picture as my screensaver. You're awesome.
Lisa you rock ! Taylor is so emotionally unstable you need to take everything she does with a grain of salt. I am getting tired of the Taylor Therapy Show and I hope the rumor is true that she got fired, she needs to be locked up in a psych ward for a few months.
For the life of me, I cannot understand why they don't hear the difference between the statements: I'm not maquerading as your BEST friend, vs. I'm not your friend...! The mind boggles.
I believe you handled yourself well in this situation, especially in your own home. You and Taylor are clearly not compatible as friends and where there are women, there will be gossip. I wouldn't trust Kyle as far as I can throw her, but I think you know that now. There are times when I think you are harsh on Taylor but she is very fragile & I think anyone who speaks to her can be considered harsh even while not trying. You shouldn't stick your hand out to her anymore & not invite her to any of your events. If she couldn't address you about your conflict without the ladies, she's got a lot of growing up to do. While I sympathize with her situation, I hope she sees that she didn't handle it well at all. Don't be fooled, Kyle & Adrienne talk about you as well but they just would never say it to your face.
Right on, Lisa! You behaved as a lady should, given the hostile environment Taylor created for you, and herself. Kyle is a fair weather friend, and does not deserve your friendship and loyalty. Keep calm and keep strong.
You are one of the more authentic housewives of all of the Housewives series. If you and Camille weren't on this show, I simply would not be interested. From the beginning you saw through Taylor's and Russell's farce. You were askance at Russell from the onstart and as we now ALL know, rightfully so. There was something that didn't sit well with you with Taylor and again you were right. Taylor was living a lie that was beyond her power to control. This lie probably created her desperation for friends & acceptance, and her diminished self-esteem. Taylor is a shard of glass and broken glass has no bias, it cuts whoever holds it, as displayed at your tea when she betrayed her "friends" and began to speak of their private conversations about you. (That's called throwing someone under the bus) She has no sense of loyalty. If I were in that situation, I would have NEVER threw my "friends" under the bus and told you what they said about you. That's for them to do. But Taylor was a coward and wanted to jockey for position by amassing the numbers against you and trying to hurt you (and in your own home). If she didn't liek you so much she shoudln't have come to Pandora's engagement party. Taylor has portrayed herself to be leech, sucking on your hospitality and connections for her own fulfillment. I do not respect that. I don't respect people who have the audacity to come into someone's home and disrespect them. Taylor should have had a one-on-one with you. Taylor constantly misquoted you in saying you said you "weren't her friend" when everyone in TV land heard your exact words, you're "not one of her close friends, but she can come and stay with you." Which I thought that was a sincere offer. Also, you didn't say she didn't have friends you just stated she was not close with certain people. Those were ACCURATE statements. Then "your ego is out of control"...I think your esteem is healthy, there's NOTHING wrong with your screensaver most Americans have pictures of themselves on their laptops and phones. Only a person with poor self-esteem would attack someone for putting a picture of themselves on their personal possession. It wasn't like you forwarded the picture to Taylor and the other women and said "Hey girls make my picture your screensavers or desktop background." That would be out of control. LOL!
Anyway Lisa, you are fab and have the best bod out of ALL the girls regardless of age. Girl, you wear those dresses well! You have JLo and Beyonce rumps, you make me want to go to the gym and work on mine. :)
U handled that confrontation well.
Hope u can see things more clearly. Seems like there are always ulterior motives with a few of the ladies. It happens in all groups.
Happy upcoming holidays.
please keep being the lady that you are tylor got alot to firgure out and she isnt strong like you she never will be she got no back bone she a want a be sad
It's crazy how one teeny tiny person can stir up so much drama and convince your friends to go against you when that person is clearly having emotional problems. Why Adrienne was convinced you said you were not Taylor's friend is confusing. Why Kyle sat there when she could have helped,is confusing. I certainly will be awaiting the reunion for that excuse. Camille, I feel, was the only one that sort of came to your defense, and kudos to her for setting Taylor straight. You are my fav on this show. I like Kyle and Adrienne as well. Hope you guys can work things through, if not already!
Lisa - you are a standout! You're not catty and insecure like so many women, including your co-stars. I admire you. You have endearing self-effacing humor, genuine confidence and eloquence. Kyle doesn't deserve your friendship! You're too good for these women.
I wouldn't watch this show if you weren't on it. I love you and your family!. But I also feel bad for you. The only person who backed you up was Camille. You need to look closely and see who your friends are. It's obvious some of your friends have backstabbed you.
Love, Sandy Xoxo
Remember when Taylor lied at the diner table in NY at Kelsys Premier about who spilled the beans to Camile and why she attacked Kyle?? Kim told Taylor it was she who said something to Camile, and you Lisa knew it was the truth. Why didnt you bring that up to Taylor while she was telling you how she has kissed your ass for over a year to be friends with you. I have been an abused wife, but i still wouldnt lie to my friends about my character. Taylor needs to be gone, and im surprised that Kyle has been fooled by her as stated by Kim at Taylors Birthday party when Kyle decided to believe Taylor instead of her own sister as to who started that fight!! Do any of you actually watch these shows?? It doesnt take a mind reader to see who is at fault. Im not saying Kim hasnt got her own issues, but Kyle threw her under the bus at that affair, and she remains friends with Taylor who to me stills wants to kick some Oklahoma, but this time directed at you Lisa....As for Camile, Bravo, as for Adrienne its time to get off the fence and defend your "real friends" (Brandi included). Kyle, your cute, but somewhere along the line i believe its YOUR ego thats out of hand!!
Lisa!!! You're the best!!! Don't worry most women who are so insecured of themselves are the ones that will not listen very carefully, and so they create such stories to make them look good, or make them look as if they need help from you and trust me she is doing so poorly on being anyone's friend. Lisa, stick to your true friends and you know who exactly they are, they are the ones that will not throw you under the bus, they will defend you knowing on what you said or didn't say and they will be there to back you up, quickly and not be afraid of what the other ladies are thinking or saying, because your true friends know the real deal and know that you are a good true friend and you are the one that can tell it like it is, for better or worse and trust me I rather have an honest truthful friend then a liar that would rather see me drown... Love you Lisa, please keep being the kool one the one that can talk it out, the one that is so truthful that makes the others look at themselves and correct themselves before speaking with you because they know you do not bullshit around anyone, you don't have time to bullshyt anyone and that is why you are a truthful person, a very good friend and if Taylor can't appreciate that, then by all mean leave her alone to herself and let her pity herself, she brought on the troubles herself, she likes to bring up shit and when you try to help she lies about what she really said, she invents in order to make herself look as if she didn't do anything wrong. I don't agree with Domestic Violence having been there myself, but it does take two, not saying about the hitting part, definitely it's not good to hit, whether a man or woman, what I mean it takes two to make a marriage and to break it, Taylor has some issues, she likes to spend alot of money, she likes to tell people that she's unhappy & that her husband doesn't love her, when he does loves her, but he is under lots of strain with this whole money issues and doesn't like his business in TV land, where all could see and make assumptions on him, so it makes him insecured of himself, but Taylor never help the situation by talking about him so much, and lying about him at times, she is pathetic. So, yeah Lisa you are better off to having your own true friends and family, it's best to keep them simple.
Lisa, I think you have more support than you know. It was shocking to see Taylor's rant at your tea party. She doesn't even know how to approach someone when she has concern's. The childish way she didn't invite you to her luncheon...those are games real friends don't play. You were totally up front with her about Pandora's party. I don't even think she heard you try to apologize if you offended her. I (and I believe others) find nothing wrong with your approach of her. She has a warped way of hearing things. Anybody would be lucky to have you as a friend. Stay sweet, because you have a big fan base just the way you are. PS My new screensaver is a picture of me with my beloved kitty ; )
dear lisa, we adore you. you are such a lady. kyle is not on your level and it has nothing to do with finance. she is mean and than says sorry. at a some point in life this type of behavior is wary.life is to short. chin up! and carry on as you do so beautifully.
Lisa, There is no need for you justify your actions. You invited the women to your home and you were attacked instead of thanked. It's interesting to me that you seem to only attribute your hurt feelings to Taylor. I agree it might have been a snub, that she didn't invite you to her lunch. But big deal, if she didn't want you there did you really want to be there? I wouldn't. You seem to hold Taylor to a higher standard than you do Kyle. Why is that? You yourself said, you and Taylor are not best friends (even though she kept saying you said you were not friends) but you claim that Kyle is one of your best friends. It was Kyle who was disloyal to you, not Taylor. It was Kyle who trash talked you to Taylor. One would think you would have learned from last year what type of person Kyle is. She didn't even show loyalty to her own sister, why would you think she would display any toward you? Kyle's world is all about Kyle. Seeing how she totally took the spotlight from Pandora at Pandora's engagement party was shocking to me. Seriously, it was YOUR daughter's party, a once in a lifetime event, and Kyle HAD to make it all about her and her splits. The episode became all about how bendy and funloving Kyle is rather than about your daughter. I feel Kyle set you up last year to go against Kim and Camille and this year it seems that you and Brandi are her new targets. We have seen her face to face conflicts with Brandi, now she she is stabbing Kim in the back AGAIN by trying to mend fences with the woman who called Kim a drug addict on national TV. We have seen her bad mouth you and not speak up in your defense when others bad mouth you. This is not a woman who knows the meaning of loyalty. You have proven time and again that you are Kyle's friend. Last season you didn't like Camille and Kim because of things that Kyle said about them. I think you are a smart woman. I don't get why you don't see through Kyle.
You are a class act, as everyone knows! Kyle is NOT your true friend. as YOU now know. And Taylor is a train wreck who should not be on a reality show. Nor should Russell have been. Its a tragic example of two unstable people snapping and breaking under pressure who were never stable to begin with. Its clear and sad that the only things that really concern Taylor is money and airtime. Kyle should wise up. She had it in her power to smooth that whole mess over, but instead she added fuel to that fire. Watch your back with her!
I don't see why you were upset about not getting an invitation to Taylor's event. You made a point of calling Taylor and inviting her, minus her husband, to your daughter's event. Seeing how Russell was at his wife's event and knowing that you don't want to be around him....why were you so darn surprised?? Get over it. With that said, it's obvious Taylor is out of control and it does seem like you want to make a dig where you can. I don't care for her, but I know you know better.
I just wonder what you are thinking of Kyle now. don't you feel betrayed? You've given her your whole heart, and she just isn't a very loyal person. So sorry for you, she has let you down.
You are a diamond in the rough. Your strong character is what I like to see on reality TV, and people can say what they want, your actions, words, and disposition tell the truth and we see it. It's great that you can have compassion for her, and know that when people act out it's because they themselves are miserable. It's interesting to see how much unconscious people project, and it takes a wise person to see that for what it is and not take it personal. I feel for you in this situation, and I think the friends you were hoping to have your back just didn't want to be in the middle. No one is perfect.
How can you say 'I can't believe her without seeing it with my own eyes' and a few sentences later state that 'if I thought she was lying I would never talk to her again'. The logic is lost on me.
You are a wonderful soul. How sad that you are in mix of some of these women. Taylor is insecure and not very bright. She certainly is not a loyal friend to anyone. Her situation is sad, but now there is always two sides to the story and we will never hear Russell's side
Camille is the only one who addressed Taylor in t he last episode and cudos to her. I don't know what happened to Kyle, she seems to be playing both sides of the fence this year and neithervery well.
Again, the best to you and your family. You are the best!
Lisa, you are the most beautiful woman inside and out. I think Taylor needs to back off and quit crying on every episode.
Lisa, u have the most class out of all these women. well, Adrienne is also very classy. You also are the only one that truly works and works hard. The rest definetely have issues. So, no you are not a bully. I would move on to better company and get the heck out of that show. You don't need the money!
Lisa: Thought you acted with class, if it were me I would have thrown the bums out. I thought it was clear that Taylor was projecting big time when she went after you. When she tearfully cried, "I can never be good enough for you no matter how hard I try," it was clear she saw Russell's face superimposed upon your own. And I think your photo with your little dog on your IPAD is amusing and cute--the fact that she even picked on that little personal detail, speaks volumes that Taylor was not able to face the real monster at that point so she was dashing about screaming at the shadows. I am sorry you had to suffer the fall out.
Lisa - you handled the confrontation really well. Kudos. While I can understand Taylor not inviting you to the luncheon (she had limited amount of seats and Russell was on the war path as he believed you were leaking stories about his marriage to the press), she should have called you beforehand and not let you get blindsided by the news. Taylor is obviously broken and needy. That you generously apologized instead of counter-attacking was very telling of your good character. Stay true to who you are and let the criticism roll off.
Lisa, You are one class act! Taylor was completely out of control but you remained calm and reasonable, no easy feat to achieve when you are being attacked in your own home. We love you for just the way you are - strong, intelligent and honest.
Lisa, I felt so bad for you this episode. I recently experienced a similar rift/betrayal with mt best friend of 39 years. Luckily, I loved her enough to let my hurt feelings go. I am like you, fiercely loyal to friends and family, no questions asked. It is such a shock when you find that trait is not returned by your closest friend, who quote "doesnt like any conflict, sorry". This coming from the person I had backed thru numerous conflicts, again without question.
I hope all works out for you, whatever it is that makes you happy. For me it was knowing I loved my best friend. I realize other people cannot be expected to have the same value on loyalty or to act as I would in any given situation.
Lisa, When someone says "I'm not taking sides", they clearly are choosing not to take your side. A true friend always takes your side! I didn't understand how you could not see through Kyle last year. I hope you are aware of her character now. She is NOT worthy of your friendship. Also thought it was funny your "ego" was attacked shortly before Taylor said to Paul at the gate " I look good, right". Love you darling (wish I could be your loyal friend ;)!
I really admire you for handling yourself with such dignity under those circumstances. I think, at least initially, the other ladies didn't want to get involved in what they thought was Taylor's problem with you. But as it went on, I was very disappointed with some of them for not speaking up. Adrienne has usually been the calmest and a peacemaker and she was speechless. Kyle only gets involved in her sister's life and can't really handle confrontation around her. Camille finally spoke up and said the words everyone was thinking about Taylor's situation. So I guess for the next few episodes we will see how Taylor reacts to Camille snarkily and playing the poor me tunes. Anyway, you saw through it all and tried to help Taylor pretty much before anyone else even said anything about her. You were and are a better friend to her than any of the others. She just won't admit it.
My heart really went out to you this episode. You were the true picture of "Grace under Fire" as you were attacked in your own home. It must have been even more devastating, for your so called friend Kyle to not come to your defense. Infact, Kyle only add more fuel to the fire with comments like, "You do have a big ego." It became clear that Kyle had been speaking badly about you with Taylor in this episode which is shocking because you have been such a good and loyal friend to Kyle. There isn't a doubt in my mind that this all stemmed from jealousy. You were clearly the break out star (behind Giggy of course) from season one, you have a enviable marriage, family, thriving and glamours businesses and to top it off, you always look impeccably fabulous. Unfortunately, most women would get intimidated and want to knock you down a peg, to make themselves feel better. It's sad but true. Also, Kyle prefers to be the Alpha female and boss her sister and Taylor about. She could never be that with you and she doesn't like that. I think most women have been betrayed by other women and it is so upsetting. Kyle will most certainly regret forsaking your friendship. However, I truly believe you would be better off without her as she has proven herself to be an extremely immature MEAN girl this season. I think we are all reevaluating everything that transpired last season with Camille and Kyle. Chin up, everything is a learning lesson and for one friendship possibly lost, you have gained thousands of fan/ friends! Many Blessings to you and your pretty lady!
Dear Lisa......I absolutely adore you and, like so many other fans of the show, you are my favorite "housewife". It really isn't necessary for you to apologize or even explain yourself with regard to the Taylor issue.
The woman has obviously spent her entire life casting herself in the role of victim in order to gain sympathy. Plain and simply put, she is an energy vampire, sucking up every bit of available energy in every room she enters. Being an excellent judge of character and intuitive, you saw through Taylor immediately which is why she's uncomfortable around you. No your problem though.
I've never understood your friendship with Kyle but in my humble opinion she is not worthy of you and she has behaved deplorably towards you. Kyle and Taylor are equally mean, nasty and shallow and therefore quite a good match. And they appear to be getting their comeuppance from the fans and learning that we are quite capable of determining who is right and who is wrong in any given situation that we've been shown.
Just yesterday I heard rumblings of a possible spinoff for you and I can't tell you how thrilled I'd be if that, in fact, is true. Best wishes for a fabulous holiday to you and your family, Lisa.