Cast Blog: #RHOBH

Adrienne Didn't Mean to Make Trouble

Kim doesn't blame Adrienne or Brandi for starting drama at dinner, and she's just sorry she started crying.

Hi everyone. I hope you're all having a wonderful week!

In watching this episode as you can see there was a little drama but all in all we had a good time.

Going to Yolanda's was nice. It was a beautiful at the beach that day and it was so nice to visit and get to know her a little bit better. Ojai is special to me, and I guess it has a special place in her heart as well.

Watching Kyle and Alexia at the DMV brought pack a lot of memories. Oh how I've been there! Waiting for your child to come out of that testing room is such a big deal. I have been through this four times. My heart was right there with her and Alexia while waiting for the results! As I watched Kyle tear up and discuss Alexia getting her driver's license and becoming more independent, I had a flashback to when I was tearing up because my daughter was moving out. I remember Kyle saying something like "It's part of life Kim. You need to find your own life now." LOL. As I watched Kyle, I thought. . .it's just a driver's license, little sister. She's just going down the street! Haha! She'll be back In 15 minutes! Bye-bye! My heartfelt so huge for her because I completely understand! Well Alexia passed and she's off to college in Kyle's Maserati. YAY!

I was really looking forward to trip to Ojai. Friendships, growth, and moving forward was the goal for the girls and I! Riding up to Ojai, of course, the scenery was beautiful, and the company was good and entertaining.

Whenever all of us get together in a car and Camille is with us, it seems like there's always some sort of discussion about bleaching or tattooing. . .mmmm! Interesting right? As long as it's not before a meal! Right?

Arriving at the house it was absolutely beautiful! When we took the tour and Sean dropped "five-bedrooms for seven girls bomb" on us everyone froze. I knew we'd figure it out as the house and the room were so beautiful. When Lisa and Brandi arrived it was definitely uncomfortable for a moment. A bit tension in the room. But that went away quickly and we were off to dinner!

I wanted this dinner to be different with no special seating. Everyone got to sit next to who they wanted to sit next to! And it created an opportunity for Brandi and I to sit across from one an another. No it wasn't planned this way, it's just the way it ended up! This gave us an opportunity to get to know each other a little.

In talking with Brandi, I felt like I really began to understand her and that we were connecting! She started talking about how when she's alone in her home that she drinks, and I did too. And then she said when her kids are gone she's lonely and she drinks, and I said I did too. And then she said all her friends are married and she's lonely and she hasn't had a lot of people to talk to and she drinks, and I said I did too! I completely related to her in this whole conversation! And it triggered some real emotions in me, reminding me of how painful some of these experiences have been.

But when she brought up Game Night, that's when I put my hand up. I wasn't angry at her at the dinner table, but it took me back to a place that was way too too painful for me. I just didn't want to talk about it. When she brought it up again, it was just one of those moments what was just too painful and hurtful and too much for me! I don't think that Adrienne was trying to cause problems. I think she saw me crying and was truly concerned. Nor do i think Brandy meant to yell "f---" at the table! I think she didn't want me to be embarrassed for crying! I don't think anyone that night was trying to make a problem. I didn't mean to cry!

I think this is the beginning for Brandi and I. And I really do get to know her a lot better! Everyone of these women are beautiful and have sensitive sides. I'm truly thankful for this experience in growing with them and learning more about who they are. I'm growing every day and learning more about myself!

Lisa V.: Lisa R. Took the Bait

Lisa V. talks about the explosive dinner in Amsterdam and why she understands where Brandi is coming from with the hypocrisy comment.

Hello again. How crazy was this one?
So as we join the ladies in Amsterdam, I meet Lisa and Eileen for some tea in the lounge. I was reticent to be involved in this potential confrontation. I had voiced my concerns gently to Lisa, expressing my thoughts on discussing sobriety with Kim--it was a land mine that I wanted to avoid. Anyway, we go to dinner...I actually cringed as I objected to Yolanda's stance on prostitution, my caustic remark in interview, but that, in the grand scale of things, flew under the radar. However, I am sure in situations where there is no choice, maybe prostitution is understandable, but in a cosmopolitan city like Amsterdam where there are a plethora of choices--maybe even menial--but choices nonetheless, whilst preserving our dignity, they would be mine.
So the dinner progresses. I once again don't agree that we have superficial conversations in Beverly Hills as Yolanda said. Maybe some do, but I am sure my character is the same as when I was in the heart of the English countryside, or wherever I lived.

Lisa took the bait, and therefore became somewhat culpable in this whole scenario.

Lisa Vanderpump

So things start to heat up...Lisa categorically says, "I apologize for getting in your business." That should have been the end of it, but no, Kim was gunning for her and was not going to back down. She was on a mission. I adore Lisa, and I don't stand in front of her and condone her actions (any physicality does not sit well with me), however, there comes a time when one might just snap, especially when you are defending the good name of your family, their integrity in a public arena against the aggressor, being Kim, who is hinting at insidious rumors. I urge Lisa to challenge her later over the spiteful intimation regarding Harry. I was absolutely of the mind that it was empty rhetoric, designed to incite Lisa. But Lisa reacted to it. Lisa took the bait, and therefore became somewhat culpable in this whole scenario.


Once again Kim lambasts Kyle for not defending her. How could Kyle defend her mean-spirited remarks? Calling Eileen a beast? I mean, have you all met Eileen? Really?
Lisa absolutely apologized to Kim in her attempt to intervene in regard to her sobriety. As she emotionally conveyed that her sister had died from some sort of abuse, either alcohol or drugs--I am not sure, it didn't even resonate with Kim. Lisa also stated she had witnessed alcoholism in Harry's family where loved ones were lost. Kim ignored Lisa's point that there was no mal intent, that it was coming from a place of concern. Yes, a place that was public, but we all understand that if we sign up to do a reality show, then our reality is displayed. If we have something to hide (skeletons in a closet), be sure they will come jumping out like a frigging jack in the box.
The enormity of the situation was pretty emotional. Each and every one of us astounded as to what we had witnessed. The most fascinating part when watching this is the fact that in the aftermath of the emotional explosion, one conversation between Lisa and Kim, which we obviously did not witness, all feelings were buried. A band-aid was put on the wound, and we were supposed to pretend as if it never ever existed. I think It was a double-edged sword: One side wonderful that everything was buried under a little Dutch rug, and we could enjoy the sights of Amsterdam; the other side being there was obvious feelings that were festering. My attitude was that I would've rather enjoyed the trip and dealt with whatever residual feelings upon our return.
I have to say it was pretty hilarious that out of all the men and all the windmills, we found one of Yolanda's ex-boyfriends. What a gift that we giggled over, enjoying the playful banter as we teased her.


All was sailing along pretty smoothly until the pot shop. I make no pretenses of anything whatsoever. We are in a public forum, we are all aware of that. My children are grown, and I understand the reticence to partake in whatever was on offer, but then let's not go there in the first place. Let us not sit in the middle of this bar and start hurling accusations designed to embarrass.
I do understand to some extent what Brandi is saying regarding hypocrisy. If you do it, own it, but in all the years I have known Kyle, I don't ever recall seeing her smoking. Brandi persisted, but the caveat here is we are all too often the victims of her behavior. When she drinks, things often become aggressive...as you will see next week.
I know this is only a blog, and in my attempt to further explain the complicated dynamics, it could well turn into a book, so I will leave you here and hope you all have a fruitful week.

I am leaving NY after speaking at the United Nations--an overwhelming experience. It was snowing, so East Coast, stay warm! As always...Love, Lisa.

 

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