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An Opportunity for Change

Kim explains why she forgave Taylor and what she wanted going into the Reunion.

Hi everyone! Part 1 of the Reunion is here!

As far as Adrienne not coming, I think she needed to take some time to figure out how to handle such a sensitive situation and think about what to discuss or not to discuss. I do wish is that she would eventually come back on board with all of us! Most of the season revolved around Adrienne's situation and how we were dealing with this issue, and what we could and couldn't say about it! I only wish she would have come to the Reunion to let people know she feels!

When asked if I had any regrets about telling Paul and Adrienne about Brandi comments, I said that I didn't and I think I did the right thing! Could my timing have been better? Well. . .sure! But I did call them before Mauricio's event, and no one called me back! What Brandi said would effect them and their children (obviously it had an effect on Adrienne). I took Adrienne and Paul into the corner, and I figured they would take in this information and discuss it before talking to Brandi!! I did not think that they would react the way they did! I really do regret the situation turned into a shouting match at Mauricio's event. Certainly this could have been handled differently all the way around!

My big question remained. . .was there a lawsuit filed? Brandi said she's being sued! Adrienne said she wasn't suing anybody! Finally, Brandi cleared it up for me. Adrienne sent a letter to Brandi’s friend Geneva, which discussed what Brandi had said. In return, Brandi had her divorce attorney respond, hence this is where her legal bills came from. The exact story with all the details seemed so confusing to all of us during the season!!!

Most importantly, in regard to the master cleanse, I want to be absolutely clear that Yolanda and I NEVER made plans! She did NOT call me, and I did NOT call her after Ojai! There were no messages left on her machine, and there were none left on mine! No emails were exchanged!

In fact, as she said at the reunion, the ONLY plans that she ever made were with Sally, our production manager! I NEVER spoke to Sally about this! It was very manipulative of Yolanda to say this!! If you want to rewind your DVR, it's all there!!! She only spoke to Sally about this, so I truly don't understand why she feels the need to lie about this.

She tried to make me look bad at Dar Maghreb, and now again at the reunion, I really don’t understand why she’s made such a big issue over this! For someone who says she has my back, and is always looking out for me, why is she lying about me and wanting me to look like I am irresponsible!?! It’s no secret that I’ve struggled, and I have not been always been reliable. I have worked very hard this last year on myself, in my relationships, on being on time, and to improve myself in many other ways. It hasn't been easy. It’s very important to me that today I am accountable, reliable honest, and on top of my game! So when someone tries to make up lies or discredit me in anyway, I will defend myself!

I noticed she was doing the same thing to my sister, when she accused Kyle of not bringing her any water! She said she just came from Cedars Sinai, and was very sick! That was the day we had a big shoot, and we had been there for hours. Lots and lots of people running around, camera crews, wardrobe, hair, makeup, and all the Housewives. Typical crazy photo shoot day! All of sudden, we notice Yolanda just sitting in the back of her car in the driveway. I went to speak with her and she barely spoke to me. I thought she was mad at me. Only later did we find out she had been in the hospital, and had been sick. We were there for about two hours, and then she was gone! I think she was trying to make my sister look bad by saying she didn't even offer her a glass of water! I think Yolanda and I started off well, but somehow our friendship has taken a turn for the worse.

As far as Taylor and I go, I’m no expert, and I was only trying to offer some advice from my own experience, as I felt scared for her. When my drinking was at its worst, people came and talked to me about it. I just wanted to share my experiences with her, as I think having people talk behind our backs about it isn’t constructive. She seemed to respond very well. I know there were some feelings shared on Taylor's blog that Andy mentioned, but that’s OK. It’s all good now, and I’m glad we were able to clear the air at the reunion. Taylor looks beautiful and she sounds great. I'm very happy for her, her new relationship, and her new life with Kennedy!

I feel bad for what Kyle and Lisa are going through with their friendship. I remember the two of them being the best of friends! I do know that Kyle loves Lisa with all her heart, and I believe Lisa loves her too.

Lastly, Kyle brought up what Yolanda had said to both of us about Lisa in Paris. This is what Yolanda said; "Lisa's not your friend", "Who's there for you? Me! I am!", "I'm the one who came to your room to check on you!" "I'm the one who's been calling!", "Lisa is ‘full of s---."  She accused Lisa of not caring about me, and only doing this for the show.

When I came home from the trip and I saw Lisa, I realized I had fallen into a trap with Yolanda. I still think it was wrong for Lisa to have talked behind my back, but I’ve known Lisa for a very long time (much longer than Yolanda) and I don’t appreciate that. We may not always agree on things, but I believe Lisa has my best interests at heart, just as I do for her. I love her very much and I know she loves me. I know Lisa and I have had our moments and differences of opinion, but she’s such a caring person. It seems to me that Yolanda is making a pattern of untrue statements and allegations, and I don't understand why.

I really want the Reunions to be an opportunity for us to get our feelings out and clarify things for each other. Although they can get heated, I hope they are a chance to move forward in our friendships, and not just throw darts at each other.

Have a great week everyone and we'll see you at Part 2 of the Reunion next week!

xo

Kim

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Brandi: You Can't Confirm What Didn't Happen

Brandi questions some of the ladies' motives, plus gives an interesting update on her relationship with LeAnn. 

Hey, My Bravoistas!

I’m in my American Airlines' seat 36 hours later, flying back home from NYC, thankful to be on a safe path home. My prayers go out to the families and loved ones of the downed German airliner in the French Alps this morning. I cannot imagine the pain being experienced by these families at this moment, which shockingly has led me to add a new person into my flight prayer today...my children’s stepmom. Don’t get me wrong--not everything is yet copasetic, but my children love her, so she is now in the “flight prayer,” differences aside. Now on a happier RHOBH note, last night’s WWHL with Andy was sooooo fun! No drama for once!

NEWS FLASH! Please watch for my new Sonoma County Chardonnay “Unfiltered Blonde,” to launch in April!

As I look over this past season, all I can say is it’s been an odd one. There were so many fun moments that got lost in the drama and so many weeks of fun you never saw at all. I wish you had, but I'm not in control of everything we get to see. I’d like to remember having fun with Kim “stalking” my now boyfriend J.R. That was such a crazy fun girls' night, Lisa R. being chased by killer bees, Yolanda and her Facetime confusion and meeting her family for the second time this--time in Holland, the Foster Foundation Extravaganza, “singing” at Lisa V.’s birthday party, and Kyle pretending to be a caring sister and owning yachts and planes…haha.
Ok, I’ll behave.

Here we are at the last episode of the season, yet, it seems most are still stuck in the beginning. I wish we weren’t, and I would dearly like to leave “Poker Night” behind. However, one person continues to make it the focal point of every interaction from when it happened and far into the three-part reunion.

This episode opens with Rinna tearing down a swing set, but her home interviews are still about what she perceives as Kim’s issues to be, not the actual touching moment of what the swing set tear-down symbolizes or her own family (I can't wait for her daughters to write their Brooke Shields-style memoir when they are age appropriate). LR says she feels sorry for Kim and cares about Kim and wishes Kim well. The truth is a lot less pretty. Some people have been attacking Kim’s sobriety online this week, but we won’t name names. BTW, Kim is sober and not online. She is busy caring for serious ill family members and driving back and forth to doctors and hospitals and being strong for her family.

Next we see Nicky Hilton’s book signing--sister Paris and mom Kathy Hilton are there. Looks like a great party and congrats to Nicky on her style book. Camille looks gorgeous as usual. Kyle angrily flips her hair, because Kim was wearing a shirt that she carries at “her” shop, but didn’t buy it there...whatever. Then Kyle whispers about her sister Kim to Lisa V. and Camille.
Kyle then tells them she is confused and impatient that Kim hasn’t confronted me over her third-hand Lisa R. gossip. She states Kim WILL be hurt and broken hearted over what “I” said… Kyle seems way too overy excited about that happening, which I find kind creepy. Why would anyone WANT their sister to be hurt or in pain?!

The preparations for Adrienne’s party are in full swing next. Lisa V. is fretting it, Kim is casually discussing the intervention GOSSIP with her makeup artist before the party, I’m getting ready and waiting for my friends and my date.

Adrienne’s party is the big finale of our journey this year. Everyone is there, and Adrienne always excels at events. So here we go. First off, my mind was not on the party at all. My father was recently hospitalized, and I didn’t leave his side for two weeks. It was very serious, but I had to return home to my boys. He was still not conscious, but I needed to get home to run my household--a party was the last place I wanted to be, but I had promised. That’s why I decided to bring the few people that I felt I could depend on in that moment. My friends and J.R. have been there for me during my father’s health scare and over more then a month of hospitalization--that was and is what remains what’s important to me.

The party seems like it was fun for a lot of people who weren’t involved in Kyle and Lisa. R.’s drama. I wish I were one of them, but in a way I was. As much as Kyle relished telling Kim the hurtful gossip she heard from LR, what she wanted to happen didn’t happen. There was no argument between Kim and I. We were happy to see each other. We spoke easily. I was busy worrying about my Dad; she was busy with her family.

What we saw on the finale was an efficient Kim quietly confronting Lisa R., then leaving Lisa R.'s table somewhat amused. Lisa R. couldn’t confirm the veracity of her gossip, because I DIDN’T SAY IT. Thanks again to Bravo for showing the truth in a flashback last week.

So, Kim knew who was who and what was what. The entertainment of the night was provided by Lisa R. going radio silent while Kyle begged for corroboration on her dramatic intervention gossip. Watching Yolanda, Eileen, and Lisa V. urge Lisa R. to support Kyle and verify her hurtful gossip was almost amusing. You can't confirm what didn't happen, can you?

In the end, I left the party early. Why? Not because of a past friendship with Lisa V. It's not her that made me cry--I was crying for my father, my dad! I was in no place to be at a superficial party, discussing a superficial incident with a person who was clearly not a friend, not that night. I said I would show up, and I did. After that, I wanted to be with my real close friends and family. Since this party my dad came out of the ICU and after 2 entire months and after a long stressful time I want to thank Dr. Allen Morris and all the doctors and nurses at Mercy General Hospital of Sacramento for saving my dad's life yet agin for the second time in 15 years. He is doing much better and continuing his hope of a full recovery. I am so thankful to all the people who were there for me and continue to be here for my family and I.

THAT is what life’s about, being with the people who truly love and care about you and the feelings are reciprocated.

As you hear, at the end of the finale, I am wistful, yet, wiser, and I think in a stronger place. I love and loved being there for Kim and being Kim’s friend, and I love that she was, is, and has been here for me. Even more so, I'm grateful and blessed to have Yolanda in my life; she is no bullsh--. Even when suffering herself, she is still so selfless. Yo is very special to me, I love her, she gets me, we have fun together, and I value every moment we spend together. I always will. As for the rest, I hope to share laughs and fun again, maybe tears, but hopefully only joy.

Peace Out. (deuces MFs--JK)

XOXO,

B

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