When we first sat down, Lisa said she could tell I was doing well, because I looked well. Those are things in early recovery that you need to hear. When Lisa asked me if I felt strong in my sobriety or if there are days that I felt like I could relapse, I tried to explain to her that there were people and situations that were frustrating, hurtful, or overwhelming for me. Those feelings and that pain that I had made me fearful of where those emotions could take me had I not dealt with them properly. That's why I was working with my life coach, my therapist, and PRAYER, which is a very big part of my recovery. And of course the Twelve Steps. These tools have given me the strength to stay sober through some very difficult times. Looking at my sister's face, I couldn't figure out exactly what she was feeling. When someone said "Is that person at the table?," to be quite honest, there were a few of them at the table that have sparked those emotions in me. But I genuinely care about all of them, so it's important for me to work through this for myself, and with them, while maintaining my sobriety the whole time, which is new for me.
Lunch was going great, until Brandi talked about what all went down with her and Adrienne.
When someone doesn't like someone or doesn't get along with them, sometimes they don't say very nice things. We've all been guilty of that, but I felt like Brandi talking against Adrienne, and all the girls just sitting there, while nobody was defending her or stopping it, was wrong. I almost felt new to the group, as I really am just getting to know everybody after two years. Brandi started with "Well, I think she lies a lot, doesn't have a book deal, and something about an argument over the phone regarding Lisa." But then, Brandi said something that made my mouth drop.
Kim has been ganged up on in the past by everyone. She should have been handled more delicately. Kim did work most of her young life. Being a working child is difficult in any field. Alcoholism is not a crime. I am friends with Julia Negron who has worked for substance abuse education in LA and the entertainment industry. I wish Kim the very best. I also believe she should had been treated with greater sensitivity by her Bravo co-stars and her sister.
come on people, what makes kim an expert of other people (taylor) having a drinking problem, first of all taylor did have miss communications with her nanny, mom and herself with kennedy, it happens, but when taylor called only kim and kyle were sitting there with the phone, no one else, if they would have kept there mouth shut addrienne, faye, and the other ladies there would not have known. kyle you play the poor victim i never said that well maybe you should go back and watch your own self on the show, you too also keep the problems going, you seem to be right in the middle of most of them, say trying to play the mediator well guess what your just going right along with everybody else so you can do the gossip, your husband was some what right about gossip but it isn't brandi its you.
I like Kim. Wish her well. Hope she and Kyle can repair their sisterhood. The tabloids spilled the reason Adrienne was so angry for Brandi's blabbering. It was none of B's business and to say sorry means nothing. Brandi is a creep; much like the threesome she has with Lisa and Ken--he's such a smuck. Back to Kim. I'm glad you told. Looking forward to you new nose.
Perhaps this is all too much for Kim, at this point in time, and she'll take a break from the show.
Until she comes to terms with her behaviour both this season, and last, apologises to Brandi, it all seems like an "act" to me.
just my 2 pence.
You look really Great Kim; SO many of us continue to send out our prayers for Gods protection over you. Just love to see you smile...you light up a room!
C'mon Bravo how long is the poor Kim thing going to go on. The woman needs to blog each week.
One thing that really bothers me about you Kim is that you don't really participate in the show. You rarely blog, you never seem to really spend time with any of the ladies, and at times I feel you pull the victim card out much in the same way Taylor does. Your sobriety hasn't really had much of an effect on your role on RHOBH; it's kind of disappointing. Everyone's rooting for you, but you aren't really around to benefit from the support of the friends and loved ones around you.
@theyogahottie Didn't you know that all of us are on Kim-time? Her addiction gives her the right to do whatever she wants. F-us, we've just got to put up with it. Well know what, Kim? We're all sick of you and your whatever is going on with your life. Learn to STFU, 'cause know what? We can stop watching you anytime we want & many have already. Stick that in your problems & drink it, smoke it, or do whatever. I won't be hearing about it. Know what, theygotahottie? Kim doesn't even read our responses. Because we're nothing for her. Just dumb fans, or so she thinks. But guess what? We actually can make or break her. She's just too self-involved to realize that. Stupid of her, huh?
Kim needs to mature. While being interviewed, she will start giggling like a 14 yr old girl.
Something just is not right with her. She doesn't show when they have a function planned or
anything to go to unless she wants to stir up some trouble. She should not have told Adrienne & Paul at Mauriceo's party. I'm sure she could have held her tongue for 1 more day.
Kim can't take the heat. I think she is far too fragile for this. She can put it out there but she can't take it. The whole thing with Brandi showed that. Brandi has repeatedly apologized for her comment but I have never heard Kim nor Kyle apologize for their outrageous behavior on game night. But everyone puts their two cents in about how terrible it was that Brandi said at least she "wasn't in the bathroom all night doing meth" but no one says anything about what Kyle and Kim did to Brandi. It drives me crazy, it is so disgusting.
Thanks for reminding everyone about "poor Brandi" her first welcome to the show. Two against one, bullies on the playground. Brandi stood up for herself even though they hid her crutch!!!!!! This episode showed me what they are,were and will always be! So.......Kyle.......it's your town ha. Some example.
@auntd12 @TheresaHamer Didn't you know, auntd12 that Kyle owns Beverly Hills? LOL has someone told the mayor?
I just love the way you handle things Kim, and your sense of humor is hilarious. And now you have the little spirits of your grandchildren to come and sit on your bed. How cool is that!..Your take on everything is so pure. I really think you are by far one of the best Housewives of Beverly Hills. So refreshing!!!...Your the Best!
Kim, I know that your girls and son are proud of you. You are doing the best thing for your health to be productive with your family because I am sure that they miss the real you. I pray that you stay strong for yourself and your family.
S/N: Oftentimes prescription drugs makes people hallucinate. So, be cautious of people (the psychic woman) telling you things such as "spirits are larking around your home". Although I do believe in protective spirits, such as our deceased fathers or mothers and other relatives, I do not believe in random spirits. God Bless You and Your Family!
@SunShyne_in_Florida ....Even the devil disguises himself as an "angel of light". Be careful!
Come back! start blogging again! You're my favorite (you and Vanderpump), the only thing you need to do is be more responsible, get your blog up on time like the rest of them. You have been such an inspiration with your sobriety, it has been AWESOME watching you recover. I am a newly sober person myself and watching your journey has really helped me.
Kim, I wish you continued success on your recovery. You look great and steel happier. Just ones thing, can you please let go of the comments Brandi made about you on Game Night? She did, after all, apologized, on TV no less, and you supposedly accepted. Also have you or Kyle ever apologized for your mean-girl behavior on that night, and for hiding her crutches?
Your a sad sad woman. The only reason you told Paul and Adrienne what Brandi said at that event was to hurt your brother in law and your sister and Brandi. You were only thinking of yourself.
@kittykat6 and you are such an expert? You see 45 minutes a week into their lives for a few months and you know this was done with malice. To make the comment you posted shows what a sad person you must be. Stick to the facts. It may not have been the best timming but in the 12 step program honesty is the word. Kim was doing what she thought was best. It wasn't her who went off on Brandi. So who's behavior was better?
@@realityfan82 If, in the 12 step program, honesty is the most important thing, then why is Kim not being honest about what SHE did to Brandi first? Brandi only reacted to Kim and especially Kyles vile behavior towards her.
@CheekyGirl Kim was honest about her behavior and hiding the crutches. As for Kyle's behavior that night she is not defending or condoning she chose to let her sister speak for herself. Kim has stated that she isn't mad at Brandi per say, just the words Brandi chose to use. Even Brandi regrets the words she used too. Kim never did this with any malice towards her sister, brother in law or Brandi. She did what she thought was best at that moment. Yes the timming was bad but who went after who? Kim is still newly sober so being honest is what she thought was best at that time. We don't know the whole story, so we shouldn't judge. Lot can happen when cameras stop rolling. To be newly sober and on a reality show takes a lot of guts. And like I said if you don't want it out there, then you don't do reality tv. Are you condoning Paul and Adrianne's behavior? Was it fair that they went after Brandi? They could have walked out and delt with it in private. Instead they made alligations against Brandi so nobody is right or wrong.
I too wonder why you have stopped blogging. Although if I look at past seasons you have done the same thing. I hope you are working a program because that will be the best for you. In my 12 step work I learned to stop focusing and blaming others for my shortcomings. Only I can take responsibility for myself and my actions. I pray you can do the same and be true to yourself.
Why are you no longer writing a blog? You have disappeared since mid-December. You signed up to be on this show, so you have to take the good with the bad. With that said, Kim, you really need get over what Brandi accused you of on "game night". You and your vile sister started the entire mess, and you need to own up to your part in it. It seems you bring it up each week. Brandi may say things without thinking first, but at least she owns up to her mistakes. You have yet to do so. How many times does she need to apologize to you? Yet, we haven't heard you apologize to her. Either accept her apology and get over it, or tell her you don't accept it. It is tiring listening to you replay it over and over. You had a lot of nerve talking about Brandi spewing things from her mouth without thinking about the consequences of it when you were protecting Mauricio at the dinner. Do you ever hear what comes out of your mouth and that of your sisters? It is no better., just less swear words. Big deal! It seems you two are always starting problems within the group, constantly stirring the pot.
SusanS You said it. We will probably never hear her apologize to Brandi, which Brandi sooooo deserves. Unlike Brandi, Kim never takes responsibility for her own actions; she never apologizes. She's always the victim.
Motorcitywife Kyle only takes ownership to an extent. I agree, she was furious at Kim for starting the drama, but then Kyle lets the drama continue such as at her dinner with her BFF, Faye. She did try to shut Kim down at the latest dinner, however, when Kim started talking about Brandi again (when she went to the restroom) she said Brandi has a sweet side to her, and then says she just blurts things out (obviously referring to game night), Mauricio said it was the first thing he agreed with her in ten years. Then they all toasted to it, including KYLE. I don't believe for one minute Kyle is sincere about anything when it comes to Brandi. She may apologize, but then immediately turns around and gossips about her. Just as when Paul and Adrienne arrived for dinner, she and Mauricio sat there telling them they have "their back" and totally supports them. Why did Kyle and Mauricio not say anything to Paul and Adrienne when it was the two of them that started the fiasco after Kim telling them what was said. They did not have to cause a scene then and there and they are not being held accountable for what they accused Brandi of. Kyle and Mauricio are both two-faced and kiss the a_ _ of whomever will bring in his next commission check. Not once, has Kyle ever supported Brandi in any situation...period!
SusanS I think calling another woman a "slut pig" is way worse than calling someone a MF. Just my opinion.
Eva18 SusanS Seriously...Kim has yet to apologize to Brandi for her behavior at game night. Calling Brandi a "slut pig"....I mean good Lord...Kim looked and acted wasted that night, ends up in rehab after the season is over, and she had the nerve to call Brandi a slut pig...I get Brandi probably shouldn't have made the crystal meth comment, but Kim and Kyle's mean girl retaliation was way worse in my opinion. It was obvious to anyone watching season 2 that Kim had a major substance abuse problem. Brandi merely said out loud what every viewer was likely thinking.
You do and say hurtful things and you don't seem to have any self-awareness. I would think you would have to be truthful with yourself in order to attain real sobriety. To be honest, you act very impulsively and say hurtful things without concern for how you may be impacting others.
Getting to know the girls?, if you didn't know them, why did you say so many hateful things about them? Again, you don't make sense.
You are so precious Kim - Congratulations on all your hard work, progress and success. You're a beautiful person - inside and out.
I can't stand it anymore . . . I had to break down and sign into Bravo relative to the subject matter of sobriety. I don't know you Kim; however, you and I have commonalities: I am a recovering alcoholic (since Aug. 1992); I have family and friends - some of whom understand the disease and some of whom don't (and don't take the time to listen or learn about it). Clearly, your sister, Kyle, doesn't seem to get it when she speaks of the "what if this or that happens" - as though she (or you or anyone for that matter) controls what happens 1 minute from now, 1 day from now, 1 week from now, 1 year from now, etc. My point is, I have stayed sober for over 20 years now living "one day at a time" - there are no guarantees that I will be here tomorrow, much less sober tomorrow. So, Kim as you work "YOUR" program of sobriety please remember, some friends (and family) may not get on board (perhaps due to ignorance, shame, fear, etc.) as smoothly or quickly (or at all) as you would like . . . it's not about them. The people who truly love you will come to their respective epiphanies on their own time schedule. In the meantime, you can't do anything about yesterday, nor do you have any control over tomorrow, but you do have a choice as to how you will live your life today. God bless and I applaud your courage in sharing your personal struggles with alcoholism with the world. No doubt your personal story has touched and will positively touch many lives indefinitely.
@scrappyhousewife, I just wanted to say that your reply was so nice! And it's so wonderful reading how someone is winning the battle. Day - by - Day. I hope Kim reads your post.
Thanks for your encouraging words . . . I believe we all win (no matter who we are or what are struggles are) if we understand that falling down is part of life, but getting back up is living.
@scrappyhousewife, what a FANTASIC take you have on things!! I'm going to adapt that in my life as my favorite quote. "Falling down is part of life, but getting up is living." LUV,LUV,LUV IT!!! Many blessing is my prayer for you and yours!
DixieDarling I'm so happy you have found the words as inspirational as I have. I can't take credit for the words though - here is the entire quote from A Friend of Humanity website:
"There comes a time in life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is part of life, getting back up is living."
BIG HUGS and PRAYERS to you and yours DixieDarling!
It's so nice to see you and Kyle having fun together. I loved watching the show where you both did the dive into the pool.. Good Job Girls. Brilliant!!!!
Love your humor..Your so funny, I have to just crack up laughing every time I read your blog. You bring so much to the show. Love how you handle things. Your spot on!....Go Girl!!!!
brunett ummmmm didn't Kim, herself bring it back up at the dinner party? She hasn't gotten over what Brandi said and Brandi apologized. So why should anyone else get over how Kim acted when she has never owned up to it?
I think Kim is deflecting. She is really angry with Kyle, and rightfully so, but can't get the courage to actually confront her anger. Brandi is an easy target.
KimberlyF brunett From what I remember, Kim and Kyle teamed up on Brandi first when she had her broken leg. Brandi seems to be the only one that got over it.